James Vincent Gilder

1963 - 2014

James Vincent Gilder obituary, 1963-2014

James Vincent Gilder

1963 - 2014

BORN

1963

DIED

2014

James Gilder Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Jul. 9, 2014.
James Vincent Gilder, 50, beloved husband of Dee Dee Gilder and father of Riley and Reid Gilder, passed away peacefully on Tuesday, July 8, 2014 following his courageous two year battle with colon cancer. Jamie was born and grew up in Bethesda, MD where he attended grade school and high school. A graduate of the University of Maryland, he earned a Bachelor of Science in Finance, and was a proud member of the Phi Sigma Kappa fraternity. After graduation, Jamie began a long and successful career in wealth management, most recently with Oppenheimer & Co. as Managing Director of the Greater Houston Area and Montana Offices. Dee Dee and Jamie were married in Nashville, TN in 1997 in celebration with friends and family. A devoted father, Jamie was dedicated to supporting Riley, age 9, and Reid, age 8, as their baseball coach, guiding them through his outstanding example as a role model, instilling strong values of fair play, cheering their successes, and guiding their moral and spiritual education until the very end. Jamie had a smile and a sense of humor that lit up any room he entered. His joy of living was contagious and his generosity was enormous, supporting local and national charitable causes. His devotion to family and friends will always be remembered.

Jamie is survived by wife and children, his loving parents, John and Margaret Gilder, sister Christine Hintz, her husband Berny Hintz, brother Mark Gilder, his wife Karen Gilder, sister Anne Overton, sister Kathleen Edquist, her husband Henry Edquist, brother Larry Gilder, his wife Michelle Gilder, sister Margaret Black, and her husband Doug Black, father-in-law Brodie Belliveau, mother-in-law Sally Belliveau, sister-in-law Kathryn Allen, brother-in-law Kurt Allen and many nieces and nephews who loved him dearly.

A Funeral Mass will be held in honor of Jamie's life on Saturday, July 12th at 1:30 pm. It will be held at St. Vincent De Paul Catholic Church, 6800 Buffalo Speedway, Houston, TX 77025. Immediately following the Mass, as Jamie has requested, all are invited to join a celebration held in the Parish Hall adjacent to the Church.

In lieu of flowers, Jamie and the family have asked donations be mailed to Oppenheimer & Co. Suite 1500, 711 Louisiana Street, Houston, TX 77002. Make checks payable to the "James Gilder Fund for Cancer Causes" and write "Acct. # G53-1391741" in the memo line of the check.

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October 28, 2023

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July 26, 2014

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July 19, 2014

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Darryl Harris

October 28, 2023

I just found out today of his passing. My condolences go out to Dee Dee and both kids. Jamie was my manger at Oppenheimer in DC, he was one of the best manger and a great man who I looked up to...I feel like I lost a close relative both he and Dee Dee where two of the nicest people you ever won't to meet.

I dont know how I can express my grief for the lost of such a wonderful person such as Jamie other than the just don't make people like him.

The hurt I feel for the lost is beyond measure and I'm will forever be hurt by the lost but know he's in the hands of our lord and the pain and suffering is over.

I'm sorry I'm just signing this book but I didn't know.

Dee Dee, stay strong your love for Jamie and his love for you is and will forever be bonded.

July 26, 2014

SO SORRY FOR YOUR LOSS. PRAYERS AND THOUGHTS FOR YOU AND FAMILY. SUCH AN AMAZING PERSON AND ALWAYS HAD A SMILE ON HIS FACE. BEST TO THE GILDER FAMILY...

SILVIA GUTIERREZ (Washington DC )

Heidi Lohrfink Nigg

July 19, 2014

I am so sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers go out to you at this time.

Jill Peltason/Redding

July 17, 2014

So sorry to hear about Jamie. Although we lost touch over the years it is not surprising to read all of these comments. I am so sorry that you lost your husband and father way too soon. He obviously was the man I always thought he would be. You are in my thoughts and prayers and may your memories be of some comfort to you as time goes by.

