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Christine Bertolas
January 23, 2023
The world isn't the same without you my sweet, sweet daughter. Please visit me in my dreams. It helps to see your beautiful face and hear your laughter.
Love you,
Mama
October 4, 2018
Thinking of you today...our paths crossed a few times socially and while working together. You were very nice and had a mature outlook on life.
Miss you
-S
January 24, 2016
Remembering dear Darla with much affection. Sharon
January 26, 2015
I'm thinking of my dear niece Darla with heartful memories.
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Janie Brionez
June 1, 2014
Darla..this candle is for you. I supported your Algebra class as an aide. You were full of life, smiles and when I heard you were gone, I was in total disbelieve. Today and next, laugh, smile and be happy. You were a blessing for those who knew you.
Sharon
January 26, 2014
Remembering Darla with fondness.
January 23, 2014
Today I miss you more, hurt less, and see you everywhere.....
Christine Bertolas
January 23, 2014
I love you and miss you my own sweet daughter.Thanks for waking me up with your laughter.I needed that! Kisses and Hugs D!
J R
January 22, 2014
Thanks for saying hi yesterday, message recieved loud n clear.. xoxo miss and love you
cj cleppe
June 13, 2013
Darla-
I miss you. I Miss your laugh. I miss everything you ever brought into our lives. But ill never regret the time we had with you. Miss you sweetie <3
Antoinette Bertolas
January 23, 2013
Dear darling Darla,
You are missed. You are loved.
You are with us always.
hugs from grandma Antoinette
and grandpa Tony
Christine Tythcott
July 23, 2012
My Sweet Darla, Today is your brother's birthday and I know he misses you terribly. We all do. Missing the way you two were crazy together and the way our house had so much laughter. Please visit him in his dreams to say Happy Birthday. Love, Mamma
Rebecca Martin
July 22, 2012
Miss you D!! Just thinking about the crazy times we had in girl scouts!!!
May 26, 2012
Dearest Darla,
You were born twenty five years ago,
May 27, 1987
The world is a better place for that.
We miss you very much.
love, grandma Antoinette
January 23, 2012
Darla,
Your beautiful smile is always with me.
I think of you all the time.
Aunt Joanne
January 23, 2012
Dearest Darla,
For five years we have missed you so much.
You are with us always.
love,
grandma Antoinette
November 28, 2011
I really missed you this year at Thanksgiving dinner! This should get easier but never really does. You are still and always will be one of the greatest gifts I've ever been given along with your brother. I am truely thankful for the time we had together and the joy you brought into our lives. Love you D! Mamma
Janis & Dave Hughes
November 27, 2011
You are always close in our hearts and you just have to be the most beautiful angel in heaven. You are so missed.
November 1, 2011
Happy Halloween, Baby Darla...
We love you very much - Uncle T
Steve Bertolas-Jeske
May 27, 2011
Darla-
Missing you very much on your 24th Birthday.
love,
Dad & Amy
CJ
January 24, 2011
Darla-
As the years go by, I've slowly had to live life knowing I will have to go through all my stuggles, joys and triumphs without you. I find comfort knowing I am only a prayer away from you, but we know thats not always the same. I always think of you and I still keep your spirit alive and I boast about you all the time. Please keep smiling down on us and never leave our side as we make our way through life. I love you always sweetheart.
January 23, 2011
Darla,
Today is a day of both joy and sorrow for me. Today my little baby boiy turns 3 months old and today is also the anniversary of the day we lost you. You're always in my thoughts and heart. Aunt Joanne
January 20, 2011
Thinking of you today. We all miss you and love you.
Grandpa Tony & Grandma Antoinette
December 16, 2010
Dearest Darla,
We are thinking of you during the holidays. You'll be home for Christmas, if only in our dreams.
happy memories,
love from your family
Mama
August 10, 2010
My Darling Daughter,
I miss you every day and wish you could be here to swim in the lake with Davey and I. You could yell at him for splashing you and then he could tell you that only a moron sits in the water with a book in their hand expecting not to get wet. Oh how I long for days gone by. Thanks for all the joy you brought to our lives.
