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BARRETT, Peter Peter Barrett, 55, of Oakland, CA, formerly of Barrington, RI, died on Monday (December 26, 2005). He was the loving husband of Dee Fair-Barrett for 25 years and the beloved son of Louise A. Barrett and the late David G. Barrett of Bristol, RI. He leaves his brothers, David of Egg Harbor Township, NJ; Michael of Bath, ME; Stephen and his wife, Marie Barrett of Boston, MA and a sister, Kathleen and her husband, Rich Tanner of Colchester. He was predeceased by his sister, Anne. Peter had many nieces and nephews and a multitude of friends on both coasts. Peter was, initially, a professional commercial photographer followed by a second career in enterprise software sales. He was best known in the community for his participation as a vocalist and harmonica player in several performing bands. There is a private family service this Saturday to be followed by a memorial service at a later date. Gifts in his memory may be made to the Arthritis Foundation, Attn: Web Donation Dept., P.O. Box 96280, Washington,DC 20077.

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Published by Hartford Courant on Jan. 5, 2006.

Memories and Condolences
for Peter Barrett

93 Entries

DaniEl Ben Freeman

November 30, 2024

I remember seeing Dread Zeppelin with Pete and Dee. He slipped me a cassette tape of dirty, filthy blues tunes he loved so much. Called himself "the right Reverend Pete Barrett." Saw "the Sheltering Sky" which Dee loved. Came around years later and played a recording for Pete and Dee of my band, and Pete said it was "twisted". Think I scared them both. See ya both on J-day. DaniEl

Allan Hayden

January 3, 2024

i remember pete and dee forever more...a.t. hayden

February 6, 2007

M for Mischief

February 6, 2007

Pete and Dee 1980

February 6, 2007

PVT.2nd class 1970

February 6, 2007

Paris 1998

February 6, 2007

Class Clown Barrington RI 1969

February 6, 2007

dee fair-barrett

February 4, 2007

Time has passed, helping process the heavy sorrow, disbelief and eventual gratitude for your life, our incredible salad years.
Your values, humanity and courage defined you, your humor and joie de vivre, endeared you, your family, friends and music survive you. A wide path forged, shaped and ultimately utilized fully and artfully.
Pete, if ever there was a question of your impact in life here, the pages reflect only some of what I have heard from so many whose lives you touched. Some of the stories are over forty years old, yet still relevant. We’ll never forget you.

Your passing, leaves a definite void in the lives of all the people whom you were so present for, whom you listened to, laughed with. Your advice was legendary. Your infectious impish humor, your generosity, your bent to quality music, your sense of beauty and of the moment, and those Manhattans! So many connected with the soulful music you played.

Pain be damned, camaraderie and living in the moment was your way. We will be better people for knowing you and emulating your courage and integrity, in the face of an insidious adversary.

You were a beloved native son, brother, uncle, loyal friend and confidante and charmed partner. I carry you in my spirit and know we will meet again. It was an incredible honor to have shared a life together. We grew so much.
You will inspire us all to develop ourselves, utilize our free will and embrace love and life fiercely.
Ride well on your journey, babe.

skip robertson

February 3, 2007

he disapeared in the dead of winter:
the brooks were frozen, the airports almost deserted
O all the instruments agree
the day of his death was a dark cold day
far from his illness
the wolves ran on through the evergreen forest
but for him it was his last afternoon as himself
O all the instruments agree
the day of his death was a dark cold day
Earth receive an honored guest
Peter Barrett is laid to rest

Kirk, Amy & Lauren Prentiss

February 3, 2007

We first met Pete (and Dee) when buying the 3258 Morcom Avenue house from them. They were immediately great neighbors and made us feel welcome to the neighborhood.

Across the street, one of our neighbors, Eddie, was referred to as "The Mayor Of Morcom," a phrase coined by Pete. After Eddie left us, Pete became the new Mayor of Morcom.

In many of our driveway chats - their breakfast nook opens up to our driveway, Pete would be there talking to me in this rather 'painterly' setting. I was commiserating about something, and very knowingly Pete said and a sage-like way, "Life is maintenance." Very true. When ever we say that, we always think of Pete, and of course visualize his mischievous chuckle that always followed the pearl of wisdom.

Pete will always be here, in the neighborhood, and in our hearts.

Pete - Pleasanton 1998

February 3, 2007

Pete - Pleasanton 1998

February 3, 2007

Jennie Montano

February 1, 2007

Pete was someone that was at every party and gathering that my mother and aunts threw (they grew up with him) but I really only started to get to know him myself over that past few years. He was always someone I was happy to see and was enjoying getting to know him and Dee as the adult me. When I heard that he was very sick, I promised myself to visit him but it was already too late. I feel sad that I didn't get to know him better.

Phil Kaelin

November 13, 2006

Miss you, brother.

Some BHS boys-1980's- friends always

June 19, 2006

Allan T. Hayden

April 18, 2006

I knew Pete as a fellow photographer, photo lab rat and another lover of the blues...Pete was always in search of, or with the help of Dee, planning a good party...! Both Pete and Dee are, and always will be, part of my precious memories of my time lived in the Bay Area...Pax Pete, R.I.P.

