Cheryl Miller Obituary

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I seemed to miss you more every day. I just expect to answer the phone when it rings and find you calling. Cheryl you could light up a room with your sweet spirit., and that spirit is missed. Karolyn and Cathy are taking me to lunch today for my birthday and that 4th seat will leave a void. I also want you to know you were so missed at my birthday party. You would have laughed until you cried at all the stories about me in my wilder, younger youth but then you would have said "I'm not surprise she's still wild in her old age. You are special. Cathy said she saw a butterfly fly by the day you died so now when I see a butterfly I will always think of you. Love and miss you, Fran

You were taken from so many of us too many years too soon, Cheryl. What you've given in your lifetime is more than most of us can ever give. Your poetry expresses so much of who you are & how much love you have for others. To know you is a treasure. The beautiful memories you've given, especially to your Rex, are SO extraordinary. To know you is to love you, Cheryl. We were so blessed having you.............now Heaven is.
With heartfelt love for you & your family,
~Janet & Ken Manell

Friendships are something that you have to work at. They don"t just happen or last if you don't. I'm so glad we took the time and knew the importance and the rewards that it would bring us. I wish I had known the depth of your heart where all your beautiful writings came from. Please write one for me now wherever you are.

Dear Cheryl,
There is a void in our hearts since you passed. The memories of good times have helped ease the pain of losing a good friend. Friends having lunch, shopping and maybe a glass of wine to complete the day. Where ever I go, I will stop and say we miss you Cheryl.
Cheryl Miller, now an angel, and always a friend.
Karolyn & John

Cheryl - Musing #37

Some people are wise
Some people are foolish
Many people live for life
Others merely exist
And more are sad
Some are optimistic
Some are pessimistic
Some people are lucky
Some people are unfortunate
Some people have beauty
And then a few have wealth
Most experience pain
Others will only have health
Others are happy
A few are honest
Others are perfidious
Some are creative
Others are untalented
Some people have no religion
Yet many more believe in God
Most get married
Others never share the joy

But all I can say is that you are
all of these and if my life was to
be condensed into one moment,
one experience, one true spark of life,
all I ask is that it be of you


Cheryl Ann Miller

Our beautiful Cheryl,

We will never forget what a thoughtful, caring, and loving woman you were. You have always been an absolutely amazing wife, mother, grandmother, sister, and friend. We are all so very thankful that we were able to share in your life and your light for the time that we did.

Missing you already,

The Connor and Phoenix families

Hey there, pretty lady!

We know you're sharing that bright beautiful smile of yours with Aunt Alice and Uncle Coy up in heaven, but we're sure going to miss seeing it down here.

All our love,

The Connor and Phoenix families

Cheryl,
It is with such sadness that we write this note now that you have left us.
However, with such appreciation for all the wonderful memories you have given us to remember always. I will never forget our journey from our first meeting years ago as neighbors on Oak Hill and the amazing times we shared over a glass of wine, a hilarious laugh, a pleasant conversation, an amazing dinner, wine tasting adventures, a memorable vacation, an afternoon Octoberfest, a construction project, a get together with friends, a ballgame, shopping trip, or theatre performance, and yes, several demolition projects creating outrageous messes and uncontrollable belly laughs.
You and Rex have added such color to our lives that can never be taken away.
The memory of your great smile, welcoming arms, and amazing personality will always be with us. We love you and will miss you terribly. It is inconceivable the sorrow Rex and Chad must now deal with. We know that the love and memories you shared with each other will make the journey easier to bear. There is no doubt that somewhere in the great beyond you are making preparations for a much greater journey than the one left behind.
We love and miss you.

Dearest Cheryl,
I write this note because I will miss you. I will miss swapping recipes and sharing cuttings of plants from our gardens, you called them "Friendship Plants".

Halloweens will always remind me of you and the goofy times we had racing to the door to check out our little costumed visitors - we Oohed and Aahhed. I need to mention the blinking lights that were remembered by trick or treaters for years - thanks Rex.

