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In the early years Grace was employed by Beech-Nut, Canajohaire, NY, New York Telephone Co and when she moved to Great Barrington she worked at Andrews Insurance company for 32 years. After retiring she worked for The First Congregational Church in Great Barrington and most recently she worked as a bookkeeper for a local doctor up until her 86th birthday.
She attended The First Congregational church in Great Barrington and enjoyed reading, knitting, crocheting, gardening, traveling and spending time with her extensive family. She belonged to the Red Hatters and the Thursday Morning Club.
Grace is survived by two sons, Scott Deffer of Beverly, MA, Barry Deffer of Great Barrington and Ronna Zigmand of Housatonic; a brother, William Rutherford of North Carolina. She also leaves a daughter-in-law, Paula (Scott) Deffer, a son-in-law, Karl Zigmand and six grandchildren, Andrew Deffer (Kathryn), Eric Deffer (Nicole) and Alison Dube (Matthew); Kyle and Ava Zigmand and TJ Brown. She also leaves her 9 great grandchildren: James, Jack & Harry Deffer (Andrew); Emersyn, Everett & Ethan Deffer (Eric); Thomas, Olive & Callum Dube (Alison).
She is predeceased by her husband, Ronald Deffer, her brother James Rutherford, her sister Mary Blenis, her sister Elizabeth Rutherford Wise and her parents.
The family will receive friends on Tuesday, June 24, 2025 from 3:00 pm- 6:00 pm at Finnerty & Stevens Funeral Home in Great Barrington.
Funeral service will be held on Wednesday, June 25th at 10:00 am at the funeral home in Great Barrington. Burial will follow at Elmwood Cemetery.
Donations in memory of Grace may be made to St. Jude Children's Research Hospital directly or c/o Finnerty & Stevens Funeral Home, 426 Main St., Great Barrington, MA 01230. To send remembrances to her family please go to www.finnertyandstevens.com
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