Theodore K. Oates, II, M.D.

1945 - 2025

Theodore K. Oates, II, M.D. obituary, 1945-2025, Northbrook, IL

Theodore K. Oates, II, M.D.

1945 - 2025

BORN

1945

DIED

2025

Theodore K. Oates, II, M.D. Obituary

Published by Legacy Remembers on Apr. 14, 2025.
The family of T.K. Oates, II sadly announces the passing of Theodore K. Oates, II, M.D. (T.K.) on April 9, 2025, in Northbrook, IL at age 79. He is survived by his loving wife of 53 years, Ann Shipper Oates, and his 2 children Theodore K. Oates, III (T.K. III) (Sarah K. Oates) and Alison O. Davis (Shaun M. Davis) of whom he is very proud. He is also survived by "the delights of his life", his 4 fabulous and adorable grandchildren (Lucie E. Oates, Cora R. Davis, Cullen M. Davis and Grayson P. Oates) with whom he loved to play "monster", hide and seek, "Ice Cream Man", build Legos, and to read multiple books and stories. He is also survived by a brother, Max O. Oates, Jr. of Martinsburg, W.V., a sister, Mary Elizabeth Oates of Shepherdstown, W.V., and predeceased by a sister, Evelyn L. Oates (Boo).

T.K. II was born in Martinsburg, W.V. on December 11, 1945, son to Max O. Oates, M.D. and Evelyn S. Oates. He is a 1963 graduate of McDonogh School, Owings Mills, MD, 1967 Cum Laude Graduate of Washington & Lee University, Lexington, VA., 1971 graduate of Duke University Medical School. T.K. completed his Surgical Internship (1971-72) and Assistant Resident in Surgery (1972-73) at University of Rochester Surgical Residency Program at Strong Memorial Hospital, Highland Hospital and Rochester General Hospital.

T.K served in the United States Air Force Medical Core 1973-75 stationed in Izmir, Turkey in support of NATO Land Southeast. He and Ann returned to Rochester in 1975 where T.K. continued his surgical residency program completing his Chief Residency in Surgery at Rochester General Hospital in 1978. T.K. completed a Fellowship in Cardiovascular Surgery at Toronto General Hospital, University of Toronto, Ontario, Canada in 1979. Subsequently, T.K., Ann, and family moved back to Rochester, NY where he practiced General and Vascular Surgery from 1979 - 1995 continuing his private practice of General Surgery until his retirement in December 2011.

T.K. was well respected by his colleagues, his many medical students, residents, and nurses whose lives he touched because of his caring dedication, compassionate care for his patients, and his love for teaching. He was beloved by his many patients, several of whom called him "their angel". T.K. loved his music especially from the 50s, 60s, and 70s. His operating room teams would remember his little black radio that he brought into the operating room, sharing his tunes and music trivia to lighten the stress.

T.K. was a member of Monroe County Medical Society, Rochester, NY; a Fellow of the American College of Surgeons; Diplomat of the America Board of Surgery; Member of the North American Chapter, International Society for Cardiovascular Surgery; recipient of the Rochester General Hospital Surgical Staff Outstanding Teacher Award; recipient of the Air Force Commendation Medal; and nominee for the Father George Norton Award for Compassion.

T.K. and Ann are so grateful for every moment spent together at home with family and friends and for the many travels throughout the United States and the world. Whenever making travel plans, T.K. took great pleasure in researching and reserving the best restaurants he could find, a pleasure inherited by his son and daughter. T.K. loved to swim and dive taking every opportunity to teach his grandchildren or other youth how to dive and jump the waves in the ocean. He easily captured the audience of any youth with his string trick, card tricks, and the canter and gallop taught to him by his grandfather. T.K. loved his pets dearly and made friends with most any dog on his walking routes. During his retirement, T.K. restored some antique cars, meticulously studying and installing number matching parts to bring the cars back to life.

As you remember T.K., please share his strong hugs and heartwarming, contagious smiles with your loved ones and many friends. We thank our world of family, friends, and colleagues for your love and support through these difficult days and the devoted care T.K. received from the dedicated and caring staff at North Shore Place, Northbrook, Illinois.

No prior Calling.

Memorial services will be held in Chicago and Rochester NY.

Chicago, IL:

- Date: April 15, 2025

- Time: 2-5 p.m., Service 3 p.m.

- Location: North Shore Place, 1000 Sunset Ridge Rd, Northbrook, IL 60062.

Rochester, NY:

- Date: May 3, 2025

- Service: 1:30 p.m.

- Location: White Haven Memorial Chapel, 210 Marsh Rd, Pittsford, NY 14534.

- Reception: to follow.

Private interment in West Virginia to be scheduled at a later time.

In lieu of flowers, please make donations to Rochester Regional Health Foundations, Rochester General Hospital, Dept of Surgery, 330 Monroe Ave, Suite 400, Rochester, N.Y.14607; Alzheimer's Association (alz.org); Northfield Community Church, 400 Wagner Rd. Northfield, IL 60093; Songs by Heart, Memo: North Shore Place, 1000 Sunset Ridge Rd, Northbrook, IL 60062 or a charity of your choice.

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May 2, 2025

Sister Beth LeValley posted to the memorial.

April 28, 2025

Mary and Jack Meyers planted trees.

April 23, 2025

R. Whit Curry, Jr MD posted to the memorial.

Sister Beth LeValley

May 2, 2025

I met and was so impressed with Dr. Oates several years ago when he was taking care of one of our sisters. He was SO honest about her situation - he did not know - and I was SO impressed. Later when on Rochester Regional Board I happened to meet him in the hall and spoke glowingly about how he had affected me in that situation. Reading the fine stories about him, I realized I had touched, been touched by, albeit so briefly, his life gift/his fine personhood.I am sorry for your loss, the community’s loss. Sister Beth LeValley, Sister of St. Joseph of Rochester

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R. Whit Curry, Jr MD

April 23, 2025

Whit (and Ruthanne) send our sincere condolences. It sounds like TK led a fulfilling life with a loving family and many thankful patients.
We knew TK from Duke where the "roomies" that Spencer mentioned in an earlier message included TK, Spencer, Gus, Rich, Andy, Fred, Stan and Whit. TK was great as a "roomie" although he was adamant that only he could use the single car garage for his beloved Corvette. Wishing now that we 8 "Dookies" had kept up better with each other.

B. Spencer Thomas, Jr.

April 23, 2025

Checking to see what he was up to, I found that he had passed; one of my 5 "roomies" from Duke. I wonder how many of us are left.

Jack & Dottie Gabig

April 22, 2025

Sending our deepest sympathy and thoughts to Anne and the family.

T.K. was a "special Beach Buddy"! We so enjoyed him & Anne in Summers shared in Ocean City. Loved when the "Grans"
were there and the family interaction.

Loving thoughts to all,
Jack & Dottie

Mary and Jack Meyers

April 22, 2025

T. K.'s smile lit up a room! Although we only knew him for a short time while living in Illinois, we so enjoyed his energy, his friendliness, his stories and his love of music. He was very special in every way!

Dale Meier

April 20, 2025

Ann, i wanted you to now how much we enjoyed working for you & TK all of my guys thought very highly of both of you. We all (Meier Assoc.) thought TK was great to work with and hearing his stories. Every time I drive by your house in Irondequoit I have found memories of both of you. I am glad I was able to meet TK he was special.
Dale Meier

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