Don Nelson

April 12, 2006

As an old friend from high school, music, our first year out of Barrington together (in Boston, 1969-70). I can honestly say that Pete left this world a better place. I´ll never forget the late nights in Back Bay, and how he would be more at home in my college dorm than I was. He was truly a friend to all that crossed his path in life. I love you, Pete, and will miss you. I know though that you´re now in good hands and you´re free of the pain. I am sorry, Dee. though I never met you personally, I feel like I know you, from all Pete old me about you. It was great to talk to you by phone. I had one last great phone call with Pete when visitng my brother Charlie & his wife, Cathy in the Bay area last year. It was as if we were hanging out in a magic space he somehow was able to create -- a space where everyone was free to be themselves. Pete, your love for people & your ablity to cheer spirits was a gift to me and to all of us who knew you. I´m sure we´ll be together to relax and jam together again!

Love,

Don Nelson (São Paulo, Brazil, former Barrington resident)

Stephen Albair

March 31, 2006

Dear Dee and Friends,

I just want to mention how much both Ken Botto and I enjoyed sharing with you "the gathering" on Saturday. What a feeling of Love poured from that space...and on every face. So nice to see you Dee.

Recieving a CD of Pete's Music was very special to me. I must confess that I never heard that much of Pete's music, but I enjoyed what I heard and always loved talking to him.

I took the CD to my art class (Las Positas College) on Monday and played for my students while they worked. As the music played I watched them smile, nod, sway with some toe-tapping. I never announce my musical selection unless asked.

One student finally did. A smart Black Women from Oakland with SAS! "OK, Who's THAT Guy Playing the Harmonica and Singing?" Peter Barret, I explained!...with as simple an explanation as possible. "Peter Barrett?" "I never heard of him but WOW!!! can that white boy Play and Sing the Blues!"

As long as we are here, Pete remiains with us.

matt adams

March 30, 2006

dee & family-

Am so sorry to have missed out on the gathering this past weekend out on the coast here in rainy ca. i wish for you all days of good memories of your lives together.

Odin Halvorson

March 28, 2006

peter barrett was a cool person. i did'nt know him well but the little i saw of him i liked him.

and i hope whereever he is now he's happy

Jamie Rodriguez

March 27, 2006

Dee-I just wanted to say Thank You for having us all a part of Pete's Party on Sat. That's what I'd like to call it "Pete's Party". It was wonderful to see all the love in the room that everyone has for Pete. I think of him everyday and miss him. We sat next to each other at Psoft and I miss our daily conversations we had. They are very memorable to me. He was one of the sweetest men I have ever known. I will always remember him calling his mother several times a week to see how she was doing, how she was feeling, tell her he missed her and loved her. I thought that was just awesome that he cared so much about his mom. What a great Man!!!! We had some really fun times and good laughs and I will never forget all the times going to the city to see him play. And a little note to Pete - I will never forget the day you offered to go to Jack London Square to pick up my autographed picture of me & Sammy Hagar that I left in a restaurant there. That meant so much to me. I wish I had the courage to have gotten up in front of everyone at Pete's Party on Sat. to tell of some of the stories, but I knew I couldn't do it without tears. Too many stories! I miss you friend!

Jammie

Badonna Brown

March 27, 2006

Just wanted to say how much love I felt on Saturday at Half Moon Bay.

Pete was watching I am sure and loving it.

It was wonderful to meet all of Pete’s family, and Dee’s Family. Great people.

Obvious why they are both so wonderful We love you Dee, thanks for letting us heal!

Joyce Pointe

March 23, 2006

Swirling water from the river took

Our two little trailers Dec. 29th,

We drifted homeless till now…till,

Now, we live…

Here on the ocean….

Son, Odin…love-mate, Leif…

In May we had a memorial for my

Mother across the bay here where the

Break walls remind me of Galilee

Peter and I once stood on the end of the RI break wall, I think it was the first time he deeply saw me…

My first deep seeing of Peter came when he followed Susan to my rabbit trail into the rhododendrons at Barrington College… I was making fairy houses and had decided not to talk for 3 days… it was quiet…I had fallen for Peter when he sang at the junior high school…7th-8th grade? Now in bushes, 10th grade!? (I think)…WE MET…he loved the fairy homes and he was amazed I wasn’t talking… the light in his eyes and the laugh… that laugh… his laugh……

Iwillalwayshearthelaugh/alwaysseeth

ehomes/alwaysdeeplyknow/thistwining

ofsouls

March 7, 2006

Phil Kaelin

February 20, 2006

I just wanted to expess my joy following Pete's sendoff in Providence on Saturday night. As Rog Bates said so eloquently that night, Pete was there in spirit and in all of us. I was very touched by how many were there and how much history had occurred in all of our lives because of Peter.

Thanks Dee, Dave and Doug and everyone who cooked or baked for a wonderful and moving tribute to a wonderful guy.

Anne Broadhurst

February 5, 2006

It's been an inspiration to read these beautiful entries - each one capturing the spirit of Pete. Our friendship was one of my most precious - it spanned so many years - we covered a lot of ground together. We loved each other a lot. Pete was a part of our family - a son to my parents - a brother to my brothers and sisters. He knew us all in a way nobody else did - or ever will - a family of families. It's impossible to say in words how much - and in what ways - he'll be missed. His life, his friendship - blessings beyond measure. There was always a forever quality about Pete - I'll never let go of that. He was the best of friends. All my love and blessings to Dee and to everyone.

Tim Schantz

February 2, 2006

Dear Pete: with whom I shared a baptism by fire/water! May you rest with the spirit/s in Peace. We shall all miss you.

Our heartfelt sympathies to your wife and family.

