Last week, Brian Wisner of Spring Lake, Michigan, died at home surrounded by family. A victim of Lewy Body Dementia, he kept his sass and his love for his wife through it all.
Brian grew up in East Grand Rapids and maintained close, dear, lifelong relationships with his childhood friends. He was a master gardener, music lover, baseball aficionado, bird hunter, great dancer, excellent card player, accomplished trainer of springer spaniels, and the best body surfer on North Shore Drive.
Brian was hilarious, but not a clown. He expressed his keen sense of humor subtly, more likely to make a cheeky comment under his breath than tell a joke to the whole room.
He was brilliant, but academics were never the most important thing to him. After 11 years, four colleges, and one moment his wife briefly considered leaving him for dropping calculus for the third time, Brian finally graduated from Aquinas College.
He was a Spartan basketball fan, but was always sure they could clench defeat from the jaws of victory. He made a spreadsheet every season to remember each player's name and position, and firmly believed the team played better the louder the volume on the TV.
He was a great athlete, but always happy to lose to a little kid. If his children had listened to their mother and gotten on with having babies already, he would've been the best grandpa.
His love was big, but not loud. He turned on the light when you were reading as the sun set. He brought you a blanket when you made an off-hand comment about being cold.
Brian left us early, but the effect he had on those who knew him was profound. He was a world-class friend. And he'd tell you his biggest accomplishment was raising three kids who support their friends, root for the underdog, and all finally maintain their own phone plans.
Amy, Brian's wife of 39 years, whom he always called "My Bride," survives him. Their three children are Clare Agra (Bob) of Chicago, Henry Wisner of Detroit and Meryl Wilsner (Brooke) of Grand Rapids. Brian's brother, Terence Wisner (Wendy Knox), lives in Green Valley, Arizona, and Whitehall, Montana. His sister, Jan Kilpatrick (Rod), lives in Custer, Michigan. Brian's parents, Eleanor Haan and Ted and Harriet Wisner, preceded him in death.
A celebration of life will take place at the Lake Michigan Credit Union Stadium (Whitecaps), on Saturday, September 25, from 4-7 p.m. Spartan, Tiger or brightly colored clothing is encouraged. Former Cottage Fries/Rainbow Oilers, we would love to see your uniform shirts. In lieu of flowers, the family requests donations be made to the Nature Conservancy.
To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.
Susan Lindquist
September 7, 2022
I am so very sorry to hear now of Mr. Wisner's passing. He was a great asset to North Shore Drive, and a fellow environmentalist. I am reading an extremely well-researched document he wrote in 1997, so thankful for his dedication, and realizing the great loss. May he rest in dear peace. Kindest regards, Susan Lindquist
Jim McDonald
September 27, 2021
May you rest in peace, you will be missed. You are in our thoughts and prayers.
Stephanie Whitman
September 17, 2021
Brian and I became really good friends in junior high and through high school at EGR. We talked on the phone a lot, for hours, about who knows what. I remember Brian as being kind, generous, a fun dancer, easy going, and yet he knew how to give me a hard time in a good way. He was a reliable and loyal friend.
I was always aware of Brians deep love for Amy and his joy in being a father. I will always remember and honor him in my heart.
Claire
September 12, 2021
I only had the pleasure of meeting Brian and Amy once but they both left a lasting impression on me. Dementia steals pieces of a person, but Brian still made a joke as I was leaving that left me chuckling all day. My heart aches for the loss of such a positive and joyous spirit in the world.
Regina Sjoberg
September 12, 2021
I am so sorry to hear of Brian's passing. I served on Ferrysburg's Planning Commission with him, and knew him as a kind and informed man. Best wishes for his family. You are in my thoughts.
Vicki Lewis
September 11, 2021
I met Brian and Amy, when I became his care giver through Comfort Keepers. I really enjoyed his humor along with his laughter. My heart goes out to Amy and his family.
Lucy
September 10, 2021
Brian barely knew me but he was always kind and had a little sass in his eye. Wishing time to be a healer for all of his loved ones with his many best moments never forgotten. With love
tom
September 9, 2021
Truly one of the finest people anyone could ever know.
Brian was one of best football players & wrestlers to ever attend East Grand Rapids and was known to all as "Mr. NIce" and will be missed by all
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