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WOLFF, Thomas John Thomas John Wolff, of Boynton Beach, FL and Vernon, CT, age 80, chairman emeritus and former chief executive officer of Wolff-Zackin Associates and Vernon Publishing Services in Vernon, Connecticut, died October 27, 2008 in Boynton Beach, FL. He and his wife, Bette Wolff, came to Vernon when they were married in 1949 and spent many active years in the community. Wolff was a graduate of the New York Agricultural and Technical Institute in Farmingdale, New York. He spent five years as a Dairy Herd Improvement Supervisor in Tolland County. He served in the 43rd Division, serving in Germany during the Korean War. Upon discharge as a Master Sergeant he returned to school and graduated from the University of Connecticut cum laude with distinction in economics in 1956. Upon graduation he began his insurance career and became one of the best known and widely respected leaders in the life insurance industry. He served the industry as president of the Hartford Association of Insurance and Financial Advisors and Connecticut Association of Insurance and Financial Advisors. In 1980 was the president of the National Association of Insurance & Financial Advisors. He was also president of the Million Dollar Round Table Foundation in Chicago and chairman of the board of Life Underwriters Training Council in Washington D.C. He is a life trustee of the American College in Bryn Mawr, PA, which awarded him its highest honor, the Huebner Gold Medal in 2001. In 1983 he received the John Newton Russell Award, the highest honor bestowed to an individual by the insurance industry. In 1966 he began writing insurance sales training programs and he and his wife Bette founded Vernon Publishing Services. The company rapidly became the leading provider of training material to the insurance industry and to this day many of the largest insurance companies all over the world use "Wolff authored" programs to train their associates. In 1991 the International Insurance Society honored Wolff with its Founders Award Gold Medal for Excellence. The citation read in part "Tom Wolff created Capital and Financial Need Analysis which have revolutionized the way life insurance is sold all over the world." A prolific salesman of life insurance Wolff was a member of the Million Dollar Round Table for over 50 years and qualified for its Top of the Table regularly. He lectured around the world and spoke in each of the 50 States on numerous occasions. He was a member of First Lutheran Church of Rockville and served as Sunday School Superintendent and Church Council member for five years. Later he became a member of the United Congregational Church of Tolland and also belonged to the First Presbyterian Church in Delray Beach, Florida. He served five years on the Vernon Board of Education and 10 years on the Town of Vernon Council and was co-chair of the committee, which brought about consolidation of Rockville and Vernon. A longtime corporator and benefactor of the Eastern Connecticut Health Network, Wolff also was president of the Rockville Rotary Club. He was twice president of the Ellington Ridge Country Club where he was runner up to the club champion in 1962. He served as president of the Connecticut Seniors Golf Association in 2000. He helped start the Rockville Chamber of Commerce and was largely responsible for bringing both the Big Brothers and the YMCA to Vernon. He moved to Florida in1978 returning to Vernon to spend summers, and served as president of the Quail Ridge Country Club in Boynton Beach, Florida where he also chaired the Golf and Green Committee. He also served as chairman of the board of the Bethesda Hospital Foundation in Boynton Beach. In 1990 Ernst & Young and Merrill Lynch recognized Tom Wolff as "New England Entrepreneur of the Year". Wolff was a prolific writer. He authored six books and wrote a column on financial planning for a leading financial planning magazine for ten years. More recently he became a columnist for the Journal Inquirer. The theme for his popular series of articles was "How To Get The Most Out Of Life". The column has become a mainstay of the Journal Inquirer's Living Section. Wolff was in love with his alma mater, the University of Connecticut where he served for many years on the Board of the University Foundation. He was elected Director Emeritus in 2004. He, his wife, and the firm he headed made many contributions to the university, including the Wolff-Zackin Natatorium and four endowed athletic scholarships. The Wolff's are proud that they have been basketball season ticket holders continuously for over 60 years. In 1986 they funded the Wolff Program for Entrepreneurship at the University of Connecticut's School of Business. Subsequently they endowed the Wolff Family Chair on Entrepreneurship. They also established the Thomas and Bette Wolff Family Park which houses the statue of the UConn "Husky". He was recognized by UConn as one of its distinguished alumni in 1981 and received the UConn Club's Outstanding Contribution Award in 1991. Wolff served on the School of Business Board of Overseers and was inducted into the School's Hall of Fame. In 2003 he was the 26th person in UConn's history to be awarded the school's coveted "University Medal". In 1997 the Visiting Nurse & Community Care, Inc. honored Wolff as the first recipient of its CARE Award for outstanding contributions to the community. He spoke often of his love affair with Bette. He referred to her as his anchor. He said, "She has been my advisor, sounding board, critic, companion, friend and lover". They were married for 59 years. In addition to his wife Bette, Tom is survived by what he called the "greatest family on earth". Three children and their wives, Greg and Liz Wolff of Glastonbury, Gary and Eileen Wolff of Tolland and Debi and Jim Davis of Wethersfield. There are seven grandchildren, a granddaughter-in-law, and two great-grandsons, Keith, his wife Kris, and their sons, Jackson and Devin, James, Kyle, Jonathan and Kristina Wolff and Brittany and Shawn Davis. The family wishes to thank Dr. and Mrs. Michael Sharon for the extraordinary loving care they provided Tom for the past 45 years. On many occasions, both publicly and privately, Tom said, "I'm so grateful to God for the wonderful life he has given us. Most of all I thank him for Bette and the fantastic family he has blessed us with". A memorial service will be held on Saturday, November 8, 2008 at 1:00 p.m. at the United Congregational Church, 45 Tolland Green, Tolland, CT 06084. Burial will be private. In lieu of flowers all contributions can be made to the Thomas J. and Bette Wolff Family Charitable Foundation, Inc., 100 Tolland Turnpike, Suite 202, Manchester, CT 06042, which will donate all funds to the Tri-Town Shelter and North Central Hospice in Vernon and the University of Connecticut.

