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Monsignor Thomas Hayes Obituary
He passed away peacefully in Lodi, CA, April 13, 2009 at the age of 66.
Monsignor Hayes attended Elementary and Primary School at Ballingeary N's., in Tipperary and grauduated High School from St. Joseph's in Cahir Co. in 1961.
Upon completion of High School he entered the Seminary, first attending St. John's College in Waterford from September 1961 to February 1964 then to St. Patrick's College in Thurles from February 1964 to June 1967.
Upon completion of his studies at St. Patrick's College he received his Ordination, June 10, 1967.
He arrived to serve in the Stockton Diocese on August 29, 1967. Father Hayes served as Assistant at St. Stanislaus in Modesto from October 11, 1967 until August 31, 1975, then as Associate at St. Mary's in Oakdale from September 1, 1975 until August 31, 1976, and at St. Patrick's in Sonora from September 1, 1976 until August 31, 1981 when he accepted the position of Pastor at St. Frances of Rome in Riverbank, a position he held until February 1, 1994 when he came to Lodi to Pastor St. Anne's.
He was named Monsignor by Pope Benedict XVI on June 15, 2007. Monsignor Hayes will be remembered as a caring and humble person.
He is survived by his brothers: Sean, Liam, Frank and Pat; his sisters: Una, Joan, Eleanor, and Theresa.
As well as brothers- and sisters-in-law, nieces, nephews, and grand-nieces and grand-nephews too numerous to mention but not forgotten.
He was preceded in death by his brother, Michael, and sisters, Eileen McElligott and Mary Agnes.
Calling hours for Monsignor Hayes will be held on Saturday from Noon until 8:00 p.m. and Sunday from 9:00 a.m. until 1:00 p.m. at Lodi Funeral Home, 725 S. Fairmont Ave., and from 2:30 p.m. until 4:00 p.m. Sunday at St. Anne's Catholic Church, 215 W. Walnut, with a Vigil Service beginning at 4:00 p.m. on Sunday.
A Mass of Christian Burial will be held on Monday at 11:00 a.m. at St. Anne's Catholic Church and will conclude with a reception at St. Anne's Hall.
Interment will be at St. Mary's Catholic Cemetery, Cahir County, Tipperary, Ireland.
Memorial Contributions may be made in Monsignor Hayes' memory to St. Anne's School.
A virtual register may be signed or personal tribute shared at www.lodifuneralhome.com.
Arrangements are entrusted to the care of Lodi Funeral Home.
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Memories and Condolences
for Monsignor Thomas Hayes
Noreen Hayes
April 10, 2021
It has been a long 12 years Fr. Tom, you are greatly missed by all your Irish family. May you RIP.
Tom carty
October 13, 2010
I knew Tom at St Patricks College
A wonderful person and I know he would be thrilled to be Monsignor
Tom
Thelma Welsbacher
April 19, 2009
I know at times You & I would butt heads when we spoke but when I was sick you visited me & I saw you as a totally different person. We were going to have another one of our talks but you checked out on me. Now since You are with Our Lord now I will be calling on you more. I know you are at peace now & you will be in my prayer always. Please save a place for me with out Lord.
Karl Welsbacher
April 17, 2009
It was a pleasure for me to know you for the past 15 years. You may have been a little rough around the edges but I came to know you as a very caring and loving individual. It was always an honor for me to serve with you at the Altar and to serve God's people as a Deacon under your direction. I hope to see you again one day in heaven.
Deacon Karl
Cheryl and Meghann Maccoun
April 17, 2009
Rest in peace, Monsignor.
You will be in our prayers always.
Bill & Jeri Bowne
April 17, 2009
We will miss you Dear Fr. Hayes and we will miss the prayers for our family that you offerd at Chritmas mass. Bill will miss the visits you two had on our visits to Ca. sharing the laughs you two had when working with the bees.Bill hopes that you are raising queens again. You will always hold a special place in our hearts and we will keep you and your family in our prayers. love and respect The Bowne Family
Graciela Huerta
April 16, 2009
Our Beloved Father Hayes, We sure will miss that honey of yours. I still have some of the one you gave me while back. I kept it because it was to good to eat all at once:). Natalie and Julian will really miss getting free candy and high fives from you. And Ben & I will miss your words of wisdom,encouragement and your funny jokes. Among so many other things that made you a special person in our lives. I thank the Lord for having put you in our path. We promise to keep an eye your koi Fish. :)
Benjamin, Graciela, Natalie & Julian Huerta
ana culbertson
April 16, 2009
"Father Hayes will always remain in our hearts "The Culbetsons", we will miss him. A great priest/man. I enjoyed working with him. God Bless, Ana M. Culbertson
laura Benavidez
April 16, 2009
we all loved you father hayes, may you rest in peace. i will keep looking for what you asked me for =) you were supposed to marry me and monica in another 20 years, you passed away before you were able, but we knoe you will still be with us everyday of our lives guiding us. God bless you father.
Tracy Williams
April 16, 2009
Father Hayes will always have a special place in our hearts. He was a loving & caring man to all but most especially to the children. He always made time for the kids and they kept him smiling. He will be very much missed by all. The school wont feel the same without him wandering the hall and all the special things he did for the children of St. Anne's. We Love You Father Hayes!!
Tina Martinson
April 16, 2009
Father Hayes has always been, and will always be, a part of our family. We were fortunate enough to meet him when Tina took a teaching job in California right after she moved to Lodi. His leadership and participation at the school was a big reason why the Parish of St. Anne’s felt more like a family and not just a parish. He always took time to acknowledge everyone and took a genuine interest in what was happening in our lives. We will always feel a special connection to Father Hayes since we were lucky enough to have him baptize our oldest son Sean at St. Anne’s. One of the things we have missed most since moving from California has been the St. Anne’s Parish and mainly Father Hayes. We will always remember Father Hayes fondly.
The Martinson Family
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