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Thomas Messmer Obituary
Rochester: February 12, 2010, at age 77. Loving father of Janet Whitbeck, Ellen Eberts, Tom Jr. (Dragon) Messmer and their mother Mary Jean Bissett: grandchildren, Carolyn & Tom Whitbeck, Jane & Brit Eberts and many dear friends. Tom was a friend of Bill W. for 25 years.
The family will receive friends at St. Joseph's Church (43 Gebhardt Rd.) on Saturday 9:30- 10 AM: where at 10 AM his Memorial Service will be celebrated. Interment private. Those who wish may make contributions to Multiple Myeloma Research Foundation in his memory. To leave a email message of condolences please visit Tom's guestbook:
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Memories and Condolences
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Gerard Messmer
February 23, 2010
Mary Jean - I am saddened by Tom's passing - I received no notice and did not realize he was having serious problems. The last I heard from him was at Christmas where he hinted at having some issues but he did not say they were life threatening. "Pete"
Marion A. Hoctor SSJ
February 20, 2010
Belatedly, I express my deep sympathy to all of Tom's family and friends on your great loss. I especially remember his sense of humor and fun. May all your memories comfort you now!
February 15, 2010
I will miss Tom tremendously.I was very fortunate to have him as a friend.He taught me a great deal about life.So he will always be part of me. Mike & Lin Gates
Barb von Schilcher
February 15, 2010
So sorry to hear of the passing of your dear father/grandfather! My thoughts and prayers are with you all. May he live on in your memories forever.
Victoria Laneri
February 14, 2010
Dear Tom and family,
Your dad was a fine human being with gentle strength and conviction. It was wonderful seeing him and listening to him share his life stories. Everyone loved and respected Tom. I will miss him very much. My prayers are with you all.
February 14, 2010
Dear Tom's family, We are deeply saddened for the loss of your Dad our dear friend. Tommy lived near and was our brother Bill Bonamies best friend during their teen years. We kept in touch on and off over the years as he was like a brother to all of us. He fought this battle with great courage, faith and dignity. We will miss this special man. God's blessing to all of you. Cathy and John (Bonamie) Rombaut and Bobbie and Gene (Bonamie) Barringer.
February 14, 2010
Jan,Tom & Ellen...
There will never be another person who touched my life the way your dad did..this chapter is closed for me, but Tommy will live in my heart forever. I know that he is in heaven with Grandma & Grandpa O'Neill, probably arguing politics with grandpa!! He was a ray of sunshine & an outstanding brother-in-law... Love to all of you.
Aunt Joby
Jerry Lapple
February 14, 2010
Bygone memories of picnics, parties, summers on Crescent Beach, bonfires and fireworks on the 4th, baseball in the sand. Connie, Barb,and Tommy Messmer, The Lapples, Coyles and Daltons........So much fun....Those precious recollections. Bless you Tom, thanks for the memories all.
Ray Ouillette
February 14, 2010
My sympathy to all of Tom's family. I know how important his family was to him. I will very much miss seeing and listening to Tom's wisdom almost daily at the noon 12@12 meeting. It was a privilege to have known Tom.
February 14, 2010
Sorry to hear of Tom's passing. We're in Florida and we're thinking of you.
Sam and Montello
Carolyn
February 14, 2010
I am & will always be your Princess. I love you Grandpa.
Jim Morgan
February 14, 2010
Tom, Please accept my sincere sympathy on the passing of your Dad. We use to go to lunch when I was again in Roch. We had been e-mailing for years. Just sent him one this A. M. He will be sorelly missed
Jane (Coyle) Ranous
February 14, 2010
Dear Janet, Ellen and Tom,
I was so sorry to read of your Dad's death in the on-line paper this morning. Certainly, I would be there to express my condolences and fond memories in person, but we are currently in SC for 3 months. Our families have had strong ties for so long, it's hard to believe that all of Fred and Pink's children are gone and their grandchildren are the "older generation!" You all come from great stock, and have much to be proud of. Know I'll be thinking of you today and remembering many happy times with your Dad. Love, Jane
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