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Published by Hartford Courant on Oct. 30, 2008.

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Bradley Zucker

June 14, 2024

Thomas Wolf was a tremendous influence and inspiration in 1986 starting my insurance and financial planning career

Dennis P Begley CLU ChFC LUTCF CBC

August 30, 2020

Tom Wolff was instrumental in my career in the life insurance business. I flew to CT and attended his FNA training. I brought it back to the insurance company I was in the training department of and integrated that selling system into our agent training. We trained 100's of agents in how to help people protect their futures. Many of those agents thanked me then and later for sharing this consultative approach with them. I am grateful to Tom Wolff for all the guidance and conversations I had with him and his people. We impacted many people. Tom Wolff was one of the great leaders in our industry. He should always be remembered for his impact on the life insurance business. Thanks Tom.

Susan Henry

December 24, 2008

Dear Bette,
I just learned of Tom's death today. Many thoughts are being sent your way and I have so many wonderful memories of the two of you. I feel so sad for you and know how much you loved Tom. Love, Susan Henry

Seretha Colbert

December 1, 2008

My deepest sympathy goes out to the wife and family of Mr. Wolff. I have never had the pleasure of meeting him. I happened to see his obituary in the Palm Beach Post and was compelled to read it due to its length. Afterwards, I realized he was a wonderful man, whose life still spoke in the words that I read.

Larry A. Kaufman

November 22, 2008

Dear Bette, Greg, and Gary - A few days ago I heard that your beloved husband, and father had passed. My heartfelt sympathy to your entire family. As you already know, Tom was one of the very special people in this world. Tom and I spent hours together, in 1974, discussing many things. But, the one thing that we discussed, helped change my son's life, and mine. He helped me recognise my son Douglas's previously undiagnosed dyslexia. With his help we were able to put together a learning program that enabled Douglas prosper. Forever, both Douglas, and I, will be eternally gratefull. May God bless your family, and Tom, who I'm sure is in His presence. Much love, Larry A. Kaufman

Kim Barnett

November 22, 2008

To The Wolff Family,

To such a beautiful family, I am sorry for your loss.

Kim Barnett, Shannon, Danielle & Mitchell

Justin Ryan

November 18, 2008

Much love and hugs to Mrs. Wolff!

