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Alexandra Elizabeth Barr

Alexandra Barr Obituary

Barr, Alexandra Elizabeth
Left this world in peace on July 13, 2005. Born in New York City, July 7, 1946, she died as she lived, with great courage, dignity and grace. She was passionate about living life to the fullest. She will be grieved by her large extended family and many dear friends.

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Published by Los Angeles Times from Jul. 17 to Jul. 18, 2005.

Memories and Condolences
for Alexandra Barr

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42 Entries

Keith Ashley

August 16, 2005

Dear Lexi,

I was so sad to hear you have left us. You where so strong for me and everyone who you called a friend. Thank you for the time we had. Thank you for fighting the good fight for all of us. You always new what to do and did it. I have joy in my heart and can see that sparkle in your eyes knowing GOD is now fighting the good fight for you. Rest in peace. I love you...

Carolann Jevitt-Wright

August 13, 2005

I have been waiting to make an entry into this wonderful guest book for lexi since I first noticed it on my e-mail, but waiting for the right words to say what is really in my heart is so difficult... so let me just ramble on and let's see what comes out. Lexi my sweet one, you are so very much missed...in my heart...when you pop into my head daily...when i look over all of the pictures i have of you. Even though we weren't friends in school, I was so honored to be your friend and sister in the sisterhood of the "boss". You always brought with you great compassion for those in need, your perfect timing of wit and humor, and always always went to each and every person in the room, hugged and talked to us, made us feel your love which radiated from you. I still can't bring myself to delete the last e-mail you sent me and I can't believe that I won't be receiving any more. Each and every one of us is a better person for what you have taught us in your strength. I love you little Lexi, I miss you dear one...and I know that we will see eachother again ... and when we do...honey we will p-a-r-t-y!

Lexi as I'll always remember her.

August 8, 2005

Ellen Cruz

August 8, 2005

Our friendship was brief, but no less strong. Lexi and her brothers and sisters were childhood friends of my husband, Robert. Within the past few years, they have rekindled their friendships and I met all of these wonderful people - Vivian, Mary, Gus, Rudy, and of course, Lexi.

Robert and I were so lucky to have spent the 4th of July weekend in Boston with Lexi, Mary and the love of Lexi's life, her grandson. What a great time we had!! Lexi was her usualy feisty self - who would want it any other way!! I'm so glad Robert and I were able to make it.

I will miss you, Lexi. God bless you.

Robert Bockwinkel

August 7, 2005

I have known Lexi for 42 years. I was married to her sister Mary for 10 years. Lexi loved and was proud of her family, her kids and grandkids. She did not have an easy life, but she always kept her sense of humor. She was a neat person and fun to be around. We will miss her e-mails with funny jokes and serious concerns about different political issues. She will be greatly missed.

Jan McIntosh

August 6, 2005

You will be missed

KAREN MUYSKEN

August 4, 2005

IT IS ALWAYS SO SAD AND UPSETTING WHEN SOME ONE SO YOUNG AND SWEET GOES TO A HIGHER PLACE, BUT THEY ALWAY SAY. THE GOOD DIE YOUNG. THEY DIDN'T EXAGERATE ON THAT ONE. KAREN MUYSKEN (ROGERS)

Deborah Combs

August 4, 2005

Lexi,

You were taken too early. I would imagine you are looking down on us from heaven. May you be at peace. You will be missed. Debby

Leon Spencer

August 3, 2005

Lexi,

You've left a giant hole in the hearts of those who love you, but we know it is only temporary. Our memories of you and your love are quickly rushing in to fill the void.

My favorite memory is sharing a hug with you on the senior lawn as you whispered a riddle in my ear. I guess I'll have to wait a while for the answer.

My prayers for her family.

Leon

Laurie Beerman

August 3, 2005

Lexi was one in a million. After being reunited in 2002 the 38 years when we didn't see each other after high school graduation didn't matter. We became friends again and I treasure each memory I have of time spent with her. I will miss her wit, smile, hugs, laugh and wonderful halloween costumes.

Sara Hope

August 3, 2005

This was one of the last messages I sent to Lexi.

Hi Sweet Sista,

Just a note to tell you I thought about you today.

Spring has come to my front porch andI stood there this afternoon, and let the breeze hit my face and I thought about you.

