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Bette was predeceased by her husband, Leon Elmer McNelly Jr. (2020), and will be dearly missed by her sons, Roger A. McNelly and his wife Patricia (Folta) of Moodus, and Lee E. McNelly of Wethersfield who also provided care and support for Bette since 2019. She leaves behind five grandchildren: Daniel (Kellie) McNelly, Brian (Kristie) McNelly, Kaitlyn McNelly, Jennifer McNelly, and Michael (Cara) McNelly, as well as five great-grandchildren: Owen, Riley, Adaline, Jameson, and Olivia.
Friends and family may call on the McNelly family on Saturday, January 4, 2024 from 9:30am to 10:30am in the Farley-Sullivan Funeral Home, 34 Beaver Road, Wethersfield. A Mass of Christian Burial will be held at 11:00 am in Sacred Heart Church of Christ the King Parish, 56 Hartford Ave., Wethersfield. Burial to follow in Village Cemetery, 1 Marsh St. Wethersfield, CT. If you knew Bette, she did things her way, so in lieu of flowers, please consider making donations in Bette's name to the Tunnels to Tower Foundation which supports veterans, fallen first responders, and their families.
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Alpha Shashinka
January 31, 2025
Dear Roger & Lee, & families. I am so sorry for your loss of this lovely woman. I first met Bette & Mac, (as he introduced himself to me), decades ago when they brought my Great Grandmother-in-law´s sister-in-law, Mary, to Shelton, CT to visit Rose Preston. By that time Gram, unable to live alone any longer, resided at her youngest daughter´s home. My then husband, Mark Shashinka, called to ask me to show them the way to his Aunt Lillian´s home. Mary was practically blind, and without her hearing aids, Gram was practically deaf, (Lillian later explained the hearing aids had been misplaced that day,) the visit was still a gift to both Gram and Mary. Afterward we drove around Shelton to see which homes your Mom recalled. They treated me to lunch as well.
The next time I saw your parents was at their beautiful 50th Anniversary party. I asked Mac if they would open gifts at the party, or later at home? He asked why I wanted to know? I confided I´d written them a poem, and he said, "Show me which package." He took me to your Mom, and upon opening it, she asked that I read it at the podium to everyone. At first I declined, not wanting my then husband, and in-laws to think I was showing off. But when Bette said, "Alpha, you know if Mac reads it, he´s going to kill it." I couldn´t allow that, so agreed. Upon returning to my table, my dears were all complimentary, and I was happy my words pleased your parents.
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Marilyn Jones
December 25, 2024
Dear Aunt Bette's family, my cousins! I was saddened to hear of Aunt Bette's passing! She is with Uncle Elmer now, and at peace! I will cherish the visit my husband and I had with them a few years ago as her stories were vivid in her mind and I visioned the oneriness she and my mother shared! I loved coming to Connecticut in the summers and playing in your backyard! Very sacred memories! Hugs and love are sent to Roger, Lee, and your family!
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