With fond best wishes,

Tim Schantz and family

Elizabeth Sampson

January 29, 2006

It’s always been a little difficult for me to express emotion—so I’ll just describe some memories I’ve shared with both Pete and Dee...Pete playing with Jeff Tomas’s band at a high school dance, a group of us listening to Led Zepplin in Susan Long’s basement rec room, nighttime hanging out at RISD beach, a train ride across Canada in the deepest dead of winter with Pete and Otis and myself, years later, re-meeting Pete and first getting introduced to Dee over their garage sale at their place in Noe Valley in San Francisco—I think that was one of Pete’s early attempts to downsize Dee’s fab collections of artifacts—something I joked him about up to the last…a visit to Kimball’s, Pete’s band playing at fun dives South of Market…

I’ll admit I am still in a type of denial about Pete’s death and I sometimes feel certain that at the next get together at this house, I’ll step outside the back door and see Pete joking and giving that great laugh along with anyone of his friends at the party…

Dear Pete, you have been a great and funny friend--I’ve always admired your enjoyment of life and friends and family and the fact that you seemed to manage to put your pains and discomfort in the background… Dear Dee, the notes from all your and Pete’s friends must give you a lot of courage and comfort. All my best love and xoxo to both of you. Lizzie

Melba Abel

January 26, 2006

PeteAndDee--that's how it has always been.

I first met Pete over 25 years ago through my late husband Woody. They called each other 'brother' and the love between them was just like brothers. Working the night shift, I remember on weekends Pete sitting in the living room playing his harmonica and Woody on the guitar. When I walked in the next morning, he would still be there (in the same chair). They loved their music. And I know they are once again harmonizing together.

As I sit here thinking about Pete, I can see the smirk on his face as he begins a chuckle deep in his throat with a burst of laughter following.

Dee-you have always been so supportive of all that Pete did. You are his rock and the love of his life.

You are in my heart and thoughts always but especially now.

Love Melba

Larry Capron

January 21, 2006

I may be the most recent member of the Pete and Dee fan club.I met the 2 of them at a 3 day vacation at the eel river in northern California I think 3 years ago. Pete came off as very friendly and conversive. We had our moments of blues comradery. We both spoke of our musical pursuits.His more sincere, mine more strip clubby. As the last few years went by I came to know Pete a little better. I saw him play at the Paradise lounge, Kelly's Mission Rock, and at Dylan's. The irony is that I eventually joined a blues band and started playing out under the name "Val and the Dictorians". I knew my guitar playing wasn't as good as his guitar players,and our harmonica player wasn't as good as Pete was, yet, when I sent Pete a copy of our 1st c.d. he had nothing but praise to offer. I think Pete knew how important is for everyone to enjoy the little bit of time we all have here. We will miss him greatly and think of him often. With much love and sympathy, Cindy and Larry

Eleanor (Sampson) LaRocca

January 20, 2006

I met Pete in Barrington. He was my sister's friend, but I never felt like the pest I probably was. I had one of the best days of my life hanging out with Pete at the Newport Jazz Festival. Of course we didn't have tickets, so we just heard the music coming through the trees. I laughed a lot that day and it still seems golden in my memory.

Pete told my sister not to long ago that nobody remembered him when he was "buff". Well even as I saw him over the years, played scrabble, hung out with him and Dee at parties, yaked about Barrington and St.Lukes ad naseum, I always saw him through the eyes of that time and place.

Dee I am so sorry for your loss, call me.

Jesse Ibarra

January 20, 2006

Dee,

Mere words cannot express the sorrow for the loss of such a brilliant light in this life. I can only pray that your burden be lightened by the knowledge that one day you will meet again face to face and again be the two peas in a pod that you were in this life and that in the meantime his presence will always be felt in our hearts.

Regarding Pete it was I’m sure one small step for our man Pete into Heaven but one giant loss for mankind. Pete you were one of the Good ones. One of the ones who you could truly count on to make you laugh or give you a kind word of support when you needed it. We nicknamed each other “The Bandit” joking that each of us would steal all the leads at PeopleSoft. I can still hear that infectious laugh of yours just after you or another co-worker would tell a funny quip about something. I first met Pete at PeopleSoft when I was new to software and he gave a presentation explaining the software to us. My response was “finally” I understand because of his no bs explanation. Pete was also the main referral for my current job today. That’s the kind of friend Pete was. Always willing to help a friend in need. The world will miss you but will definitely remember you and all of the good things in life that you represented. I will not say goodbye because I know you will always remain present in our heats and minds and in spirit.

Billy McMorrow

January 19, 2006

pete barrett- the quintessential standup guy. u will be missed by so many, whose lifes u touched in innummerable ways. always ready with a disarming smile & a mischievous twinkle in your eye. cheering with u as we watched your beloved red sox. throwing down scrabble tiles long into the evening while consuming perfect manhattans. seeing u up on the stage at the paradise lounge wailing on your harp as the sun went down. i miss u my friend. luv, billy...

Marianne Yusavage

January 19, 2006

Hey Pete—we never got to sing our duet. I was so inspired when you told me back in August about all the things you wanted to do in the time you had left—organizing your photographs, traveling across the country visiting friends, a trip to Europe with Dee, and doing some recording. And you said that you wanted to do a version of “No Reply” with me—I felt so honored.

I will miss you holding court with a joke—the wind up and the carefully paced punch line—and then your playful chuckle bursting into tears of laughter. There were so many laughs, so many good times.

I’ll never forget how—when I visited you in the hospital in December, you were still the consummate host—concerned if I didn’t have a chair or something to drink. You were a model of the best that a human can be—and you found your match in Dee.

I was glad to see you in my dreams, with a bounce in your walk, pain-free. That’s how I will hold you in my heart.

All my love,

Marianne

Laura Miller

January 17, 2006

To say I was shocked when I heard the news would be an understatement. Pete always had such a huge life force. His presence would fill a room, and spread like wildfire via his infectious sense of humor; it would burst into music and fill your heart and soul. He won't be forgotten.

