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for Matthew Butler
Dawn
August 8, 2023
Hey, hallway buddy, my soda sharing friend ... you saved my life that day in math class... I hate that I moved away. Your in my thoughts often, even now being old and having teens of my own. I miss you man. I talk to you often even now... miss your face babe.
Johnny Messmore
September 18, 2008
Wow! A year passes and I still can’t help to think about you everyday. I had to get thru yesterday before I could calm myself enough to write to you. Allison, Chase, Cierra and I are all doing pretty good it’s Cody I sometimes worry about, but I’ve come to realize you are always close to him. He wears the dog-tags everyday and he didn’t tell me about losing them last week until yesterday at dinner. He received a phone call from another student at school who had found them. I asked him if he new the kid that found them and he said kinda but not really. So how did he know they were yours? Cody answered ‘I don’t know he just did.’ That’s when it hit me…I need to be thanking you for getting those back to Cody. “Thank you little Cuz” You mean so much to him and he carries you in his heart everyday. We all miss so much and count the days until we see you again.
PS. I’d say hi to your mom and dad but I will see them this Sunday. YE HA!!!!
Tamara Martinez
September 17, 2008
Well, guess what? Today is 1year. And it has been the hardest year, not only for me but for everyone that lost you. Now I know how hard it is to loose a friend, not only a friend but one of my best friends. Me and you have been friends since 1st grade, and even when I moved schools we were still friends. Now, I lost my friend but will be with him again. You were the one that always made everyone friends again becaues you hated when we were made at everyone, you were the one that always put a smile on our faces. Do you remember our group of friends? I do. I miss those days! Well I know that I dont have a lot to say on here because well I talk to you pretty much everyday. I miss you and Love you Matt! Ill be with you someday!
Dear Tood and Trina,
I know this was the hardest time in your life, but I want you to know that you raised an amazing son! I miss you guys and hope to see you soon!
Love Tamara
September 17, 2008
To the Butler Family,
In remembrance of Matt, I wanted you to know I think of him often; he profoundly impacted my life in many ways, as I'm sure he did with others. He is always in my heart.
I wish you all peace, love, and open communication in your family - always.
Cat Brewer
Norma Lee Butler
September 15, 2008
Matthew
I have not added an entry to this book as I feel you already know how I feel. I have told you almost daily, but for the record and for others to know how much I appreciate their words and condolences to us I have felt the need now to do so.
We miss Matthew so very much and It doesn't go away. We know he is in the presence of God and is happy and content, it is we here behind that have to endure the loss.
You are so loved Matthew, and you know that. We will see you soon, sweetheart.
Grandma Normie
Kelli Birse
September 15, 2008
Woo matt....in three days it will be 1 year. 1 year with no messages or phone calls...and now i know and feel the same way you did...life gets hard and you loos the ones you love and not sure how to get passed it. But because i have lost you and so many others I have to be strong and try to look to the greener side. I miss you matty and cant wait to see you when I get up there...I have so much to tell you! I love you so much matt.
Morgan Cali
August 26, 2008
Matt,
Words cannot express the feelings I have for you or the experiences we have shared together. I miss you more than anything and wish things were different. Just know that first loves never die.
Butler Family,
There isn't a day that goes by that my thoughts are not with you. I hope you are doing well and know that you have a permanent place in my heart and always will.
Lisa Paulsen-Rivera
July 19, 2008
Todd, Trina and Phillip,
I only met your family once at the Todd reunion in Arroyo Grand in 1989. I heard about Matthew a few months ago from my Aunt Marsha. I want you to know that there is not a week that goes by that I do not pray for the Lord to comfort you. When I read the wonderful stories about Matthew and how he lived his life, I found that he had so much in common with my children. Sports, Faith in God, and you have been placed on my heart to pray for you.
katelin jennings
June 29, 2008
p.s.- a promis is a promis.
i love you and miss you oo so much.
katelin jennings
June 29, 2008
i cant believe how much time has past matthew. i miss you more now then ever before. i miss you and love you.
sonia Cardinale
March 17, 2008
Oh Matthew,
Six months has gone by and it all still seems so unreal. It is hard to go to Martinez now knowing you will not be there. I know you know how very much I miss you and that wonderful smile of yours. Tears still fall even though I know your in a better place. My love for you will never go away and all our times we spent together talking, joking and laughing will never be forgotten.
love you
miss you
Aunt Sonia
Amanda Rebuck
November 7, 2007
i have been praying for u matt i have missed u a lot. i hope to see you again one day.
