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Jean
June 8, 2025
Mother.....Today marks the 17th anniversary of your transition.
I can honestly say I miss you and love you beyond beyond.
Your loving way, your caring ways, your strength, your wit, your smile...I miss everything about you.
When I close my eyes and meditate I can see and feel your love. It just doesn't seem to be enough.
I will be with you one day. We will laugh and dance!
YSM&DF
Jean
June 8, 2024
Jean
June 8, 2024
Jean
June 8, 2024
And your tulips AND lilacs have arrived. Two of your favorites!
Around the world and back....YSM&DF
Jean
June 8, 2024
Hello Mother of mine! It is difficult to comprehend that it has been 17 years since your transition. Then at times so real.
I miss you and your insight every day.
Today, i give you a field of tulips. I know you are here with me, with all of us, all the time.
I love you Mother!
YSM&DF
Jean
May 11, 2024
Happy Mother's Day Mom!
Another year flown by. Another year of missing you. Another year of.....well just about everything life offers and brings our way.
YDSMF
Jean
October 21, 2023
Happy Birthday Momma! I miss you today and always.
I think of you in our travels and know you are with me.
When I am making one of your recipes, I wonder what I left out because it doesn't have the exact flavor.
You are always with me, protecting me. Forever YSM&D.
Mary
June 25, 2023
It is hard to believe how long ago you left for love heaven! You are and always will be in my heart!
Jean
June 25, 2022
Mom,
It has been 15 years since your transition. It is so difficult to believe.
Nonetheless, it is the reality here.
I move through this life wondering what it will be like when we meet again.
My wish is that all of our people and friends will be waiting for me.
Make mistake, I am in no hurry so don't rush to ring my bell!
I love you around the world and back! And, I miss you much more than that!
Mary
June 25, 2022
Thinking of and appreciating you both with much love - and kinda glad you are looking at our crazy country from your love heaven perch instead of from down here.
Jean
December 15, 2021
Jean
December 15, 2021
Jean
December 15, 2021
Good morning and Merry Christmas to you Mom and Dad.
In honor of you both, we created these 2 decorations.
I love and miss you both, beyond words!
The Cardinal for Mom, the rose poinsettia for Dad. You used to buy us one every year! And Mom, Avis is for aviary, you loved your tweetie birds.
Until I see you again.....
Jean Faenza
June 8, 2020
Good morning Mother! Today is the 13th anniversary of your transition. I say this because I can't believe it has been that long.
Thank you for helping Janet transition on June 4th. Please now focus your energy on Jill, she needs all of you to navigate this change.
I will miss you until I see you again. I appreciate your visits, although occasionally they freak me out! Please keep visiting!
I love you around the world and back.
Please send us white and purple light to keep us safe! The world has gone mad! I better you are all thankful you are not on this plane right now, full of hate and anger! Goodbye for now.....
YDSMF
Jean Faenza
October 21, 2017
Happy birthday Mother! This is your earth plane bday...
I am sending you my energy and I am missing you beyond now and today. We are one!
YSM&DF
Jill & Izzy at 2 mos.
Jill Faenza
October 21, 2017
October 21, 2017
Happy 87th Birthday-although I have often wondered " do spirit angels like yourself still celebrate earth plane birth dates or do you celebrate your transition date?". I guess I'll find out one day. As you know, it is also a celebration date for Janet and I as we chose your earth plane birthdate to legally become married four years ago at City Hall in San Francisco. It was a grand event and we had a photographer who took really great photos.
You are missed every day, some more than others. I would love to know what you and "your people" are doing today if you do celebrate your day today.
I know you're getting a kick out of watching our new beautiful puppy kick our butts and make us laugh. I have a newfound respect for your dog training skills. You were so good with Goliath, Crewcut and all our dogs
while enjoying yourself so much. I know babies, puppies, kids and all animals felt so safe with you and you with them.
I love ❤ you always and forever Mom!
Jill
June 8, 2017
Good morning Mother!
I am troubled by knowing today is the 10 year anniversary of your transition.
I am troubled by knowing that it feels like yesterday when recalling the time.
I am sure you know what we all felt and how we continue to miss your more than anyone on this plane could every imagine.
What I am not troubled by is my understanding that you are with us every day; that you guide us every day; that you laugh at us every day when we don't "get" your message or accept your most wise guidance. Yes we are still your silly kids that ignore your advice in favor of our own. I am sure you are saying, really, when will they ever get it! To this I smile and laugh out loud.
I love you around the world and back and can never thank you enough for telling me to dare to be bold, dare to believe but most of all, dare to be myself.
YSM&DF
June 8, 2016
Good morning Mother!
Today is the ninth anniversary of your transition. It is so hard to believe it has been 9 years. So much has changed in our lives and so much will continue to change.
I miss you every day, you flit in and out of my mind and my experiences, but never my heart. You are a permanent part of me and my heart. For this I thank you each and every moment of every day. You are the best in me.
Thank you Mother! I love you around the world and back!
YSM&DF
Jean Faenza
May 9, 2016
Hello Mother! Happy Mother's day to you!
I sent a message on Thursday, for some reason it didn't get posted. Anywhooo....
Our life if full of changes these days, nothing earth shattering, but certainly full of challenges.
We continue to be thankful for your guidance and your protection.
I know you are sending white light our way and energy full of love.
This has always been your way, here and where you are now.
I can't thank you enough for your support, love and caring.
You are always in my thoughts, mostly daily. I love you around the world and back.
YD&SMF
October 21, 2015
Happy birthday to you, happy birthday to you, happy birthday dear Momma, happy birthday to you!
I be missing you!
Today is your day, one of many that bring thoughts of you flowing and swirling in my head. So, so many to recall, to honor.
As you know, we are now on journey building our new home! We will be living a 2 minute walk from Jill, Janet and Olivia, your favorite lil' red bear! The area is beautiful and peaceful. We expect we will truly love it here!
The community lends to an active and inclusive life style. Who could as for more? Well you know I always ask for more, but certainly not more than we need!
