Alice Whitecotton Barry

1923 - 2018

Alice Whitecotton Barry obituary, 1923-2018, La Jolla, CA

Alice Whitecotton Barry

1923 - 2018

BORN

1923

DIED

2018

Alice Barry Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Sep. 6, 2018.
Alice (Cita) Whitecotton Barry May 4, 1923 - August 1, 2018 La Jolla Alice (Cita) Whitecotton Barry passed away peacefully in her home on the morning of August 1, 2018, after a brave struggle with lung cancer. She was born to Jay Arthur Whitecotton and Helen Tiebout Whitecotton in Valparaiso, Chile in 1923. The family returned to New York City when Cita was six and settled in Southport, CT. They relocated to Paris, France when she was in her early teens. While in Paris, Cita was educated in French schools. She returned to the United States to finish at The Masters School, Dobbs Ferry, NY and Smith College, where she was nominated a Sophia Smith scholar and elected to Phi Beta Kappa.During the war years, Cita served as a Red Cross Nurse's Aide at Columbia Presbyterian Hospital in New York City and Cooley Dickinson Hospital in Northampton, MA.Cita worked at John Wiley and Sons Publishers in New York as an advertising copywriter and book jacket designer before marrying Ensign James Halford Barry, USN, her husband of 69 years. They were married in Paris, where her family had returned after the war. Cita followed her husband's ship around post-war Italy and Southern France before shipping home on the SS Marine Falcon, a converted Liberty Ship with a load of British war brides.During the next 30 years of Navy life, Cita and Jim made homes in Norfolk, VA; Annapolis, MD; New London, CT; Key West, FL; Monterey, CA; Kailua, Hawaii; Paris, France; Newport, RI; Virginia Beach, VA; San Diego and San Francisco. During one of Jim's Western Pacific deployments, Cita packed up her children and sailed across the Pacific on a military transport to Japan. She rented a tea house on an estate in Hayama where the family lived local style for five months.Cita loved Hawaii, and engaged in numerous volunteer activities, including teaching art to children at the Honolulu Academy of Arts, and bringing live theatre to elementary schools throughout the State, particularly to the outer islands. San Diego became the family's permanent home after Jim's retirement. Cita and Jim became avid campers, exploring the wilderness in Nevada, Utah and Idaho. They also traveled to far away China, Russia, Tibet, Africa and South America. After chartering in Tahiti, the Seychelles and the Bay of Islands, Honduras, sailing became a passion. Cita bought her dream boat, Gypsy Queen, a custom-made Bristol Channel Cutter. Cita and Jim made many trips to the Channel Islands and sailed the coast of Baja California and the Sea of Cortez.Cita loved gardening and planted fruit trees everywhere she lived. She also enjoyed painting and sketching and was an accomplished pianist. She was a volunteer for Meals on Wheels for a number of years, served two terms on the Athenaeum Board of Trustees and worked briefly as a real estate agent and as a bookseller at John Cole's Book Shop. She was a member of the Junior League of San Diego, the Zoological Society, the San Diego Museum of Art and the Athenaeum.Cita was predeceased by her husband in 2016. She leaves behind her five children, Susan Barry Hooper (Stephen), Charlotte Barry-Williams (Dirk), Edith Blinn Barry, James Halford Barry, Jr. and Peter Craik Barry (Nellie), four grandchildren and one great-grandchild.A Memorial Service will be held on September 8, 2018, at 11:00 a.m. at the chapel of St. James by-the-Sea Episcopal Church in La Jolla. Please sign the guest book online at legacy.com/obituaries/ lajollalight .

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October 16, 2018

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September 18, 2018

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September 18, 2018

AND GOD CARES posted to the memorial.