You and Rex were so wonderful in helping us move to our new home. Both of you tackled the kitchen - lined our shelves and organized our cabinets...And then there's the Tupperware. Frowning at the site of my ancient miss-matched Tupperware, you suggested I toss them all out. Well, every time I see the ancient collection in my kitchen I have thought of you with a smile.

A vineyard is what you wanted for Steve. You said, when you win the lottery you would buy him one.

There was a wonderful gift waiting for me in the form of a telephone message in March. You called to tell me "You loved me". Thank you.

Cheryl, you have enriched my life. We had laughter, serious talks, tears and cheers. God hold you tight.
Your Friend Always,
Irene

Cheryl - Musing #39

When two people say their marriage vows,
It's such a magic day,
A day that's bright and beautiful
for them in every way,
A day that brings the wonder
of a special dream come true,
A day when every future day
looks lovely to them, too
And if throughout their married life
they have each other there
To turn to and confide in,
and to give and help and share,
Then every day for them
will have a magic of its own,
The magic warmth of knowing
they have somehow learned and grown,
And the magic of believing
that just being close together
Is all they need to make their days
seem beautiful forever.


Cheryl Ann Miller

Cheryl - Musing #35

We have now spent
the 4 colorful seasons
together. We have experienced
the warm, the quiet of summer,
the cold of winter, the beauty of
flowers blooming, birds singing
that brings spring on its way,
and the windy season, fall.
Without you these months would
have no meaning, no beauty.
no purpose


Cheryl Ann Miller

Cheryl - Musing #34

Indulge in life's
gifts of friends
and family. Hope
your day brings you joy


Cheryl Ann Miller

Cheryl - Musing #29

So lonely and alone am I this day,
wondering what is in store for me
tomorrow. Will it be to my liking or
will it bring me sadness. I shall live
my day today and never worry about
my day tomorrow.


Cheryl Ann Miller

Cheryl - Musing #27

Through the memories of my mind I see
the reflections of life clearly. A young child
has yet to learn of love and hate. They wonder
about red balloons, swings and puppy dogs.
Soon they will grow to know war and fear. Oh
how the shadow of hate casts it ugliness on love.


Cheryl Ann Miller

Cheryl - Musing #3

Forty Reasons Why I Love You (Cheryl to Rex)

bring me coffee
hands
eyes smile before you do
sense of humor
Chad
Peyton
always have money for me
buy me pretty things
take care of our home
work ethics
your printing
when I really need you to, you go see dad
you make me feel like I want to live until tomorrow
your more mellow
putting up Christmas and Thanksgiving every year
you take me to good dinners
you like the theatre
our cocktail hours
took really good care of me when sick
given me the best memories
learned how to dance – took dance lessons
keep bed warm
the way you smile
you bag oranges
you take the phone off the hook so I can sleep
you fill my tank
quiet in the morning
bring in newspaper
let me sleep in
your shadow walk with mine
you grocery shop
you kiss me good-bye
you kiss me hello
buy me flowers
protect me
like music
gave me Chad
gave me Peyton
you think I am pretty
finger-to-finger – life's ok

Cheryl Ann Miller

I loved your mom very much, she always treated all of your friends like her own kids and I thought of her as a second mom. I never saw her without a smile on her face. She will be missed and loved by a lot of people.Love you buddy, give my love to your dad.

Marilyn and I never had the opportunity to know Cheryl well, but the few times we were with her were memorable for the fun she brought. Our thoughts and prayers are with you. - Steve and Marilyn Kahle

Cheryl - Musing #38

Sometimes when I am very happy with life my hidden
beauty will become very radiant. People see me and say,
“how his love becomes her”.
Take for instance when you are with the one you love,
and there is a special feeling that enters both. She somehow
becomes so very lovely. She looks the same as she always does,
but then again she beams with a certain fulfillment of life.
Maybe later she becomes sad, she suddenly seems empty,
lost, and maybe a little sullen.
Beauty has always been in the eye of the beholder. If I am
beautiful to you, it is because I am with you; and I am
what you have made me.


