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Nicholas Harrity Memoriam
Second birthday without you..
You faced such suffering, but it never took your compassion, your love for
living, your beautiful spirit. A sweet boy grew into a sweet man, who
brought so much love into the world.
You and Johnny, our November boys. Missing seems too small a word.
"Out beyond ideas of wrongdoing
and rightdoing, there is a field.
I'll meet you there."
~ Rumi
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Maggie Maher
August 12, 2014
Like a shooting star, I find myself desperately wanting to reach out and grab ahold of the love and inspiration that continues to trail behind you. I have learned to find you in the crashing waves, the sunrises, in the eyes of innocent animals, and in the rolling thunder of south Florida. Be not fooled by these words my dear friend; I would trade all of this for one more embrace or one more shared laugh. There will never be another Nicholas Demaio Harrity. Rather than search for someone like you, I will hold you tight to my heart until we meet again. I love you...
Nick in 1995,, 8th grade piano recital (he was good!), age 13
Linda Buchanan
September 10, 2013
These wonderful messages of love for Nick, who brought a kind, brave and special light to the world, and support for us, mean everything. We will treasure each of them, and each of you, forever. Always in our hearts, never forgotten, so much love.. may the road rise up to meet you, sweet N.
Thank you, all.
Linda
Michael Seal
August 30, 2013
Nick,
I've been thinking about you a lot since I heard the news. I keep thinking that you're a class act. You listen. You treat people with the utmost respect and consideration. I really enjoyed playing drums with you and Polar Vibration Administration in the barn loft with those big second floor doors to nowhere wide open behind me . . . I remember IPA, being drenched in sweat, and feeling the euphoria associated with doing what I love to do with lovable people. Arguably, that was the best era of my life for many reasons, your influence being one of them. I enjoyed our late night talks about life and music even more. You helped me a lot, and I never thanked you.
So thank you, Nick. I'd ask you to forgive my tardiness, but I know you will. Because as I said before, you're a class act. I'll see you again, someday, somewhere in the cosmos. I look forward to it. And I look toward to revisiting the litany of memories from those nights in the barn playing rock and roll with you.
Much love,
Mike
Andy Rizzo
August 28, 2013
Nick, You will always be remembered in our hearts. I will never forget the childhood memories that we shared on Linnmoore St. You will be missed.
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Heidi Reinker
August 28, 2013
Nicolas was clever in wit...observant, patient, caring...He had so many qualities to be proud of. He has such strong and wonderful parents who loved him dearly. May he be at peace enjoying his joy with his brother...
Karen McDonald (Katin)
August 28, 2013
Dear Linda, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of Nick and his brother John, I wish I knew them as adults. I remember them both as bright little boys. I too remember the Halloween costume that Scott writes about. I especially remember the birthday party for Nick with the silly string covering the entire house! I hope you find comfort in the good memories you have as a family.
Shaun Davis
August 27, 2013
Nick,
It was a honor and a privilege to have known you. We enjoyed good times while together in school, and occasionally outside of school where we'd run into each other at the Municipal Cafe. You were always so happy to see me, and I hope you knew that the feeling was mutual. You always had a kind word, a genuine smile, a certain something that always made one feel welcomed. I'm sorry, so sorry that you're no longer with us in the physical sense, but you will never be forgotten. Love to you and your family.
Scott Katin
August 27, 2013
I'm so sorry for the loss of your son and brother. I have many great memories being with Nick as a child. I'm at such a loss for words so I'll share one.
This was at a halloween cub scout meeting and it had been raining that night. Heavily. Everyone dressed in their costumes and meeting had started without Nick. Suddenly, Nick interrupts the meeting by strolling into the room of fifty or so seated and attentive cub scouts dressed as if he had been hit by a lightning bolt. Burnt clothes, frayed umbrella and the widest eyes I'd ever seen on a boy. Caught, he stared frozen at us as if he really just got struck by lightning. I will never forget that look.
jeanne webb
August 27, 2013
I am wondering if we look hard enough into the night sky, that we may feel, see and hear our two brothers, john and nick cavorting and reaching out to us, still here. Letting us know that they are ok and that we are experiencing the hole that leaves us unwhole. they are whole, perfect in every way, there for us, just an eye blink away. do not grieve, but appreciate who they were in our lives. they were huge and encompassing of all our brilliance and frailty - all together, nothing separate. What comfort it is that they will greet me when it is my time. what comfort it is that I have known them and their contributions to the human world. The spirit world is another place and their being in that world is a comfort for me right now.