One of my fondest memories is you at Christmas, which is just around the corner. You and Dad loved Christmas. Every year, when we were living closely, Alda and I would pick our the Xmas tree with Dad, per your request. You didn't want him going alone because he might bring home Charlie Brown! Oh my goodness, we treasure those memories! You would be each strand of tinsel on the tree, to perfection. Your trees were always the most beautiful.
Please give continue to give us support and guidance in this transition, we appreciate it and receive it with gratitude.
Thank you and our entire family for all you do for us!
I love you around the world and back! Thank you for all the signs we receive, more lately! Bring 'em on Momma!
YD&SMF
Kelly ann Faenza"hackner
June 10, 2015
Hi mormor just wanted you to know I was thinking of you. Miss you like crazy. Always kelly
Hat fever!
June 9, 2015
I spent last nught reviewing photos of you Mom, photos of you and Dad, photos of Jean and you, You and I and photos of our family times together. I felt consoled in some small way, remembering all the incredibly fun times with you, even during difficult times.
I have certainly learned how to appreciate the journey rather than waiting for the rainbow at the end of my adventures.
Janet and I are now entering a new journey - a very exciting and scary journey and I appreciate all the wisdom you've imparted upon me and the strength I feel from you every day. I love Momma.
Thank you for being in our lives - always. I miss your laugh and smile. some days I can see and hear you and other days it's a little more difficult, but I always feel so grateful for the time I was given with you. Bless you Mom. I love you forever!
June 8, 2015
Mother of Mine....today is your day of transition! It has been 8 years, whether I believe it or not!
Our memories, our souls remain intact. My life has moved on, albeit tumultuously as times!
Today, I find myself making change orders for our new home. I have asked for your guidance and know that you are helping in any way you can.
I pray for ultimate health for Alda and me; spiritually, physically, mentally and financially. I know you will guide us in the right direction for each of these.
I wonder what you do as time passes for us. You must laugh uncontrollably about the foolish humans! We spend much of our time "consumed" with time, when in fact, at the end it just won't matter.
I will say this, i wish I knew then what I know now. Not that things would have changed but perhaps I would have handled things very differently.
You know I love you and will always love you. I look lovingly upon the day I see you again.
YSM&DF
May 10, 2015
Happy Mothers Day!
I am thinking of you today Mom and wishing you were here so I could celebrate and honor you like we did!
I guess this will just have to be enough. I've been remembering this would be your 85th birthday, you were 25 years old when you had me. So, that means I will be 60, YIKES! You would be calling me an ole' ladid with that belly laugh of yours. I can't believe your transition is 8 years coming up on June 8th. Time has flown but your memories and your soul will never leave me....never ever ever!
I love you around the world and back Mom! YSM&DF
October 21, 2014
Happy Birthday Mother!
Well....another year gone by, yikes! You would be 84 today on this plane...of course of course of course, you transitioned over 7 years ago now.
I have been thinking about you all month and you have been showing up in only ways you would think to do! The flowers.....our sterlings are blossoming like they never have....our bird of paradise graced us with one single blossom yesterday after blooming all summer long and going dormant for the fall and winter! Your perfume floats around in the night waking me up. Mama you know I need my sleep!
It isn't the same honoring you so differently. WIth that said, I find the ways to do so and hope you hear me!
I miss you and love you around the world and back. "She'll be coming round the mountain when she comes! She'll be coming round the mountain when she comes!" You know the rest of this song!
YSM&DF
June 8, 2014
Happy Anniversary Mother of mine!
Mother.....I be missing you!
I know this time must be special for you being back with Dad. Or perhaps he is driving you crazy like only Dad can!
I can only say I trust you are continuing your lessons on the plane you now reside. I will see you someday, not too soon though!
When we are together we will dance, we will sing and we will remember all the good times we had here on this earthly plane! It will be so special! I know you will be there to greet me!
I love you around the world and back.
YD&SMF
May 11, 2014
Happy Mother's Day sweet mother - and happy mother's day wishes to you too Dad. You always said, "I wouldn't be a mother, without your father, would I?"
I remember your little sayings at the most strange times, always when I need to, but most often when I don't need that saying. I imagine you are celebrating with your own mother today - Hi Gram and Grandpa!
Life is different without you here. It's still very good, but different. I smile ALOT when I think of you, talk to you and meditate. But, I still AVOID the Mother's Day card aisles like the plague...they still get to me.
I know you must be thrilled to have your partner in crime and goodness at your side again. Your scattering was just beautiful, we couldn't have ordered a more perfect day - beautiful sunshine, smooth bay, incredible memories, good company and of course, you and Dad.
I am always in awe of your mother's love, kindness, generosity, foresight and most of all, guidance. Thank you always and forever.
Your loving daughter and admirer always,
Jill
May 11, 2014
Happy Mother's Day mother of mine! As you know, your lilies are beautiful as always. They always bloom this time of year!
I miss you more than you know and now find different ways to honor you. Today, I will think of you often, piddle in the yard and look at your flowers.
We also have a baby hummingbird that hatched yesterday. Hmmmm....I bet you have something to do with that to! Don't worry, I will watch over it like a good mother!
Thank you for all of your love and care and teachings and guidance! Where would I be without you?
YD&SMF
Paula Patenaude Faenza
May 10, 2014
May 10th,2014 To My Mother-in-Law
Happy Mother's Day in Heaven!
To "His" Mother
Mother in- law they say, and yet,
Some how I simply can't forget
'Twas you who watched his baby ways
Who taught him his first hymn of praise,
Who smiled at his with living pride
when he first tootled by your side.
"Mother in Law" but oh, t'was you
Who taught him to be kind and true
When he was tired, almost asleep,
t'was to your arms he used to creep
And when he bruised his tiny knee, t'was you who kissed it tenderly.
"Mother in Law" they say and yet
Somehow I shall never forget
Who very much I owe
To you, who taught him how to grow,
You trained your son to look above.
You made him the man I love,
And so I think of that today.
Ah! Then with thankful heart I'll say.
'Our Mother'
Love, Paula
Sweetheart Cove....04/19/2014 2:40 P.M. N 37 49.4 W 122 29.2 Nothing but Love!