Aaron Rogers
November 6, 2007
Dear Matthew,
We miss you so much and we look forward to seeing you again. You are such a great person.
Dear Todd, Trina, Philip,
We pray God's healing and mercy to fill your hearts. And we pray for His peace in your minds that goes beyond understanding.
We love you,
Aaron and Heidi
Jasmine, Annabelle, Brianna
Becca Riordan
November 6, 2007
Big Brother,
I miss you more and more everyday. You beat me to heaven. I can't wait to give you a hug and watch football with you again. We'll listen to Lil' Wayne like over summer :) everyone loves you soo much and miss you so much you don't even know. R.I.P. I love you, xoxo Little Sister
katelin jennings
November 4, 2007
Matthew,
i miss you, i love you. you were more then a bestfreind, you were the person who brought me to faith with god. you have always been there. i want you to no, i love you. you changed my life and i truly thank you for this.
todd trina- u raised a wonderful boy. who loved his family and cared for everone. i miss getting to see you guys all the time. i really hope youare all doing swell. im still praying for you! i love you guys!!!
phil-
i no you must be having a hard time with everything, and i truly wish i had the words to comfert you but i dont. i wanted to tell you something matthew told me. he said that he looked up to you, not only as a brother but as a team mate and his most fav moment was when u guys completed that pass in some high school game when he was a jounior. he loves you, but of course you no that! i just thought you should no what he told me. i hope ur doing well!
i love all of you!
katelin
Debbi Miner
October 19, 2007
I'm a childhood friend of Aunt Leslie's from when we all lived in Ventura, Calif.
There are lots of awful things that happen in this world, but losing your child has to be one of the absolute worst. I pray for strength and peace of mind for your family.
It sounds like there were lots and lots of people who thought very highly of Matthew, you did a great job raising him for that to happen. My son has been an athlete, too, and when I've been told "you must be so proud of him" when he did well at sports, I've always told that nice person I'm happy he's enjoying what he's doing, but I'm proud of the great guy he is and how well he treats others. I'm sure you are proud of Matthew for the same reason.
Keep all the kindnesses you've been shown in the last month and use them to ease the tenderness of your hearts. All the kindness and respect you've been shown is just repayment for all that Matthew's done for them.
May God bless him and you all. Debbi (McCown) Miner
Wendy Cook (Travis)
October 1, 2007
Todd, Trina, Phillip, Bill & Norma,
My heart just sank when I heard of the loss of Matthew. Although I didn't know your son & grandson, I can only imagine he was as genuine as I've always known his parents and grandparents to be. Reading entries from others makes me reflect on growing up with Matthew's dad and what great times we had. That infectious smile must have carried on from generation to generation. Rest knowing that the Lord will comfort you in these first days and that all the wonderful memories that have been engraved on peoples lives are because of the blessing your son bestowed upon others.
Blessings to you all....Wendy :)
Teri (Warford) Rapp
October 1, 2007
Todd, Trina, Bill, Norma,& Family
Our thoughts and prayers are with you during this time. We are so sorry to hear about your loss. Psalm: 62:8 (Trust in, LEAN on , rely on, and have confidence in HIM at all times, pour out your heart before him.. God is a refuge for us.) We dont always understand, but he is always there for us.
Love and Prayers,
Mark & Teri (Warford) Rapp
Tori Haight
September 27, 2007
I miss you so much mateo! You resembled a big brother to me, just like you did to so many people. I love you!
& Im praying for you Todd, Trina, and Phil. I love you guys !
September 26, 2007
I can still see a clear picture of what matthews smile looked like even though it has been years since I have seen him.I know eveyone will miss that smile. Im really sorry for the loss.God bless your family and I hope the best for you guys. Love-Sydney Cook (Rich's Daughter)
Bolor
September 25, 2007
To Matthew Butler's family,
I'm sorry. I know him from my Speaking class. He was one of the generous student in the class. I pray God be with him.
Amber White (Fortner)
September 24, 2007
I will always remember the basketball and football games! I will continue to keep the Butler family in my thoughts and prayers in their time of need. I love you guys.
Rochelle
September 24, 2007
to the butler family,
our prayers go out to you in this time. wish matt has a great birthday up in heaven.
