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John Louis Ryder

1949 - 2022

John Louis Ryder obituary, 1949-2022, Memphis, TN

BORN

1949

DIED

2022

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2700 Union Avenue Extended

Memphis, Tennessee

John Ryder Obituary


John Louis Ryder, born May 31, 1949, in Chicago, Illinois, died at home with his family in Memphis early Sunday morning May 15, 2022.

By the time John was 14, the interests that would shape his life had begun to blossom. In childhood, he became an avid baseball player, and the TV legal drama Perry Mason sparked a desire to become a lawyer. His family's move to Memphis in 1963 gave him a love of the South, Tennessee, and the Mississippi River, and Barry Goldwater's 1964 Presidential campaign inspired his interest in politics. John would study the rules of baseball, law, and politics, but he also appreciated the strategies of play.

After graduating from White Station High School and Wabash College (his father's alma mater) John attended Vanderbilt Law School and then returned to Memphis to begin his law practice in 1974. As a baby lawyer with Canada, Russell, and Turner, he learned the ins and outs of trial and collection work from "Mr. Charlie" Somerville who introduced him to the ways of the courthouse. In the early days of his practice, he did part time work in the Shelby County attorney's office and helped to draft the Home Rule Charter for Shelby County. He would continue honing his knowledge of Shelby County law and at the same time develop expertise in bankruptcy law and commercial litigation and later in election law.

Once back in Memphis, John began to explore ways to become involved in politics and local elections, and his political career was an illustration of what someone with a passion for politics can accomplish. He was introduced to the Young Republicans in 1975 and became active in one of the two local clubs where at sometimes tense meetings, he learned how tricky and fiercely competitive the political world could be. He dove into the nitty gritty of political campaigning: knocking on doors, registering voters, putting out campaign letters, making speeches. He loved nothing more than large political events where he could enthusiastically meet and engage with others who shared his political passions. He managed campaigns for state legislators Brad Martin and Karen Williams, and worked in campaigns for Tennessee Republican luminaries Winfield Dunn, Lamar Alexander, Don Sundquist, and Fred Thompson. He was instrumental in the election of Jim Rout as Shelby County Mayor in 1994.

John also began to assume leadership roles in the party, beginning with election as Chairman of the Shelby County Republican Party in 1987 and going on to become an active member of the state party's Executive Committee and later one Tennessee's representatives on the Republican National Committee. He was General Counsel for the RNC from 2013 to 2017 under Reince Priebus. He was also delegate or active participant at every Republican National Convention between 1984 and 2016. In both 1988 and 2004, he cast votes for President and Vice President as a Tennessee Presidential Elector in the Electoral College. From humble local political gatherings in a living room or back yard, John went on to meetings large and small at the highest levels of Republican Party politics.

Outside of the courtroom and political back rooms, John indulged in other passions. He was active in his church. His nightstand was piled high with books about history, politics, cooking, or whatever his current interest was. He was a season ticket holder to the Memphis Redbirds, an appreciative judge in the Memphis in May Barbecue Contest for several years, an avid duck hunter, and a regular member of John Grisanti's wine group. His love of opera began in high school when he served as a walk-on soldier in the Metropolitan Opera's local production of Turandot, and he was an active supporter and board member of Opera Memphis.

John leaves behind his high school sweetheart and wife of almost 49 years Melita Lain Whitaker, their daughters Reagan Lain Ryder and Nancy Kate Ryder, son-in-law Xavier Pedeux, grandson Fletcher Ryder Pedeux, and sisters Peggy Ryder Askew (Henry), Pat Ryder Lovell (Scott)

Visitation will be Sunday, May 22 from 3:00 to 5:00 at Canale Funeral Directors. The funeral will be held at St. John's Episcopal Church, 3245 Central Avenue, on Monday, May 23 at 1:00 followed by a brief reception in the parish hall.

Memorials may be sent to St. John's Episcopal Church, Opera Memphis, or Wabash College (301 W. Wabash Avenue, Crawfordsville, IN 47933)

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Published by The Daily Memphian on May 17, 2022.

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Derek Haire

October 26, 2023

To Lain, Reagan, and Nancy Kate, I just found out the news and it's wrecked me. I had the privilege of knowing John not just as a fellow congregant at Redeemer Lutheran as a child, but also as a political adversary as an adult. Not to put too fine a point on it, but he whipped my butt both times, metaphorically speaking of course. I always found him to be a worthy foe, even when I wasn't up to the challenge. He was always gracious and kind to me when we battled, no matter how heated or passionate the conflict.