My heartfelt love and empathy to Dee and to those who were closest to him. I'm sure you all feel his life force inside and will always see him in each other.

Walter Jebe

January 17, 2006

Pete Barrett, now here was a guy that new his music. It didn't matter if we were playing it or listening to it, he knew if it was the real deal or not. And that was like the Man himself nothing false, as honest and sincere as you can get.

Pete would get me involve with a fair amount of his music projects (bands) that would end up with some primo gigs. Big Daddy from Cincinatti and the South Park Blues Band (there's a mouthfull), The Homesick Boys and what ever jam session we could talk ourselves into. Playing in bands can be like being in a disfunctional family but Pete always made everone feel at ease and welcomed...that's a rarity.

I'm gonna miss you Pete but I'll always be thinking of you when the music is right.

Walter Jebe

David House

January 17, 2006

Peter,

It's been close to a month since you left us. I ache with missing you.

From our first meeting 40 years ago in summer school (two strong scholars), you grounded for that incident with the VW, me new in town, you let me know straight what it took to make it in Barrington. Something about the color of your sox matching the color of your shirt. But it was a start. We never stopped communicating. We never will.

Your strength in adversity, never ending humor, strong beliefs and love for your wife, family and friends were and are a standard to live by. You are a hero in the epic of life. I feel priveledged to have you as a friend.

Thanks for the road trips. Thanks for moving to CA. Thanks for being my best man, not just at our wedding, but in all things a friend does.

And to you, Dee. Thanks for putting up with the boys club. Just know that we all love you, too.

June's and my thoughts of warmth and healing flow out to you on a daily basis. We look forward to seeing you back east in February.

In the meantime, deepest affection and heartfelt condolences on the loss of your dear husband and our dear friend, Peter.

Barry Hanson

January 17, 2006

I first met Pete when he came to work for my company in San Francisco in 1997. He was a great contributor to our company in many ways.

I learned a lot more about Pete when I heard him play with his group in a club in SOMA - San Franciso. Pete's music was hot and a lot of fun to see, listen to and just be around. Several other employees were present for the gig, as well. Later, Pete told a company manager that he was delighted that some company employees and managers attended the gig because they now knew who he really was.

It was a delight to know Pete and even greater pleasure to learn who he really was--a great musician and a warm and delightful person. He will be missed.

Julia Charles

January 16, 2006

I had the great good fortune eighteen months ago to have Pete Barrett be one of the patients randomly assigned to my clinic at the VA arthritis center. The sparkle of his eyes, his excellent sense of humor, and ability to roll with life's many punches stood out from the beginning. Another physician who had worked with him years before told me that Peter Barrett had taught him all he knew about rheumatoid arthritis. I would second that, but more importantly, Peter Barrett taught me about the resiliency of the human spirit.

It is a rare person who when faced with severe illness and ultimately death still turns outward, giving energy and enthusiasm to others. Peter Barrett was all about living life to the very last. The last time I sat with him in the hospital, a few days before he died, we talked about art, about Dee, about an art folio he wanted to get for her, about his desire to be home, about how he'd like to play the harmonica again. His ability to appreciate the good things in life, to enjoy others, and his love for Dee came through in that conversation and many others. The only time he really complained about the multiple limitations his disease progressively brought was when his shoulders prevented him from playing the harmonica.

There are some people whose footprint in your life is large - Peter Barrett is that for me. I respect and admire his grace and tenacity in living life, will miss his presence and know that his memory will be with me for life.

Susan (Suzan) Long-Gilchrist

January 16, 2006

Lizzie Sampson called me yesterday to tell me about Pete.To say I am stunned is an understatement. He was one of my closest high school friends.I had the great opportunity to meet Dee and have dinner with them in Oakland 8 years ago or so and then during another visit to SF to see my brother,Pete came to pick up me and my kids and took us out to a wonderful dinner and lots of talk and memories.It was wonderful.I'm so glad that I had some time with him and I'm so glad to have met you Dee.My heart goes out to you.You were his love.

Betty Chan

January 15, 2006

I was really shocked and sad when I heard the news about Pete. Pete is truly one of the nicest people I know. Pete and I managed to keep in touch the past 6 years or so..he was really good about calling and keeping in touch. I will miss you, Pete. I will miss your great sense of humor.

Your friend,

Betty

Emmie Safford

January 15, 2006

My heart goes out with sadness to you Dee and all of Pete’s family. But of course we can easily turn our sadnes to gladness just having been touched by Pete’s life.

I really love reading all the remberances and sentiments that so many people from all over have written. In every one there is a common thread. Pete’s joy of life, his love of Dee, that twinkle in his eye, and above all his laughter. Anybody that spent any time at all with this amazing man can say the same thing about laughing our butts off with him.

I will always remember our very happy trips to San Fransisco and Oakland. The first time Bob and I went out to San Fran, I called Peter about a month before to recommend a good hotel. He did that, and the first night we were there he and Dee came to take us for a drink or two. It was to a great Mexican place with pitchers of margaritas. We laughed and laughed. It was love at first sight for me meeting Dee. They then took us completely under their wings for the rest of the time we were there. Had us for dinner at their wonderful apartment, listening to Joshua Tree, turned us on to Frog’s Leap, took us to a wonderful cigar bar where we listened to opera. It was one of the best times of our lives.