My grand daughter, Hope, is here for a visit from North Carolina. She has been bouncing around the house in her tight blue jeans, and every time I look at her, it sparks a fleeting memory of when I was 15. I do not remember exact moments just little snippet’s of time. I remember standing outside the cafeteria at Canoga, the smell of oatmeal cookies baking lingers in the air. I remember standing with a group of girls. We are all talking at the same time.We are all holding our blue denim notebooks up close to our flat chests. I can see the names of boys etched on the front of the notebooks. I remember a petite girl in a white shirt. The collar is standing up at the back of her neck. I think she has a plaid skirt on. She is grinning. She is always grinning........... I have memories of you Lexi. They are not as clear as I wish they were, but I know you were in my young life.

Thank you for coming into my life 40 years ago. Thank you for being in my life today. Thank you for being the reason I stopped and smelled the clean air and whispered prayers on my front porch this morning.

Sadie

Holmes Stoner Jr

August 3, 2005

May peace be with you

Patty Campochiaro

August 3, 2005

My Dearest Lexi,

You are my hero, my inspiration and my friend. I'm grateful for the time we spent together, thanks for the fabulous memories. Your amazing sense of humor and contagious laugh are etched in my soul forever. I miss you. Love, Patty

Richard Allard

August 3, 2005

I did not know her well but sympathize with all those that did for our loss of a loved one and CPHS alumni. Our sincere and heartfelt blessings for the family and friends.

So TYPICALLY Lexi

August 3, 2005

As far as the B.O.S.S. goes ...Lexi had such great soul.

August 3, 2005

Darlene "The Flooz" Austin-Smith

August 3, 2005

Though I haven't digested the loss yet, I know I'll never get email from her again ... laugh with her again ... hug her again ... or ever be able to tell her how much I love her again. I'm so VERY thankful that I told her that every time I spoke with her, and at the end of our correspondence. I know, she KNEW how much I loved her, and there is NO DOUBT how much she loved me. I made her laugh, as she told me over and over again, and I would giggle as I heard her laughter inside my head.

It's so true, that "someday" and "soon" and "next time" are all gambles ... and while I gamble some, I gamble less now.

As sick as Lexi was, she allowed me to come and spend the night with her on June 6th. We laughed (a lot). We talked about realities. SHE COOKED ME DINNER! The next day, we went out to lunch, with our very good friend, Michael, and maybe it was that twinkle in her eyes, or her command of the moment, but she got Michael to pay ... even though we both knew he'd do it gladly.

We sat in her wonderful back yard, before lunch that day, and it was obvious that was one of her favorite places on this earth. I am so glad I didn't think, "Soon, I'll have to get a picture of Lexi and me to put on my dresser." I didn't gamble that time, and every morning I see us hugging in her back yard, and tell her how much I miss her. It helps with the digestion.

To Lexi's marvelous family, and the many friends who respected and loved her, my deepest sympathies. We will ALL cherish the memories we have of Lexi.

Michael Helwig

August 3, 2005

Lexi, you were such a joy to talk to...so bright, so articulate, so informed...I miss you, but I've got the memories

Linda Bernstein-Ramis

August 3, 2005

Thank you Lexi, for being my unwavering champion, my hero, and my inspiration,

With love always, Linda

Someone suggested that i post the Eulogy Poem from Lexi's memorial.

"Alexandra Elizabeth"

Lexi came into my life when we

were just fourteen.

She taught me about friendship,

courage, and self esteem.

A true New Yorker, she spoke right up and said what she meant

Her heartfelt convictions were with her, wherever she went.

She was close to my parents like she was their kid.

They loved her joy, her mind, and the paintings she did.

Our friendship grew through all of our sorrows and all of our joys,

Through all our bad bosses, and all those bad boys.

Lexi loved fastdancing,the beach, roller coasters,& books of course.

Museums, Rock & Roll, Disneyland, and riding a horse.

Well, if the truth be known, the “riding a horse” part’s really not true. But that’s what she told Ron for their first date, ‘cause that’s what he wanted to do.

She loved the “Ya Yas”, the BOSSies" , her family, and all of her friends.

She loved with honesty and truth; was not influenced by trends.

