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Matthew Deets Obituary

Matthew Allen Deets, 73, of St. Joseph, Missouri passed away on Tuesday, July 29th, 2025. Matthew was born to Clarence and Leona Deets on April 5th, 1952 in St. Joseph, Missouri where he spent his childhood until leaving the area to join the US Army in the fall of 1969. On December 26th, 1969 Matthew was united in marriage to Paula (Bernard) in St. Joseph, Missouri. Which they celebrated 55 years of marriage. Matthew served in the US Army from 1969 to 1992, serving as a Sergeant First Class. Upon retiring from the US Army after 22 years of honored service, Matthew worked for the City of St. Joseph in the City Maintenance Department for another 15 years, until retirement. In his years of retirement; Matthew enjoyed traveling, fishing, and spending time with his family, serving as the family handyman, and dog-sitting for his grand-dog, Lou Randall. Matthew was preceded in death by his parents, his brother, Ronald Deets, and sisters, Vicky Zeamer and Elizabeth Schroeder. Survivors include: his wife of the home, Paula Deets, Sons, Matthew A. Deets, JR. and Gregory M. Deets (Raquel), and Daughter, Crystal D. Deets. Grandchildren, Samantha Deets, Matthew A. Deets III (Renay), Mercedes Deets (Diego Cardoso), Katrina Deets, and Tre' Deets. Great-grandchildren, Emilee Deets, Harmony Kreb, Matthew Deets IV, and Armando Cardoso. And his childhood best friend, Mike McCartney. There will be private celebration of life planned at a later date.

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Published by KQ2 on Jul. 31, 2025.

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Shannon Johnson

August 3, 2025

Another good man taken too soon. My prayers are with his family. He was an honest and great man that I had a lot of respect for. Rest in peace Matt fly with the angels and watch over the loved ones you left behind. Until we meet again.

Bob and Joyce Denman

August 2, 2025

So many memories. We remember the times we spent together in Alaska, then the time we came and visited at Fort Leavenworth right after Crystal was born, and then the week we spent in Saint Jo just a couple of years ago. Those things Joyce and I will treasure for the rest of our lives. Rest in peace Matt and condolences to the rest of the family. Thank you for your service to our country.

Douglas Dennis

August 1, 2025

Rip buddy you will be missed by everyone

Nancy Nash-Selecman

July 31, 2025

Condolences & prayers

Angelica & DJ

July 31, 2025

You and Uncle Matt shared something so beautiful. I hope those memories bring you some comfort during this heartbreaking time.

Gina Martinez

July 30, 2025

May you rest in peace

God Bless

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Rickey Crossfield

July 30, 2025

May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.

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