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On March 3, 2023, James (Jim) A. Totin, loving husband and an O.G. girl dad to three strong women, passed away at age 80.



Jim was born October 30, 1942 in Duquesne, PA to Andrew (Andras) and Mary (Kovatch) Totin. He graduated from Norwin High School in 1961 and earned a bachelor's from the University of LaVerne in 1979 (while working full time in the Navy). In August, 1974, he married Margaret (Peggy) Collins. They raised three daughters, Mary, Cathleen and Theresa.

He served in the US Navy Seabees from 1961 to 1984, with various tours in Vietnam, the Philippines and Diego Garcia, retiring as a decorated Senior Chief. After retiring, he founded businesses to support his family in the lighting and plastics industry, including Acrylic Design & Fabrication in Virginia Beach in 1987, a successful business for three decades. He supported vocational education by training and hiring students not normally given opportunities and opening doors for them. He loved working with his hands and teaching others the value of a strong work ethic. After his Alzheimer's diagnosis, he and Peggy closed the business, moved to the Chicago area and travelled the world. For the next six years, they took every opportunity to make the best out of the time they had, visiting Europe (Ireland, England, France, Italy, Belgium, Germany, Hungary, Czechoslovakia), Australia (where they saw Carmen at the Sydney Opera House and ate his beloved "carpet bagger" steak that he craved from his R&R days in Vietnam), and Asia (Hong Kong, Vietnam, China and Thailand). More importantly, they spent time together with each other, their daughters and seven grandchildren, whom Jim adored with each molecule of his being.

Besides being in love with Peggy from the moment "I laid eyes on her" and instilling his three daughters with independence, strength and love, he was known for his electric baby blue eyes, quick wit, his infectious smile, and his kind and compassionate spirit. His last gift was to donate his amazing brain to the Biggs Institute to find a cure for Alzheimer's disease.



Jim was preceded in death by his father, Andrew, his mother, Mary, his four siblings William, Ernest, Mary Jane (Payne), and Margaret (Lloyd). He is survived by his wife, Margaret "Peggy," his three children, Mary Totin Schaus (David), Cathleen Totin Burrell (Thomas), and Theresa Wilson (Benjamin), nieces and nephews, his seven grandchildren and one great grandchild.



Celebrations of life will take place May 13 in the Tidewater area and June in the Chicagoland area, and donations can be made to Cure Alzheimer's (www.curealz.org) and/or the Biggs Institute (https://biggsinstitute.org/) in his name. Jim wants you to be a part of the solution, so please donate generously in lieu of flowers.

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by The Virginian-Pilot on Mar. 26, 2023.

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Karen & Karl Lindquist

June 12, 2023

I just read on FB of Jim´s passing. We are sorry to hear of it. Our condolences to you Peggy and your daughters. We have great memories of the times we spent with Jim & you & the girls in Virginia Beach. Jim was such a great guy & we were blessed to have know him. Many prayers & much love to you & your family.

Frank Sclavenitis

May 26, 2023

Sincere condolences from the family of Veno Duplesys. Your family's dedication, love and support for Jim was shared to include Veno and was a source of comfort for our family. We will never forget it. Jim was quite a guy! May the wonderful memories and life experiences with Jim give you comfort and bring a smile to your family...Jim would love that. Peace.

Bob and Grace Holdren

March 29, 2023

Dear Peggy, Mary, Cathleen, and Theresa,
We have such fond memories of Jim as a backyard neighbor in Virginia Beach. Who could forget his little yellow pickup truck or the twinkle in those blue eyes? He loved the USA, "politicking", and a good cookout. But most of all, he loved his family. Jim simply adored the four women in his life!
May the memories of the good times sustain you through your grief.

Dave Jernigan

March 26, 2023

Very sorry to hear this and my sympathy is with your family. Jim was a business vendor to our company and he was pleasure to speak with when we visited. Rest in Peace my friend.

George and Beverly Wilson

March 24, 2023

Always remember the UM games and the yellow coats.

Brian Kirwin

March 24, 2023

An exceptional man and a wonderful family. Jim was very special person and good friend to so many. He will be missed.

MaryAnn Beres, Morrow

March 23, 2023

Dear Peggy, please accept my deepest sympathy on losing your husband and your lifelong friend. May God be with you and comfort you during this difficult time and the days to come.
MaryAnn Beres Morrow

Athanasia Feka

March 23, 2023

I knew him as Jim but often times called him Uppy . He could bring a smile to your face with his wonderful stories. I'm sending my deepest condolences and prayers to the entire family. He will certainly be missed and always be remembered.

Belinda Reynolds

March 23, 2023

Peggy, I am so very sorry to hear about Jim´s passing. I know you both had a fabulous time traveling literally all over the world. May your memories and God´s Holy Spirit hold you close. What a wonderful life you had together. Love you

Joy Drumm

March 23, 2023

Peggy, I´m very sorry to hear about Jim's passing. He was a wonderful neighbor and loved his stories. I especially loved finding out he grew up in the area of Duquesne my Dad did. I never saw Jim without a smile or kind word. I pray you find comfort in all your wonderful memories.

Debbie Rivard

March 23, 2023

Peggy, My sympathy to you and your family on Jims passing. What a wonderful life you had together and may all your memories from your travels and life with Jim bring you many happy peace and beautiful memories.

Keith Abernathy

March 23, 2023

We have lost a good man...a wonderful father, husband and friend. But we have gained another bright star in our heaven. So look up tonight and thank Jim for his service to our country, the wonderful life he lived, his gift to research, and for the memories of his lifetime...not to mention being a big fan of the Michigan Wolverines.

Maribeth Ocock and Bob.. fellow Seabee.

March 23, 2023

We loved Jimmy..He and we Bob were in in Cuba and Vietnam together .Prayers for Peggy.. God's Blessings

Nancy Courtney

March 23, 2023

Wonderful husband - wonderful father - wonderful friend. So blessed to have known such a tremendous soul!
Bob and Nancy Courtney.

Pamela Gaut

March 23, 2023

Peggy, I'm so sorry for your loss. Jim was so much fun to talk to.

Vicki Dray

March 23, 2023

Peggy, our deepest sympathy. Thanks for all the support you and Jim gave our family! Love you! Vicki and Chris

Rawles Magee

March 23, 2023

What a gift to this life Jim was..full of fun, a zest for life, an honest to goodness hero but most importantly a loving family man who will be missed by all of us. It was a great privilege to know Jim.

Jack Kaltenhauser

March 19, 2023

I served with him at CBMU 302 in Subic and on Diego Garcia where he was our detachment OIC
May God bless those he leaves behind.

Wayn & Linda Duprey

March 18, 2023

Jim touch my life many years ago. He gave a young Sailor and his wife a clean safe place to live and grow into a family. Our Hearts are broken for Jim has left us to start a new life with God. Jim will always be a part of the Duprey Family. Peggy our heart go out to you and the Girls. Just know we will always be here for you. We send our Love to you. Till we meet again SHIPMATE.

Rubyjean Gould

March 18, 2023

Generous and loving .... a wonderful friend.

David Lawrence

March 18, 2023

Jim, you will always be in my memories and I'm a better person for knowing you. Thanks for being my friend.

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