The last time we traveled west, we were lucky enough to stay with them in their lovely home in Oakland. It was at the end of a trip we took across the country with our then 13 year old son. Again Pete and Dee welcomed us into their hearts. I remember the night we arrived, Dee made an amazing dinner of baked chicken, potatoes and green beans. She apologized for the dinner being ordinary, it was not. After being on the road for almost a month it was so good to have a home cooked meal. I think of you Dee, every time I make baked chicken and how comforting that dinner was. Again they showed us a great time. Country Joe and the Fish at the Peoples Park, Basquiat, William Sonoma, wine and great dinners in their back yard. We stayed too long but they never once made us feel that way. Paul remembers with great fondness getting to know you both.

It’s these wonderful times together that we have shared that will get us on with life without the physical Pete. Heaven is a brighter place for having him there now. Ooof!!

With peace and love, Em, Bob, and Paul

Charlie Nelson

January 15, 2006

Dear Pee-tah Barretta . I have to let you go now. See you on the other side some day. Met you in Barrington around '67 . You stood out among the many teenagers that my older brother brought over to our house to play music ... because you treated everyone with respect. I was 3yrs younger . You actually acknowledged my existence. I appreciated that. You sang in our basement one day . You had a sound all your own.

15 yrs later we both had followed the sunset west to San Fran where we became better friends. We lived a few blocks apart in Noe Valley. You met and married Dee .

I remember your staunch look of steadfast certainty when you told me that Dee was the one you would spend your life with. . Aw, Pete, I wondered , how could you know this future?

I see your prediction has come true . Your deep love for and commitment to Dee was an inspiration to me .

A few years later you agreed to be the best man at our wedding . You raised the toast .

Your warmth and humor filled the room with a glow , so bright , it was like the sun .

You had a sound of your own.

We will miss you Pete.

Dee, please accept our condolence.

Jeff Accomando

January 14, 2006

Dear Pete,

You lived the way I want to live; in the moment, with passion and love, each day to its fullest. We smoked together, we went to ball games together and you invited me into your life. At a show when someone asked me how did I know Pete, I said "we work together" Dee corrected me and said, "no, you're friends". Thanks Dee. You were right. We were and are friends. Pete I will hear the music of your soul forever...

Dee-God Bless.

jane carr

January 14, 2006

Peter was a dearly loved friend who enjoyed the fine art of conversation and hanging out around the dinner table with a group of friends. I will cherish the memory of his sharp wit, mischievous smile, and caring ways. I loved Peter for the man he was and delighted in his happiness for the love he shared with you Dee. Happy trails Pete til we meet again. love Jane

Gary Hunter

January 13, 2006

You want ten pages or a brief paragraph? Maybe something in between …

I met Pete almost 20 years ago. Keen wit and great good will. Liked him a lot right off.

Dusted off the harp and started putting bands together. Pete was the man - cat could blow! Hey, that guy up there on the stand? That’s my friend Pete – yeah!

Came to my wedding. Came to my son’s birth. Came to my Mom’s memorial. We go back.

I go forward because I got to, but I plan to hang out with Pete along the way. Just joking around, laughing oh yeah, some blues in the background, mellow, mellow scene.

This is hard. Life is hard. Pete, I miss the twinkle in your eye and I thank you for it, too. You made me rich with your friendship.

Dee - dear Dee - keep the lamp trimmed and burning.

Lito Sandoval

January 13, 2006

Wow. I am in shock. Pete was just one of the nicest, supportive people I've known. we had our arthritis-bonding after he saw me read a piece I had published a few years ago. I'll always remember the look on his face after, sorta that "I hear ya, brother" expression.

Dee, my deepest sympathies to you and your families.

Sabeth Ireland

January 13, 2006

If the quality of a person can be measured by his friends, take a look at the remarks in this Guestbook.

When I think of Pete, the phrase "lovely man" comes to mind. Does that make him seem wimpy? Not at all! He was lovely because he was unusually complete as a human being. He possessed an abundance of the traits that represent the best in us: a sense of humor, self-awareness without being self-centered, a talent for communication (vocal, verbal, visual and musical), and a genuine affection for his fellow, faltering humans. Lovely, because he loved well and was well-loved. Pete had a knack for being here. He had grace. He was Zen. He was a lovely man, with a life very well lived. And I will think of Pete whenever I see his qualities in others, and whenever I hear some especially spirit-restoring blues.

Dee, please keep your heart aloft. You were so wonderful with him, a part of him, (and he of you) and we love you.

Jennifer Bevilacqua

January 13, 2006

Dee and family ~ Words can't express the impact that Pete had on so many - to know Pete was to love him! He may not be walking the earth anymore but he lives on in my heart and in my mind. I will always hear him playing the harp ~ and will think fondly of the wonderful memories that he is a part of. He was a great co-worker and a wonderful friend. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

Atef Ghori

January 13, 2006

I feel privledged to have worked with Pete. He was honest, sincere, and brought smiles to all those who met him with his great sense of humor. I wish I had been lucky enough to hang out with him more.

Atef Ghori

Lydia Davichick

January 13, 2006

Dee, I'm so sorry we met again under such circumstances. I wanted to thank you and Pete for bringing me into your lives, and allowing me to enjoy the incredible music with you. I feel privileged to have known both Pete and yourself.

Please know you are in my heart and prayers.

Louisa Arcas

January 13, 2006

Dee,

I didn't have the opportunity to get to know Pete as well as others knew him, but I did have a chance to get to know you during our time at PeopleSoft. In doing so, I was able to hear your wonderful stories of the two of you. I know how much you love Pete. I am so sorry for your loss. I know the two of you had an incredible bond. You are a very special person Dee and I know Pete cherised his time with you. Your love, thoughtfulness, good spirit, and kindness will always be remembered by him. Stay strong Dee. You and Pete are in my prayers. If there is anything that I can do, please don't hesitate to ask.