Martha Bauckman & Stan Cataldo

November 11, 2008

To the Wolff Family- You're in our thoughts and prayers at this difficult time. What an accomplished man. I have alot of nice memories of growing up in Vernon and your Family is one of them.

David Megaw

November 6, 2008

Dear Bette and Family,
My prayers are with you. Working with Tom was a joy. His energy and enthusiasim was unbounded. His organizational skills were extraordinary. His care and compassion for so many was a gift. I will miss him and his wonderful annual birthday messages. I wish you peace.

Sharon Mahon

November 5, 2008

Dear Bette,

I learned of Tom's passing today from the DeTolla family and I was truly saddened. He was an amazing man with vision and foresight. He had such a huge and positive impact on many people's lives and will truly be missed. My heart and prayers go out to you and your family.

Sharon

Penny Anderson Leto

November 5, 2008

Dear Bette, Greg, Gary, Debbie & family,
Thinking of your Dad, Tom brings a smile to my face as I remember so many crazy wonderful memories growing up together on Valley View! May all the fabulous memories you all share help you through this difficult time. He will be missed but never forgotten. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

Much love,

Linda & David Zackin

November 4, 2008

Betty,Greg,Gary and Debbie, Linda and I are saddened to hear about Tom's passing. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Linda & David Zackin

RICH & PATTY SPELMAN

November 3, 2008

DEAR BETTE,GREG & GARY
WE ARE SORRY TO HEAR OF TOM'S PASSING.
HE CERTAINLY WAS A BORN LEADER IN HIS INDUSTRY AND FOR THE ELLINGTON RIDGE GOLF CLUB WHERE WE WERE FELLOW MEMBERS. IN THE EARLY DAYS AT THE RIDGE
HE GOT THE CLUB OFF THE GROUND WITH HIS LEADERSHIP AND COMPETTIVNESS. HIS COMPTETIVNESS ON THE COURSE THAT I VIEWED FIRST HAND ON SEVERAL OCCASSIONS WHERE
HE AND WALLY CICHON " HAMED AND EGGED" TO THE POINT WHERE YOU HAD NO CHANCE TO GET INTO THEIR POCKETS.
WE LOVED THE MEMBERS AT ELLINGTON WITH A SPECIAL FONDNESS FOR ALL THE WOLF'S FAMILY.
OUR PRAYERS AND THOUGHTS ARE FOR YOU ALL DURING THIS DIFFICULT TIME.
LOVE,
PATTY & RICH SPELMAN - SAVANNAH,GA.

joel Allard

November 3, 2008

Dear Bette and family. Georgette told us about tom"s passing. We wish to extend our condolences to all of you. Our prayers are with you.
Joel and Charlotte Allard
341 Greenhedge Dr.
Orange City, Fla, 32763

Bob McLoughlin

November 3, 2008

Dear Betty & Family: I was saddened to learn of Tom's passing. It was a honor for me to have known Tom. He was an inspiration to me in business and in life. My deepest sympathies go out to you and your family at this most difficult time. Bob & Kathy Mcloughlin.

Teresa Elder Lilly

November 2, 2008

Bette and family,

We are so very sorry for your loss. I have such fond memories since childhood of you and Tom. My parents have alway spoken so fondly of you all.

Please know our thoughts and prayers are with you.

Love,

Teresa, Nathan, Wyatt and Luke
(Elder) Lilly

Dave Downey

November 2, 2008

Bette, Greg, Gary, Debbie, and grandchildren,

Tom was my hero, mentor, role model and friend. He accomplished much in life, but you were his greatest source of pride.

Love to all.

Betty and Charles Regan

November 2, 2008

To the Wolff Family -
We would like to add our sincere condolences at this time of sorrow. May there be comfort in knowing that Tom touched the lives of many people in many ways large and small. We are all saddened to learn of his passing and share your sense of loss. May God bless your family in this time of sorrow.