May 28, 2010
Happy Birthday, Baby Darla
We all love you very much!!!!!
Uncle T
cj cleppe
May 28, 2010
Happy birthday sweetheart. I miss you and love you so much. Hope your celebrating in heaven with that beautiful smile on your face. I love you.
May 26, 2010
Happy Birthday, Darla,
We celebrate your life.
love from your family.
Steve Bertolas-Jeske
May 26, 2010
Happy Birthday Darla,
Missing you so much on your 23rd birthday.
love,
Dad, Amy & Midnight
Antoinette Bertolas
April 4, 2010
Happy Easter Darla,
We miss you.
January 24, 2010
Baby Darla -
You will always be my special little girl. I miss you every much...
Love, Uncle T
lovely Darla
Antoinette Bertolas
January 22, 2010
Sweet, lovely Darla,
It has been three years since you went to heaven, but you are always with us.
much love and kisses,
from your family
Jan Hughes
January 22, 2010
In loving memory of Darla, a wonderful young woman. You are always in our hearts,always a part of us. The mention of your name brings a smile.
Rebecca Martin
January 6, 2010
Darla!!! Happy new year!!! Miss ya buddy!!!
Antoinette Bertolas
December 21, 2009
Merry Christmas, darling Darla
You'll be home for Christmas
if only in our dreams.
hugs and kisses and love
from your family
Joanne LaJoice
May 27, 2009
Darla,
I'm writing to you on your birthday but it is every day that you are in my heart and my thoughts.
Your love and your Being have filled our hearts to the brim and that is why since your departure we feel an emptiness.
Today on your birthday I toast my glass of Merlot with you, I walked in the rain with you, and I gave thanks for you.
Aunt Joanne
May 27, 2009
Baby Darla -
Happy Birthday! We miss you.
Love, Uncle T
Steve Bertolas-Jeske
May 25, 2009
Happy Birthday Darla,
We are missing you very much today.
love Dad & Amy
May 25, 2009
Happy Birthday, Darla!
May 27, 1987
We sing to you.
love and kisses from your family.
Antoinette Bertolas
Stephen Bertolas-Jeske
April 12, 2009
Happy Easter Darla.
We miss you & love you very much.
We'll have some Peeps and think of you.
Dad, Amy & Midnight
Antoinette Bertolas
April 11, 2009
Happy Easter to our sweet girl.
You are always with us.
Much love and hugs from your family.
cj cleppe
January 26, 2009
hey sweetie. Even though its been an excruciating two years without you, i know your here in other forms. You are always on my mind every day. Continue to watch over your friends and family. I miss you sweetheart.
Antoinette Bertolas
January 23, 2009
Dear sweet Darla,
It has been two years since you left us. But, you didn't really leave us, did you? You are part of us; you are with us always. We hold you in our memories forever.
much love from your family.
Summer 2002
Patrick Neff
January 22, 2009
Baby Darla -
I miss you every day - the world isn't quite as bright without you around. I still have the 2X4 piece of wood that you carved your name into ...
Love - Uncle T
Rebecca Martin
December 24, 2008
Marry Christmas buddy!
Antoinette Bertolas
December 23, 2008
Merry Christmas, darling Darla,
We miss you. We love you.
You are with us always.
love, hugs, and kisses from
your family.
Antoinette Bertolas
November 24, 2008
Dear darling Darla,
At Thanksgiving we give thanks for having had you in our lives.
hugs, kisses, and love from
your family
Rae, Heather, Ashley Toman
May 27, 2008
Happy Birthday Darla!
We miss your pretty face, your sweet smile, & your fun disposition!
Love you always
May 27, 2008
I'm remembering Darla with a smile.
