Dr. Meredith Lamar Kilgore

Dr. Meredith Lamar Kilgore obituary, Birmingham, AL

Dr. Meredith Lamar Kilgore

Meredith Kilgore Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Oct. 21, 2018.
Meredith Lamar Kilgore, aged 64, of Birmingham, AL died peacefully at home on October 17, 2018. To those who knew him, there was never a dull moment with Meredith around.

Born on August 26, 1954 in Shreveport, Louisiana, he spent his early childhood years there; moved to Nashville, Tennessee at age six; and Louisville, Kentucky at ten. He spent several memorable summers in Glorietta, New Mexico. While attending Ballard High School in the early 1970's, Meredith was elected class president after firing up the students by reading them the New York City Student Bill of Rights in his campaign speech. The principal tried to remind him who was in charge so Meredith let him think he was.

After struggling for several years as a jazz pianist, Meredith moved to Honolulu, Hawaii at twenty-three. He discovered that Don Ho controlled the music industry there prompting him to change careers. Starting as an aide, he completed a nursing degree and became certified in pediatric cardiovascular intensive care. He practiced nursing in hospitals for twenty-five years, but cared for people throughout his life. Always the student, he earned a Political Science degree with a minor in Japanese at the University of Hawaii. While there, he became interested in health economics. This interest led to a Masters degree from the University of Alabama at Birmingham and a PhD from the Pardee RAND Graduate School in Santa Monica, California. He was recruited back to UAB where he taught how medical decision-making relates to quality of life and treatment options. Meredith would certainly want his students to know that there are indeed health states worse than death. Meredith also served as the Chair of the Department of Health Care Organization and Policy from 2012 until August of 2018.

Meredith leaves behind his best friend, student, and colleague, who by no coincidence is his wife, Julie Locher. He also leaves behind the joy of his life, Jaxon Steele Bodner (his three year old grandson) and his step-daughter, Alexandria Bodner. His death is preceded by that of his father, Robert Gene Kilgore. He is survived by his loving mother, Elizabeth Kilgore, and his brother, Michael Kilgore (and his wife Heather) along with their children Meghan Harrison (Byron), Drew (Sarah), and Elyse and their children. In addition to family, he parts with countless treasured colleagues, trainees, coworkers, and neighbors.

Meredith spent the last hours of his life at home surrounded by his loving family. During his final departure, he had Julie on one side and Mike on the other, both holding his hands, while Heather helped Jaxon get to the piano to play Twinkle, Twinkle, Little Star one last time for Meredith.

A celebration of Meredith's life will be held on Thursday, November 8 at 2pm at East Lake United Methodist Church (7753 1st Ave S, Birmingham, AL 35206) with the Reverend Sally Allocca officiating. A reception will follow.

The family requests that donations honoring Meredith's life be made to P.E.E.R., Inc., the non-profit connected to the church that runs the East Lake Farmers Market and community health initiatives (http://www.eastlakemarket.org/how-to-help/donations/).

The family is especially grateful for the care that Meredith received at The Kirklin Clinic, The Wound Care Clinic, The Whitaker Clinic, UAB Hospital, and Alacare Hospice.

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May 17, 2020

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Charlotte Jones

May 17, 2020

I have only just learned of Meredith's passing. I was so grateful for his support and encouragement during my time at UAB. His ability to linking his old life in clinical medicine to his life at the school of public health was a rare combination. He was an amazing teacher, energetic and motivating. I will miss him, an outstanding mentor and a wonderful man.

Susan Vogt

June 2, 2019

Julie, I was so sad to hear of Meredith's passing. He was a wonderful mentor to me while I established my second career, and I will always be grateful for his guidance and support. I sincerely regret that such a benevolent soul is no longer with us.

Eric Abshire

March 4, 2019

I only new Dr. Kilgore for a few short years. He interviewed me and gave me an opportunity at SOPH. I am greateful for that. I very much enjoyed working with him and the discussions that we had. Very nice individual and easy to talk with. I am truly sorry for your loss.

God bless.

Ben Vollaard

November 24, 2018

Very sad to hear that Meredith passed away. While at RAND, I knew him as a very easy-going fellow grad student. He had an extraordinary ability to be in the moment: Meredith could sit still behind his computer, literally without any movement, for two hours in a row, and then slowly get up, with a smile and ready for a chat. He was that relaxed, also when at work! It also showed in the RAND Graduate School Band. He would tirelessly practice with us, always ready for another go at some jazz classic the score of which he himself had worked out for the band. I have fond memories of him accompanying me on the piano while playing Summer Time on the trumpet. Rest well.

Julie McDougal

November 13, 2018

Julie, when I was interviewing for my current position, Meredith's advice was not to accept the position unless I could say "yes" to 2 of 3 questions: "Would I have fun?", "Would I make money?" & "Would I learn something?" GREAT advice & perspective!

