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Devorah Ben-David
August 18, 2007
My beloved son,
This will be the last entry in your Legacy book at the Los Angeles Times. It strikes me as ironic that your best friend Oscar wrote the first entry in your book on your brother Ashby's 30th birthday (July 20). And now it's August 18, the 3-month anniversary of our beloved dog Moses' passing. I'm sure Moe was faithfully waiting for you in the Light, along with your dad, who also loved you so.
Since I was the first one to welcome you into this world, it is now my privilege to be the last to wish you a joyful journey back to heaven and the loving arms of God.
For weeks I have read every heartfelt word written by our friends and family. In your short lifetime on earth, you accomplished what many people never achieve. You had the courage to love and were loved in return. You used your fine mind, compassionate heart and bountiful energy to selflessly benefit others. You never turned your back on those in need, knowing the spark of G-d exists in everyone. A finer human being I have never known.
I am so proud to have been your mother on earth. I loved you from the moment I first set eyes on you. I love you now and I will love you forever. Love is not something we "lose," dear Patrick. It is an incredible gift from G-d, a strong spiritual thread that connects us to each other throughout eternity.
Thank you for the way you warmed my heart with your beautiful smile and infectious laughter. Thank you for letting me see you take your baby first steps. Thank you for singing me the songs that you wrote for your band in high school and college. Thank you for being my best friend, who never faltered. In short, thank you for loving me.
Rest in peace, my sweet son, until we meet again.
Your loving Mom xoxo
Aunt Jan & Uncle Don Malcolm
August 18, 2007
Dear Patrick,
I wanted to write a note to you in your Legacy book again, to say "good-bye." But it's not a real good-bye because you are always in my thoughts and in my heart.
Throughout my life, I will continue to pray for you both day and night. I love you so very, very much and will always be your great aunt and godmother. In my heart I know that God is blessing you and I have faith that we will meet again someday. That day will be so wonderful because I will get to see my precious godson again.
May the peace of the Lord always be with you, dear Patrick.
Love and kisses,
Aunt Jan & Uncle Don
Ashby Hare
August 18, 2007
Pat,
I can't imagine life without my brother, so this is very hard for me to write. I think of you everyday and it's hard to accept that you're really gone. Three months ago you were showing Mom and me your latest card tricks, eating dinner with me at Kabuto Japanese Restaurant and helping me give Mom the best Mother's Day ever in Richmond.
It was comforting to know that I had a brother like you in this world. Even though you lived in Los Angeles and I lived in Richmond, we'd call each other on the cell phone and talk about what was going on in our lives.
Remember kidding around in the hospital while waiting for my daughter Madison to be born? And last December when we helped her make Playdough fish in Mom's dining room? You really loved Madison and that meant a lot to me. Thanks for always being there for your family.
You were a good person, Pat, and I'm very proud of you. I know you're in heaven with Dad and Moses now. And I also know that we'll see each other again someday. But at this moment all I can say is, "I miss you, dude."
Forever your brother,
Love,
Ashby
Madison Clark-Hare
August 18, 2007
Dear Uncle Patrick,
Thanks for all my Halloween costumes and for being the best uncle a five-year-old could ever have. You will always be my uncle and I will never forget you, especially on Halloween!
I love you!!
Hugs and kisses,
Madison
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Mary Kate [and Madison] Clark
August 17, 2007
Speaking on behalf of Madison and myself, I can only try to share something of our experience. It isn't easy; something seems inadequate to my words. But we did know him and I would want it to be understood... who we knew and loved ...and something of our loss. I anticipated so many moments ahead as Madison, now five years old, grows up, ...and always with her Uncle Patrick there along the way.... as he has been... for both of us... and has been simply wonderful as a friend, brother and uncle. Things are forever changed.
Suddenly, there is an immeasurable void and the persistent awareness of the tremendous weight and sense of loss, of slowly coming to know Patrick's absence. He has been a partner, a playmate, a hero, an inspiration; as family and friend to both myself and Madison. He was a gift. Utterly beautiful, genuine, musical, just, loving, so willing to give something of himself, ready for a laugh, smiling one of his many smiles always. He was there... through such times, precious events and great difficulties. The future feels so distorted and I am so sorry to lose the future that promised a much longer story of Patrick and the brightness he carried, [even over the telephone]. I tried to explain to Madison, ...there was some particular music lingering in my mind at the time, otherwise my head was more filled with questions than answers... but I used that song and played it for Madison and we hugged and cried and said goodbye to Uncle Patrick. We love him. We miss him. There was something shining and very special about him.
...