Brian Eddy
August 24, 2013
He will be missed. He was a gentle and loving spirit. Those of us left behind are diminished by his passing and the world is a less shiny place.
Very kindest regards to his family and loved ones.
The Staff at CEFIA
August 20, 2013
Dear John and family,
We are so sorry for the loss of your son Nick. Our deepest sympathy goes out to you and your family.
Debra Belancik
August 20, 2013
To Nicks family,
We are so sorry to here of Nicks passing, I'm sure that there are very pleasant memories for all of you to carry and think of him and Johnny together once again and watching over all fo you.. The soul in time will heal but never forgotten. My heart breaks for all of you during this trying time. May all of you be strong together. Our thoughts and prayers always,
Deb and Ben Belancik
Mary Phil Guinan
August 20, 2013
My heart breaks for you all. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
Thank you for sharing that wonderful quote about the night sky - it says so much about the whole family and two special brothers.
Mary Phil
August 19, 2013
I am so sorry for your loss. I can only imagine the pain you must be in. My deepest sympathy.
Mary Simmons from GileadFamily support group
Mary Ellen Wright Wettemann
August 19, 2013
Dear John, Linda and family,
I am speechless on my own,what can a person say that would make a difference to folks who have lost 2 sons ,much less so close together time wise? As a Mom my heart is breaking for you all. I will pray God gives you both,your extended family and Nick's friends as well extra love,grace, compassion and peace during this difficult times.
August 19, 2013
Dear Linda,
I was so sorry to hear about your son Nick.
Phil LoGiudice
August 18, 2013
So sorry to hear of Nicks passing. I can not imagine what you must be going through. My prayers are with you during this difficult time. nancylee
Deb Calavas
August 17, 2013
I had the honor of knowing Nick through his friendship with my son. We chatted about many interesting things and I recall his pride at being a Red Diaper Baby whose family was so involved in the struggle for workers rights. Nick was and will continue to be a strong and unique spirit in his travels through the next dimension . This world has suffered a tremendous loss but the next world has a shining new star free of the pain of this physical realm.
parents who know
August 16, 2013
Our thoughts & prayers go out to Nick
and his family. May he rest in Peace.
God bless you all. And to ALL young
people who struggle along life's path.
Jill Friedman
August 16, 2013
Linda, Some people step in when the world steps out....you'd do it for me, but even if you didn't, you still would. Sisterhood and long-term friendships are in our lives as a major source of support. Don't forget how many people love you so dearly, but only a few can walk the walk that you've always walked. You are brave beyond words. I love you!
Kathy McBrien Insler
August 16, 2013
Dear Linda, Rick and I are so terribly shocked that you have now lost, Nick. You and the Buchanan/Harrity family have suffered unbearable losses and words are not sufficient...so very, very sorry.
Pia Polmann
August 16, 2013
Dear Linda,
My sister Eha was looking thru the Courant and she came upon this, I just wanted to let you know how sorry I am for you. Obviously I never knew your son, but have a son who going to turn 30 this year, so I just can't image what you are going thru. By the words in the obit, he must have been a real treat to be around.
Dillon-Baxter Funeral Home - Wethersfield
August 16, 2013
Our sincere sympathies for your loss.
August 16, 2013
Although I never met Nick or the family it is clear he was loved more than words. I admire your braveness for being so open in his obituary. May I suggest wearing green at his services which signifies strength in mental illness. I too love someone with schizophrenia and know it can be challenging at times. I'm sorry for your loss of both Nick and John. God Bless.
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