Ricca
September 23, 2007
Matt was one of my classmates in Public Speaking class at Laney. Although I only had a few small talks with him then, I still consider him as one of those who gave inspirational speeches in class.
My heart goes out to Matt's family. I wish all of his loved ones the strength and comfort at this sad time.
Kevin & Janet Russell
September 23, 2007
Todd, Trina & Phillip
Please know you are in our thoughts and prayers today and for all the days ahead.
Cat Brewer
September 22, 2007
To the Butler Family,
I am so sorry for your loss. Matt was a student in my public speaking class this year at Laney and I adored him.
In a teacher's career, we come across a lot of students, some more memorable than others - Matt was definitely memorable.
In the short time I got to know him, I realized he was a great kid and a great student with a quiet and giving spirit.
It is this world's great loss that Matt is no longer in it. It is always hardest for those of us left behind but I hope he has truly found the peace he was looking for.
Although, I know you don't know me, if there's anything I can do for you, please don't hesitate to contact me - I have a class photo with Matt if you would like me to send it to you.
I wish you all the comfort during this difficult time.
With respect,
Cat Brewer
Irene cardinale
September 22, 2007
matthew,
you'll always be in my prayers love u always,
nana Irene
Linda bravos
September 22, 2007
Matt, You were a speacial person as well as a good friend to my daughter. I had the pleasure of knowing you from school activities. You will be missed as you were loved by more people then you knew. May God grant you the peace you were seeking!
Meaghan Hall
September 22, 2007
I remember Matt as a baby when I attended Agape. I am so sorry for your loss. Our prayers are with you.
Helen Quiroz
September 21, 2007
Matthew you were a blessing to be in our lives for these past 19 years. God gaves us an angel in you. I'll always remember the bday parties and holidays that were shared with you. You always made it a point to hug me and talk. That meant a lot to me. You always had that pretty smile and i'll never forget you. I will always love and miss you and you will always be in my thoughts and prayers. I'm glad that our last words to each other were "I love you." I always had a special place in my heart for you ... may you rest in peace ... until we meet again in the heavenly presence of our Lord. May God bless Trina, Todd, Phillip, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins, and friends with the strength to persevere. Love your aunt Helen.
Brenda Allen-Stokes
September 21, 2007
Our hearts and prayers go out to all the family and friends of Matt. You will be missed by many.
Tom Loera
September 21, 2007
Todd, Trina, and Philip,
Our hearts go out to you and your family at this time and in the days ahead.
You are in our thoughts and prayers.
Tom Loera and Family
Glynis Thomas
September 21, 2007
My boys, Joey and Vincent Simonetta, played baseball with Matt and they were saddened to hear of his passing. I as a parent, could not even imagine what you are going through. There are no words to express how very sorry I am for your family. May you find comfort in knowing that Matt is in a better place. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Erin Bilanow
September 21, 2007
Matt-
I will never forget what a special person you were. We first got to know each other when we became 8th grade lab partners. You always had a smile for me when I would see you at school over the years. You will be dearly missed Matt.
Amber
September 21, 2007
Dear Butler Family - My daughter knew Matt and said he was always a smiling, happy young man. May your memories of your son in happy times carry you through your grief. I can't imagine the pain you feel. I have prayed for your son.
Lila Garvin
September 21, 2007
Butlers,
I know there must be so many questions. My constant prayer is that God will be your answer. Matt was such a sweet boy. I'll never forget his little grin. From reading the other entries I can tell he grew up to be a good man and a great friend to many. Oh Lord, please hold him close until we see him again.
Paulette Czech
September 21, 2007
Todd, Trina, and Phil
I cannot find adequate words to say what I want to say. Know that my thoughts and prayers are with you.
Travis Howse
September 21, 2007
To the Butler family,
I don't know if you remember me, but I played baseball with Matt. I am so sorry for your loss. Matt was a great guy and will be remembere for ever.
Chip, Adrienne, & Chris Groves
September 21, 2007
Dear Todd, Trina and family, Our family is so sorry to hear of your loss.I know at this time there are really no good words people can say.Please know we will continue to pray for all of you.
Ulas and Nancy Kirby
September 21, 2007
Dear butler family,
Nancy and I can't possibly understand your grief, all we can offer is our prayers for you all at this time.
Love in Jesus.