Sissy Seader

November 1, 2008

Saturday, Nov.1, 2008
Dear Bette,

It was with shock and sadness that I read, today, (in the letter in the JI) about Tom’s death. Unbelievable to me as I believed this terrific guy would live forever. It is with the utmost sympathy that I write to you. I still have the wonderful book and words you gave me following Lenny’s death and how meaningful they were (are). I can relate to your grief and the emptiness one experiences. Initially, in my experience, one is comforted by so many friends and expressions of sympathy that it is difficult to feel the full impact. But there is no time period or blueprint for loss. How fortunate to have so long a relationship filled with many memories that will emerge all the time. Tom was great—and so are you!!!!! I know your heart is broken and will never be fully mended. I hope you give yourself the okay to grieve-I know how important this is and may come on at anytime.
My thoughts are so with you, Bette.
If ever you want an ear, outside of the usual ones,—I will always be available to you.
Again, with deepest sympathy-and love,
Sissy Seader

Mike and Adrienne Ovian

October 31, 2008

Dear Bette, Greg, Gary and Debbie;
We shall always celebreate Tom's life as one lived to the fullest.
We cheerish the memories of a 50 year friendship and his famous saying that he was "Fantastic", even when he was not well. Our entire family extends our deepest sympathy on the loss of a very special friend. We will miss his warm smile, his big hug and all the guidance and help for Mike on and off the golf course.

Yvonne Caravella

October 31, 2008

Mrs. Wolff, Greg and Gary,

You are in our thoughts and prayers, please accept our heartfelt condolences during this very difficult time.

Greg and Yvonne Caravella

T. Leslie Littleton, CLU, LUTCF

October 31, 2008

Texas knew Mr. Wolff through our Tri-City Sales Caravan as a speaker and inductee in the "Amalgamated Society of Trained Seals". Truely a great speaker, mentor, and advocate for our industry. He will be missed, but not forgotten.

Charlotte Crandall

October 31, 2008

Dear Bette:

I am so sorry for your loss. It has been my privilege to have known you and Tom for over 30 years through our NAIFA family. I can see you both in my mind, always smiling and friendly at all the NAIFA events throughout the
years and Tom, with an apron on,
serving clam chowder at the New England Forum's annual event at conventions. Tom was an inspiration to every new and veteran agent, always willing to share his knowledge to help others in the insurance profession. I hope your many memories of your life together will help but I know no one can ever take his place in your heart.

Charlotte Crandall, Assn. Exec.
NAIFA-Syracuse

Linda flowers

October 31, 2008

Dear Bette and family,

We cannot begin to tell you how much Tom meant to us over the last 25 years. It was an honor to know him and to have had his wisdom and guidance. He will be missed beyond words.

NAIFA, NAIFA Hartford and NAIFA Connecticut have all been shaped by Tom's excellence in service to the insurance industry. He was respected by all who knew him.

Our thoughts and prayers are with you.

Jerry and Linda Flowers

Mickey Rosenzweig

October 31, 2008

It is wth great sorror that we hear of the loss of Tom. I've been in the Life Insurance business for almost 30 years and must say Tom has been one of the industry incons I have always looked up with great respect. We will all miss him greatly. Mickey Rosenzweig from New York City.

Patricia Tantillo- Fox

October 30, 2008

To the Wolff Family,
There are no words or actions anyone can do to comfort the pain you are feeling now. Just know there are many people praying and feeling the pain as well. Find the great memories you all hold dear and remember them always. My memory of Mr Wolff will be my Dad receiving a birthday letter each year filled with great up lifting words on life. Mr Wolff will go out as always being one of the GREAT ONES! God Bless

Bruce Kraczkowsky-NAIFA CT

October 30, 2008

Dear Bette, Greg and Gary,
It is with deep sorrow that we as individuals and the entire insurance industry receive the news of Tom's death. I share with all, family, friends, clients and colleagues your great loss. Tom was more than an icon of the insurance industry, Tom was an icon of people who live by the golden rule. Tom gave to any and all charitable needs. Tom gave his experiences and his insight to the indsutry and his colleagues; whatever success he achieved he wanted to share. Tom contributed his insight and wisdom in his frequent editorials to the Advisor Magazine. I received Tom's words in those editorials as the sage advice of an industry veteran, someone who wanted to give back what he experienced and wanted to make darn sure that we represented ourselves to the public as he would have us. Tom was constant energy, speaking engagements, clients, family any and all type of activities he was engaged. We will miss Tom, his wisdom, his humor, his genorosity. Rest in peace knowing you gave more than you received. For this we are all grateful.

steve Tantillo

October 30, 2008

Please except our deepest condolence on the passing of Mr Wolff. I have many fond memories of Mr Wolff growing up at Ellington Ridge CC, particularly caddying for him and his partner in the annual member guest.