May 8, 2014
Good morning Mother and Father! We honored and celebrated your transition as you wanted. The scattering took place on April 19, 2014 near the Marin Headlands, after passing under the Golden Gate Bridge. The exact location.....Sweetheart Cove, yes believe it!
The weather could not have been more perfect! You are loved, honored and respected by all you both have touched!
I love you and miss you both more than words can say, around the world and back!
YDF
March 1, 2014
Good mother! Well.....as you know, Henry finally made it back to you!
As you both wanted, we have planned your ash scattering, together, at the Golden Gate Bridge. The celebration will be on April 19th at 2:00 p.m. The route will take us from Sausalito under the bridge, to the Marin Headlands with the return route being the reverse.
It is time that you two are back together with all of our other angels! While it has been almost 7 years since you transitioned, I think of you each and every day. You will always be in my heart, my thoughts, my soul.
YD&SMF
Jean
June 8, 2013
Good morning Mother of mine!
This is a bitter sweet day. The 6 year anniversary of your transition and Alda's first day of retirement. We are about to go on a long over due road trip in honor of her retirement. Please keep us safe while we travel. It amazes me you watch over us, still! Thank you!
I remember and think of your day of transition differently now. Although I do fell and remember every moment as if it is today....it's different now. I treasure every moment you offered me that day....I treasure every moment you offer me now. You are amazing and I know you guide me. You give me strength in ways that are not known to this plane and I appreciate all you do.
I love you around the world and back. One more request, please help Dad transition when he is ready. He is a good man and has always put his family first, even today. He says he can't leave the "kids alone" so he isn't ready to transition. Well, it will happen some day and I'm sure you will be there in all of your beauty!
I miss you more than you know.
YSM&DF
May 12, 2013
Happy Mother's Day!
I find myself, as always, thinking about you today. Not just today, you are always on my mind and in my thoughts.
I can't believe you transitioned almost 6 years ago. Time does move much faster than I can comprehend.
I know you are with me always but today would have been a very different day if you were on this plane.
I do look forward to the time we are together again. I am looking forward to you showing me "the ropes" and helping me communicate with the people on this plane like you do!
You are amazing and always will be the center of my heart, the grounding I need.
Mother.....I be missing you!
I love you Mom!
YSM&DF
October 21, 2012
Happy Birthday mother, I be missing you!
I can't seem to fathom the fact that yet another birthday has passed since your departure from this plane. I think I might just go out and celebrate with a hot fudge sundae in your honor! That smile on your face when we last celebrated at CPK, hot fudge sundae in front of you....you were like a Cheshire cat....smile intact and quite smitten!
While I know we will be together when I transition, it's your physical presence I often miss. You were always the calming, voice of reason but more importantly, love. Your love was shared with all and was never in question. It was unconditional and absolute. As SSSS#! would say, authentic!
I continue to feel this love.
Another poem for you.....
Your love, unconditional.
Your love, all consuming.
Your love, shared with all.
Your love, full of peace and harmony.
Your love, authentic.
Your love, forever.
Your love, without doubt.
Your love, continues beyond this plane.
Your love, flows freely.
Your love, teaches all how it is done!
Your love will continue forever and infinitely!
I love you around the world and back!
YSM&DF
June 8, 2012
Good morning Mother!
Today, the 5th anniversary of your second birth date, I am thinking of you moment to moment. The memories are rushing in and out of my head as if it was yesterday. I wish I could tell you that it was a good day, I know it was for you, but not so much for me. I miss you more than you will ever know!
The good part is that you are now working in ways that help us and guide us more than you did when you were here. And that, my dear, is no feat, as their was no one better than you at caring and loving your family!
I do have one request, that you, if you have any pull, help Dad move on. He was a good father, provider and is struggling with his owns issues. In part due to his stubbornness and in part due to his belief that he is in the space he is because he did something wrong. This is not the case and he needs all the help he can get to figure this out.
I will always, always treasure our time together. While I know you are still with us, some days it just doesn't seem the same.
Until we are together again....OLIVE YOU AROUND THE WORLD AND BACK!
YSM&DF
May 24, 2012
Good morning Mom!
My trip to Connecticut was great with memories of you everywhere. Dad was sweet however somewhat confused. He doesn't understand why he is at the facility and his illness is getting the best of him.
I continue to pray for him and hope things will change for him in the near term as I don't understand why he is hanging on. As you have said, perhaps it's due to his stubbornness, no doubt in fact!
I love you and miss you!
UWMA, YSM&DF
Kady and Jake May 12, 2012 Prom
May 24, 2012
Kady and Jake at Prom May 12, 2012
May 21, 2012
May 21, 2012
May 12, 2012
Mor Mor...We know that you were Kady Jane on her special day. But, we wanted to post pictures for everyone to see and share. We love you, we miss you.....
January 1, 2012
Happy New Year Mother!
After I write that, I wonder, is there a new year for you too?
Did you celebrate New Years Eve?
Some day i will know these answers....
Today, I am writing to, once again, let you know how much I miss you.
I find myself missing you....the first call I would have received last night would have been you and dad....so I began running through my head some of those calls for New Years Eve, birthdays, other special days that we didn't spend together. You never missed the opportunity to call.
I also wonder how much of your life and your dreams you put on hold for your children. Perhaps never realizing some of them. You always put yourself last and made sure that we knew how important we were to you. I thank you for all you have done for me and please know that you will always mean the world to me and know how special you are, how talented you are, how much I respect and admire you for the whole you!
My goodness, the sacrifices you made were countless.
So, at the end of all this, I realize how much I am thankful for. The new year brings hope and opportunities, this year will bring more than past years.
I can only hope that I am able to see the opportunities and grab onto them and run with them!
Thank you for your guidance, today and always.
Mother....I be missing you!
UWATA, YD&SMF
December 14, 2011
Mother I be missing you! I know you know and you know know I know. But I have to tell you I wish you were here with me!
UWATA....YD&SMF
October 21, 2011
Good morning birthday girl! Wow, 81 years today...you know what that means don't you? That I will be 56 in another month.
I can't believe the time that has flown by since your transition. Yet you are with us every day, making a difference in our lives in ways you can. If of course we are listening.
I have written a message for you....I hope you hear me....
Mother....you have always been there for me.