Thinking of you,
Sharon
Happy Birthday Darla
May 24, 2008
Happy Birthday,
darling Darla
May 27, 1987
hugs and kisses from
your family
Jordan Stolpa
April 12, 2008
Dear Darla,
I think about you all the time. I'll never forget how you defended and stood up for me in the face of prejudice, and how you taught me that I didn't deserve the way I got teased in school, when for a long time, I did. You taught me to stand up for myself and for others. You shared your strength with me, and now I share it with others when I defend those who are made fun of, just like you defended me.
Your example, your fiery love of life and for those you cared about and your spicy attitude are gifts you gave me that I carry with me every day, and freely share with others. I wish I could have told you how much of an impact you had on my life, and the lives of many others, even those you haven't met.
All my love,
~Jordan
Matthew Allen
March 18, 2008
Miss ya bad Darla. You are always in my thoughts and forever in my memories.
Tiffany McLeod
January 31, 2008
Neff,
Sorry i was never able to make it up to milwaukee to see you the day i said i would... An when i finally made it up it was too late. Will stop by as soon as i can and bring the prettiest flowers around, and I'll be getting that matching tattoo we talked about, even tho there won't be a match to it. Its too bad your not here, I'm having a baby girl in july and she'll only get to hear stories of her auntie darla, wish i woulda had a camera before you left basic...coulda shown her some pictures at least. Miss you lots, my birthday (january 27) wasn't the same this year knowing it had been a year since you've been gone, and that i missed the services last year. Miss ya lots buddy...hasn't been the same since. You truely are an amazing and wonderful person that brought laughter and joy everywhere you went.
Love an God Bless
-McLeod
Sharon Jeske Borie
January 23, 2008
I'm thinking of you Darla today. I lit a candle for you and am listening to some lovely songs that make me think of you. I miss you.
Patrick Neff
January 23, 2008
Baby Darla -
Your family in Michigan loves you and misses you very much. Aunt Bonnie, Miss Denise, Miss Barb and all of the kids ...
I think of you every day and I love you with all of my heart.
Uncle T
January 21, 2008
Dearest Darla,
A year ago you went to be with the angels;
but you have never really left us;
you are in our hearts forever.
hugs and kisses
from your family
Christmas 1991
Stephen Bertolas Jeske
December 19, 2007
Merry Christmas, darling Darla.
We remember your lovely smile.
love, Papito
Antoinette Bertolas
November 22, 2007
Dearest Darla,
We are thinking of you on Thanksgiving day. We give thanks for having had you in our life. We miss you and love you.
grandma Antoinette and
grandpa Tony
Stephen Bertolas-Jeske
October 23, 2007
Darla-
Its been a hard 9 months, and we all miss you dearly. Halloween won't be the same without you. We'll carve a scary pumpkin for you.
missing you & with love, Dad
JESSICA SMITH
September 24, 2007
MY DEAR DARLA. I AM SO SORRY I DID NOT CONTACT YOU AFTER BOOT CAMP. I CALLED A FEW TIMES AND HEARD YOUR NAME ON THE MACHINE. I WOULD HAVE NEVER GUESSED GOD WOULD HAVE TAKEN SUCH A WONDERFUL SPIRITED YOUNG LADY. IF IT WEREN'T FOR YOU I WOULD HAVE STILL BEEN LOCKED AWAY IN BASIC! YOU MADE ME SMILE AND LAUGH BEING IN THOSE DORMS. ALTHOUGH I ONLY KNEW YOU FOR THAT SHORT TIME IN BASIC TRAINING YOUR SPIRIT MADE ME FEEL LIKE I KNEW YOU OUR WHOLE LIVES. I WEEP KNOWING I WON'T GET THE CHANCE TO COME VISIT AND PARTY LIKE WE SAID WE WOULD. BUT WE DID MAKE IT AWAY FROM THOSE CRAZY DRILL INSTRUCTORS. I AM SO SORRY IT TOOK ME SO LONG TO FIND ALL THIS OUT. I WISH I COULD HAVE BEEN AT THE FUNERAL. FERNANDEZ AND I WILL BE COMING TO VISIT SOON. I'LL BRING THE PRETTIEST FLOWERS I KNOW FOR THE MOST OUT GOING BEAUTIFUL GIRL I MET IN THOSE FEW MONTHS IN BOOT CAMP. YOU ARE TRUELY MISSED. SEE YA LATER MY LIL NYMPH.