The fun times in the 70’s -- I was lucky enough to be privy to those famous cards games, Mr. Wolff, my Dad and that ERCC supporting cast of characters. As I grew older I learned the true meaning of a gentleman….Mr. Wolff.

Steve & Kim Tantillo

Daniel Doyle

October 30, 2008

To Members of the Wolff Family:

I was quite overwhelmed when reading the extraordinary obituary of the patriarch of the Wolff Family. Tom Wolff led an exemplary life in which he touched thousands of others, and oversaw one of the finest families I know.

My profound condolences.

Joseph Jeamel

October 30, 2008

As the days and weeks pass, and as you return to life's routine, may you continue to feel comforted by the love and support of family and friends.

Peter Kravitz

October 30, 2008

Bette and Family:

It was with great sorrow that I read about Tom's passing. Our families have been friends for almost my entire lifetime. I have fond memories of Tom, usually connected with Tom and my Dad playing golf at Ellington Ridge.

Gary and Jodi Phillips

October 30, 2008

Our thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort.

Harvey and Diane Desruisseaux

October 30, 2008

Bette, Greg, Gary and Debi; Please take some comfort knowing that our thoughts and prayers are with you at this time. I will always remember Tom as a warm, gentle man who had an infectious smile for everyone.

Reg and Micheline Rabjohns

October 30, 2008

To the Wolff Family.
We send our deepest condolences to you all. Bette, we really enjoyed some wonderful times together with the State Mutual trips and other industry meetings. You and Tom were always so gracious to us both. He was a great role-model for me and thousands of others - truly a "hero" of mine, a great encourager, and always full of "enthusiasm." With my MDRT times with Greg and Gary, I have seen so much of both of you in them, really outstanding men, personally and professionally. Serving on The American College Board with Tom was another inspiring experience for me. He taught me a lot that I've passed on to others, who, too, have grown because of his unselfish willingness to share his knowledge, wisdom and friendship. He was, with you by his side, an extraordinary man, and we shall always be thankful that our paths crossed so many times over the past 40 years. We are so blessed to have known him.

Bill Herzog

October 30, 2008

Bette, Greg & Gary my heartfelt sympathy to you and your family during this sad time.It seems like just yesterday we were neighbors swimming at Crandalls Pond. Fond Memories will always live on.

Thomas H. Kelly

October 30, 2008

To say that Tom made a huge impact on our great industry would be an understatement. However, I believe his legacy will be that of a wonderful and caring human being...a gentleman and a gentle-man. I had the opportunity to visit with Tom over the years...in his office, in mine at LIMRA International and various industry meetings around the world. I always came away from those occasions feeling better and uplifted....a role model to so many of us. His obituary speaks elegantly to his many achievements and contributions.

Tom Kelly
Executive Vice President & COO(retired)
LIMRA International

Jesse VanOudenhove

October 30, 2008

May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.

Marisa Julian

October 30, 2008

Debi & Jim and family. Just read about your dad and my heartfelt condolences go out to you. He must of been a special man as I read through the beautiful obituary. Hope your memories help you through a difficult time.

Herb & Gloria Byk

October 30, 2008

Bette, Please accept our condolences on the passing of Tom. He was a very special person.

Craig&Nancy Nation

October 30, 2008

Nancy and Craig Nation feel blessed to have known Tom and offer that wonderful family our thoughts and prayers at this sad time.

Matthew and Steven Allen

October 30, 2008

Please accept our condolences on the loss of Tom Wolff, a warm and thoughtful person who was a family friend for many years.

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