To Patrick, thank you...
Barbara Angove
August 17, 2007
I met Patrick as a little boy while he was visiting his Grandmother Hartenstein in Milwaukee, WI. I remember being amused by the delightful way in which he seemed to take-in every moment, and to enjoy every little thing that went on around him. I know through conversations with his Uncle Craig, and Aunt Theresa, that they were extremely proud of the young man he had grown to be, and that he brought much pleasure to his family and to all who were lucky enough to have met him. I saw pictures of him through the years, and understand that he was as beautiful on the inside as he was on the outside. His Aunt Theresa repeatedly discribed him as completely engaging in conversation and presence. I pray his family and friends will soon be able to hold dear the joyous memories of their precious time with Patrick and to know, in their heart, that Patrick's life was not wasted but well-lived. He was a shining star, and his glow will never be extinguished.
Barbara Angove
Sister-in-law to dear Patrick's Uncle Craig.
James Frank
August 13, 2007
Dear Mrs. Hare,
I new Patrick only briefly, as He cast me as an extra for a couple of fun shoots. Would like You to know however that in our short conversations, Patrick was always the professional and a kind soul. (Not always found in that business), and it meant a lot to me.
My condolences,
James
Allan and Karen Ratzel
August 11, 2007
I didn't know Patrick, but after recently marrying Patrick's uncle, Allan, I became Patrick's new Aunt Karen. I met Patrick's mother when Allan and I drove through Virginia in 2004. Devorah was gracious during our visit and kind to show me some precious family pictures while we were there. She had sent me a picture of Patrick before Christmas, which was still up in our dining room when this excruciating tragedy happened. It's hard to give as much support and caring as I'd like to. No one knows all the pain of loss that this has brought for his family and friends. Please know that Allan and I are thinking of all of Patrick's family and friends with sympathy, sending hugs, praying for their comfort and hoping for them to fill a special corner of their heart with a peace in remembering the joy of having Patrick in their lives. Patrick, I wish I could have met you. May your spirit be free as you soar with the angels toward the light. If anyone reads this who has pictures of Patrick on their pc, please upload them here for the rest of us to see, thank you.
Allan and Karen Ratzel

Patrick with his beloved dog Moses in May 2007
Mom
August 9, 2007
Today is my 55th birthday; the first one without you, my beloved son, in 28-years.
You were always the first person to call and wish me a "Happy Birthday." Your birthday calls always ended with an, "I love you Mom. Happy Birthday."
On my last birthday you called to tell me you were "sending a little 'Kuba Kuba' my way" (a local Cuban restaurant in our neighborhood)." You told me a gift card was waiting for me there. You delivered your news with such joy in your voice.
This morning, just after daybreak, you gave me another gift. One that I had prayed to be given the night before. Your gift was the gift of a hug in my dreams...
We were standing on the sandy shores of Venice Beach (where your California memorial was), when you turned to give me a hug. It was a beautiful day with baby blue skies, brilliant sunlight and the soothing sound of the ocean surrounding us.
I remember our hug so vividly and how healthy you appeared as you walked towards me. I sat up in my bed, which is oppostie a large mirror, and did not recognize the woman in the reflection. But it was me with a smile on my face.
This was the first dream I remembered, and the first smile on my face upon waking up, since your untimely passing on May 27, 2007.
Thank you for making my birthday wish come true, Patrick, by visiting me in my dreams. Feeling your arms fold around me, once again, was an incredible gift.
"I love you more than even one more day."
And I miss you more than all the grains of sand in all the oceans of the world.
Your loving Mom xoxo
Nicole Baumann
August 8, 2007
Patrick H from the octogon,
I still can't believe that we will never eat Calamari again together, it seems so unreal to me. You made every night at work feel as though I was not really at a job. You had the best laugh, and were such a committed friend. I miss you so much. I will always love you.
Nicole B from section 3
John Jantzen
August 7, 2007
Patrick was a very nice guy with a big heart. He was a close friend of mine and I will really miss spending time with him. I will never forget our friend Patrick Hare.
Stacey Jackson
August 6, 2007
I did not know Patrick, but he has left an imprint in my heart. I am touched by his life and I am blessed to have met his mother. May Patrick's spirit and passion continue to live in all of us.
Deborah & Danny Geter
August 4, 2007
I missed your voice and your smiling face. No more emails. And no more phone calls. But, I will never forget you. God will take care of you and continue to bless your family & friends....
You will never be forgotten.....
Deborah Geter
August 4, 2007
I was so sorry to hear of your loss. The thoughts of many are with you at this time of sorrow.