CHRISTINE TYTHCOTT
July 26, 2007
MY SWEET, BEAUTIFUL DAUGHTER,
I CAN'T EVEN BEGIN TO DESCRIBE THE JOY YOU HAVE GIVEN ME. YOUR SMILE,YOUR LAUGH,YOUR TEARS...
I CHERISH EVERY MOMENT AND WOULD GIVE THE REST OF MY DAYS SO THAT YOU COULD WALK BESIDE YOUR BROTHER AND SHARE MANY MORE SPECIAL MOMENTS WITH HIM. MAY THE LORD MAKE HIS FACE TO SHINE ON YOU ALWAYS. LOVE, MOM
P.S. THANK YOU FOR THE BUTTERFLY CLOUD AND THE BUTTERFLY IN DAVE'S CAR. IT MEANT ALOT TO US.
Steve Bertolas-Jeske
July 3, 2007
Missing you Darla on this 4th of July. Summerfest and the fireworks just aren't the same without you.
love always, Dad.
Michaellanne O'Brien
June 19, 2007
Darla, you were such a beautiful person inside and out. Being dorm chief was hard, but you and Mcleod made it worth it. I love you sooo much and think about you all the time. You will forever be in out hearts! Second to none, come get some!
David Neff
May 29, 2007
darla, you ar my sister and my best friend. if words could discribe the pain of losing you i would fill up an entire page with the depressing lyrics that my heart wont stop singing. but i still have to thank you, because of losing you i stoped and looked at my life, and realized that when you r looking down on me i dont want you to see me living my life for death, the way i was before. you have gone away, but you made me want life. i think that because of you the water is a little cooler at grandpas lake when i swim, the food mom coks tastes just a little better, because now i live for the both of us. these past months have been hard, i dont think anyone can know how much it hurts, but i try. i try to be happy when i think of you. i try to smile when i think of you. i try to laugh when i think of the crazy things that we did. my only regret now is that we wont be able to make anymore memories. you have shown me that now the only thing that matters is to love and to be loved.
p.s. happy birthday, i got you the death cab for cutie cd that you wanted, now when i play it i will always think of you and when we were driving through milwaukee and the song soul meets body came on and you wouldnt let anyone talk, because you said it was the most beautiful song you had ever herd.
i love you so much and i hope that you have found the inner peace that you so deserve.
Love always, David Marshall Neff
Antoinette Bertolas
May 27, 2007
May 27, 1987
Happy Birthday, darling Darla.
love,
grandma Antoinette
Tiffany McLeod
May 17, 2007
You were the best friend I ever had...Wouldn't have made it thru basic without you. I'll always have the memories, you will be missed dearly
Marshy, Uncle T and Baby Darla - November, 1992
Patrick Neff
February 8, 2007
Baby Darla -
You were the best .....
Love, Uncle T
Barbra Margosian
February 7, 2007
I remember over 19 years ago, helping Pat Neff hang a sign in our dorm entrance foyer that said "WELCOME BABY DARLA"! He was so excited to show his niece off to all his college friends ! All these years later, Pat and I have remained Good friends and I have gotten to see "Baby Darla" (as I still refer to her to this day) AND Marshee grow up. "Uncle T", as they call him, still had that same excitement every time he spoke of or saw the kids. A more loving, humorous or strong relationship would be hard to find. The thing that always stood out to me about Baby Darla was her sense of humor. She and her brother certainly carried on the Neff Family Humor ! I will forever Smile when I think of Baby Darla !