Her life was blessed with John & David and then Stephanie and Jen.

And blessed even further with Victor and Dallan, whose months are not even ten.

How lucky I was to have met her, as she passed through this place.

Lexi lived life with gusto. She lived it and lost it with courage and grace.

Jesse Land

July 29, 2005

Lexi,

I always admired your pride and courage, your honesty and integrity. It was a true pleasure to call you "Auntie."

Thanks (to you and everyone) for welcoming me into your family with such grace. I feel privileged to be part of the family, and promise to take good care of little Lexi and Alex.

Life's quick. See you in a blink :)

Jess

kim Bushy

July 28, 2005

Dear Lexie,

You will be greatly missed. Even though I only had an opportunity to meet you a couple of times, it was as if I had always known you.

You made me feel so welcome when Gabi and I were first married, as did you rest of your large, wonderful family. How lucky we all are to be blessed by such loving people in our lives.

When Gabi got sick, you were one of the first to call and offer encouragement and comfort. I will never forgot your kindness and sympathy that you extended to me. and the strength you gave to him.

I know that you and Gabi are looking over everyone and that you can feel the love that your family and friends are sending your way.

You will be forever missed!! Love to you all (Gus, Geri, Rudy, Elaine, Vivi, Mary, David and John) and anyone I may not have mentioned!!

Love,

Kim

Alexandra (LEXI) Lester

July 25, 2005

Lexi, you were very special to me. You and I shared things that I promised will go to the grave with me as mine went with you. I speak to you better through my prayers and I know you hear them. Ive always been proud to say that I am like you. Ive been told most of my life Im like you in many ways and proud to carry you're stregnth in me. I love you and will see you one dayon the other side. Your ever loving niece... Lexi

Marcey Newell

July 23, 2005

Lexi,

I can remember growing up, how close we were. You were my favorite "Auntie". I would spend the night with you and Uncle Ronnie when Jon was a baby. We would sit around and listen to music, (The Beatles) and play with Jon. Then when David was born, we would sit arount and listen to Jon playing music (The Beatles) while playing with David. How time flies. You have taught me so much in life you don't even know. You taught me how to be strong, that I could do anything I set my mind to, to appreciate the musics and the arts, and most importantly about family. I am so proud of you, the way you fought your battles with Courage, Strength and Dignity. You will forever have a special place in my heart. As the kids say, "I love you from here to Oregon" My deepest regrets to Uncle Ronnie, Jon & David and the rest of the family-Love, "Foo-Fang"

Noa Ganser(gonen)

July 22, 2005

Vivi and Mary, though I only met Lexi twice, she brought me closer to my family, and brought out in me the want to learn more about our family in whole. My husband and me send you our love and strenght.

Noa and Rich

Ann Rockeman

July 22, 2005

Alexandra (Lexi, as we know her) was/is my Aunt. Lexi is my father's sister. I have had the great priviledge to grow to adulthood having been part of a very close knit family, that extended to aunts, uncles, cousins, and close family friends. These people have been part of my life for 43 years. They have all played a part in forming who I am today. Lexi was and will forever be one of these people. She was a "tower of power". Lexi never let me forget that as a woman, I was strong, smart, fearless, loving, and could therefore, become whatever I wanted to. She, like my parents, pushed reading, travel, and education. She also made sure that I never forgot the family I came from and that I was to remain true to them, give what I could and keep loyal. As I look back on some years, I know how lucky Lexi was to have lived those thoughts. She has two fabulous brothers that love her and two of the most amazing women as sisters who were there for her always. Because she meant so much to so many, she will live on. To her sisters, sons, and grandchildren, I send my deepest regrets and love. ANN ROCKEMAN.

Dorit Fridman-Gonen

July 22, 2005

Lexi, WE met for the fist time only short 14 years ago, and it feels like a life time. You will be greatley missed by all of us in Israel and in NY. It was a privilege knowing you. We are glad we had the opportunity for a short family reunion in NY and that you got to meet Ester, our daughters and the Israeli side of the family.

Shandor, Ester, Gal, Hadas, Nir, Vered, Noa, Reut & Dorit

Kathie (Kate) Wheeler

July 21, 2005

Lexi and I met each other more than 23 years ago in a class at CSUN for the HR Certification program. I think we knew we were kindred spirits from the very moment we met and she enriched my life immeasurably.