July 17, 2014

DeeDee, Riley & Reid: We are so very sorry of your loss. We will pray for you and your family. Our hearts and prayers will be with you also. Please, feel free to call on us if needed in your time of grief and in the future. God Bless your family. Love,
Uncle Paul, Aunt Connie, Tory & Liam Scott (Chapel Hill, NC)

Elaine Petrulis

July 17, 2014

Dee Dee, I've been thinking about you everyday since I heard the news about Jamie. My heart goes out to you and your family. I would love to provide any kind of support that you need.

Kristen Totaro

July 17, 2014

Dee Dee & Family, I'm am so sorry for your loss. You are in our thoughts and prayers

Andy Kistler

July 17, 2014

Dee Dee, Louise and I have you and your family in our thoughts and prayers. May peace be with you.

Elana Carroll

July 17, 2014

Deedee..you and your boys are in my thoughts and prayers...love you

Janice Robert

July 16, 2014

My heart is broken for the passing of the younger brother of a family I hold in such high regard. I only knew Jamie when he was young but even at a young age his happiness and zest for life were always present. I know he is in heaven with his nephew. I hope the strong family ties will help everyone get through the loss. I will pray for everyone forever. Janice Robert

Christina Parra

July 16, 2014

DeeDee & Family:

My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort! We will miss Jamie greatly in D.C. Much Love,

Steve Gerdon

July 14, 2014

Oh my brother.....my heart is heavy. You were a special person. I and I loved our times golfing. Flaps etc....Never forget them...Never. Rest in Peace....I ll see you down the road....God bless Dee Dee and your boys.....Love you Jamie.......Steve Gerdon

Fletcher C. Bauman

July 13, 2014

Peace Brotherman.... , silent , quiet tears .....and reflection....heart felt thoughts to the fam..... - Fletch

July 13, 2014

Dear Dee Dee, Riley, and Reid
Pat and I and all of our extended family wish to extend our deepest sympathy on your loss. As you know, Jamie and I shared a birthday and Jamie was just months younger than our Marty, so we can certainly share and understand your loss.
We really regret being unable to attend but my recent knee surgery left no options, except to say we will be there in spirit and prayer.
We will always remember Jamie with his big smile and sense of humor. The sense of loss and the actions of your local community show those features continued in his adult life.
Grandma May always prayed for the grace of a happy death, which I never understood at the time. I do now and hope you and the boys will look back sometime and realize how fortunate he was to have been so blessed, with God and his family with him at the end.
You and the boys have been in our prayers a long time and be assured that will continue. God Bless you today and always.
Love.
Uncle Rock and Aunt Pat May

Fred Burton

July 13, 2014

Rest in peace my friend.

Jennifer and Bob Beylickjian

July 12, 2014

Dee Dee,
Please know you and your family will be in our thoughts and prayers during this very difficult time. Jamie was such a gift to all who knew him and his infectious smile will forever be in our hearts. With all our love and deepest sympathies...

Eta Alumni Association of Phi Sigma Kappa

Joseph Criscuoli

July 12, 2014

It is with great sadness that we have learned of the passing of our Brother, James V. "Jamie" Gilder. We wish for him everlasting life and well-deserved peace as a member of the Chapter Eternal of Phi Sigma Kappa Fraternity.

On behalf of the Eta Chapter, I offer both sympathy and condolences to the Gilder Family, and express the fervent hope of all our alumni that your thoughts will soon turn towards memories of happier times.

With deepest regrets,

- Joseph E. Criscuoli
President
Eta Chapter Alumni Association of
Phi Sigma Kappa
University of Maryland

Peter Laitin

July 12, 2014

Life long friends leave a mark on your soul and Jamie did just that...I will miss you old friend and will think of you often. Put your Jamie on and everything will be ok...

The Fitzgerald's

July 12, 2014

Dee Dee

Our thoughts are prayers are with you and the boys.

