Elba Cabrera

Elba Cabrera obituary, Brooklyn, NY

Elba Cabrera

Elba Cabrera Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on May 14, 2024.
Elba Cabrera, daughter of Eva Lopez and Sixto Cabrera, died peacefully in the early hours of May 10, 2024. She was the youngest and last surviving member of Las Tres Hermanas (the Three Sisters). Their Love of Puerto Rico as community advocates inspired countless artists and activists, starting in the Bronx.

Elba was born in Ponce, Puerto Rico on September 10, 1933 at the height of the Depression. The times were very hard on La Isla del Encanto with few jobs and even less opportunity to build anything resembling a good life. She and her sister Lillian joined her mother and elder sister Evelina in New York City in 1935, moving to Spanish Harlem with her Aunt Vicenta Godreau and her husband Enrique.

Elba's evolution into becoming a "Bronx Girl'' began when the family moved to the South Bronx. That is where the family's efforts to struggle and survive in a city that was unwelcoming of their Spanish-speaking cousins from the colony of Puerto Rico were transformed into a lifetime of activism.

Upon graduating high school, Elba sold shoes on the Lower East Side while enjoying the music of the times. While dancing at the (original) Palladium to the tunes of Tito Puente, she met Anthony Mondesire. Their whirlwind romance saw the birth of Anthony Jr. in 1955 and the arrival of Paul in 1960. Elba exchanged a life as a homemaker to support her sister Evelina's newly founded United Bronx Parents (UBP) in 1965.

Elba's work at UBP created a template and set the course for the rest of her life. Shortly after earning a bachelor's degree in Political Science from SUNY at Old Westbury in 1978, Elba became the Associate Director of the Association of Hispanic Arts (AHA), where the works of marginalized Latino artists were actively and forcefully promoted. AHA is also where her nickname, La Madrina de las Artes, was born.

Her professional resume underscores the versatility of a gifted non-profit leader including

Director of Outreach for the Center for Media Arts, Marketing Director for the Lehman College Center for the Performing Arts, and Regional Community Engagement Specialist for the Girl Scouts, and the Alzheimer's Outreach team at NYC Department of the Aging.

Elba always deferred to her family (Doña Vicenta and her sisters) when discussing leadership roles, but she was a Force of Nature herself. Her passion for living was demonstrated throughout her life. It was displayed in her unshakeable faith, love of art, travel, fashion, dancing, music, and serving others.

Elba Cabrera LOVED her Family! She is survived by her sons Tony Mondesire-Cabrera (Carmen) and Paul Mondesire (Kimberly Steger), granddaughters Carina Rosario Mondesire and Quearis Inara Mondesire, and a multitude of Friends who Are FAMILY. All will miss her and be inspired by her legacy for as long as her name is spoken. May her Memory Be a Blessing.

In lieu of flowers, gifts can be made to the following in Elba's name.

Advent Lutheran Church, NYC

https://www.adventnyc.org/give

Center for Puerto Rican Studies, Hunter College

https://community.hunter.cuny.edu/supportcentro

Pregones Cultural Center

https://pregonesprtt.org/donate/

Hostos Community College

https://hostos.thankyou4caring.org/

Comité Noviembre

https://www.paypal.com/US/fundraiser/charity/2093916

Caribbean Cultural Center African Diaspora Institute

https://cccadi.kindful.com/

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Bianca Peralta

May 16, 2024

My Titi Elba was an amazing person. Her and my mom´s friendship was so full of love, love that passed on to my sister, dad, and I. She was always there for me during my biggest moments and I tried my best (even at 7) to show up for her. I remember going to a community event honoring Lillian and Evelina when I was younger. There, I learned three things: a) Titi Elba knows 90% of The Bronx and is most likely famous, b) her service to her community was so, so impactful, and c) her and her sister´s story, which at that point I had never learned. She taught me to fight for what I believe in, to take on my community to make a change. She introduced me to real reading at very young age. Books that ranged from the "Who Was?" Series to Wuthering Heights by Jane Austen that taught me so many new ideas and open my imagination. She was such a constant in my life and I am going to miss her so, so much. I am so privileged to call her my Titi Elba and that I got to experience this part of my life with her! I love you so much Titi, I promise to live out what you taught me every single day <3

Shereen Margolis Briggs

May 16, 2024

I met Elba at DFTA and BCA. She was a delightful person who will be greatly missed. May her memory be for a blessing. Rest in peace Elba.
With deepest sympathy,
Shereen Margolis Briggs

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Brenda Jimenez

May 15, 2024

Elba was my Madrina and Mentor (my M&M) for 25 years. I met her in my early career when I had lost faith in female leaders becoming mentors of young professionals. She was light. She always took folks into her circle and made them family. She was a kind, generous, tough, classy lady who had big dreams and hopes for those she loved. She was a connector. Someone who always created bonds between the most unlikely individuals to make things happen on behalf of the community.

Elba was my champion. She was there at my wedding, had my girls, changed jobs, and pivoted in my career. There was nothing she asked that I was not willing to do. Which, in turn, opened my network and experiences and deepened my engagement in the community. She also showed up. Showed up to major milestones in my career and life. She even became a mentor to a young Latina HS student at 81 for one of my program partners, SSP NYC, which she found impressive. And that was just one of many she mentored throughout her life. She was a doer.

Elba was family. She was a part of my world and someone I turned to when life gave me lemons or when I was lucky enough to make lemonade. My girls were blessed to have a Titi Elba. My oldest, around the age of 5, witnessed Elba get one of the numerous, well-deserved recognitions for her legacy in the arts and activism in the community and later came to me to inform me, "You know, Titi Elba is famous!" And she was right. For me, she was a star, and I have been blessed to have known her and have her in my life.

Elba was my friend. Once she retired for the second time you would find us once a month at 3 pm having a late lunch in the Upper East Side at Tony DiNapoli´s. For 3 hours, we would catch up. Sometimes, we laughed. Sometimes, we cried. Others, we shared our deepest secrets and, at times, our hopes and dreams. All over our favorite Tony´s famous Dirty Martini´s with Gorgonzola cheese stuffed olives. I treasure these moments and became a better mother, wife, daughter, sister, and friend because of them.

I will miss her every day. Thank you to Paul, Anthony, Karina, and Quearis Inara for generously sharing their mother and grandmother with me and my family. I hope her legacy, love, hope, and dreams she had for each of you will bring you comfort.

Rest in Peace, my friend, my forever M&M.

Paul Mondesire

May 14, 2024

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