Shauna Spellman
August 2, 2007
Patrick was such a hard working and professional person to work with at In the Loop Casting. I did not know him for very long but I appreciate the time that I did know him. My thoughts and prayers are with him and his family at this very difficult time. I am sure that he is at peace now. It appears from the memories of others that he touched many lives in his short life. I know that he touched mine. Thank you for the opportunity Patrick and may you enjoy eternal life.
forrest Reda
August 2, 2007
i'll miss you buddy...
thanks for the work and the good times. I wish i could have made the party you threw when i was in Yosemite, or that we could have gone to a concert together.
Go in peace...you will be missed by lots of people, my friend.
ps-
sorry for the times i was late to set.
: )
Hugh Silver
August 2, 2007
I was shocked and saddened to learn of the untimely death of Patrick. I had never met him personally, but I know he was a real mensch to all who knew him, a loving son and brother. My very sincere condolences and deepest sympathy to Devorah and Ashby - may The Lord grant both of you 'Long Life', comfort and peace, and when you remember Patrick, it should be with happiness and pleasure.
Martha Calais
August 2, 2007
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
AliceInChains.com Team
August 2, 2007
To Devorah, it was an honour to be asked by you to be a part of Patrick's legacy. Although never having met him, reading the previous entries we can catch a glimpse of the young man that was your son and how he touched other's lives. "...Into the flood again..."
Jacob Hollander
August 1, 2007
I did not know Patrick for long, but in the short time I did I knew him to be very giving, genuine, enthusiastic, and generally a fun person to be around. I had looked forward to working with Patrick and his death came as a shock. But the work continues on and the memory of Patrick Hare will not soon be forgotten.
Adam Weirich
August 1, 2007
Patrick,
It was a pleasure to live with you during my first few years in LA. You were a great roommate and a greate friend. Always upbeat and positive, you will be missed.
Hans Hernke
July 31, 2007
Patrick -
My good mentor, and friend. You lived only a few blocks away from my apartment, you called me when you neede help, or just some good company. I miss those calls dude! I miss the "Hey Hans!! Whatcha up to?" You were so positive and happy.
You did so much for me man, you helped me make it through the end of last year financially with all those fun jobs you gave me with "In The Loop", and that awesome 3 day SAG Visa commercial back in February! Good times dude!
Patrick, not only were you a great business person but you were a wonderful friend to me. You were never selfish, you were caring, understanding and patient. I will sorely miss working with you, visiting you at your place.
Patrick, even though you are in another, better place right now, I will see you again someday! Make sure to save me a spot at the big banquet table in Heaven, ok bud?
You may not be with us anymore, but Patrick, your spirit of kindness, fiendship and love will always be with us, and we will never forget it!!
Take care my friend!!
God Bless, Hans Hernke
Danielle Munday
July 31, 2007
Dearest Devorah, I cannot express the sadness and shock felt when you called to tell me of Patrick’s passing. I always remembered Patrick as a care-free, cute, laughing, and funny boy back in Rock Hill; a boy with so much going for him. To you and Ashby I send all my love and healing prayers, to Patrick I send a fervent wish for peace.
Eric Klemen
July 30, 2007
My good friend, Patrick.
I still struggle with the fact that you've moved on from this world. Perhaps because we lost touched over the years, but I always remember those years we spent together in Richmond as some of the best years in my life. You were greatly talented, and it's awesome to hear that you used your passion to inspire others. I regret not keeping in touch to see how your life progressed and to share your many successes. Even though we missed those opportunities, I still feel you're watching over your friends and family who love and miss you dearly. I'll never forget you and the fun times we had.
Your friend,
Eric
Mark Tippmann
July 30, 2007
To a great friend. You always had a smile on your face and was always upbeat. Thanks for all the memories. We will all miss you and will never forget you.
Ryan Chatel
July 30, 2007
Patrick was an amazing individual who always inspired his actors to achieve everything they ever wanted in life. Patrick was a hard working colleague and friend. You will be missed, and forever 'in the loop'.
Nancy Bell
July 29, 2007
I was with Devorah when she got the news of Patrick's death, and her world crashed around her. I was with her for the next few days in Charleston as we made all the "arrangements" and tried to make sense out of madness. When I returned home, I came across some old photos of Patrick taken on a trip to Florida. He is holding a baby alligator, and on his face one can see the delight he took in doing something he had never done before, something he might have been just a bit frightened to do. I will always think of Patrick as that smiling little boy full of life and dreams. There are no words to express everything that I feel so I'll just say this: Patrick, I promise always to be there for your mother.
