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Paul Robert Patrick of Middletown, NJ died Wednesday, July 8 at Riverview Medical Center in New Jersey from Lung Cancer. He was 65. Paul was the son of the late Jessie Patrick, a former Special Education Teacher at Julian Curtiss in Greenwich and the late Muzz Patrick, a former player, coach and manager of the New York Rangers, both of Riverside. His late Grandfather was Hockey Hall of Famer, Lester Patrick.
Paul was born in Tacoma, Washington in 1950. The family moved to Greenwich when he was four. Paul attended Old Greenwich and Riverside Elementary Schools, and Eastern Junior High School. Paul went to Kent Boarding School in Kent, CT. in 8th grade, playing on the Varsity Hockey Squad for 4 years. In 1972, he received a BA in English from St. Lawrence University in Canton, NY where he was an outstanding hockey player. He later attended training camp for the St. Louis Blues before playing for the Bridgeport Home Oilers.
Paul worked as a bond trader on Wall Street for many years before returning to hockey as a rink operator, coach, and most recently, a consultant/scout for the Washington Capitals.
Paul moved to Middletown, NJ in 1979 and was a well-known member of the community, coaching hockey at the youth and high school levels for over 30 years. He was a great story teller with a quick wit and a magnetic personality. He had a big heart and was always happy to lend a helping hand to friends and strangers alike. He was a wonderful husband and father and a great lover of animals.
Paul is survived by his loving wife Eileen of 37 years; three sons, Brian, Gregory, and Steven; brother Dick Patrick and his wife Debby of Oakton, Virginia; and two sisters Lynda Vargas and her husband Jorge of San Diego, California and Lori Patrick of Redding, Connecticut; his mother-in-law Doris Winters, FL. and many cousins, nieces, and nephews.
A memorial gathering will be held on Friday, July 17th, 2015 from 7-9:30pm at John F. Pfleger Funeral Home, Tindall Road, Middletown, NJ. In lieu of flowers, donations can be made to The Humane Society or the ASPCA.
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Memories and Condolences
for Paul Patrick
Charles Whitin
July 10, 2025
10 Years have passed quickly. Even faster, the 62 years between now and when I met Paul in September, 1963 in the 2nd Form (8th Grade) at Kent School. His brother Dick lived a few doors down the hallway. The Patrick brothers were among the tallest kid in the school and I was the shortest. They literally stood out. Great guys! Paul lives on in vived memory--RIP!
Jim Rutledge
May 5, 2024
I was looking up the Patrick´s hockey family legacy which is more amazing than I imagined. I met Paul in 7th grade at eastern junior high school. Liked him immediately. Always enjoyed running into him.so sorry to hear he is gone. Bless you all Jim Rutledge
Barry Kaplan
February 27, 2024
I was just thinking about our former next door neighbors The Patrick´s. I was sorry to learn that Paul had passed away. My sons remember Paul out running around the neighborhood. Our condolences to his wife and family and I always say "There is a new star in the heavens tonight ".
The Barry Kaplan family
Peter Fleming
July 9, 2020
On this 5th anniversary of Paul's passing he is still in my thoughts. I miss him greatly, especially our phone calls and talks of old times, friends and family. I have many fond memories of Paul which time will never erase. I was and still am proud to say Paul Patrick is a friend of mine. I'm thinking Paul would tell us all to keep our sticks on the ice and our heads up. You are missed Paul.
Peter Barnum
July 10, 2019
I look at the picture of Paul and have to smile. As a high school class and team mate, Paul was the best. Always upbeat and supportive. Larger than life. We need more like him today!
Mike Flanigan
August 5, 2015
I can still remember the first time I met Paul . There were a few of the freshmen hockey players exploring the hockey arena during orientation week. The nets were sting on the concrete surface of the arena so we broke into an impromptu game of ball hockey. Out of nowhere appeared a tall lean kid who jumped in and stated to play. We stopped and told him the basketball court was across the field and so the laughter and team bonding began. We all agree that Paul was a positive person and impacted us all for the better. Too short a shift for such a person.
Sincere condolences to the Patrick family
Al MacCormack
August 4, 2015
I saw Paul a year and a half ago in Washington at a USA Hockey Clinic. We talked and laughed for hours reminiscing about our SLU days. Paul was a great guy, always a smile on his face - he will be missed. Sending heartfelt sympathies to his family
August 4, 2015
Words are a distant second when trying to express my sorrow at hearing of Paul's passing.
I am privileged to have known Paul. He was a true friend who stood the test of time.
Life will go on but I will greatly miss my partner on left defense.
My condolences to Eileen, Brian, Gregory and Steven. Take some comfort in knowing that your grief is shared by many.
Peter Fleming. Paul's class of 74... SLU
August 3, 2015
Nicest guy on the planet, always, always positive... a teammate I always admired - my deepest sympathies to the Patrick family... Gary Webb '73
Barbarajean Blodgett
August 3, 2015
If there was one person who could epitomize what St. Lawrence University represented it would be Paul Patrick. His quick wit, charm and outgoing personality made him a well known figure on campus. His dedication to SLU over the years as an alumnus was equally outstanding. Not only was Paul a classmate, he was one of my dearest friends. Paul always had my back; that's what defense is all about. Godspeed, my friend, I will miss you like crazy.
