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Patrick James Durkin
Patrick James Durkin, 63, of New York City and Greenwich, CT died on Monday, July 27.
Patrick was the son of Virginia Hewitt Durkin and William Austin Durkin, Jr. He grew up in Greenwich attending North Street School and Brunswick School. Sports were a big part of Pat's youth, whether catching passes thrown by his twin brother Tim on the Greenwich Grenadiers football team, playing pond hockey at Bridges Nursery or golf at Greenwich Country Club. At Brunswick School Pat was the Captain of the Varsity Soccer Team and played four years of varsity soccer at Middlebury College in Vermont. More importantly, Pat was a leader being a perennial class President and volunteerism played an enormous role in his life. At Brunswick he organized student volunteers for The Nathaniel Witherell home and raised money for a South Korean orphanage, and later in life his volunteer activities ranged from helping at a homeless shelter in New York City to serving on the boards of the Red Cross and the National Wildlife Foundation.
After graduating from Middlebury College and the Tuck School of Business at Dartmouth College Pat pursued a career in investment banking working with Donaldson Lufkin and Jenrette, Credite Suisse, Barclays and most recently Atlas Merchant Capital. His business carried him around the world from working on telecommunication projects in South America to opening DLJ's Moscow office. It was in Moscow where he met his wonderful wife Kristen Staples. Patrick was hosting a lavish event to celebrate their new office when he approached Kristen and asked her what she thought of the evening – her response was "Not enough caviar." While Patrick was larger than life to many, Kristen kept him grounded and they enjoyed seventeen years of marriage together.
A successful banker, at heart Pat was a politician. Prior to business school he worked for Congressman Judd Gregg of New Hampshire and was a speech writer for Secretary of the Treasury Donald Regan. Later, Pat served on the Presidential Task Force of Market Mechanisms with former Senator Nicolas Brady and was a tireless campaigner and fund raiser for Presidents George H.W. Bush and George W. Bush, and Senator John McCain, along with numerous candidates at the state and local levels. Everyone knew Pat and he could open doors that others found shut.
Most of all Pat was a husband and father. He loved his wife and children Luke, Austin and Kate more than anything in the world. Pat shared with his children his love for travel, the outdoors, sports and anything else that they could do together. Pat will always be with them whether skiing at Okemo Mountain, hiking through the fields and woods at the Durkin family farm or walking on Capitol Hill.
Along with his immediate family Pat leaves his mother Virginia Durkin, his brothers Bill and his wife Martha, Tim and his wife Liz, Tom and his wife Sue and Dan and his wife Susan, along with numerous nieces and nephews who will spend a lifetime telling stories about Uncle Pat.
Given the current circumstances no service is planned at this time. Notice will be provided at a later date as to where donations may be made in Patrick's memory.

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by Greenwich Time on Aug. 3, 2020.

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Marilyn carberry

July 28, 2022

Dear kristen and children
I will always keep Patrick in my prayers
Bless you all.

Mary Cruit

August 10, 2020

We are so so sad to hear about Patrick! Our Vermont "eye-candy" as my girls called him - such a warm, fun wonderful man and dad. Sorry, Bill,Tim ,Tom and Dan - Pat got the-" OOOOOO who's that?" from the Lake Rescue girls! Our prayers are with you Kristen and your darling children. Love to Mrs. Durkin from the Vermont Cabin neighbors. We were able to see you off and on over the years. But it was always such a fun time. Pat will be in our prayers. All our love. The Cruit Family from Virginia, Florida, Delaware, California.

Stephen Tyrrell

August 8, 2020

One of our fondness memories with Patrick was the time we went bass fishing. We went to one of the Durkins family friend's pond. It was a beautiful day for fishing. The competition and bantor was light and fun. We were blessed with our limit of fish and a spectacular fish fry afterward. Our prayers to Kristen and children.

Constance McGillicuddy

August 7, 2020

Sincere condolences and prayers for all the Durkins.

Constance McGillicuddy

August 7, 2020

Sincere condolences and prayers for all the Durkins.

Collins Byrd

August 7, 2020

So sorry to hear this sad news! Condolences to the entire Durkin family. Pat was a great leader, classmate and friend.

Marilyn Carberry

August 5, 2020

Dear Kristen and children, I have fond memories of the family at Denise and Jocks wedding. Such a wonderful, happy generous man.we will all miss him and keep you all in our prayers.

Pete Salvatore

August 4, 2020

Very very sad news on Patrick's passing!
My condolences to the entire Durkin Family.

Sara Bratton Bradbury

August 3, 2020

My thoughts and prayers are with you all. While I only met Patrick once, his ready smile and electric personality are the forever memory I have of him. May God bless you all and heal your pain.

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