Mother....you were always supportive of me.
Mother....you were and remain the love of my life, I have 3, just you know you are not the only one!
Mother....you are my soul mate.
Mother....you always kicked my butt when I needed it most.
Mother....you always knew when I needed a hug.
Mother....your heart was always open to receive.
Mother....you were a friend and mother to all.
Mother....I will always hold you in my heart and my soul.
Mother....I will always remember what you said to me.
Dare to believe, dare to be bold, dare to be yourself!
I will try.....today and always.
Mother.....I be missing you!
YSM&DF
Until we see each other again!
June 8, 2011
Good morning mother of mine! Another year has passed, another June 8th. You have been on my mind, as always, but more than usual in anticipation of today.
The babid hummers show you watching over them, what a joy to see and I knew you were here to make sure they were safe. That is what you do, make sure your people are safe, to the best of your abilities. I can't tell you how much I miss that here on this plane. Your voice was always very calming, your mannerisms the same, your way kept us all safe. This is a definite void here without you.
I hope you enjoy the flowers, roses, your lilies that bloom every year like clockwork and are always beautiful and some irises too! Fresh and beauteous!
Your love continues in us all...your life is honored by us all today and always....we are you and we will continue to be you.
I love you and I am missing you mother!
UWATA YSM&DF
May 8, 2011
Happy Mother's Day from YSM&DF!
Each passing year I struggle to find small ways to celebrate and honor you as my mother, my friend, my soul mate. You see, I would rather be celebrating in big ways like we did when you were on this plane. It was always so much fun, not so much anymore.
Instead of the big way, I cut fresh roses from the garden, I say words under my breath, I sing some of your favorite songs, I look at pictures, I remember everything I can about you. How you treated me, how you loved me, how you cherished our family.
Your heart, your laugh, your smile, your soul all ring loudly for me today. Mother....I be missing you!
UWATA!
March 23, 2011
Motherrrrr.....I be missing you!
I can't believe it, when I look at this log I see I haven't written to you since December 2010. The funny thing is I know we talked, or at least I've talked and not listened.
The whirlwind continues beyond belief...the free will thing doesn't always seem like free will.
I find myself missing you more than anything...your smile would melt my problems away at the end of the day. Now, well, not so much, because I find myself not really knowing or recognizing your smile. When I would see you at the end of a work day, the stuff that happened didn't really matter. I had you and knew you loved me no matter what! I know you still do but it doesn't seem as tangible.
I just miss you and the unconditional love you bestowed upon me, I knew it to be true!
i hope you know that it is reciprocal and that it will always be the same.
ILYATWAB, YSM&DF....UWATA!
December 27, 2010
Good morning MOMSMMF!
Life has been a whirlwind...thank you so much for your message on 12/19. The insight is immeasurable and the constant contact is important to me.
Back to the whirlwind...well you know about all of this because you are conducting and influencing in ways you are able, free will being what is is. Ah, we humans, LOL!
I found myself looking at your recipes yesterday to determine what it is I want to make. It was fun reading the recipes, they are all over the place, not really recipes but narratives of the dish....you know how you were! Always leaving something out or putting in a pinch of this or a pinch of that. I never did make anything, I ran out of time because I read recipes for 2 hours!
I miss you more than you know. This holiday season, more than others, rings of Avis Carolyn Pacher Faenza...the ornaments, the beauty, the food, the songs, the love....all ring you!
So, in honor of you Alda and I sang xmas carols....she has a much better voice than I do, so I sang background, LOL!
Xmas will just never be the same....until we are together again!
ILYATWAB....YSM&DF
kelly faenza'hackner
October 21, 2010
HAPPY BIRTHDAY MORMOR, WOW ITS BEEN A LITTLE WHILE SINCE IVE WRITTEN U. U WOULD BE A BOUNCING 80 YEARS YOUNG TODAY.I CAN REMBER SEEING A BOX AT THE DOOR FOR OUR BIRTHDAYS AND RUN TO THE DOOR AND OPEN IT. NOW I LOOK OUT THE DOOR TO SEE IF I CAN FEEL U ,SEE U .BUT WE KNOW U COME AROUND WHEN I NEED U AND TO MAKE SURE THING ARE GOING WELL. I AM MISSING U LIKE CRAZY AND THINK OF U EVERYDAY . U ARE TRUELY MISSED AND I WILL TELL U ,I LOVE U SO VERY MUCH .THE TWINS WISH U A HAPPY DAY OUR LOVE IS NEVERENDING,AND TRUE. SAY HELLO TO EVERY
ONE ,FOREVER KELLY
October 21, 2010
Happy birthday mother!
This is your 80th birthday on this plane....OMG, the ole'ladid, as you would say. I was thinking about my 50th birthday yesterday and how you called me the ole' ladid, then you laughed that belly laugh that kept me giggling for quite some time. Even now, when I think about it, I break into laughter. Not so much today.....
Of course I wish we were going to the Biltmore in Santa Barbara for lunch to celebrate this birthday....I wish we were singing at the top of our lungs....I wish we were dancing in the moonlight....I wish we were sitting silently watching the birds and not having to say anything...I wish I was seeing that smile of yours every day....the one that lite up the earth and made everyone know you loved us best...I wish we were spending all of our holidays together.....I have learned many things about myself since your transition. Today, I've learned wishing doesn't make it so.
Instead, I honor you and your day in small ways. The flowers I pick for you, the songs I sing to myself in my head and sometimes out loud....the memories of our time spent together and the love I will always feel for you.
I love you around the world and back....Mother, I be missing you!
Until we are together again....YSM&DF
September 9, 2010
Good morning mother!
It's been a while since I've written. So much has been going on. I saw dad for father's day and his birthday. As you know, he is doing okay. They are certainly feeding him well and without much exercise he is showing the indulgence, LOL!
Work is crazy and well, quite frankly, not fun anymore. Perhaps it is just my time to move on from this career. I'm trying to figure all of that out without hastily making decisions.
Guess what? We are going to Paris again, Alda, Jill, Janet, Mary and me....it should be beautiful and full of wonder. I feel at home there as if I've lived there in some other life. I know you have mentioned this so I'm thinking it's true due to the comfort I feel when in Paris.