Marlene Buker
July 29, 2007
Patrick - I never met you but I just spent the most wonderful day with your mother wandering through an Art Festival in the Park in a small town in southern MN. By listening to your mother share stories about you and your determination and love for your fellow man, I feel like I would have been blessed to know you. Your mother and I have something in common, we have both lost a son in his mid-20's. My son, Cory, died on May 26, 1998. It sounds like you and Cory had a lot in common and now you have joined him to "dance with the angels." Devorah and Ashby, my deepest sympathy to you both. Devorah - you are a good mom, may the Lord continue to lift you up, carry you when you need to be carried, comfort you through this sorrowful time, and give you peace as you continue on life's journey.
April Montgomery
July 28, 2007
Patrick was always upbeat, energetic, and sweet. His enthusiastic personality was contagious. He was so easy to be around. Thank you Patrick for blessing us with your kindness. We will miss your smiling face!
Eric Shackelford
July 28, 2007
Patrick was one of the nicest people I've met since moving to Los Angeles. We had some good laughs when I worked with him and he also booked me on some really cool gigs. You can see him in the Cingular commercial with Forrest Whitaker that plays before movies at AMC theatres all over the country, and also on TV from time to time. He will be sadly missed because of his genuine heart, which is hard to find anymore. Bless you for being you.
Brooke Coccia
July 26, 2007
I think about you everyday and miss my bestfriend! I will always love you! I will always hold tightly to the memories I have of you.
Amy Warren
July 26, 2007
I was shocked and deeply saddened to hear that Patrick had passed away. You were such a great guy, Patrick. Thanks for your smile, your kind words and magic tricks! It was an honor to know you and to have worked with you on several different movies, tv shows and music videos. I felt lucky that our paths crossed, if only for a very brief time. I extend my deepest sympathy to your family and want them to know how special you were to me. Amy Warren (Los Angeles)
Alvin e'
July 26, 2007
Pat was a very good friend and Casting Director to me. He has never let me down. You will be greatly Missed Big Dawg and may God forever be with you and your family =)
Larry Tritten
July 25, 2007
I only knew Patrick vicariously through the stories his mother told about him, always delivered with pride and pleasure.
I've been around the world with Devorah (as a fellow travelwriter)to such places as the British West Indies, Malta, Amsterdam, San Antonio, Nashville and Jamaica.
But I did talk to Patrick once on the phone. I think it was when he was considering temporarily relocating to his friend Oscar's home near Sacramento before heading for Los Angeles.
But..."What Dreams May Come" it's also true that "Whatever Will Be Will Be."
I know that Patrick will live on in his mother's mind and heart. My condolences to the entire family.
Craig Hartenstein
July 25, 2007
I held you in my arms when you were only 3 months old. When you were eight I played baseball with you on the front lawn and when you were 22 I sat with you, talking about music, girls and the future. Those memories will be with me forever. I only wish there would have more. I hope you find peace where ever you are.
Uncle Craig
Nathan Barton
July 24, 2007
Patrick Hare was probably one of the most genuinely nice guys I think I had ever met. It would challenge anyone to come up with one quality about him that most would not deem respectable or admirable.
I first met Patrick when I was 15 years old, and despite our ups and downs, band or not, I have always thought of him as one of the best friends I have known.
I miss you Pat.
Sheila Manning
July 24, 2007
It’s hard to put the sadness aside to write about the dear and wonderful person who was such a wonderful addition to our lives.
He walked in my door, unannounced and unknown, and immediately set about helping.
Because that’s who Patrick was – the helper, the fixer, the friend, the trustworthy, the guy who always came through.
And was always loved by everyone who met him for even the briefest time.
I see Patrick in my mind’s eye grinning that sweet ,not quite tentative, smile. I see him talking to Dr. Mike about magic (and bringing in tricks to share). I see him helping in the office (and he was good). I see him excited about creating his company. And doing a good job with it .
I see the vulnerable Patrick and the in-charge Patrick.
He wanted to help everyone – and he succeeded. He was my first call when I needed someone in the office, and no matter what time I called, day or night, he came through.
But mostly, I see the friend Patrick – the boy who sat in my backyard with me and the dogs having lunch. The sweet Patrick, the fun Patrick, the interesting and interested Patrick.
The Patrick that we loved and will never forget.
Sheila
Nikki Musick
July 23, 2007
I miss you Patrick every day. I have so many great memories of us that I will cherish forever. I love you and you will forever have a place in my heart.