Cheryl Ann Miller

Cheryl - Musing #36
(Cheryl to her dad on his 55th birthday in 1968)
(the reference to “stands” was Coy's A&W Root Beer businesses)

Another year has rolled around
55 is where you will be found
perk up, smile, you're not in
a fix
Just think next year you'll
be 56

Look ”Coy boy” what you have to show
A wife, two kids, stands all
to grow
Fulfillment of life is what we
seek
Yours has been that, and more
without many leaks

In conclusion I would like
to say
A very happy birthday to
You on this day

Love & Appreciation
Cheryl


Cheryl Ann Miller

Cheryl - Musing #33

How Thankful
the heart
that is touched
by the thoughtfulness
of a friend


Cheryl Ann Miller

Cheryl - Musing #32 (About Peyton, Gramies love of her life)

Sweet baby Peyton
with that perfect
little nose
10 little fingers
and ten little toes
An angel brought from
heaven
for all of us to love


Our granddaughter Peyton
sent from up above
With angels
gathering in
the heavens
to send a
sky of love


(Unfinished)

Our beautiful little
Peyton born on a
sunny day
only took us a
moment to love her
right away
we know she was
a gift from
heaven on a Sunday
afternoon
with those sweet
little bow lips
you had us from
the start


Cheryl Ann Miller

Cheryl - Musing #31 (Birthday wish to Sharon, best friends since third grade)

So many years have come and gone
But my friendship for you has
always held strong
Through birthdays, weddings
and children too
You have been there for me
and I, for you
The memories will always
be held in my heart
Because we were friends right
from the start
So I wish you joy on your
50th day
And remember I love you
dear friend, Always


Cheryl Ann Miller

Cheryl - Musing #30 (Cheryl to Rex)

Questions

Why don't you wear your wedding band,
cause it won't fit on your hand?

We can have it fixed and so
you can wear it when you go

It's very much a part of us
that's why I make such a fuss

It really means a lot to me
won't you listen to my plea

If you love me as I do you
you'll wear yours, like mine, I do

Please, put it on, and keep it there
so we can once again be a pair

At least, consider it, seriously
like I said, “It means a lot to me”

Waiting for an answer


Cheryl Ann Miller

Cheryl - Musing #28

Ripley's Believe It of Not

In the year of nineteen hundred & forty seven
A girl arrived, maybe from heaven
Cheryl was her given name
Not to reach the game of fame

Being younger than the group
She made up a kind of scoop
Be yourself, make no sense
Just be kind to all the Gents


Cheryl Ann Miller

Cheryl - Musing #26

Have you ever wondered how our love is like the
rain. The rain drops move very slowly down the
window in search for another to become as one.
Some move to fast they find no one or they pick
up many; soon they reach the end of their life span
without happiness or gain. At the top you see a
drop moving very slowly, he sees a companion,
she also in moving slowly. They find each
other, like each other, and decide to become one.
They go through their life together and when the
journey has ended they have no regrets as they
were happy. A rain drops life may seem very short,
but life is short when you are content. Our love is
the same way. We must search for love and treat it
gently for there is nothing more rewarding. Like
the rain; we will search for that one special drip.


Cheryl Ann Miller

Cheryl - Musing #11

If you don't take my advice and have some of the “Think Drink”,
we will be to old to do anything but drink it


Cheryl Ann Miller

Rex,

I am so sorry for your loss. May your special memories of your great romance help ease your grief.

Your friend,

Cheryl - Musing #18 (Message to a Cathy Wrightson on her 50th birthday)

Because you were my friend
right from the start

I give you this gift
and it comes from my heart

You have always been there for me
in good times and bad

You listened and made me smile
whenever I was sad

Always remember I'll be there for you
just as you were there for me too

So on your 50th Birthday
I laugh with a sigh

Cathy you are definitely
older than I


Cheryl Ann Miller

Cheryl - Musing #24 (Cheryl to Chad at four months old (actually typed on a 3x5 card)