I love you,

Louisa

Kathryn Kowalewski

January 13, 2006

Pete was a breath of fresh air. He always told it like it is. He could deflate a stressfull situation with a word and always seemed to see the good. A great loss.

Jean Haley

January 13, 2006

Peter played with my sons and my memories of him are of a little freckled and lovable IMP...God Bless you dear Peter.

PJ Wells

January 12, 2006

Dee -- We met Pete first, then we met you and everybody loved you both. What a team the 2 of you made for us at PeopleSoft! You were part of our family, part of our lives and will always live in our hearts. Thank you for including us in the love-fest that was yours: we have been honored.

Jeremy Chrobak

January 12, 2006

I met Pete years ago when I worked for a tech Co. in SF. He quickly moved himself into the group of company pranksters and goofballs that I ran with. We all spent hours laughing and talking smack to each other. Too bad that didn't make us any more money, because we would have been rich from working there. Pete was the original "dude". He was so hip and cool with anybody he met. Heck, How many Blues guys could also pull off working in crappy tech sales? I was lucky enough become a friend of his and play music with him and Adam a few times. I will always remember his tremendous stage presence and harmonica skills. Most of the musicians I've met over the years have been self-taught hacks like me.

To be blunt: Pete Barrett was the real freakin deal on and off stage ....end of story. I miss you buddy.

Dar Plone

January 12, 2006

I hesitate to say it, but it took Pete's final illnesses to deepen what was always a cordial social bond into a true friendship. True, we had known, liked, and -- this will surprise no one -- partied together for 20 years, but I daresay we didn't really KNOW each other that well. When Pete started getting sick about a year ago, he was usually trasferred to the Veteran's Administration Hospital out on the bluffs at Land's End. This was a short walk from my house, so on several occasions I'd stroll over there, often picking him up his favorite -- a large latte -- on the way. I'd sit and talk with him about all those things that we never got around to when we socialized: his family, his Army experience, his health difficulties, the little fishing shack in Jersey, and his love -- for Dee, his friends, and life itself. Sure, we had always talked about music and baseball, and we still did, but I was now getting a better handle on what made Pete really tick. One night, between trips to the Vet, he came over to my place and we sat and drank Manhattans for a good three hours (he was even fonder of those than lattes!). I remember a big part of that discussion was the hand he'd been dealt and the fact that the doctors had given him a limited life expectancy. Pete looked his situation square in the eye and said he didn't care how much time he had left, so long as he could share it with the people he loved. At that point I felt I was one of those and it touched me deeply. Now it's my turn: Pete, mon ami, the feeling was mutual.

Karla Hendrix

January 12, 2006

I've known Pete for 6-7 years when we both worked at CAS Systems in Oakland. He's the sweetest person that I have ever met. We lost connection after I left CAS but reunited again at Peoplesoft. It was such a delight to work with him again. He is the practical joker and his music is awesome!

I just wanted to tell Dee that it was a pleasure meeting his better half at peoplesoft. He talked so highly of you and loves you sooo much!

Both of you are in my prayers!

~Karla

a Chelsea mornin'

Linda Ruggieri

January 12, 2006

For two babyboomers from R.I., it's so strange that our paths never crossed in Barrington, or R. I. School of Photography. It took San Francisco and dee to bring Pete into my life over 25 years ago and I am so much richer for that. There are countless memories etched forever in my heart. So many great places we got to all explore together....so much laughter, great music, food and wine. His humor....his endurance...his love.....his soulful spirit....these will live on, shared now with the universe, as I share my sorrow with you, dee, and his family and friends who have all lost someone unforgettable. Petey, here's to YOU my friend....watch over us.

January 11, 2006

Rich Warner

January 10, 2006

Pete I know your body is gone. You just took a new form. You will always stay alive in the memories of your dear friends and family.

I remember your first tour of Oaktown, when you and Dee decided to move across the bay. I'll never forget commuting with you and Dee and the Quake of 1989. Mostly how much enjoyment you brought to your friends, as you belted out those songs. Using your Mojo to get the crowd on to the dance floor. Those nights ended too quickly, as a good performer you always left them wanting more. You did it again.

The love shows through then as it does now. In the wonderful friends that you have gathered throughout your life.

I know you will pop up in my thoughts when you do. I will smile and say thanks Pete.

Julie Renalds

January 10, 2006

I worked alongside Pete at Documentum for a year and stayed in touch with him for the past 2+ years since then. I thoroughly enjoyed getting to know him, his great sense of humor and hearing about his big, close family that he loved spending time with.

He was the person that explained to me (Oakland A's fan that I am--and equally passionate about them as Pete was about his Sox) that there were generations of Sox fans that had never seen their team win the World Series--that people went to their graves without experiencing that joy. Well, I am so glad that Pete was able to see that happen year before last and to experience that great moment. I loved talking baseball with him--the trades, the games our teams played against each other, about the dreaded Yankees and Johnny Damon's "Shrek-like" appearance. I will miss our conversations with each other very, very much this season and whenever our teams play each other. To Dee: I haven't met you but I never heard Pete say anything but wonderful things about you and the relationship that the two of you had. He was a true gentleman, an inspiration and he went too soon.