2001 Bryan Tysinger and Meredith Kilgore play in RAND Graduate School Band at holiday party.

November 12, 2018

2001 Bryan Tysinger and Meredith Kilgore play in RAND Graduate School Band at holiday party.

November 12, 2018

November 12, 2018

I just saw a notice about Meredith on our internal newsletter. My heart goes out to Meredith's family and friends . I did not know Meredith well but recall the great spirit and talent and open and friendly nature in the course of my duties photographing at RAND and RGS. The photos are from a holiday party he helped rock and roll... Diane Baldwin

Russell Moore

November 3, 2018

I remember very well the speech that M.L. made to our student body at Ballard. What captivated us and what let him to his election win was, in my opinion, his unparalleled intelligence and unequaled passion. M.L. was, indeed, a force to be reckoned with, but a most benevolent force. I have not seen his since my senior year but his passing is a loss for us all. Rest well, my friend. Rest in blissful peace.

Maureen King

November 2, 2018

Mike Kilgore, I didn't know your brother well, when we all went to Ballard together (and your Mom and Dad and you guys were next door neighbors of sister, Sandy Hyland Carroll and her family), but I was sure sad seeing this news on Ballard site. So sorry for your families - sounds like he was brilliantly happy and giving. Maureen Hyland King

David Evans

November 2, 2018

Good man. Great family. So sorry, Mike. Wishing you and yours peace.

Tom Browning

November 2, 2018

M.L. and I went to Ballard High School together in Louisville Ky. After graduating we started to study music in college and ended up with the same professor at Bellarmine College's music department. Don Murray inspired all of us in learning piano and composition. We played in a band together for a few years called Warnig. The name came from a misspelled sign near our band house. While we had fun creating lots of modern music and discovering new ways to play older music ( M.L. brought in a Bach Brandenburg concerto re-arranged for jazz combo) the realities of the music business set in and we all went our separate ways to different ensembles in order to make a living. I remember that he once backed up Tiny Tim on a gig. I went to the Caribbean area and then to Boston and M.L. went to Hawaii. I only saw him once after that when I had moved back to Louisville and he came in town for his father's funeral. We had a nice visit and he came around to the gig that night. I have so many stories of this remarkable human being. He truly was an enigma and fun seemed to follow him around. We constantly educated ourselves and he was an inspiration to all of us! I will miss him and hope that his family can find comfort in knowing that M.L. was well loved by all of us. A true friend and compatriot. Peace and Love!

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Tim Crutchfield

October 29, 2018

Julie I am so sorry for your loss. I never had the pleasure of meeting your husband but if he married you he was definitely a smart man. I read through the notes here and he was clearly a wonderful person as well. I wish I had met him. You and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Shuo Yang

October 26, 2018

Meredith was a great professor and was very nice to everybody. Will miss him.

Beverly and Frank Mulvihill

October 23, 2018

Dear Julie,
Franks and my sincere sympathies go to you and your family. Meredith loved to share with me a story, photo or in person visit from little Jaxon. Meredith contributed to so many lives day in and day. We will all miss those moments with him. Blessings to you.

Lisa Weinzierl

October 23, 2018

Oh Julie, I am so sorry for the loss of your so loved husband! What a beautiful legacy of love and goodness he leaves behind. Much love to you sweet Julie...❤

Dave Shaffer

October 23, 2018

Julie, Sorry to hear of you and your families loss, My deepest condolences!

Anne Turner-Henson

October 23, 2018

Julie - My sincere condolences. Meredith was a kind and giving gentleman. He touched so many lives, and gave so much.

Wendy Demark

October 23, 2018

Meredith was a renaissance man, consummate researcher and just a terrific human being. "Twinkle, twinkle little star" was a fitting tribute, though Meredith was a big star - a gentle giant, with big thoughts and a huge mane of hair. He will be missed...tremendously.

Tim Garvey

October 23, 2018

What a life! I did not know about Meredith's life trajectory from the south, to Hawaii as a jazz musician, to nursing, to political science, to health care economics. I can see why I was intuitively drawn to him as a collaborator and a human being. We have lost a man with insight and love engendered by a lifetime of experience, but can celebrate having had him in our presence for the time we knew him.

Elaine Amella Krug

October 22, 2018

I never saw a grandfather as happy as Meredith was when little Jaxon was present. That sweet child transformed him and brought him true joy. Meredith and Julie were true partners in all they did. What a loss for all of us.

Rene Jooste

October 22, 2018

Dr Kilgore inspired me as a student and I was honored to have him as the chair of my PhD committee. He was always kind and offered his help whenever I asked him. UAB and all his former students will miss him greatly.

Patty and Chris Goode-Culpepper

October 22, 2018

So sorry for your loss, Julie. You and your family remain in my thoughts and prayers. Meredith's obituary is beautifully written.

Connie Kohler

October 22, 2018

Julie,
Please accept my sincere condolences for this profound loss. Ill always think of Meredith as warm, gentle, multifaceted and unique. Connie Kohler

Frank Franklin

October 22, 2018

Wonderful gentleman and fine teacher. He had a fine-tuned sense of humor and solid honesty. These traits combined with his Hawaiian shirts made him a delight to interact with. He will be sorely missed by his UAB friends.

Pamela Locher

October 21, 2018

So sorry to hear about your loss Julie. Our prayers and thoughts are with you and your family! Randy and Pam Locher

Bernice Finder

October 21, 2018

Julie,
I am so sorry for your loss. Sending prayers!
Bernice

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