Phyllis J Coakley

Phyllis J Coakley obituary, Alsip, IL

Phyllis J Coakley

Phyllis Coakley Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Oct. 3, 2024.
Phyllis Joyce Coakley was a caring wife, mother, grandmother, sister, aunt, and friend. Surrounded by her family, she left this world on July 24, 2024, at age 78. She is survived by her husband, Greg; two daughters, Laura [Mike] and Christina [Ryan]; son, Jonathon [Tracy]; grandchildren, Samantha, Katie, and Giada.



She was born to Peter and Louise Paserpsky on June 10, 1946. At age 9, she met Greg, the man she would later marry, when her friend got him to identify an unknown bug (praying mantis). Unbeknownst to her, she had captured his heart the first time he saw her. They married on June 25, 1966, and were married for 58 years.

She enjoyed spending time laughing and sharing stories with her family and friends. In her spare time, she would do needlepoint, refinish antiques, reupholster furniture, garden and play Sudoku. She also liked camping with the family and later spending time at their house in Door County, Wisconsin.



A memorial will be held October 20th from 4-6pm at Mama Vesuvio's in Palos Heights to celebrate her life and to share any special memories.

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October 20, 2024

Julie & Tammy posted to the memorial.

October 18, 2024

Joseph M. Cichocki posted to the memorial.

October 18, 2024

Elaine Gager Dunn posted to the memorial.

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Julie & Tammy

October 20, 2024

Auntie, you and my mom were so closely joined at the hip that we were fortunate enough to consider you a twin/surrogate mom. I am forever grateful to have had the two of you in my life. When my mom passed, it meant absolutely everything to me that you were still there because you were the closest to her and to us. Your gentle kindness was contagious, your smile and laugh lit up our lives. I will always miss our visits and phone calls. I will miss your wittiness, and humor. I will miss your eternal optimism. Most of all, I will miss your hugs, and your voice. Forever grateful. Love, Julie & Tammy.

Joseph M. Cichocki

October 18, 2024

My first memory of Phyllis is of her laughing and radiating kindness!

Elaine Gager Dunn

October 18, 2024

Waiting for Phyliss and her sisters MaryLou and Vicki coming to Grandpa Paserpsky's for Christmas dinner. It was a good time for us all to get together.

Elaine Gager Dunn

October 17, 2024

I'll always remember her talent with crafts. The times we got to visit which were'nt often enough.

Vicki Hoffman

October 16, 2024

My Dear Sister Phyllis, I am so sorry and sad that you had to leave us so soon. Mary Lou, you and I were always so close. A big part of me is missing now, but you are always in my thoughts and in my heart and in my prayers.
Do you remember the time you came to Florida and we spent the whole day shelling and the top of your feet got sooo sun burned so you had to wear socks with your sandles.
I have so many wonderful thoughts and memories. I will love you always and forever!!

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