Cynthia Calvert
July 23, 2007
I did not have the pleasure of meeting Patrick but knowing Devorah, I am certain he was determined, smart, funny and thoughtful, just as his mother is. I send my sympathy and prayers to Devorah and all of Patrick's family at this sad time. Cynthia Calvert
Theresa Hartenstein
July 22, 2007
A few years ago while visiting with Patrick, I told him that he should consider one of the professions his Mother would have loved to see him in...a doctor. I said to him, "you should consider this, because of your lovely bedside manner". I meant it, he was so very charming that everytime I saw him, I fell in love just a bit. I know that Devorah's heart is broken, and indeed, any of us that knew Patrick will feel the void for the rest of our lives. Via Con Dios, sweetie.
Aunt Theresa
Yale Zamore
July 22, 2007
I remember you as if it were yesterday. You are missed in ways and by people you never knew would do so in life. I know you are in a good place and among those who cherish you.
Bill Mulholland
July 22, 2007
Patrick was a gracious and gifted gentleman. I know that his mother, Devorah, has been utterly devastated by his untimely decease, as have the rest of his family and friends. My sincerest condolences go to all of you.
Bill Mulholland,
Oslo,
Norway
Murray & Barbara Steinberg
July 22, 2007
To The Extended Hare Family & Friends of Patrick,
May your feel the strength of God's loving arms around you as you grieve your loss of Patrick. His beautiful spirit will be missed by all of us who knew him.
Cambria Hankin
July 22, 2007
Patrick -
This city ain't easy, this business a crazy one. Your skin was tough, but your heart was golden. Our shoes my friend were so much the same, I learned today at your memorial. Oh how I wish I knew sooner. How I wish I could have shared all that I know my new shoes I have found, I would have found a pair for you.
When your ashes were spread it was so surreal, I finally shed those tears. But speak I couldn't to many things in my head, she was around, enough said.
What Dreams May Come, oh you have no idea. I still am counting on you up there to get me SAG. What Dreams May Come I wish I had shared. The Actor, the singer, the entrepreneur.
A void in our lives is what we have now, but see you soon we will. You and Moses have fun because when my time comes I will be looking for you.
A poet I am not, but it's the best I can do for trying to say I will miss you.
July 21, 2007
Dear Patrick (our Godson): I remember the last time I talked to you; and you said to me-I love you Aunt Jan. How happy I was to hear those words from you. We think of you everyday and you will be with us in our hearts forever. We were honored to be your Godparents and to have you for our nephew. Always, always; we remember you. Go with God, dear Patrick. Love, Uncle Don & Aunt Jan.
Gloria Hartenstein
July 21, 2007
My dear Patrick: Not a day goes by that I don't think of you; and hope that you are now at peace. I love you from the first time that I saw you and all the times we were together; you were a joy. You were my little Pat-wick. God love you, Your grandma.
Robert Lewis
July 21, 2007
I knew Patrick on both a business and personal level, and in all the time I knew him, I never saw him without a smile on his face. His energy was indefatigable, and I enjoyed his friendship immensely. I will miss him very much
Earl and Dawn Friend
July 21, 2007
We are saddened by Patrick's passing for he will be missed by his family and friends. As noted, he is now enjoying eternity and we are all blessed for knowing him. To Ashby and Devorah we send our special condolences. Love in eternity.
Kyle Humphrey
July 21, 2007
I knew Patrick for about four years and he was such a good friend to me. Life in LA can be tough for struggling actors, but I could always count on Patrick to pick me up or make me smile whenever times were tough. He was a very sweet guy who always reached out to help others. I will miss Patrick's laugh, his stories, his energy and his passionate way of pursuing life. Although he was with us for only a short time his memory will live on forever in the hearts of many. May you rest in peace Patrick my dear friend. I will miss you greatly.
Mom
July 20, 2007
I love you and I miss you, from the very depths of my soul, my dear Patrick.
Being your mother, for 28 precious years, was one of God's greatest gifts to me. I had the priviledge of seeing you grow into manhood and bravely pursue your dreams.
Reflecting upon your life has made me want to become the person God intended me to be both personally and professionally. I promise to "swing for the fences" (your favorite saying) in all that I do, knowing you'll be there cheering me on.
May the Lord bless and keep you in the heavenly realm, my sweet son, until we meet again.
I love you,
James and Shirley Clark
July 20, 2007
We will all miss Patrick. He was a devoted son, a loving uncle to Madison and a friend to all who knew him. Our heartfelt sympathy to Devorah Ben David and his family. Godspeed Patrick.
Oscar Moncada
July 20, 2007
I'm missing you old friend.
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