Your absence in my life on this plane is felt every day....I speak of you often to well, just about everybody. Even though you are not here with me your influence is infinite. I just hope that I'm doing all the right things and that you remain proud of me. I miss your smile and that belly laugh so much!
I love you around the world and back....your pesty daughter!
June 17, 2010
Helloa mother! As you know, Alda and I are "tripping" to the east.
We'll see Dad for father's day...J&P are hosting a bbq for father's day...the food will be plentiful and the love bountiful! Auntie Jean will be with us as you know. Of course, some of my favorite people will be missing....soul sister, Mary and others.. you are the one person I will be missing the most on this plane. Not more than others, but because you and I share a special, soulful bond. I'm just saying.....
You know I know you and your peeps are hovering over dad....it, at the end of the day, is up to him. I expect that it will be sooner than later. So be it.
I appreciate your insight and your guidance...you are my guiding light, my SMMF...I love you around the world and back. Motherrrrrrr. I be missin' you....
YSM&DF
June 8, 2010
Good morning Avis Carolyn Pacher Faenza!
Today is June 8th....the anniversary of your transition, 3 years ago.
I found myself moving through the time yesterday in anticipation of the thoughts, the memories and well, just wishing I could put my head under the pillow and stay there. I spent a lot of time remembering the day, the evening, the night. As I always do when processing that time, I questioned whether the decisions made were the right ones. That really doesn't matter anymore since it is what it is and there is no turning back the clock.
I do appreciate your messages, your visits and your spirit self. I know you are with me and watching over me, you remain my mother and my friend and my soul mate. You always will be. It's just that I don't know how I'm supposed to get through this. I will know, the day I see you again. Just to set the record straight I'm not in a hurry! I will be singing when I do see you, you know the song!
I love you today, always and around the world and back!
YSM&DF
May 8, 2010
I find myself at a loss for words today. I have no words to say how much I miss you.
Happy mother's day mother of mine! I wish it could be different...I wish we were together today....these are the only words I can muster. I love you around the world and back!
YSM&DF
April 28, 2010
Hello mom! I am so thankful for the time you spent with me the other day. I'm thankful for your insight...I'm thankful for the time. I have to say I find myself missing you since then. I could benefit from your messages every day. I do realize that I'm not your only focus and that you are a very, very busy spirit. I've been looking at your pictures today and I find myself wishing it wasn't just pictures, I would rather you were still with us on this plane.
Today is Jill's birthday, I'm sure she is wishing the same. It's so hard without you, to find the right words, to do all the things we are supposed to do. It never really mattered with you, you loved us no matter what and loved us the best! I have to say, it remains the same for me. The only thing is that I miss you more than you know...
I love you around the world and back...YSM&DF
April 14, 2010
In honor of you mother of mine. YSM&DF
April 5, 2010
Good morning mother of mine...
I just spent some much needed time away, it was beautious along the coast of Big Sur and Carmel Valley was unexpected gem.
Time is flying by and I look forward to hearing from you at the end of April. It's been some time and, time doing what it does, is slipping away. Some days I am amazed by everything, other days, well like this morning, I wonder why things have happened in the fashion they have.
This year would have been your 80th birthday in this world, Dad's 85th, my 55th....we were all on the fives, as I call it. I wonder what you would look like...what we would do to celebrate the number of years..I know for sure it would involve a hot fudge sundae! I then realize that I will celebrate this year for you knowing that you understand that I am honoring you and the time we did spend together here.
I trust you hear me and that you know how much I miss you, today and always.
I love you around the world and back...
YSM&DF
March 3, 2010
Hello motherrrrrr! Mother..I be missin' you...
I can't tell you how much I miss you right now...of course it's purely selfish and based on my own needs, but boy oh boy...your insight is really needed right now.
I find myself in a place I never thought I would be and, as a result, I'm about to drawn a line in the sand that I won't have the ability to change.
It's uncomfortable and frankly, I don't know if it's the right thing to do. So...I will trust that at the time, it will be the right thing to do and go with it.
I love you best, around the world and back! If you can send me a sign or visit it would be very helpful and comforting.
You know who, your pesty kid!
February 20, 2010
Good morning Mom!
I awakened this morning and thought "my goodness, I haven't written to mom in a while"...You are always on my mind, there isn't a day that goes by that I don't think of you. I keep wondering if this will wane...then I realize that it's not likely.
June will be your 3 year anniversary, your new birthday. Jill and I were talking and noted that the time has just flown by and how hard it is to believe that it will be 3 years. What is it that makes this the way of time? Yes, there are scientific meanings and calculations, mumbo jumbo. You know what I'm asking...so send me a message or visit if you can help me with this question.
I am about to embark upon some chosen life changes. We'll see where it takes me...I wish you were with us now...I know, I know, you are, but not on this plane. Perhpas you can help me with my upcoming changes and decisions?
I love you around the world and back!
Jean
KELLYANN FEANZA'HACKNER
December 19, 2009
GOOD EVENING GRAM, WELL I HAVE TO SAY YOU HAVE BEEN ON MY MIND ALOT IN THE PAST FEW DAYS. WELL MORE THEN EVER. THANKS FOR THE HELP WITH DAD......
GUESS WHAT I MADE TO DAY,WELL MOM,KERRY AND I ,RUM BALLS ,WHISKEY CAKE O,M,G, THE SMELL AWSOM WE WILL CHAT SOON LOVE U ALWAYS ,KEL
December 18, 2009
Good morning Mom!
I wanted to write to thank you for all you have done to help with our family miracle. The miracle in our family is appreciated by all and we appreciate all of the help from your "troops"! I call it the spook patrol, fondly of course, LOL!
Alda and I are getting ready to travel to CT for the holidays. It's been a very long time since we have traveled to the east for this holiday season, we are both excited and warn out by the thoughts of it. Work continues to be challenging and takes most of my effort these days. So, when preparing for a long travel like this, it just seems like a grind. Once we are on the plane, the plane, the planning will be behind us and the grind will dissipate! That is a very good thing....
We miss you always, but particulary around holidays. Your presence will be known and felt.....but....well you know how I feel.
