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Celebration of Life
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Gail Oiler Obituary
A Celebration of Life will be held on Tuesday, March 17, 2026 at 1:00 pm at Starks & Menchinger Chapel, 2650 Niles Rd., St. Joseph, MI. Visitation will be one hour prior to the service, from 12:00 – 1:00 pm. Burial to follow at North Shore Memory Gardens. Memorial contributions directed to the Oiler Family would be appreciated.
Gail was a cherished sister, mother, aunt, grandmother, great-grandmother, and beloved wife. A graduate of Lakeshore High School, Class of 1994, Gail dedicated her life as a stay at home mother to Karlis Hardesty of Jacksonville, NC, Keith Oiler of Goshen, IN, and Regena Oiler of Benton Harbor. Paul Oiler of Jackson, OH, took her hand in holy matrimony on the 22nd day of June 1975.
Gail's heart was so full of love, especially for her grandchildren, Ariona, Xena, Karlis Jr, Kristen, Nathan, Erin, Zoie, Megan, and Emi. She also cherished her great-grandchildren, Ryleigh, Justice, Elliott, and Gracelynn. Gail was also joyfully awaiting two great-grandchildren who will carry on her loving legacy.
Gail is survived by two loving brothers, Charles Merril of MO, Douglas Smith of Benton Harbor, and her sister, Deana Roetzel of Benton Harbor, to whom will cherish and remember her. Gail was preceded in death by her mother and father, Charles and Norma Smith; brother, Richard Merril; sisters, Sherry Dorris and Susan Lavanway; and her granddaughter, Mi'yah Oiler.
Gail's warmth, kindness, and devotions to her family will forever live on in the hearts of all who knew her.
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Al and alynne toepke
Earlier today
It is always difficult to lose a parent but especially a mother. May the God of all comfort be with you to ease the grief during this season .
Kathy Nichols (Alsup)
Yesterday
Well Gail this is hard to swallow since I've known you all my life. You was a great friend and neighbor (well most of the time). We could fight and argue but in the end we were still friends. You always loved plants and flowers so I always gave you some of mine to cherish. You are now happy once again to be with all the loved ones that passed before you. I will always remember the times when you was so happy walking your first granddaughter around the block and how she was so polite with everyone she meet. That was one of your deeds you was going to teach them is respect With all this being said Fly high RIP love ya.
Michael Smith
Yesterday
Aunt Gail had such a big heart and cared for everyone; her door was ALWAYS open. I could come and visit her at any time. Aunt Gail and Uncle Paul would welcome me into their home and we would laugh, worship and read the Bible together.
I will miss you, Aunt Gail. But because of our wonderful Savior, Jesus Christ, I know this isn´t goodbye forever-we will see each other again.
Regena Oiler
Yesterday
Mom I don't know how to wake up from all this I'm numb I'm lost and I'm sad I know in my heart your outta this pain n in heaven with your loved ones sending you off was the hardest thing to do and I'm not sure how to open my days with out you here and that my mom I have a hard time facing because my days started with knowing that you was always gonna be in the other room going off to work n coming home I knew ide see your beautiful smile and the light of your face asking how was my day things we take for granted but the biggest things we miss I thank you for 53 years of life with you you was the best friend mom and counselor I promise you no one will ever fill my life like you and dad n my kids you are my everyday my life and I love you forever
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Tiffany Sikkema
Yesterday
Grandma, I will forever cherish the memories I have with you, the small talk, and all the laughs, Thank you for always opening your home for me you were a strong minded beautiful soul inside and out and will be deeply missed.
Mary K Head
Yesterday
Sorry for your loss and know how is hard to take care a parent. Expectaly when they are in pain. I relise now how bless I was to have that one time with my mom. So I know what you went thru. She was lucky to have all of you with her thru it all. Your in my prayers.
Angela Hardesty
March 13, 2026
Rest easy Gail. You will be missed but never forgotten
Violet hanners
March 13, 2026
Sorry for your loss its so hard to loose a parent the only thing that helps is to know they are not in pain God bless you are always in my prayers love you al
Erin Oiler
March 13, 2026
I love you grandma , I´ll make sure my son knows who you are every chance I get and how excited you were to meet him and how much you love him .
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Upcoming Events
Mar
17
Visitation
12:00 p.m. - 1:00 p.m.
Starks & Menchinger Chapel
2650 Niles Rd., St. Joseph, MI 49085
Send FlowersBook nearby hotelsMar
17
Celebration of Life
1:00 p.m.
Starks & Menchinger Chapel
2650 Niles Rd., St. Joseph, MI 49085
Send FlowersBook nearby hotelsMar
17
Services provided by
Starks & Menchinger Chapel - Saint JosephOnly 2 days left for delivery to next service.