MY BOY

MY DARLING LITTLE BOY

WHOM I LOVE SO VERY MUCH

WHO TRUST IN POOH TO KEEP HIM

BY JUST A SINGLE TOUCH

HIS LITTLE FINGERS A MOVING

TRYING TO GRASP AT SLEEP

AND THRU THE STILLNESS OF THE NIGHT

LIGHT OF MORNING CREEPS


Cheryl Ann Miller

Cheryl - Musing #20

Better late than never
Is what everyone thinks
As far as I am concerned
I think it stinks


Cheryl Ann Miller

Cheryl - Musing #21 (Cheryl to Rex)

Life is but a
moment ---- But a moment
can be a lifetime

If all my life was to be
condensed into one moment,
one experience, one person,
one spark of my life, all I ask
is that it be of you.

From the person who's
love grows everyday
for you


Cheryl Ann Miller

Cheryl - Musing #12

I must be in love tonight everything is so beautiful
through these looking eyes
the smell of the air; the glittering lights
has a way of whispering gentle words to me
not always is the world something special
Sometimes it is very cruel
It has a way with hurt
I'm not scared, after tonight, I know
If I must leave and able to take one memory
One thought of existence
One spark of my life ….
All I ask it that it be of you


Cheryl Ann Miller

Dear Miller Family, We are here on this earth for such a short time but spend Eternity in heaven with God. I picture Cheryl walking streets of Gold singing with the Angels. We will miss Cheryls smile & hugs which were truly the best. Her hugs were not just a pat on the back but a hug that said you are my friend and I care about you.
God Bless,
Geri & Jim

Words cannot express the depth of sadness upon losing a life-long friend. Cheryl and I were like sisters, sharing life's joys and sorrows and the frustrations of raising teen-agers.
She was funny, creative, thoughtful, up on the latest fashion trend and make-up. But most importantly, deeply devoted to and in love with her "cabana boy", Rexy Poo.
Who could forget our last minute New Years Eve trip to the Rose Bowl when Cheryl showed up with her pants on inside out.
We would get together to go for a walk but somehow instead ended up having wine, sometimes a special bottle Rex had been saving. But as we know each day is special! Right Cheryl?
She never forgot a birthday or anniversary and gifts she gave were wrapped with as much care as was taken in choosing the gift inside.
You've taught us not to take life for granted, not to take friendships for granted.
Friends forever and ever ~ Cathy

Cheryl - Musing #25 (Cheryl's first Valentine card to me – February 1969)

To be my Valentine, you must be …..

Sometimes Sweet
Most often helpful
Kinda thoughtful
Occasionally loveable
Constantly near
Once in a while understanding
Regularly smart
Always good looking
A little Silly
and Frequently Fun

So Will You?

Love Cheryl


Cheryl Ann Miller

Cheryl - Musing #22

Its love
that makes a house a home
and fills its rooms with laughter

Its love
that puts the “happy”
into “happy ever after”

Its love
that adds the sparkle
and the fun to married life

Its love
that brings fulfillment
to your years as man and wife

may your home be filled with laughter
your hearts be filled with love


Cheryl Ann Miller

Cheryl - Musing #19 (Cheryl to me on our 25th Wedding Anniversary in 1994

Twenty 5 years ago
I gave you a ring

On our 25th Anniversary
I am doing the same thing

It is given in love
And bonds us together

I hope that will be,
Forever and ever


Cheryl Ann Miller

Cheryl - Musing #17 (A message to Chad & Jen with a gift of a metal tree wall art)

Our family tree has grown, not
from the planting of seeds, but
from the grafting of branches. As
we give of ourselves, the tree will
flourish and return to each
of us a type of life – giving
love and support offered best by a family


Cheryl Ann Miller

Cheryl - Musing #15

look where you've come from
where you have been

look to the side and
to the side again

follow your eyes to where
you will go

remember it all, but
take it slow

for it takes all of this
to know what there is to know


Cheryl Ann Miller

Cheryl - Musing #4

ABC's of Marriage (Cheryl lived these with a passion and they made me a better person and a better husband)