Lexi always spoke her mind and told it like it was. I truly admired her outspokenness and her unwillingness to "play the game". She was always true to what she believed even if it did not always serve her well with her employer.

When I moved from the Valley to Santa Barbara, Lexi would come to visit me. She had a special fondness for the Mission at Santa Barbara and we made trips there so she could say hello to the grand old lady. She also gave small dinner parties and invited some of my dear friends - so we could reconnect again. These were always such wonderful events. Lexi was the glue that held us all together.

When I decided to retire early and move to Oregon, Lexi told me that she was genuinely happy for me. I last spoke to Lexi on her birthday on July 7th and told her that I loved her and that she would always be in my heart. I am so grateful I was able to say goodbye to my sweet, wonderful friend.

Vivi Brooks

July 21, 2005

My dear, sweet sister, Lexi,

You were my other half.

We were always on the same wave length. I never had to explain anything to you. You understood.

We were going to be little old ladies traveling together. We did do some of our travels, but we still had so many places left to visit together.

You faced your demons with such bravery, courageous and strength. You gave me strength. I miss you terribly. I will always miss you.

I love you.

Your Sister,

Vivi

Mary Farkas

July 20, 2005

Lexi was my older sister, 2 years older, and she was my heart. We dreamed of walking through England and Ireland when we were older. She was my beacon and guide, my teacher and friend. She will not be replaced. Thank you all who are sharing your hearts and thoughts with us.

Debbie Mosley

July 19, 2005

Lexi,

You will be missed greatly. She was a very graciuos lady. Her eyes always had a spakle to them. When she loved you she truly loved you. She became a very dear person to me in the time that I knew her. I always told her that when I grow-up I wanted to be just like her, light heated, a witty remark and smiling all the time. I will always have a place in my heart for her. I am so glad that I was blessed to have her in my life. Keeping you and your family in my prayers. God Bless you Lexi.

Love you always.

CONNIE BROWN

July 19, 2005

My most heart felt sympathies to her family and all of her friends.

We have suffered a great loss. Lexi on the otherhand has gone before us to get the party started before we get there. And let it be known, the short time we spent together was a party. Her humor, insight and opinions will be missed.

Ciao friend

Jordan and Joan Orosz

July 19, 2005

We remember Lexi always having a lively good humor in the face of adversity. While in her presents we had the constant smile upon our face, a gift of her grace. Alexandra is part of the family that we have been fortunate to know and love. We will miss her.

Cheryl (Harris) , Clem

July 19, 2005

To the family of Lexi, My prayers and thoughts are with you.

I came to know Lexi Barr through my brother in law, Gus Grant. He is Lexi's brother. Lexi and I were not in each other's company often, but the times we were I really enjoyed being with her. What I remember most is how beautiful she was. Her shinny hair,always in place, her beautiful smile and that cute little body(which I envied). I admire her courage in death. That is a gift that I wish for when it is my turn to go.

Geri Grant

July 18, 2005

This was my last email from Lexi on May 30,05. It speaks of the way she lived her life. May we all have the courage, strength and dignity in death that she had. She will be missed greatly.

I HOPE YOU DANCE

I'm reading more and dusting less. I'm sitting in the yard and admiring the view without fussing about the weeds in the garden.

I'm spending more time with my family and friends and less time working.Whenever possible, life should be a pattern of experiences to savor, not to endure.I'm trying to recognize these moments now and cherish them. I'm not "saving" anything; we use our good china and crystal for every special event such as losing a pound, getting the sink unstopped, or the first Amaryllis blossom. I wear my good blazer to the market. My theory is if I look prosperous, I can shell out $28.49 for one small bag of groceries. I'm not saving my good perfume for special parties, but wearing it for clerks in the hardware store and tellers at the bank."Someday" and "one of these days" are losing their grip on my vocabulary. If it's worth seeing or hearing or doing, I want to see and hear and do it now I'm not sure what others would've done had they known they wouldn't be here for the tomorrow that we all take for granted. I think they would have called family members and a few close friends. They might have called a few former friends to apologize and mend fences for past squabbles. I like to think they would have gone out for a Chinese dinner or for whatever their favorite food was.