Thank you for being a constant in my life, now and always.
She'll be coming round the mountain when she comes...she'll be coming round the mountain when she comes....
YSM&DF
November 29, 2009
Good morning Mom!
Thank you for your message/messages yesterday. It's good to know you are rallying the troops for all of us. I have to say I already believed that to be the case, but validation is always, always good to have.
You continue to be very important in our lives....thank you thank you thank you!
Around the world and back!YSM&DF
November 26, 2009
Happy Thanksgiving Mom!
It's November 26, 2009....another holiday since you have transitioned. I spent an hour this morning snapping pictures of the hummers and the wild yellow canaries in the back yard. Oh my goodness, Alda and I stopped counting! There were some many canaries we just can't believe it! Beauteous as you would say!
I spoke with dad this morning...he was of course asking for you, like I've got the magic link. I reminded him about your transition....he didn't get it today. It was not a good day for him, his memory was really shot and he even made a comment about it by acknowledging that he didn't know what he was trying to say. All in all, he was good. I did let him know that Alda and I will be there for Christmas, he was happy and excited about that.
Tomorrow will be the day you brought me into this world. I do thank you for that and for sticking with me for all the years you did. You are my greatest fan, then and now! I miss you, the holidays, birthdays, every day...they just aren't the same without those blue eyese and that smile...you know the one!
"She'll be coming around the mountain when she comes".....remember when you hear it! I love you around the world and back!
YSM&DF
November 8, 2009
Good morning Mom!
It's been a rough week as I've been sick most of it....but I'm feeling much better today! It's November and the daylight is shorter, leaving less time to do what we have to do. I really don't like the shorter days, but will certainly take what I get.
I spoke with Dad yesterday, of course he was asking for you and how you are. Please just tell him, okay? Tell him you can go where ever you want and that you are dancing and wearing those knee high boots you always wanted to wear! Tell him you are the epitomy of health! He keeps asking me and I'm tired of telling him, LOL! Of course the reality is that you probably have already told him he's just not listening. I wish things had worked out differently so I could spend more time with him, he doesn't get much family interaction.
All in all, things are about the same, we are all still moving through our lives, as you would want us to.
I love you around the world and back...
YSM&DF
October 21, 2009
Happy birthday Mom! Today was one of the most wonderful days of all time....the day you were born to Ida and Carl Pacher, 79 years ago! I can't imagine how happy they were, but I'm sure it was something else for them.
When talking with Auntie Jean, she remembers how much you mean to her, growing up and now. How friendly you were, how beautiful, what an athlete you were, how everyone loved you, and on and on...I love hearing her talk about you and love to hear the stories she tells. Don't worry, she doesn't tell us what you didn't want us to know! We all remember you in similar ways. Me, I just miss the dickens out of you.
You were my mother first, you raised me to be who I am today...my friend second, and you were a friend and mother to all of my friends. I recall some of them telling me they loved you more than they loved me, that you were more fun than me! Imagine the nerve of these peeps, LOL!
In reality, I knew it to be true and it didn't bother me a bit, it just made me love and respect you more.
At the end of today, I will go to bed thinking of you just as I did when I awakened this morning. I will go to bed missing you just as I did when I awakened this morning.
Please know that you are in my heart, my soul, my mind and will forever be part of me.
YSM&DF
September 27, 2009
Mom...where oh where have you been? What are you doing with yourself now that you are free to do what you want? I see you dancing around with your arms and legs moving freely, flowing like never before...your hair blowing in the wind....your eyes brighter than the brightest of suns....blue as the ocean....as deep as forever....some day might you read what I've written....it's about you and the lives you have touched and continue to touch...where are you now? What other lives have you touched?
I be missing you....
September 22, 2009
Hello mother of mine!
Today is September 22nd...summer has ended and the world is even more crazy than the last time I wrote. I can tell things are kooky, but you already know that! You already know how much I miss you and that I'm planning my trip to see Dad again. It should be pretty in Connecticut, hopefully, the leaves have turned or at least started. It's always funny to realize that things have changed so much since your transition...amazing really. The world just keeps turning. Two years ago we were all in CT celebrating your life. I wonder what you thought about the celebration...I hope you tell me someday.
One thing you can count on is that I haven't forgotten you and I miss you around the world and back. I love you best, today and always.
Jean
August 26, 2009
Hi mom...it's one of those nights.
Alda and I were talking about you at dinner...actually, she was talking and I was crying. What can I say..some days are just harder than others. I don't mean to be a cry baby, I guess I just am. I kept making excuses for my sadness and Alda kept saying that I didn't have to, that I was fortunate to have had the time with you and how others see that as well....and that you are the center of my life, then and now, still and always.
Nothing clicks like it used to...I keep trying but it just doesn't. I will keep trying..I promise.
Just remember....She'll be coming 'round the mountain when she comes...she'll be coming 'round the mountain when she comes....you'll know and so won't I!
YSM&DF
August 16, 2009
Okay, okay...I'll make the potato salad. I'm sure it won't be as good as yours, but I'll do it!
Thank you for all of the messages this past month!
I love you around the world and back! YSM&DF
July 23, 2009
Off we go to Connecticut....stay tuned!
YSM&DF
July 11, 2009
July 11, 2009
Good morning Mom!
Jill and I are planning our visit to see Dad. We have our tickets and our hotel arranged....so off we go.
You go, I go, v go....as Grandma used to say! We are looking forward to, and anxious, about seeing Dad. It's so hard sometimes, our family dynamics have changed as a result of your absence here. We always new that, but now more than ever, you were the one the held us all together. Now what Mom, now what?
I love you around the world and back...YSM&DF
June 20, 2009
Good morning!
Might you see us tonight? I'm hoping you will send a message!
YSM&DF
June 13, 2009
It's me pesty esty saying helloa!
YSM&DF
June 8, 2009
Avis Carolyn Pacher Faenza, Avis Carolyn Pacher Faenza, Avis Carolyn Pacher Faenza....it's been 2 years since your transition. Can it really be?
I know you've been busy doing what you do....we've been busy here too! Life is kooky that way.....kooky, kooky, kooky...