October 16, 2018

My sincere condolences to the family,may you find comfort in the God of all comfort during this difficult time

September 18, 2018

So sorry for your loss. When someone you love becomes a memory the memory become a treasure so treasure the memory.
Matt 5:4,5

BC~
California

AND GOD CARES

September 18, 2018

MAY YOU FIND COMFORT IN KNOWING THAT ALL THOSE WHO DIED ARE IN GOD MEMORY BECAUSE THEY ARE PRECIOUS IN HIS EYES.REMEMBER GOD DOES CARES 1 PETER 5:6,7

September 10, 2018

Psalms 90:10 says that the days of our years are 70 years, And if because of special mightiness they are 80 years. May the memories of the wonderful times you shared together bring a smile and joy in your heart.

Karen

September 9, 2018

To the family and friends of Alice Whitecotton, please accept my condolences. May you find comfort knowing that those who died,God keeps them in his memory. And at Psalms 116:15 they are precious in his eyes.

September 9, 2018

As you remember your love one, as God heals your broken hearts (Psalm 147:3), may your treasured memories bring you peace, comfort, and strength to endure.

Kerri Klein

September 9, 2018

We will always remember Cita (and Jim) as our wonderful next door neighbor(s) in La Jolla. Our fond memories of Cita will include seeing her outside pretty much daily, gardening in a dress and apron... always wearing a dress...I dont think I ever saw her in slacks...she was the epitome of the old fashioned sensibility of the next door neighbor...bringing us the fruits of her labor...even once bringing us honey in it's comb straight from her yard...we didnt even know there were bees there! We loved the wild berries she grew. Because our houses were so close, only separated by a narrow driveway, we often heard the piano playing or the teaching of piano to a student. We miss our home at Olivetas and Cita (and Jim...out front in the driveway fixing his car) will always be a part of our wonderful memories there. It was a joy reading her obituary...wow, there is so much we didnt know...what a wonderful and full life she lived. Our healing thoughts go out to her family during this time of loss and sorrow.

Kerri Klein and Mark Wiesner

September 8, 2018

To the Family: May you find strength to cope with the loss of your dearly loved one from the God of all comfort, who has promised to comfort and strengthen you during this difficult and sadden time of loss . 2 Cor. 1:3,

September 8, 2018

I am so sorry for the loss of your loved one. My hope in prayers for the entire family are abundant. Please see psalm 9:9,10 to see God's desire to take care of you. He's the God that brings immense comfort and real hope for a happy future.

September 8, 2018

Psalms 90:10 says that the days of our years are 70 years, And if because of special mightiness they are 80 years. May the memories of the wonderful times you shared together bring a smile and joy in your heart.

September 8, 2018

Psalms 90:10 says that the days of our years are 70 years, And if because of special mightiness they are 80 years. May the memories of the wonderful times you shared together bring a smile and joy in your heart.

September 7, 2018

TO THE FAMILY. I AM TRULY SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS. MAY THE GOD OF ALL COMFORT BE WITH YOU AT THIS TIME. JEREMIAH 29:11.

MARY RAYES

September 6, 2018

Bless you, dear Cita, as a warm, sweet and much valued member of our little Spanish group, The Tertulia. Throughout these many (20+) years you have been a most gracious hostess, hospitable and welcoming. Your company was a sheer delight, and you were an inspiration. I loved seeing you ride up in your, much cherished, Peugeot. What a wonderful life you've enjoyed. Once you told me that, "everyone of your children was a delight." You were blessed and so were they. God Speed, Mary Rayes

Arthur Powers

August 27, 2018

As a Whitecotton-Powers nephew of Aunt Cita, I shall always remember her depth of soul being at least as vast as her comprehensive intellect, her caring for each of her children, and for her sister, my Mother, Helen W. Powers. Springing from the same soil, both proved in countless ways extraordinary spirits not ever to be forgotten, or otherwise lost, in the "hazy ruins of time." As with their Mother and Father, and Aunt Cita's husband, our Uncle Jim, both were in their respective ways intrepid, powerful individuals. Aunt Cita's potent humility and love of culture was especially noteworthy among her many gifts in her expansive pantheon of great qualities. She passes from us loved beyond expression.
- Arthur Whitecotton Powers (Denver)

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