Kay L. Dickner

Kay L. Dickner obituary

Kay L. Dickner

Kay Dickner Obituary

Obituary published on Legacy.com by Regency Mortuary - Sun City on Sep. 10, 2025.

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On Saturday, August 2nd, 2025, Kathlyn (Kay) Lois Monson Dickner, mother, grandmother, great-grandmother, and wife, passed away peacefully at the age of 89 with her son and daughter-in-law by her side. Over the past year, Kay had been under the care of many compassionate professionals from Hospice of the Valley and Valley of the Sun Home Care, which was a huge blessing to her and her family.

Kay was born at Good Samaritan Hospital in Phoenix, Arizona, on April 29th, 1936. She was a true Arizona native, living in the Greater Phoenix area her entire life. In her early years, she and her brother Richard were raised by their parents, F. Richard Monson and Lois A. Monson. Kay was preceded in death by her husband, brother, and parents.

After the passing of her father when she was 9 years old, Kay helped raise her older brother, who lived with a rare musculoskeletal disorder that left him wheelchair bound until his passing at 28 years of age. She attended West High School, where her favorite memories included sneaking into the Arizona State Fair via a hole in the fence near her childhood home on West Palm Lane, school dances, and earning her High School Letter for playing Table Tennis.

After meeting on a blind date, she and Roger A. Dickner eloped to Las Vegas in 1963. They were married for 59 years before his passing in December 2022. Before becoming a homemaker and working part-time jobs at the Metrocenter Ice Skating Rink and Hallmark, Kay worked as an Administrator at Phoenix College and was very proud of her 10-year career there.

Kay cherished being a grandmother and great-grandmother. She valued top performance and was frequently found enjoying her kids', grandkids', and great grandkids' sporting and performing arts events. She traveled frequently to Europe with her husband to visit her eldest daughter, Diane, and granddaughters, Emma and Alexa. They also enjoyed many trips to Disneyland with their son Mike, his wife Mary, and grandchildren Ryan and Morgan. Kay's favorite place on earth was Kohl's Ranch near Payson, Arizona. She spent several birthdays there in a cabin by the creek with family members, and after every trip, she could not wait to go back again.

For many years, Kay was blessed to have a close-knit group of friends. She enjoyed socializing while "walking the mall," playing Bunko, playing cards every Wednesday and dominoes every Friday, and going to the Bingo parlor from time to time. She often reminisced about her cross-country train trips with friends, exploring as far as New Orleans and New York.

Kay is survived by four children (and their partners): Diane, Richard (Deanna), Mike, and Susan (Michael), five grandchildren: Tawna (Jared), Emma, Alexa, Ryan, and Morgan, and two great-grandchildren: Rachel and Maverick.

On September 29th, 2025, from 2:30 pm - 3:00 pm, a memorial service will be held at The National Memorial Cemetery of Arizona at 2929 E. Pinnacle Peak Road, Phoenix, AZ 85024. The eulogy will be delivered by Kay's cousin, Steve Kerns, with his wife Joy also in attendance. Immediately following the service, a Celebration of Life will be held at the Elks Lodge at 14424 N 32nd Street, Phoenix, AZ 85032. All are welcome! In honor of Kay's love for games and her wish for us to "throw a big party," we will play BINGO after socializing and having refreshments. In lieu of flowers, please consider donating to Hospice of the Valley at: https://www.hov.org/donate/donate-now/

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Frank

November 3, 2025

I am 90 years old and I cried today.

I googled my West Phoenix High School sweetheart of long long ago - Kay Dicker(Monson) and discovered she had passed away on August 22, 2025.

Kay and I often e-mail each other over the years just to keep in touch and reminisce about our old High School days together and get updates on our families.

The last time I heard from Kay was on January 4, 2024 when she indicated she had just been released from the hospital having been diagnosed with Cancer.

I emailed her subsequent to that time but, never received a response.

Today, when I googled her name once again, I discovered the reason I had not heard from her - and I cried. And, the tears are still flowing.

I first met Kay when my Father and Step Mother decided to move to California without me.

I was boarded out to live with a Woman named Elsa Heap and her Grandfather at 1914 West Palm Lane. That was in early 1950. I was 15 years old.
In a way, I was very fortunate as Kay lived at 1912 WPL and Jim Newman (our West Phoenix High School President to be) lived at 1916 WPL.

Kay had an older brother named Richie. When we first met, he and I became instant Friends. Richie was seriously disabled and required constant care. Kay was a Saint and did everything she could to comfort Richie. Having no family in Phoenix of my own, I became a constant visitor to the Monson household. Richie and I would play chess often, he moving his men using a back scratcher. He was totally immobile and had to be carried always. In this regard, Kay was a SAINT, never hesitating to insure his comfort.

As might be expected, Kay and I became to be very close as in BoyFriend/GirlFriend.

We would date often and Kay´s Mom Lois would fund our dates and let us take her car - a new 1950 Ford.

Kay was two years behind me at West Phoenix High School. When I graduated in 1952 she was a Sophomore.

I joined the Navy in June 1952 immediately after graduation as the Korean War was still in progress and was sent to San Diego for Basic Training. Kay, Richie and Lois (Her Mom) visited me twice while I was in San Diego.

That was the last time I saw Kay, her Mom or Richie.

I feel certain that Kay´s Mom wanted us to continue our relationship but, unfortunately it was not to be. However, we Never lost contact with one another as we had bonded closely with one another and has never forgotten those memorable days of our youth.

Frank

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