To her Parents, Family, Friends and especially to Marshee... I wish you all PEACE, COMFORT and a HEART FULL OF CHERISHED MEMORIES !
Stephen Bertolas-Jeske
February 2, 2007
Thank you to all who attended and have given their love and support during this difficult time. Please call or write me. Here is Joanne Jeske's speech she read at Darla's Funeral:
As I look around the room at all of Darla’s family and friends it reinforces the belief that it takes a village to raise a child. Each person in this room has played a part in shaping, influencing, caring for, and helping to raise David and Darla. And regardless of how well people do as the caregiver ultimately we each make our own decisions in our life. Her parents and grandparents and uncles and aunts each were positive role models, gave unlimited love and care and guidance. And so I pray that Darla’s parents - and all those who helped to raise her - know that their love and devotion was the best that any child could need. In the end, we each make our decisions and choices. We each have made hundreds of poor choices in our lives - whether it be driving in a car talking on a cell phone, speeding to get to our destination, traveling by ourselves in strange lands, participating in dangerous sports and thrills, having a few drinks with our friends and then driving home, partying when we were young and in college, or the poor choices we make everyday such as smoking, not exercising, or eating unhealthy. So far, those of us in the room have lived through our stupid mistakes and so now looking back we all have crazy stories to tell but Darla’s story will now be told by us. And I ask that it be told keeping in mind the poor choices we each have made ourselves.
Darla’s child hood companion and best friend of her youth will forever be her brother, David, who may bear the greatest burden of any of us as he will now live a changed life different then how our lives are now changed.
I feel that Darla would want her brother to now live his life for both of them. That he not feel regret by any of his words or actions or betrayal from her leaving him so abruptly and painfully but rather that he seek out those beaches, mountains, and sunsets to experience them for the two of them. That he now embrace life and the purpose of life, which is to live with happiness. That he travel for the two of them to Florida, Madrid, and Paris where Darla wanted to go. That he not be afraid of change and goals but rather that he go for all that he desires in life. That he dance and watch comedies, listen to music, and spend time with his friends. That he seeks out laughter and laughs for the two of them. Because all that he desires his sister would want him to have. I feel that she would want him to take full charge of his life with enthusiasm and purpose and find love and adventure and happiness for himself and for her.
And for the rest of us here never again will we regret having another birthday and growing old. Never again will we make jokes about getting old because Darla and others who we have lost in our lives would love to be getting old and to have another birthday.
To Darla’s parents, family, and her friends who were so important to her I want to leave you with a quote to comfort you: When you are feeling sorrow look again in your heart, and you shall see the truth. You are weeping for that which has been your delight.
Dottie Searle
February 1, 2007
I will remember Darla as always having a hug for me when we met at some family functions. She showed a friendly , happy face to all and my prayers go out to all her family, especially Steve and Amy and David and her Mom Christine. May she find peace now and love forever.
Rebecca Martin
January 29, 2007
Darla was always such a great person to be around! She will be missed much my myself and thoes who knew her. She was always a positive person and every out-going. I know im going to miss you buddy. My prayers to your family and friends and to thoes close.
~becky~
Allison Peret
January 28, 2007
I hadn't seen Darla or most of my high school friends since I moved away from Waukesha but I have many fond memories of her and I wish I could have spoken to her just one more time. When I first met Darla we were in high school spanish class. She was so full of life and had a strong, sassy attitude that I instantly fell in love with. She always made everyone around her laugh and smile and always stood up for her friends. She was the kind of friend who always had your back. There was a time when a mutual friend of ours got made fun of in the hallway and she was ready to take the guy out. He was at least 4 times her size and after she went off on him he backed off. No one messed with Darla. I will always remember that about her. I can't believe she's gone. She left us far too soon but we will never forget her. Rest in Peace Darla.