I think of you always and miss you always. I never knew it would be like this, some days I still don't believe you are not with us. I, not as much anymore, still walk to the phone to call you. Days like today, as I prepare to travel, I would stop to see you on my way out of town. I would be gifted with that beautiful smile of yours, the one that said you love me....I can't tell you how much I miss you and that smile.
I will say that I know we will be together again and I can't wait to be surrounded by that smile when we are. I expect you will here me then loud and clear. So until then!
I will honor you always, not just today, but everyday. I love you more than you know and...... Mother I be missing you!
YSM&DF
June 1, 2009
Good morning mom!
June 1st....and I'm not liking much about the next several days.
I, as always, am thinking about you. But you already know that.....
Mother....I be missin' you....
YSM&DF
May 24, 2009
Good morning mom!
It's Memorial Day weekend, the memories of the start of your transition have been floating in and out of my head. If I only came home sooner, if....if....if....
I really wish we had more time with you here. I know you are in a better place, so yes it's selfish. I find myself watching people with their mothers. Yesterday it was at costco as I watched a son with his mother, she was devouring a hot dog, mustard on her lips, on her shirt, just like you! Boy oh boy was she enjoying that hot dog!
Some days I just can't tell you how much I miss you, this weekend is fulll of days just like that.
I will always, always remember you and wish we had more time.
The flowers are beautful this time of year, the hummers everwhere, flying by me like a bat out of hell...I know it's you sending me a message as my thoughts float about you, telling me you are with me. Thank you for sending me the messages and thank you for making sure I'm being watched over by you and guided down the right path.
Mother....I be missin' you!
YSM&DF
kellyann faenza'hackner
May 2, 2009
hi mormor, well it's been a while life has been crazy. i have been thinking of you often ,harald and the twins and i have moved into are new home,well u know i had a feeling the other day u were here i hope i love the house but it;s still not the same with out u to talk to.
i have needed some advice about a few things. well i guess ,who am i kidding i miss u so very much,. i hope u know just how much i love u . even when i know u are in a better place. well i hope u will keep an eye on the girls for me . they miss you so ,they speek of you all the time. we aqll love you forever and a day. i will be ok , i have my aunts and my familey to get me through the days when i think i cant... miss u ,love kel
April 30, 2009
Mother, Avis Carolyn Pacher Faenza! Mother....I be missin' you!
Around the world and back...Your pesty kid YSM&DF
March 9, 2009
Mother...yesterday was another 8th, 21 months since your transition. Oh my goodness, time really does go by so fast. I was having lunch yesterday and I was asked, how long ago did your mother pass. Of course I new is was 21 months, 13 hours and a few minutes. It's funny, weird really, that I just seem to know when someone asks me questions. It's not as if I have to think about it, I just know. Perhaps it won't be as prominent as some point, but for now I want you to know it is what it is and I always remember and think of you.
YSM&DF....you know who!
February 17, 2009
Mother.....I be missin' you!
Alda and I visited Dad this weekend in his new residence. It is much better than the prior being cleaner and newer. He has only 1 room mate versus 2, of course he seems to think he's been there for a while.
Then he becomes confused or with it and finds that he just moved in. He continues to search for you, believing he has found you in Helen Clark. Of course you are probably foot stomping mad, LOL! He really needs someone to give him purpose and he has found that someone. Let's hope it works out with her family and that Dad doesn't make such a fuss that they move her. His doting is a problem and he takes risks with Helen that may require her to be moved.
So be it, life that is.
Auntie Jean is doing great and is a pleasure to be with. She is so much like you in so many ways, funny, beautiful, she thinks only of everyone else not herself. She told Alda and I that she even worries about people she has never met, just like you. Now I know what you talked about on the phone, for hours and hours and hours, often 2 or 3 hours....about the world and all your combined worries. She always has such fond and loving things to say about you, she misses you every day and every minute. Someday, we will all be together again! I must say none of us are in a hurry though!
The Mill on the River was great, brunch was fantastic and just being there made me feel closer to you.
I love you best, around the world and back!
YSM&DF
mary lebrato
January 26, 2009
Thinking about you Avy. But words don't really come out very well. miss you.
January 24, 2009
Good morning mom!
As always, life just moves along here. Dad's sister Ann Castagna passed, sad really, that connections to you and dad are moving on. I guess at the end we have memories, be they good or bad, or whatever.
I was mulling through some of your belongings this morning, receipes and stuff. My goal, if I get off my lazy butt, is to scan them and then share them with those that will enjoy them, just about everybody you made a meal for. We all miss your cooking, your special touches and those fantastic birthday cakes. Everyone had a favorite cake and you always willing and generous to make them for our birthdays!
I've attempted a few and they just don't taste the same.
I other day, I was reading a book and sitting in my bedroom and in came white linen, drifting through the room, yep, you make your presence known in many ways. Thank you for the times you show up!
I love you best, around the world and back.
YSM&DF, Jean
January 1, 2009
Happy New Year mom! I can't say that I'm unhappy about putting 2008 behind us with the understanding that 2009 is sure to be better. Life has many twisted turns, all unraveling at times.
Alda's sister was here for Christmas, the entire time talking about how weird it was to not see "Avis", we all echo that. She missed making you cookies and seeing your smiling face as you dove into the cookie tin! We all miss that.
We all miss you around the world and back....I love you best!
YSM&DF, Jean
December 20, 2008
Good morning mom!
A lot has been going on, primarily due to the holidays and work being so busy. This was your favorite time of year and there isn't anything about the hoiday that doesn't remind me of you. I'm sure it will be like this for me forever. We trimmed the tree for the second year without you....your direction was defintely missed. We laughed as Alda and I talked about how you were always the traffic director, telling us to move the ornaments somewhere else so the lights would shine on the crystal or too many reds in the same place. Well in spite of ourselves, we think the tree is pretty.
The bigger news is we sold Gold Dust and closed escrow as well, bittersweet. We have closed the chapter. Financially it is good not to have the payment...the rest, why write about it, it is what it is.
We can now focus on other things, this is good.
I am missing you and love you around the world and back. I know you already know all of this because our pictures show you everywhere including be smack dab in the middle of the tree.