Margy Sullivan

July 12, 2014

To the Gilder Family,
We are so saddened to hear of the passing of your dear, sweet brother, son, husband, father. Everyone speaks so highly of him. Although we did not personally know Jamie, we do know a few of the other Gilder siblings and know what a beautiful class act of a family they are. You will be in our constant thoughts and prayers. God bless you all.
Love you guys,
Margy Sullivan and Brian Ripa

Drury Bagwell

July 12, 2014

My condolences to all of Jamie's family. I worked with him in the fraternity at Maryland and remember him as a really terrific guy. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Tom Fritzlen

July 11, 2014

DeeDee, Riley and Reid,
Your Husband and Father was an extraordinary professional within our firm and touched everyone's life with his grace,charm, and sincerity! He was always a ray of sunshine ! Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.
Tom , Jerrice and Morgan Amanda Fritzlen

Guadalupe Harper

July 11, 2014

Dee Dee, our deepest condolences to you, Riley, Reid and all of Jamie's family. Unfortunately we will not be able to attend the funeral since we are out of town but our thoughts and prayers will be there with you all. With much love!!! Guadalupe Harper and family.

Nancy & Bert Bookoout

July 11, 2014

Nancy and I express our condolence to you and the family for the loss of Jamie.

Dalia Quinones-Zayas

July 11, 2014

Dee Dee, my deepest condolences to you, your sons and all of Jamie's family. He was a great man and his smile along with witty humor was contagious. He will always be remembered. Franco and I send much love and hugs your way.

Connie Susich (Maureen May's mom)

July 11, 2014

So highly loved/revered by his cousin Martin May, a recommendation that remains golden with us! Although we are so saddened that Jamie was taken prematurely from this life, I can only assume Marty and Jamie are together again. Hold tight to each other; and God sustain you in your sorrow. Peace.

Yvonne Rouse

July 11, 2014

Heartfelt condolences to the Gilder Family, Jamie will forever be missed and remembered for his style, GQ hair and his amazing smile. Prayers and blessing to Dee Dee and the boys. - Oppenheimer Family

Wayne Gilcrease

July 11, 2014

Sleep in Heavenly Peace

Matthew Keator

July 11, 2014

Dee Dee and the entire Gilder family,
I'm deeply saddened by the news of Jamie's passing. I have fond memories of our time working together @ the Paine DC office. He will be missed!! Thinking and praying for you all.

Andi Tozzoli

July 11, 2014

My heartfelt condolences to all on this sad loss.I remember his days at BCC...so much fun.

RYAN WROBLESKE

July 11, 2014

Jamie was the most gracious man that I have ever met. His smile and enthusiasm was a blessing to all of us daily. I pray the peace that surpasses all understanding dwell in his home. I miss him but I will see him again!

Brian BC Campbell

July 11, 2014

To the Gilder Family - I am so sorry to hear of Jamie's passing. Please accept my hearfelt condolences to all of you. Growing up with Larry and Jamie in BTown/Leland/B-CC, as we are brothers in life, so are we brothers in our passing. Jamie, may you rest in peace, my brother!
Love and Rock n Roll!
BC

Darren Bobley

July 11, 2014

Jamie's wonderful spirit lives on in us all.

Mike and Emma Beck

July 11, 2014

Dee Dee, our condolences to you and the Gilder family. Jamie was a terrific friend and colleague and we have fond memories of some great times together here in DC. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and the boys.

Terri Lopes

July 11, 2014

I am so saddened to hear the news of Jamie's passing. My heartfelt condolences to all the family.

July 10, 2014

I always remember Jamies sweet smile & gentle soul. He was a big part of our crew of friends in Leland & BCC. Rest peacefully. Condolences to all his family . ...Chris T Shott, Denver , CO

Suzy McGovern

July 10, 2014

That smile always brought such joy to our PaineWebber office in Washington,DC .as Jaime did each day, good markets and bad markets. The street lost a very special person.

Penny Cromer

July 10, 2014

DeeDee,
My heart goes out to you, the boys and all of your family. Thinking of you with love ..... Penny Cromer

July 9, 2014

Our condolences and prayers go out to the Gilder family! Jamie will forever be in your hearts. Larry and Margi Kinsey.

Lucy Finnegan Boyle

July 9, 2014

I can only share my sadness to all in the Gilder Family. Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers.

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