He was, and forever will remain, the peerless ideal of a Republican in my mind. I first learned what that word meant because of him, and to this day, no one else I've encountered in my career has ever lived up to the rigorous standard he set for himself to exemplify what it meant. He was a partisan in the highest sense, a true and steadfast asset to his party. The world is a poorer place without him, a statement that I am certain means something very different to him than it does to me. If there is a capital gains tax in Heaven, he will certainly abolish it. Much respect and love to a real warrior, whose commitment to his cause inspired me greatly, even if we did not share the same cause. May your husband and father rest in peace.

Robert Horne

September 24, 2022

Lain and family,
I was saddened to hear of the loss of your husband and my friend, John. My sincere apologies for not responding earlier, but I am just now learning of his passing. Even though our paths over the years only crossed at the occasional White Station Class of '67 reunions, I remember both of you fondly and deeply regret not staying in touch to follow his
exceptional career. During our time together at White Station I was always impressed with John as a remarkable student and good friend. Even in those early years, I could tell that you and he were meant to be together. Please accept my heartfelt condolences.
Your Friend,
Robert Horne

Pamela Moses

May 27, 2022

Sorry for your loss my condolences.

Phillip Langsdon

May 23, 2022

Dear Lain and family. I was so sorry to hear of John's passing; only early this morning. It has been years since I had the opportunity to interact with John in local party matters. He was a true intellect. I wish I had had the opportunity to work with John more. Please accept my condolences and very best wishes for Gods' grace for you and your family!

Jerome Ryans

May 19, 2022

Please except my sympathy ,John was well respected and a great friend God bless his family.

Leslie Wineland Goss

May 19, 2022

To Lain, Pat, Peggy, and families,
I am so sorry to hear of John's death. I have SO many memories of John and all of you--and so much gratitude for your taking this Indiana girl under your wings when I moved into White Station as a junior.
I was on the debate team with John and quickly recognized how incredibly bright he was. He and Ed Pultz led the team and were an inspiration, for certain. I learned a lot from them! John's storied career and multiple interests reflect a life of commitment and creativity...a life well-lived.
And then there was the BPI sorority. Again, you took me under wing, and I thank you.
How I would love to come down for the visitation/funeral and see you in person, but there are some obligations on my calendar I can't move, regrettably. Please know that all of you are in my thoughts and prayers, especially at this time, and that good memories will continue to be cherished. Leslie Wineland Goss, Monticello IN

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Bill Bruce

May 18, 2022

Although we were sometimes on opposite sides of the political fence, I regarded John as a friend as well as a highly respected colleague. I extend my sincere condolences to his family and colleagues.

Peter Feaman

May 18, 2022

I am the RNC Committeeman from Florida.
John was a mentor and an inspiration to me during the time that we served together on the RNC.I will never forget serving with him on the 2016 Convention Rules Committee in Cleveland.
He was a true patriot.
Please accept my heartfelt condolences.
Peter Feaman, RPOF National Committeeman

Clark Bensen

May 18, 2022

As a fellow believer that politics requires persons of every kind to work diligently, at some level of politics, to protect the process whereby our collective civilization can empower all in their own quests, I am saddened by the loss of John Ryder who exemplified this model.
I first met John decades ago in Washington and we worked on several projects together from then on. In fact, we were in the middle of one of these projects, in Nashville on 9/11. Ever since then, we made it a point to connect on each anniversary of that sad day. It was only then that John mentioned his health issues. Yet, he was still able to participate in the overall projects on which our paths crossed, even beginning to wear baseball caps after chemo.
John's attitude towards life, family, and politics was uplifting and his active interest in history was well-known by fellow politicos. He was a true gentleman who was able to ably participate in the back and forth of politics and law.
My condolences to his family, who were, despite how we all took him away from them, were the most important part of his life. His sage advice and calm demeanor will be missed.

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Betty Westmoreland

May 16, 2022

The retired faculty, staff, classmates and friends of John Ryder at White Station High School send our sincere condolences to his family. His contributions to Memphis life and politics were countless. May he rest in eternal peace.

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