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2023
Roger Clay Obituary
Roger Lavern Clay
July 28, 1964 – Aug. 27, 2023
We are extremely saddened to announce the death of Roger Lavern Clay on August 27, 2023 at the age of 59. Vern was born on July 28, 1964 to JoAnne and Roger Clay. He had a strong aptitude for riding dirt bikes and working on cars, which he loved to do, and why he became a mechanic. Vern will be most remembered for his incredible kindness, generosity, his quick wit, brilliant mind, sarcastic sense of humor and the unconditional love he had for family and friends.
Vern was preceded in death by his brother, Wayne Bowen; and his sister, Robin Rose. He is survived by his girlfriend, Shawna Elliott; ex-wife, Michelle Clay; brothers, Kietin and Dale Stubbs; sons, James Turan; Cody Clay; and Austin Freeman; his daughters, Crystal and Caitlin Clay; Tammy and Tawnisha Freeman. H will be also be missed by various nieces and nephews.
A celebration of life will be planned for Saturday, September 23, 2023 at 2:00 p.m. in Waterloo.
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Ericka Fulbright
September 11, 2023
Black Onyx Hearts
I had been going through boxes in the attic when I came across them. I took them out so that I could put them in my jewelry box with my other jewelry, but not before admiring them, gazing at them fondly. (we used to be such close friends)
That week I wanted to wear my black and white Vitchy Check sundress and you decided what jewelry I would wear only I didn't know that yet.
I was taking them off that evening and my cell phone rang exactly as I set the last one down. It was Michelle ( Shawna asked her to call me) I couldn't hear a word she was saying after she said you were gone....not one word, nothing, not a sound...
Except my breath hitching when I looked over at them. Then my sight blurred as tears filled my eyes and fell.
All I could do was sit there and cry and know the black Onyx Hearts you gave me long ago, were your final "I love you friend" your silent goodbye. ( I love you to my friend..we will meet again.)
Ericka Fulbright
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