Debbie Schultz
January 27, 2007
Darla's smile, happiness, and her caring for other's will be missed by all who knew her. She was always so kind, polite, and I enjoyed knowing her through Scouts. My thoughts and prayers go out to Darla's family and her friends.
mackenzie slotty
January 27, 2007
Darla had a bigger heart than anyone I ever might know. She was the kindest, most generous, loving person and would do anything for anyone. I loved Darla to death. Still do. Always will. I've got your back.
Heather Rivas and Ashley Toman
January 26, 2007
Although it has been several years since we have seen Darla, she will always be remembered as one of our best friends. Growing up with Darla and David was a lot of fun. Whether we were making up plays and performing them in our garage or having one of our many clubs that we thought were so cool back in the day. One of our favorite memories was when we pretended that we were from a planet named Quacktillia and we were all Quacktillians, we made the little girl next door hate coming over. We knew Darla since kindergaten and although we lost touch a few years ago she will always remain in our hearts. Our deepest sympathy goes toward Christine and David. Darla Neff...you will be forever missed, you were taken too soon!!!
Maggie Espinosa
January 26, 2007
We send our deepest sympathy to her family, she was a wonderful person and always fun to be around. She will be missed dearly,and will always be in our hearts. Love, Maggie,Desiree,Kassidy, and Destiny
CJ Cleppe
January 26, 2007
I had SOO many fun times with Darla its hard to pick one to talk about. Whether it was at school, or in another country, any time i was with Darla was a guaranteed good time. A simple car ride down the block always ended up with me in tears from laughing so hard with her. Darla had such an enormous sense of humor and we would laugh for hours on end. Darla, i will miss you so much sweetheart. Your in my heart forever.
Cindy Suszek
January 26, 2007
Darla was a wonderful girl and always a good friend to our daughter, Nicky and auntie Darla to our son, Justin. We enjoyed taking her on vacation with us Up North to the cabin, even when her nose was in a book! Darla will truely be missed but not forgotten. Our thoughts are with her family at this time.
love, The Suszeks ( Cindy, Jim, NIcky & Justin ).
Billy lanphear
January 26, 2007
Im just so glad to have meet such a wonderful person like Darla. She always had a smile on her face and always made everyone laugh by her jokes, and her sense of humor. We would walk home from school and it would end up to a 1-2 hour conversation at the park cause we just had so much to talk about and i would remember going home with rib pains cause all she did was make me laugh and thats whats she loved to do. She was an amazing Person and will be truley missed.
Vicki Peters
January 26, 2007
Darla was one of my Best friends, she was always there for me when i needed her to be and when she needed a friend she could come to me. She knew just what to say if I was upset to get me to laugh.
Darla will always and forever be here with me in my heart.
rachel russell
January 26, 2007
I was so glad to have known Darla she was the sweetiest girl. always there when you needed her. i will miss her alot. she was taken much to soon.
Bob Bertolas
January 26, 2007
My thoughts and prayers are with Christine, David and the rest of Darla's family on this very sad occasion. I have fond memories of Darla's family trip to San Diego, her enjoyment of the sights & sounds of a new city matched only by the interest in the ever-present book she was reading! It was a fun, care-free vacation and Darla expressed such joy in everything and everyone she saw in her southern California adventures. I'm glad we had the time together.
Lynn Cleppe
January 26, 2007
Darla always made me laugh, she would call my son CJ and I knew who he was talking to just because he was laughing so hard, I knew it was Darla. They had such a good time in Spain and we still laugh about the experiences Darla and CJ had. We will miss her dearly.
Joshua Reeves
January 26, 2007
I just want to thank you all for raising one of the best friends I will ever have...Darla was an amazing person, always full of fire and the sweetest person to have ever walked this earth. I knew from the day I met her she was going to be a great friend. There is no words that I can say besides I love you guys, and I am here for you.
~JOSH~
Julianne Sommer
January 26, 2007
Dear Stephen, Amy and all of Darla's Loving Family. You are in our Prayers and Thoughts.
Julianne and Kevin Sommer and
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