Bernadette M Lavoie
Bernadette M Lavoie
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Bernadette Lavoie Obituary
Beloved wife of 39 years to Jean Lavoie of Millis. Step daughter Cheryl Lavoie and her companion Joe Camara of Dartmouth, MA. Siblings Joan Dowdall of Ireland and the late Annie Boylan, Phylis Murphy, Paddy Quigley, Thomas Quigley, Basil Quigley and Benny Quigley. Also survived by 20 nieces and nephews and over 20 great nieces and nephews and two brother in laws of Cape Cod, MA.
She was a registered Nurse for many years and the Director of Nursing at Brigham and Women's Hospital.
Her hobbies were cooking, baking, gardening and cross-country skiing with her husband. She loved trips to the Berkshires, country side B&B's, gathering with family and friends at Irish pubs listening to Irish music.
Visiting hours will Tuesday, October 14th from 9-10:30am at the Roberts Mitchell Caruso Funeral Home, 90 Curve St in Millis followed by a Funeral Mass at 11 in St. Mary's Catholic Church in Holliston. Burial will be private.
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Michelle J Lavoie
November 30, 2025
Dad I am so sorry for your loss. I have very fond memories of Detta growing up and she will be missed! The two of you shared a wonderful life together. Love you both! Xoxo
Barbara and Dick Higgins
October 18, 2025
Dear Jean, I was one of Detta's hires in the 80's. .just another Irish las! Things worked so well there in those days in part due to Detta. . I remember going to her bridal shower and chatting about her plans! You completed her and hopefully, you will adjust and realize she is better now. Sincere and warm thoughts sent your way, Barbara and Dick Higgins in New Hampshire
Susan Walsh
October 14, 2025
Dear Jean, my heart breaks for you. Detta, I admired you and became a better person and a better nurse. God bless and rest in internal peace.
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Carol Prone
October 14, 2025
Delta was a colleague and mentor for many years at BWH . I worked mostly as the Nurse Educator for her u its.She was a joy and inspiration to all her staff. Condolences to her family .
Sally Carella
October 13, 2025
My sympathy to Jean and family. She is at peace now. Many years ago I was an RN on her antenatal unit. Sally Carella RN
Ruth Pontremoli
October 13, 2025
I always looked for Detta at St Mary´s. Such an Irish beauty and so very very kind! May the angels and saints greet you and welcome you home!
Treasa Corcoran
October 12, 2025
We are so sorry to hear about the loss of Aunty Detta. May her soul rest in peace with her brothers and sisters. She will always be remembered with love and fondness.
Treasa, Padraic, Sarah, Mike & Annie.
Jack and Marge O'Leary
October 12, 2025
Jean, Our sincere sympathy on the passing of your beautiful ( in every way ) wife Detta. We so enjoyed the many times you and Detta hosted us at your beautiful home. She will be missed by many.Marge and Jack O'Leary
Jacinta Freeman
October 12, 2025
Very sad news about Aunty Detta. She was a regular visitor home to Ireland and we always enjoyed her visits. She will be missed. Jacinta, Aiden, Katie, Aoife & Sinéad
Kathrena & James Kilcoyne
October 12, 2025
Condolence to Jean on the loss of Aunty Detta and to her sister Joan.
It´s hard to say good goodbye. You will always be with us in spirit. I had the honour of being her bridesmaid 39 years ago. She was glowing that day with excitement and love. She leaves behind so many memories over lots of cups of tea. Lots of stories we laughed till we cried. We will miss you Rest in peace Aunty Detta
Love Your niece & family
Kathrena. Jim,Tiernan, Grace, Stephen, Donna, James,Emilia and Bonnie xxxxxxx
Deirdre OBrien
October 12, 2025
So sorry to hear the loss of aunty detta we will miss your yearly visits to drumboat,and your lovely smile. May you rest in peace with your brothers and sisters in heaven
Lots of love deirdre, Tommy ,Katie, Thomas and aidan
Martin Quigley
October 12, 2025
So sad to hear of Detta's passing.She would alway arrive with her great smile on her many visits to Kilconnor over the years .We will all miss her.May she rest in peace.Martin Briege Calum Oonagh and Dearbhaile
Finbarr Quigley
October 11, 2025
Very sorry to hear the sad news of Aunty Dettas passing. Her annual trips home were a marker in the calendar and we loved having her over to visit us in Bailieborough. May she rest in peace.
Finbarr, Molly, Dara & Lena
GERRY QUIGLEY
October 11, 2025
So sorry on the loss of Aunt Detta. May she rest in peace.
From Gerry, Geraldine, Cathal and Riain Quigley
Des (nephew) and Louise Quigley
October 11, 2025
So sad to hear of Detta's passing. We've wonderful memories of her and Jean's visits to Ireland. May she rest in peace.