YSM&DF....Jean
December 9, 2008
Yet another anniversary mom...12/8 has come and gone.
It's been an interesting couple of weeks. But, you already know all that is happening, so I won't bore you with recanting it all.
I love you best, around the world and back.
YSM & DF, Jean
November 22, 2008
Have you seen your sister Ina? I bet you were waiting for her during her transition. I love you mom!
YSM&DF, Jean
November 20, 2008
Avis Carolyn Pacher Faenza.....hello!
So much is happening, where do I begin. We have opened escrow on the Gold Dust home, hopefully closing on schedule by 12/20. It will be good to put the financial part behind us. But the memories will not be easy to loose. I want you to know that I always thought of Gold Dust as your home and I know you did too. I miss seeing you there, talking to the bunnies, your birds, even those busy squirrels. I guess I just miss you, no doubt about it.
David Ulitch moved on, he is probably doing your hair as I write. Maybe he and Joel are fighting over it, LOL!
Your smile, your caring way, I miss all of you and your ways mom.
I love you around the world and back!
YSM&DF, Jean
PS...are you singing in the rain?
November 7, 2008
Another 8th is here mom....Mother...I be missin' you!
YSM&DF, Jean
November 3, 2008
Hello mom!
Another month has gone by, your birthday month. What "they" say is true, time flies and we sometimes don't have time to even notice. Yet I always notice that something is missing in our every day lives. That something is you! Please note that I say every day lives, I realize that you are everywhere.
I'm writing to tell you, like I always did, that I love you around the world and back. She'll be coming round the mountain when she comes...YSM&DF, Jean
mary
October 24, 2008
remembering with a smile.
October 22, 2008
Hello Avis Carolyn Pacher Faenza! I'm too lazy to write it 3 times so I'm saying it as well, 3 times.
We all know today was your birthday here with us, it's a day to remember, today and always. I can't tell you how much I miss you and our celelbrating together. Of course, between you and me, we would and did find anything reason celebrate so we could go shopping, eat ice cream and what ever else we wanted to do! Yes, we had a lot of fun! But most of all I miss telling you I love you and seeing that beautiful smile of yours. You always knew....
Some day, some day we'll do it again!
Around the world and back mom! YSM&DF, Jean
kellyann faenza'hackner
September 20, 2008
HI MORMOR, i have been missing you so and needing to talk to you. mom is not well and this is killing my dad. he is so worried about her. i have a favor to ask ,can you and mem,joel,pep, neil and all the powers above keep a eye on her, i dont think we or daddy can take any more loss ,between gramp and all this we are all a mess. i cant go to him yet .i feel so useless. and like i have failed him in some way. i opend he door way to his demize. i love and am missing and wishing we could see each other one more time i have so much i want to tell you .but for now ,i love you know and forever will have to do . always kellyann xoxoo
mary lebrato
September 18, 2008
Avy, please keep a watchful eye on Bear for me. (Be careful, though, he likes to head butt so he can get rubbed.) Maybe you can show him the ropes and give him a big big hug for me. I miss you both! much love
September 8, 2008
Good morning Avis Carolyn Pacher Faenza!
This just happens...I wake up the morning of an "8th", a number that I'm not that fond of anymore, and I want to to speak to you, write to you, something about you. Then I realize, that it is yet another anniversary of you moving to your new "job" as Jill calls it.
Well, I know, as always, that you are busier than ever. With that said, I'm also sure that you know that you remain an anchor in my heart, forever and always.
I can't say how much I miss you on days, well, like yesterday. Most days actually. I wanted to call you on the phone, instead I just find myself talking to you. No one is answering, at least not that I notice, LOL! I fill in some words, feeling I know how you would respond. Now I'm blah, blah, blahing.....
I just want you to know I love you around the world and back.
YSM&DF
Jean
Mary Lebrato
September 2, 2008
thinking of you, avy, with much love and affection!
Jill Faenza
September 1, 2008
Of course she feels the same STILL you silly girl. Mom will always be a BIG part of your life, she is just not here in body -
We will always have a special connection with her and the rest of our family that have passed and we will see them again when it is our time - what a reunion that will be! More stomping grounds to remember.
No rush - we can still enjoy everyone now - it's the little things. The humming birds that court you, that special song that comes on the radio just when you need to hear it, a light that flickers before you go to sleep at night, wearing a piece of jewelry Mom gave you that will always make you feel special - a warm gust of air on a summer night that carries the wonderful hint of White Shoulders, hearing someone use a saying that Mom used regularly - it's all her spending time with you. She is a wonder for all to love and enjoy now and always.
She loves you forever and don't you forget it!
Jill
August 31, 2008
Helloa....Avis Carolyn Pacher Faenza!
Today was another day at Gold Dust and it was a pretty good day. There remains a lot to do to prepare the house for sale.
I will say I have a lot of very fond memories and thoughts of you when Alda and I are there. It's tough to stay focused due to all of these memories, which makes it hard to accomplish the tasks at hand. But, it's getting done, slowly but surely!
I will always treasure the memories I have of spending time with you. Growing up in CT couldn't have been better, San Francisco was another stopping ground that we shared and then of course Simi Valley. Mom, you've been such an instrumental part of my life and I can't thank you enough. I only hope you felt the same.
YSM&DF....Jean
mary lebrato
August 18, 2008
hi avy, miss your smile!
mary lebrato
August 13, 2008
pee wee's family has been hanging around, drinking the nectar of the summer flowers, reminding us of you and your laughter. thank you. xox
August 8, 2008
Hello mom, today is another 8th, 8/8/08. Yep, it is an odd date to ponder and 14 mos. since you moved on.
Alda and I spent time at Gold Dust yesterday, so many memories. I just want to say that the time spent there screamed you and that I'm missin' you, today and always! I love you best. YSM&DF, Jean
July 27, 2008
Hello mom! Jill has been visiting and of course we have been talking about you; and of course you already know this!
We've laughed, we've cried, but mostly we have nothing but wonderful thoughts about you and the time we have spent with you.
I'm will always thank you for being such an influence in my life, today and always.
I love you and be missin' you! Jean
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