I'm guessing; I'll never know.

It's those little things left undone that would make me angry if I knew my hours were limited. Angry because I hadn't written certain letters that I intended to write one of these days. Angry and sorry that I didn't tell my husband and parents often enough how much I truly love them. I'm trying very hard not to put off, hold back, or save anything that would add laughter and luster to our lives. And every morning when I open my eyes, I tell myself that today is special. Every day, every minute, every breath truly is a gift from God. "People say true friends must always hold hands, but true friends don't need to hold hands because they know the other hand will always be there."

Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance.

Charles Chalfin

July 18, 2005

You were my rock and voice of reason when all else was incomprehensible at work. I am thankful for the time we shared together, and the wisdom you imparted to me.I am a better person today because of your genuine concern for me and my family. Thank you for being you, and always having M&M's in your office to snack on. They really took the edge off.

Paul Haberman

July 18, 2005

Lexi,

For the brief (in years) time that we were friends, coworkers and kindred spirits, we lived a life time. You will be in my memory for the many conversations regarding things we had in common and the things that we spoke of but never completed. I will miss you.

Geri Grant

July 18, 2005

I received this from Alexandra on May 30,05. It meant so much to me I saved it in my drafts and would like to share it with you, her friends and family. May we all have her courage, strength and dignity in death. She will be greatly missed.

SHALL WE DANCE

I'm reading more and dusting less.

I'm sitting in the yard and admiring the view without fussing about the weeds in the garden.

I'm spending more time with my family and friends and less time working.

Whenever possible, life should be a pattern of experiences to savor, not to endure.

I'm trying to recognize these moments now and cherish them.

I'm not "saving" anything; we use our good china and crystal for every special event such as losing a pound, getting the sink unstopped, or the first Amaryllis blossom.

I wear my good blazer to the market. My theory is if I look prosperous, I can shell out $28.49 for one small bag of groceries. I'm not saving my good perfume for special parties, but wearing it for clerks in the hardware store and tellers at the bank.

"Someday" and "one of these days" are losing their grip on my vocabulary. If it's worth seeing or hearing or doing, I want to see and hear and do it now

I'm not sure what others would've done had they known they wouldn't be here for the tomorrow that we all take for granted. I think they would have called family members and a few close friends. They might have called a few former friends to apologize and mend fences for past squabbles. I like to think they would have gone out for a Chinese dinner or for whatever their favorite food was.

I'm guessing; I'll never know.

It's those little things left undone that would make me angry if I knew my hours were limited. Angry because I hadn't written certain letters that I intended to write one of these days. Angry and sorry that I didn't tell my husband and parents often enough how much I truly love them.

I'm trying very hard not to put off, hold back, or save anything that would add laughter and luster to our lives. And every morning when I open my eyes, I tell myself that today is special.

Every day, every minute, every breath truly is a gift from God.

"People say true friends must always hold hands, but true friends don't need to hold hands because they know the other hand will always be there."

Life may not be the party we hoped for, but while we are here we might as well dance

John Fitzgerald

July 18, 2005

I will truly cherish and deeply miss every moment I had the privilege to spend with Lexi Barr. Our time together was brief, but my love for her was infinite. I will carry you're sprit in my heart for the rest of my time. I love you. My most deepest sympathy.

Ceci Bernard-Lambert

July 18, 2005

My prayers and love go out to the family.

Lexi and I have known each other, close to 45 years. Through Lexi, I was able to hear from two other very good friends from school. I am sorry, not to have been able to see her in person once more. She will remain in my heart as I remembered her a little pixie with so much energy and her big smile.

She's at rest now, in a good place!

Rest well, my friend!

Love, Ceci Bernard-Lambert

Sandys, Bermuda

Paulette Shaffer

July 18, 2005

Alexandra,

Thank you for the wonderful memories. I was blessed to have you as a friend and I will remember you forever.

Paulette Shaffer

July 18, 2005

Alandra,

Thank you for the wonderful memories. I was blessed to have you as a friend and I will remember you forever.

Alice Meyer

July 18, 2005

She was one of the most wonderful, beautiful, lively and funny women I have ever met, and I will miss her , but the memories will last forever. Don't know who will guide me from now on.

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