KEVIN KIRBY
September 21, 2007
TODD, TRINA, AND PHILLIP. WORDS CANNOT EXPRESS HOW SORRY I AM FOR YOUR LOSS. MAY GOD GIVE YOU PEACE IN YOUR TIME OF NEED. GOD BLESS YOU GUYS.
Brad Miller
September 20, 2007
I knew Matt through basketball, and i thought he was a great guy. I remember going to open gyms at Alhambra with a few members of my team(also matts friends) even though i played at another school, and those were some great times in my life. I hope the best for Matt's family, and i feel lucky to have known him.
Jess Raine
September 20, 2007
Matt i'm going to miss our countless night's on the phone or in your "classic" car talking about completly nothing. You've always been an awsome friend. my heart dropped when i got the phone call. I miss you and your advise. You will be in my thoughts/ Prayers every day.
your once told me,
you only have 3 names the one you live by, the one your parents give you, and the one you make of yourself.
Matt you lived well, and lived up to all three of those.
I love you and I'll always be missing you
Your Soph., Junior, and Senior year Best Buddy.
Kisses JB
Jessica Raine
Bernadette Bell (Family Friend)
September 20, 2007
Dearest Butler,Ynzunza,Cardinale Families,
My heartfelt condolences to you and your family. I know he was a muched loved and wonderful son, brother, grandson, cousin and nephew from a very loving family. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Karen Muth
September 20, 2007
Todd and Trina:
I am so sorry for your loss and know that your family grief is beyond belief at this time. Your love for your son will forever be in your hearts. The Lord will carry you and your family through this time. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time.
Amanda Rebuck
September 20, 2007
Dear Mr. and MRs. Butler,
I never met you, but i graduated with matt. He was a great friend and i remember when i first met him it was 6th grade, and i didnt know anyone, he just introduced himself to me and he made my day better. He always made my day better. I will miss him dearly. I am terribly sorry for your loss. I will pray for your family.
He was a great and loving person.
Diane Cordova-Bissig
September 20, 2007
I am so sorry to hear about your loss.
You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Love, Diane
Brittany Elliott
September 20, 2007
Matt,
Matt my heart stopped when i found out the news that u were no longer with us physically, but my mind didn't, i sit here thinking of all memories and it puts a smile on my face knowing that i got the chance to know such a wonderful person i love you and will miss you dearly. My thoughts and prayers are with your family in their time of need.
Love always and forever Brittany Elliott
Greg & Val Mohammed
September 20, 2007
Todd, Trina and Phillip,
Our words cannot express how every sorry we are for your loss. We remember Matt as a sweet, sweet little boy ready for Sunday School. I know you must be asking yourself why. Some questions have no good answers. Your family is one of the best we know. You did everything right. We love you and will be praying that God gives you comfort and that you feel Matt's love all around you. God speed Matt!!!
Jim & Shirley Pluimer
September 20, 2007
Our thoughts and prayers go out to the Butler family at this time of sorrow. Psalm 46 "God is our refuge and strength, a very present help, in time of need"!
andrina broussard
September 20, 2007
Matthew you truly were a noble and beautiful young man .... filled with compassion and love for everybody. God had a special plan for you and now you work here is done. May you rest peacefully with your Heavenly Father for all eternity. God Bless Trina, Todd, Phillip, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins and friends .... those who loved and were touched by Matthew. May the peace that God promises.... be upon us all. your cousin Andrina
kellianne birse
September 20, 2007
Matt, I'm sorry that I wasnt there to be your shoulder to cry on. I'm sorry I left and didnt tell you how much I cared! I loved you with all my heart and I will think about you for the rest of my life. You were my lil brother and I will love you forever. love kelli
Mary Nazario
September 20, 2007
Eventhough I didn't know Matthew. My son played football at Laney with him this year. My heart and prayers go out to all of you.
Carolyn Folk
September 20, 2007
May the Lords peace be with you guys and help carry you through....He has promised He will carry us through. Wish I could be there to love and support you but know Dave and I are praying for you.
Love you guys!!
Chelsea Caldecott
September 20, 2007
My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.
September 20, 2007
matt you where a very nice person I didn't know you that well but we hung out and you helped me in our wood shop class.. I know everyone will miss you very much and I hope where ever you are your very happy... my greatest sympathy goes out to all his family and close friends.
sincerely,
Kim McDaniel
The Staff of Graham-Hitch Mortuary
September 19, 2007
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