Ruth Ann Kilmartin
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Ruth graduated from Fonda High School, class of 1966, and worked for Montgomery County for many years as a receptionist. Ruth was always on the move, she never sat still. She was always present for her family and friends, no matter what the event, cheering them on with a beautiful smile and the best hugs. She would go to every one of her son Adam's truck pulls, and she even participated in one pull, driving the truck herself. She had a lifelong love of Ford Mustangs, the first car she bought herself was a 1969 Mustang. Several years ago she bought a newer Mustang, which she was still driving until recently.
She loved going out to eat and loved visiting friends. She didn't care where she was going, as long as she was in the presence of those she loved. She was a people person through and through, always trying to take care of others and put them before herself. When she did take a few moments for herself, Ruth loved gardening and flowers. She was a phenomenal baker, on both the small and large scale. Her family fondly remembers the many cakes and dozens of cupcakes and cookies she would make for parties, weddings, and events.
Left to cherish Ruth's memory are her longtime companion, Dick Lyons; her son Adam Kilmartin, Jr. (Diahanna) and Diahanna's daughter Valerie; sister Sandy Lais; her longtime best friends Darlene Monk and Annette Jordan; nephew Richie Knudsen; her beloved "grandpup" Pugsie; as well as many cousins and countless friends.
She was predeceased by her mother, Katherine and her step-father Howard VanAvery, sister Ginny VanAvery, and her beloved cat Gracie.
Relatives and friends are invited to calling hours on Tuesday, September 16, 2025 from 9:00 Am to 11:00 AM at Betz, Rossi, Bellinger & Stewart Funeral Home, 15 Main Street Fultonville, NY. A service will take place at the funeral home at 11:00 AM, with burial to follow in Maple Avenue Cemetery, Fultonville.
Ruth was a member of the Rural Grove Fire Department Ladies Auxiliary for many years, and in lieu of flowers the family kindly asks for memorial contributions in her name be made to the Rural Grove Fire Department or the Multiple Myeloma Research Foundation.
Arrangements have been entrusted to Betz, Rossi, Bellinger & Stewart Family Funeral Homes.
To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.
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Pam Manchester
September 16, 2025
Dick,Adam and family so sorry for your loss sending thoughts and prayers to you all
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Linda Eggleston
September 15, 2025
So sorry to hear of Ruth's passing, she had just recently contacted me to repair a quilt she wanted fixed. Sad we didn't get to meet up for that. She was always such a friendly person and I will certainly miss seeing or hearing from her. My condolences to the family.
Denise Diamond
September 14, 2025
Adam and Dick,
I am so sorry to hear about Ruthie's passing. She and I had such a a wonderful visit in July.
I will always cherish the memories of our visits. My fondest memory is of when she visited in Florida and the cat we had wanted to get in her suitcase. She and I also spent part of a day in Mount Dora window shopping and we had coffee and a Danish in this quiet shop and enjoyed each other's company. I will miss her dearly. All my Love to you both.
Denise
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