Martha Williams

January 10, 2006

Reading all the wonderful things that your friends have said about you I know you will be greatly missed. I am so glad my daughter had that nice reunion party at my house not too many years ago when so many Barrington friends were able to enjoy seeing you again. My best memories of you go back many years while you and my kids were growing up as neighbors. You were so cute and a nice "rascal" who I always enjoyed having around. I know you always liked to know what I had for you in my refrigerator!! May you rest in peace, dear Peter. Martha

We love you Peter (Doug & Ann)

January 10, 2006

Matt Prebluda

January 10, 2006

Pete was always a special person to me, having known him since high school. I reaquainted myself with Pete in the 80's when I moved to the Bay Area. His quick,low key wit is what I think of most when I remember him (a lot of which is unprintable here).

My love and compassion goes out to you, Dee. You two are inseperatable for eternity.

Seth Mikle

January 10, 2006

For me, Pete was a large part of a compartment in my life when it all seemed a lot easier. We had talked over the past 6 years off and on after I had left the bay area to be close to my son. I remember having breakfast with Pete and Dee at the Cuckoo's Nest a few days before I left. One of the things he told me was that I was doing the right thing about moving back East to be a Dad. He took the edge and anxiety out of the unsure.

When Pete played, you could see the passion he had for the music, and it spilled over into his life. The way he played the notes I think says a lot about his philosophy - you bend'em man and they won't break. He once asked me after a show how they sounded up there. I told him I thought they sounded great. He said the one thing he wanted to make sure of was that he didn't want to come across like he was trying to "jive" anyone. No Pete, you're as real as it gets...

Robby Fair

January 9, 2006

"To the hippest cat that i know, to the coolest guy that is what am, (smooth talkin cool walkin good lookin mohair Sam.)" That was my brother-in-law with out a doubt... I read a lot of entries on this site..I am confident that there will be many more to come, I strongly feel the man with the porkpie hat that nailed little Walters lick's and with his smokey vioce pierced are hearts and left us with wonting more, headlineing in the honky-tonks with all his blues brothers! Some day I will be playin with you Bro! I only wished that we could have gottin old together and played like you said we would do,i won'tlet you down Pete if there's a way I bet you will show me the second i see you!!! Ku Ku Baby! I am sooooo glad that you married my sister because you made her proud of you! I was and still am proud of you... I will always love you Bro! Peace, robby.

Kwan-Yee Attias

January 9, 2006

Pete was a very special and talented man. I didn't get a chance to know him too well but I always heard about all the love, support, and care he gave to everyone around him. He wil be greatly missed.

Ellyn Kutch

January 9, 2006

Besides being a great friend for over 25 years, Pete always knew how to tell a story, turned me on to so much great music, and always amazed me by all the paths he took in his life; photographer, musician, business man and major sports fan (he once told me his favorite song was the NBA theme music!) Never once did he complain about the physical pain he was going through. I shall miss you my friend, and will never forget all the times and laughs we shared. Thanks, Pete.

My condolences to Pete's mom, his brothers and sister.

To dee, may you be as strong for yourself as you were for Pete. He always said that your were his rock. You are. As Pete might say, "hang in there, Toots!"

michael barrett

January 9, 2006

To my brother - thank you for your love, your amazing amazing spirit, and your music.

To those who have entered the guest book - thanks so much for being in it. You bring great comfort and build the awareness of things and people known and unknown. I have learned things about Peter that I did not know, and that is wonderful.

His last notes were played at the family Thanksgiving, when he gathered a number of great nieces and nephews to a private concert in the ante room. He had learned and rehearsed a large selection of kid's songs in anticipation of the event - had looked forward to it greatly, and his hope was realized. One after another, song after song. The kids did not tip him-he got no free meal- nobody bought him a beer or gave him a stogie, but it was one of his most brilliant performances. Little Walter would, yes, be proud.

Pamela Stinnette

January 9, 2006

Pete was the sunshine of my PeopleSoft life. When I was banished to the back row, Pete's cubicle was next to mine. We laughed even harder than we worked and I was in awe of the strength and endurance he had as well as his passions he shared...his music, his joie de vivre, his cat, and the love of his life - Dee. It is not often to feel so blessed by having known someone for only a few years, my only regret is that I didn't keep in touch this last year. I am so sorry Dee. You are in my heart and prayers and Pete will be singing and playin' in my heart forever.

Doug Crellin

January 9, 2006

I loved Peter Barrett.He was a brother to me and my wife Ann and a favorite uncle to my children.Though Pete has left the planet, his powerful spirit, humor and example of how lfe should be lived will continue to guide and nurture us as we struggle to live in a world without Peter Barrett.

Brae Mowry

January 9, 2006

I never imagined that the "last time" would really be the "last time". Perhaps my own denial...perhaps your facade was really that convincing...as usual.

My fondest memories...the first time we met, and you said I could just call you Pete...the blues bar in Providence...you and Ryan playing with the 'Boneheads'...the pool room at 'Swinehurst'...poker games at the kitchen table...hanging out on Marathon key.

You are in my heart always.

Ryan Barrett

January 9, 2006

I miss you, Pete. You are more than my uncle, you are my friend and I'll have that forever. The times we spent, the music we played, and the talks we had will forever help me through this crazy, mixed-up-world.

Love you, man.

Ryan

Henry Smith

January 9, 2006

I am so sorry to hear the news. So many times I would go to a party at Joe Pagano's and his harp playing always lit up the room. One of my favorite memories wwas just sitting out on Pagano's back porch, everyone smoking cigars, just laughing and hanging--Pete was the man. I was thinking the other day that there was a tune I wanted him to play on, maybe I would fly him out to NY for some sessions. Those would have been good sessions. I love you Pete. Your voice is in my head forever.