Tony Mariano
August 3, 2015
My deepest sympathies to the Patrick family. Paul was one teammate I will always remember. SLU '74
August 3, 2015
So sad to hear the news .. we will miss our fun loving teammate... a special person always smiling..
Yosh
Tim Pelyk
August 2, 2015
From all of your St Lawrence hockey Canadiens teammate... We will miss you... How fortunate we are to have known you. We will always have wonderful memories of you. Keep your stick on the ice!
Al Howes
August 2, 2015
I am saddened to learn of Paul's passing. Paul was my roommate at St Lawrence and we played hockey together. I was the goal tender and Paul was my rock solid defenseman. I have many fond memories with Paul. The last time we were together was at the 40th St Lawrence reunion. Paul will be greatly missed by many.
July 24, 2015
#7 you have left us too soon. We had great years together playing hockey at Kent. You were an awesome figure on and off the ice. See you on the other side brother.
Wally Shew
Charles Whitin
July 21, 2015
In 1963, 8th Grade through graduation in 1968, Paul was a classmate at the Kent School, where he was the tallest and I was the smallest. I think everyone loved Paul; what was there not to love? Positive-spirited, a jock with a brain, self-deprecating. Loud and funny. And loyal always. I know all of our class at Kent will miss him very much. He's been taken from us way too soon. My best wishes to Eileen, to Paul's sons, to brother Dick. I'm so sorry for this huge loss to all.
Jerry & Agnes Hogan
July 17, 2015
We only have known Paul for a few years thru our son-in-law Stan Gutt. He was such an wonderful man to know. I know the Gutts will miss him and we send all our love to you and your children.
Nancy Toombs
July 17, 2015
So sorry to learn of Paul's passing. He was a fun & joyful figure on Dialstone Lane. Sincere condolences to the entire Patrick family. Nancy Pechar Toombs
Jack Gregory
July 17, 2015
Paul Patrick is one of the purest and kindest people you would ever encounter around the rink. Paul was the definition of old time hockey through and through. I will never forget his glowing positivity and the effect he had on people. Im glad I got to meet such a great soul. RIP Paul
charlie Arliss
July 17, 2015
Paul was an incredible leader, mentor, and coach. When I quit hockey he supported my decision and when I later won MVP of the swim team I'll never forget that he hugged me and told me how proud he was of me, it meant the world coming from one of my favorite coaches. I know Paul is happy somewhere.
Ellie Carrano
July 17, 2015
I will always remember Paul even tho I don't live in Highlands, NJ anymore. My son is a big Capitals fan and whenever he came into Foodtown to shop, we would talk about hockey and what was going on!! He was going to get the team to sign a stick for my son!! RIP Paul!!
J Hamill
July 17, 2015
Coach Patrick was an amazing man with a heart of gold. He would do anything to help a kid in need, and would give his last dollar if need be. as one of his pupils at Middletown South, he took the extra time to teach and pass along all the knowledge that he had about the sport. A towering man without fear on skates. He will be deeply missed. My condolences to the Patrick family during this difficult time. May his memory live on for many, many years to come.
Nicholas Martini
July 17, 2015
RIP Coach Patrick I'll never forget the dedication you put into the hockey program, such a great guy very sad to see you go, rest easy Coach
Erik Hedling
July 16, 2015
Paul and the Patrick family were always kind. His mom taught school with my mom..."shoot low". he could skate. Great Man. Prayers
July 16, 2015
We are very sorry to learn of Paul's passing. He is remembered for his caring personality and being a friend to all of us. We are sorry for your loss, Barbie Rohweder and family
Jen & Kevin
July 16, 2015
So sorry to hear about Paul's passing. Our deepest condolences to Eileen and Family. Thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Jennifer & Kevin
July 16, 2015
So sorry to hear about Paul's passing. Deepest condolences to Eileen and family. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Eastern Junior High School
July 16, 2015
With deepest sympathy to the Patrick family from friends and former classmates.
Mark Garber
July 16, 2015
A giant man with a giant smile and great sense of humor. It was always a pleasure refereeing ice hockey games when he was behind the bench as a coach. A real gentleman who really knew the game. I will miss him dearly.
HALLY M EL-WARD
July 16, 2015
My condolences to Greg and the rest of the Patrick family....So sorry for your loss
Barbara and Tom Etter
July 16, 2015
Paul was a wonderful man who will be remembered by us for his warm smile and caring personality. Our deepest sympathies to Eileen and the family at this difficult time.
Travis Sherman
July 16, 2015
I'm so very sorry to for the patrick family. Greg my father died nov 9 this past year. So i think i might know how u feel, like why you. I will remember how i always saw him in Atlantic highlands foodtown
parking lot always smiling at me. He was the best.
Christine Martin
July 16, 2015
Sorry Goon, our thoughts are with your family.
Love always,
Jeff and Christine
July 16, 2015
Paul was fun, upbeat, and good kid growing up on Dialstone La.
Thinking of the Patrick's on during this difficult time...
Harry Catanzaro
July 15, 2015
Our condolences to the Patrick family.
Bob and Andrea Sorg
July 15, 2015
What a shame that Paul has passed. A terrific guy,friend and teammate during our years at Kent. My prayers go out his his family. A giant glass of wine tonight in honor of a giant defenseman. Pete Barnum
July 15, 2015
Your family is in our hearts and prayers. .The Lupinaccio Family
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