Robert Bruce Deffinbaugh

Robert Bruce Deffinbaugh obituary

Robert Bruce Deffinbaugh

Robert Deffinbaugh Obituary

Obituary published on Legacy.com by Funeral Alternatives of Washington - Tumwater on Dec. 5, 2025.
Obituary for Robert Bruce Deffinbaugh

Robert Bruce Deffinbaugh, born on November 28, 1952, in Shelton, Washington, passed away peacefully on December 2, 2025, at the age of 73. A man of deep faith and unwavering kindness, Robert's legacy is defined by the love he shared with his family and friends, and the lives he touched through his dedicated support of others.

Robert was a proud graduate of Shelton High School, Class of 1971, and furthered his education at Olympic College and Evergreen State College, focusing on Arts, Literature, and Music. He had a passion for the creative arts, which manifested in his love for drawing and painting, showcasing his innate talent and creativity.

In the 1970s, Robert embarked on a career in commercial fishing, a testament to his adventurous spirit. He later found work at the Simpson Mill in Shelton, Washington, where he was known for his hard work and dedication. Beyond his professional life, Robert's greatest impact came from his involvement with Alcoholics Anonymous (AA). Through his leadership and generosity, he provided support and guidance to many on their journeys to recovery.

Robert shared many moments of joy with his sister, Susan "Lynn" Heinold of Olympia, Washington, and the love of his family resonated throughout his life. He was preceded in death by his parents, Robert Lloyd Deffinbaugh and Cora Irene Cole Deffinbaugh, and is survived by his beloved sister, Lynn. He also cherished the memory of his grandparents, Lloyd W. and Mary Deffinbaugh, and Earnest and Frances "Susie" Cole.

Known for his good humor, Robert was a loyal friend and brother who embodied the qualities of kindness and generosity. As a born-again Christian, he lived his faith and shared hope with those around him. His passion for fishing brought him peace and happiness, providing a perfect backdrop for his contemplative and artistic spirit.

Robert's life was a testament to love, hard work, and compassion. He will be deeply missed by all who had the privilege of knowing him. In honoring Robert's memory, let us carry forward his spirit of kindness, creativity, and unwavering support for those in need.

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