A bsolutely adore each other
B e best friends
C ompromise
D iscover new things together
E ncourage each other
F orgive and forget
G aze into each others eyes
H old hands and hug a lot
I nspire and intrigue each other
J oke and laugh and have fun
K iss kiss kiss
L ove with all your hearts
M arvel at each others talents
N urtue each others souls
O vercome problems together
P lay games
Q uiet each others fears
R emember the little things
S ay “I Love You” everyday
T ake time for tenderness
U nderstand and care deeply
V alue everything you share
W ish on stars together
X press your true feelings
Y earn for each others touch
Z zzzz in each others arms

Cheryl Ann Miller

Dear Cheryl, You and Karolyn suggested our group of friends try Mah Jong. What a wonderful legacy as none of us can imagine life without our weekly games. We think of you each time we play and miss your gentle spirit. Maybe not your incredibly slow playing time though. You were never in great health yet participated fully in life, always looking marvelously fashionable, with an immaculate home and charming gardens. You will be missed by many. Phyllis and Max Savin

We love you Cheryl, and now our memories will have to do. We are sad that we didn't spend more time with you, but, in addition to our get togethers, we had that wonderful, unforgettable week with you and Rex in Provence ~ precious days that we will always cherish. You were so much fun to be with, and your sense of humor and lovely smile brightened every day. You are now at peace, and we hope you know how much you meant to so many and how you enriched all our lives. With love and affection, Diane and George

Cheryl - Musing #23

A poem by Cheryl that we all felt she should have had published. .

CHALLENGER SEVEN

SEVEN WERE SENT TO THE
HEAVENS THAT DAY
NEVER TO KNOW THAT'S WHERE
THEY WOULD STAY

THEY DID NOT KNOW 'TIL IT
WAS TOO LATE
WHAT WAS GOING TO BE
THEIR FATE

THEY LOOKED TO THIS JOURNEY
WITH KNOWLEDGE AND LEARNING
IN A FEW SHORT SECONDS,
THEIR DESTINY BURNING

THEY WILL BE REMEMBERED
AND WE WILL UNDERSTAND
WE MUST GIVE OF OURSELVES
TO BENEFIT MAN

. SO WE SAY GOOD BYE
TO THAT TIME AND PLACE
KNOWING THAT PROGRESS
WILL CONTINUE IN SPACE


01-28-86
CAM


Cheryl Ann Miller

Cheryl - Musing #16

Let us permit nature to have her way; she
understands her business better than we do


Cheryl Ann Miller

Cheryl - Musing #14

Thank you, God
for each new day
you gave to me
For earth and sky
and sand and sea
For rainbows
after springtime showers
Autumn leaves
and summer flowers
Winter snowscapes so serene
Harvest fields
of gold and green
Starts that twinkle high above
and all the people
that I love


Cheryl Ann Miller

Cheryl - Musing #13

Stir in as much kindness, empathy and communication
into your lives as possible.
This is a very important ingredient to a happy marriage
and is not fattening, although produces sweet results…..


Cheryl Ann Miller

Cheryl - Musing #10

Everything I say and everything I do
Is only because I love you
Though it may seem wrong and not always fair
I try to do my best because I care
So bare with me awhile, until you're on your own
I will still worry a lot and feel sorta alone
But I will do my best, and let you choose your life
But always, always remember my Chad, as you take a wife
I will always be there for you
The love of my life


Cheryl Ann Miller

Rex, Thank you for sharing the wonderful pictures of Cheryl and your life together. Over the years as we worked together, in our conversations at dinner, your conversation always turned to Cheryl and the times you would spend together. I always thought, I want to make sure I have those types of memories with my wife. I could tell how much you love her. Ihave been and will continue to pray for you, your son and family. Grace. Alan Lord

Cheryl and I had an instant rapport. We were joyful that our children had found each other and enjoyed being together, whether at Bate's Nut Farm (Cheryl called it Nut's Bait Farm or something), Disneyland, Old Town, or just eating out.
Cheryl loved being Gramie to Peyton, and we spent many good times just watching her antics. I will really miss Cheryl as I have lost a dear friend. Joan Clucas, Jenifer's mom