Damien Dowdall (Nephew)
October 11, 2025
I was very saddened to hear of Auntie Detta's passing . She loved her trips to Ireland and she will be missed in Blackstaff. May she rest in peace
Lorraine Lawson
October 11, 2025
In loving memory of Aunty Detta. I will always remember her wonderful smile and kindness . May she rest in peace .Lorraine ( niece ) Greg ,Erin and Kian .
Gerard and Sandra boylan
October 11, 2025
We are sad to hear of Detta passing and will miss Detta and Jean coming to Ireland for the holidays and the craic
May she rest in peace
PJ & Bernie Boylan
October 10, 2025
We were shocked and very saddened to hear of Aunty Dettas passing. These past few years were difficult for her and Jean but her wonderful smile never dimmed and her light heartiness was always evident. We will miss you so very very much. Many great memories of all the trips you and Jean made home to Ireland over the years . May God reward you for your love and kindness and may he have mercy on your gentle soul.
PJ (nephew) and Bernie.
Joan McColgan
October 10, 2025
Sympathy and prayers to you, Jean. We all felt we knew you through this wonderful, joy filled person. Detta welcomed me to BWH with her unforgettable brilliant smile and kind heart. She showed that the art was just as important as the science in a Nurse Director. She was truly a role model for so many- and dearly loved by all. A life well lived. A new star in the heavens is born
Kathleen Foley
October 10, 2025
Detta was my nurse manager at BWH and was so good to all of us. Always a Lady, so kind and caring to everyone. She treated everyone with such dignity and respect, from an Attending to a housekeeper. Everyone got a hello and her bright smile. She truly made my nursing career & life better. Rest in the sweetest peace Detta.
Kathleen Boothe and Family
October 10, 2025
We absolutely miss everything about you Auntie Detta. You were the most attentive, loving and caring Godmother as well. You will be missed more than you know. Below are a few photos of her with her sisters, Joan, Annie and Kathleen (Phyllis). The other photo is of Auntie Detta with our son about 10 years ago.
Sherry D Adams
October 10, 2025
My Sincere Condolences to Detta´s beloved family! May God comfort you and bless you. I am so grateful that Ms Detta hired me on her birthday to work with one of the most beautiful women in my life! I will always remember her stories and saying! Rest in Peace
Lauren Willard
October 10, 2025
Jean, I am so sorry for your loss. You and Detta were a perfect fit. Detta was very special to me as a mentor, encouraging me to do things I didn´t think were possible. As our Nurse Director she showed strength, kindness and leadership in everything she did. I will always remember her for her famous blueberry buckle and the beautiful roses she would bring in to brighten the day. Rest in peace dear Detta, you have earned your place in heaven.
Marc Lavoie & Wendy
October 9, 2025
With our heartfelt sympathy and prayers.
Joe Camara
October 8, 2025
Jean, sorry for your loss. Detta was an incredible woman and will be missed by so many people. I hope you find comfort in all of the memories you got to share with her.
Cheryl Lavoie
October 8, 2025
Dear Dad, I am deeply sorry for the loss of Detta, she was like a mother to me, and the most kind hearted person to everyone she met. She will be missed dearly, but the love that you two shared is forever and she will always be with you. I love you both so much!
Marilyn Lourandos
October 8, 2025
Detta was a kind and generous woman and gave freely of her talents. At St. Mary's Parish, Holliston, we were in the same ministries together and saw each other often. For years, Detta made Irish bread for all six of the Lenten Soup Suppers during Advent and there was a line of people waiting for her and Jean to come in. After a while Jean figured out why we were there and would not give us any of the delicious crust until all the bread was ready for the table. The Lenten bread was a real treat. Thank you Detta for your kindnesses; you were appreciated and we miss you very much. Enjoy your eternal reward and don't forget us.
Sandy
October 8, 2025
In Sympathy and in Prayers So Sorry For Your Loss....
She Was A Very Kind, Friendly Careing,Helpful,Lady, A Friend..
Always Nice and Considerate To All....She is Missed and Will be Missed At St.Marys 9am daily Mass..
May GodBless You..
Mary Lynne (Pinky) and Larry Daigre (Ste. Genevieve, MO)
October 8, 2025
We met Detta and her dear husband, Jean, about fifteen years ago at the Swan House B&B in Camden, Maine and quickly became friends, meeting in Maine, nearly every October thereafter. She was a lovely person, and we are saddened by her passing. We are sure that God welcomed her to heaven saying, "Well done, good and faithful servant."
Richard Mailloux
October 8, 2025
Jean, so very, very sorry to hear of Detta's passing. Sandy and I fondly remember our October visits with you at the Swan House. Gone way too soon.
George Martell
October 7, 2025
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