C. Robert "Bob" Wray

C. Robert "Bob" Wray

C. Wray Obituary

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MASHPEE — C. Robert (Bob) Wray, K.M, 78, of North Falmouth and Mashpee, formerly of Naples, Fla., died Aug. 30, 2008, at his Mashpee residence, after a long illness.

Born in Brooklyn, N.Y., Bob was educated at Brooklyn Technical High School. He attended University of Notre Dame, where he played basketball and received his Bachelor of Arts in History in 1952. The following year, he was awarded a fellowship for graduate study and coached freshman basketball.

Navy service from 1953 to 1958 followed. He was discharged at the rank of lieutenant in the U.S. Naval Reserves, after serving abroad the USS O'Brien LD 725 in the Pacific Fleet and instructor at Officers Candidate School in Newport, R.I. His Master of Arts from Notre Dame in Modern European History was completed in 1958 after his discharge.

Bob devoted his life after the Navy to 38 years of working with and guiding young people of the teenage years, first at Canterbury School in New Milford, Conn., where he spent seven years as Walter Sheehan's assistant headmaster. That was followed by seven years as headmaster of Villa Duschene, Convent of the Sacred Heart, in St. Louis, Mo. His last school was Stoneleigh Burnham School for girls in Greenfield, where he was headmaster for 18 years.

In retirement, he authored a book "St. Thomas More at the Millenium," published in 2001.

He was a Knight of Malta, parishioner of St. Elizabeth Seton Church in North Falmouth and St. Williams in Naples, Fla. He was the past president of Athletic Directors of Western Connecticut; president of Independent Schools of St. Louis, Mo.; member of recently formed N.D. Club of Naples; president of N.D. Class of 1952 during their 50th Anniversary; and member of the Pocasset Golf Club.

During his 10 years living in Naples, he taught Elizabethan and Tudor Periods of History for three years at Ave Maria University of Naples, Fla., in the continuing education department.

Bob is survived by his loving wife of 53 years, Paula Roche Wray; daughters, Kathanne Wray Fowler and her husband, Robert Fowler III, of West Hartford, Conn., and Maura Wray Leddy and her husband, John W. Leddy, of Raynham; most devoted grandfather of Chesleigh and Julia Fowler and Patrick "P.J." and Tierney Leddy. He was predeceased by his son, Chris Wray, in 1997, and his daughter, Sheila Marie, in 1966.

Visiting hours are Tuesday, Sept. 9, from 4 to 8 p.m., in the Chapman, Cole & Gleason Funeral Home, 548 Route 28A, West Falmouth. A funeral Mass will be held on Wednesday, at 11 a.m., in St. Elizabeth Seton Church, Quaker Road, North Falmouth. Interment will follow in North Falmouth Cemetery.

In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to Hospice & Palliative Care of Cape Cod, 765 Attucks Lane, Hyannis, MA 02601.

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September 9, 2008

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Tad Shay

September 9, 2008

Dear Paula, Kathanne and Maura:
My deepest sympathy to you and extended Wray family. Bob was a wonderful man and I know you will miss him so, however, his good life and daily example should sustain you all in the days and years ahead. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Love,
Tad

kathy mulhern

September 8, 2008

Maura, Jack, Tierney & PJ,
Our thoughts are with you. Sorry for your loss.
The Mulhern family

Mike Casey

September 5, 2008

Mr. Wray,
Sir, I would just like to say thank you for your service and sacrifice for our Country when you served with the USN as a "Tin Can Sailor" aboard the destroyer USS O'Brien during the Cold War. Millions Of Americans slept safe at night because you and your fellow servicemen stood ready to defend our Country. And to your family and loved ones, I wish to extend my deepest sympathy.

Fair Winds And Following Seas

Bob Trehearne

September 5, 2008

In loving memory of a special guy. Thanks for all the memories from ND basketball and the more recent conversations at the 50th and 55th reunion.
Bob Trehearne ND 1952

Charles and Mary Ann Falkenberg

September 5, 2008

We lose a good friend of many years and our prayers go to his loving family.

J S

September 5, 2008

To my dearest family, some things I'd like to say...
but first of all, to let you know, that I arrived okay.
I'm writing this from heaven. Here I dwell with God above.
Here, there's no more tears of sadness; here is just eternal love.

Please do not be unhappy just because I'm out of sight.
Remember that I'm with you every morning, noon and night.
That day I had to leave you when my life on earth was through,
God picked me up and hugged me and He said, ""I welcome you.""

It's good to have you back again; you were missed while you were gone.
As for your dearest family, they'll be here later on.
I need you here badly; you're part of my plan.
There's so much that we have to do, to help our mortal man.

God gave me a list of things, that he wished for me to do.
And foremost on the list, was to watch and care for you.
And when you lie in bed at night, the day's chores put to flight.
God and I are closest to you....in the middle of the night.

When you think of my life on earth, and all those loving years
because you are only human, they are bound to bring you tears.
But do not be afraid to cry; it does relieve the pain.
Remember there would be no flowers, unless there was some rain.

I wish that I could tell you all that God has planned.
But if I were to tell you, you wouldn't understand.
But one thing is for certain, though my life on earth is o'er.
I'm closer to you now, than I ever was before.

There are many rocky roads ahead of you and many hills to climb;
but together we can do it by taking one day at a time.
It was always my philosophy and I'd like it for you too...
that as you give unto the world, the world will give to you.

If you can help somebody who's in sorrow and pain,
then you can say to God at night......""My day was not in vain.""
And now I am contented....that my life has been worthwhile,
knowing as I passed along the way, I made somebody smile.

So if you meet somebody who is sad and feeling low,
just lend a hand to pick him up, as on your way you go.
When you're walking down the street, and you've got me on your mind;
I'm walking in your footsteps only half a step behind.

And when it's time for you to go.... from that body to be free,
remember you're not going.....you're coming here to me.

Ruth Ann Mahaffey (author)
©Copyright 1998-2008

Bill/Vicki Holland

September 5, 2008

May God bless you and your family in this time of sorrow.

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