Cheryl - Musing #4

ABC's of Marriage (Cheryl lived these with a passion and they made me a better person and a better husband)

A bsolutely adore each other
B e best friends
C ompromise
D iscover new things together
E ncourage each other
F orgive and forget
G aze into each others eyes
H old hands and hug a lot
I nspire and intrigue each other
J oke and laugh and have fun
K iss kiss kiss
L ove with all your hearts
M arvel at each others talents
N urtue each others souls
O vercome problems together
P lay games
Q uiet each others fears
R emember the little things
S ay “I Love You” everyday
T ake time for tenderness
U nderstand and care deeply
V alue everything you share
W ish on stars together
X press your true feelings
Y earn for each others touch
Z zzzz in each others arms

Cheryl Ann Miller

Cheryl - Musing #9

The years went by, not better but worse
She started to write poetry, sing songs, read verse
What to do everyone said
Nothing else works but her head

It might have come from Brownie or Scout
To find life happy, to learn what is out
That couldn't be it they taught what's right
Not to act silly both day and night

Now she has turned twenty one
Will she change or will she run
As long as a smile come from friend or foe
No one can help her --- listen --- I know


Cheryl Ann Miller

Cheryl - Musing #8 (About Chad)

On June six nineteen seventy one
We were blessed with a son
A strong healthy baby boy
filled our hearts with love and joy
Chad Christopher was to be his name
Not Todd not Troy they weren't the same
He's grown so fast and now he's two
Still he cannot tie his shoe
He walks he talks he's learned to jump
And like other boys he's full of bumps
I can't but wonder what will he be
What he will do what he will see


Cheryl Ann Miller

Cheryl, we will always have you in our hearts we will always remember the fun times and the sharing of good wine and great friendships. The smile, the hair, and the perfect perfection you brought to every situation will be missed but never forgotten. We love you and your friendship has always been as special as you are. Rest in Peace, Bernie and Dale

Dear Cheryl
We always had a good time together, laughing and making fun of ourselves. Sometimes we had to finish each other's sentences since we both suffered from "forgetfulness". MahJongg has not been the same without you, but not to worry I have taken up the slack of you playing slow. Life won't be the same without you. Love, Fran

We didn't get to see each other often but we sure had fun when we did. You will be missed by everyone dear Cheryl. Love, Judy and Tom

Cheryl - Musing #7 (From Cheryl to Peyton)

Your first dress from your Gramie

Shall we dance, shall we?

Let's twirl around and around as fast as we can, holding hands

I won't let you go, you know

I will hold you tight

And keep you in my sight

And we will end up playing with all our might

Till we say good night


Cheryl Ann Miller

Cheryl - Musing #6

There is no place i'd rather be
than me with you
and you with me
Then us two would be a we
and along with Chad we would be a 3


Cheryl Ann Miller

Cheryl - Musing #5

People say we are high maintenance and I say “well duh!”

Don't you think we are too old to be princesses? – Me neither

Cheryl Ann Miller

Cheryl - Musing #2

Written to her parents (Coy & Alice) on their 37th Wedding Anniversary in 1975:

two is a lovely number
two is better than one
two is loving each other
two is one and one
two is a walk in the sunshine
two is holding hands
two is giving and taking
two is a wedding band
two is being together
two is children fare
two is growing together
two means that you care

May you two always have a full and rich life together

Cheryl Ann Miller

Many of you know about Cheryl's note writing and attention to detail, whether it be a past event or a future event, a birthday, an anniversary or just a note about something we did or she did with family and friends, she recorded on her calendar. She always believed in writing a note or saying something personal in all of her written communications, not just signing her name. For the 45+ years that Cheryl and I were together (dating and married) she wrote poetry, quotes, and thoughts about what was on her mind and read and wrote down verse that was important to her and that she wanted to remember. I will include many of Cheryl's musings as individual guest book entries, so she can share them with you.
Love my Toots -- Rex

Here's Cheryl's favorite toast:

“Wine inspires us, and fires us, with courage, love and joy”