Vicki Holt

January 9, 2006

Pete and Dee you are in my thoughts/prayers daily. Pete was a man of music,sports and good conversation. I learned much from his worldly experiences and he will always be my hero/big brother. He was amazing at keeping strong relationships/friendshps and always asked about my family in name:Kris,Lucas and Domenic. I am blessed to have known Pete and he enters a new journey with no pain. You are my Hero,"Pete the Beat". Dom say hi.

Matt Singleton

January 9, 2006

Man, what sad news. Thinking of Pete, a hundred little vignettes flash through my mind. Every single one of them involves good times. A joke forming as a gleam in Pete's eye, a smile that quickly turns into a burst of laughter. A few beers, good friends, good music. Pete and Dee certainly get credit in my continued evolution as a human being on planet Earth, and are inextricably linked to my time in the Bay Area. Time and distance do not diminish the sense of loss or the happy memories that will endure. There is a harp playing up in heaven right now, and it ain't the pretty gold one with strings... rock on Pete!

Badonna Brown

January 9, 2006

I worked with Pete at PeopleSoft and later with Dee at PeopleSoft.

I so enjoyed his sense of humor and LOVED going to see him sing and place that hermonica. I can still hear his voice.......

We Loved You Pete....

Adam Honadle

January 9, 2006

Pete was the warmest, funniest, hippest cat to ever walk this earth. I hadn’t spoken with him since the summer, so his passing shocks and saddens me. He was also such an inspirational guy that could always pick you up. I remember when I had a birthday approaching. I guess because Pete and I had shared many many musical discussions, he said “you should get a keg and play a concert for your birthday.” I responded “But Pete, I don’t even have a band!” Pete just scoffed “You sing and grab Jeremy to play guitar” and I replied “But we don’t have a drummer.” Pete just said “Screw it! I’ll play drums!” And he did. That’s Pete in a nutshell.

I moved away from the Bay Area four years ago, but always got together with Pete when I visited. And whenever I did, it was like I never left. I’ll never forget Pete’s passion for music and life. It will always be with me. One of the last times I saw Pete sing with his band, he was doing a stellar encore of “Got My Mojo Working” by Muddy Waters. I was talking to Dee and just exclaimed “Pete has just got the ENERGY, man!” She calmly replied “Oh, he’s always like that.” Rest in Peace, Pete.

micha tanner-wilcox

January 8, 2006

I will always remember Uncle Pete playing his harmonica for our family- especially his many great- nephews and nieces!

Phil Kaelin

January 8, 2006

I'm so glad to have had the opportunity to play some tunes with Pete just before he was to return to the Bay Area and the hospital. He said it was the first time he had sung in months and he was great.

That's the way he was when I first met him when we were kids-Eric Burden meets Little Walter- and that's the way he was at the end of November. A blues man who bore his burden as he spread the joy and who exemplified a quality human being.

John Keefe

January 8, 2006

This is one time I don't have a quick remark. Goodbye Pete. If there is a heaven- I know you are there. Pete is now a spirt smiling down on us.

Diana Donovan

January 8, 2006

I miss Pete. He was a true friend, someone who was a good listener and always made me laugh. He reminded me not to take myself too seriously. I love the way he enjoyed life to the fullest: listening to and playing music and basking in the warm company of a wonderful wife, family and friends.

Mark Erickson

January 8, 2006

Pete Barrett was a man. Spelled .....M....A......N....!!!!

He knew how to laugh! Chatting with Pete was always cool.

He knew his music and he knew how to boogie.His harmonica seething with notes, sliding along the bars of electric blues at a club in South of Market comes to mind right now as I write this. He turned me onto some cool blues players/singers.

RL Burnside most recently. Before that Jimmy Smith.

What can you say about a man like Pete. I'll remember him as sincere, honest and wise. But I will always remember his laugh and how he always seemed happy to see me.

That is cool too. Pete was cool.

My only regret is that I didn't see him enough.

I'll miss Pete, like a I would a brother.

Best to you always brother.....Mark

dee fair-barrett

January 8, 2006

your comments and recollections will carry me forward in this difficult time. Please feel free to add to this guestbook.

the missus

dee fair-barrett

January 8, 2006

As many of our friends remember Pete, this will give me great comfort going forward.

Please feel free to add to his tribute.

Christopher Irion

January 8, 2006

I enjoyed Pete's company almost daily for over 10 years. As I write this I can hear that laugh I heard so often- somewhere between a chuckle

and a guffaw. Hew was not someone to speak ill of anyone, a genuinely warm and friendly guy who just soldiered on in spite of almost constant pain. He will be missed far greater than he could ever know. Thanks Pete for all you've given me. We all loved you.

Susan Williams

January 5, 2006

We were neighbors when growing up. Peter and I stayed in touch over the years and our family had a big reunion about 5 years ago with Pete. About 6 months ago he called to tell me of his latest prognosis with his health. Peter tried and succeeded to set the gold standard for how a human should conduct his life. He will be missed by everyone that new him, but never ever forgotton. My sincerest condolences to his dear family.

wendy abel

January 4, 2006

Haven't seen Pete in years, but saddened to hear of his passing. Told someone I never thought of Pete OR Dee it was always, Pete AND Dee. Says a lot; he was a very good man.

Jim and Corinne Murphy

January 4, 2006

Louise- So sorry to read of your sons death. We have moved to Austin to care for our John who had a stroke in October.We will remember Peter in our prayers.

Gregg O'Mahony

January 4, 2006

I was saddened to learn of Peter's passing. I have many fine memories of our times together throughout the years.To his siblings and family,I say, stay strong and be well.

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