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Eric Kane Obituary
Mr. Kane was born in Media, Pa., on March 23, 1941. New Bern became his home in 1978.
Eric was a humble man who would never boast about himself, so it is our great honor to let the world know how wonderful he was. Among his many contributions to his community, he was a member and deacon of Temple Baptist Church as well as a teacher of the Sunday School Joy Class. Serving for years as a substance-abuse counselor, Eric also helped to initiate Celebrate Recovery. He spent countless hours as a volunteer and coach for the Special Olympics with his son, Jeremy. A member of the U.S. Marine Corps, he proudly served our country for 23 years.
It could be said that Eric Kane was a soldier of love.
Armed with a seemingly endless flow of compassion, empathy and faith in God, he was a motivational inspiration to all who crossed his path. Having never met a stranger, it was one of his greatest pleasures to help people find and sustain their own light through his shining example and amazing talent for making people feel special. You could always count on hearing his gentle encouragements like, 'One day at a time,' or 'Be good to you.'
When he wasn't working on some angelic mission or another, you might find him working on a computer, reading science fiction, riding his motorcycle or sailing a boat.
Let it be known that whether it was his biological, adopted, foster or stepchild, he loved all of his children and grandchildren deeply and unconditionally. Words cannot express how dearly loved he was or how greatly he will be missed.
Mr. Kane is survived by his beloved wife of 18 years, Pamela E. Kane, of New Bern; four sons, Benjamin Kane, and his wife, Lena Primina, of Morehead City, Jeremy Kane, Charles Kane, and his wife, Michelle, all of New Bern and Charles Bandy, and his wife, Denise, of Union, Ky.; a daughter, Bronwyn Mithun and her husband, John, of Locust Grove, Va.; his stepsons, Jordan Brown and his wife, Danielle, of West Jefferson, Justin Brown and Joshua Brown, of New Bern and his daughter-in-law, Beth Brown, of New Bern; one brother, Richard Kane of Danielsville, Pa.; one sister, Dale Laughlin of Media, Pa. and 21 grandchildren.
The family will receive friends from 6:30 to 8 p.m. Wednesday, Sept. 3, 2008 at Cotten Funeral Home and Crematory.
Memorial services are Thursday, Sept. 4, 2008 at 3 p.m. at Temple Baptist Church with the Rev. Dr. Steve Cobb officiating.
Memorial contributions may be made to the Jones County Special Olympics.
Cotten Funeral Home and Crematory is serving the Kane Family.
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Memories and Condolences
for Eric Kane
Bronwyn Mithun
December 29, 2008
Many thanks to all of you that have expressed such wonderful things about my Dad, Eric Kane. He was all of the things that each of you decribed and yet, he was so much more. He was a father -figure to many, but the fact that I shared his DNA made me feel special, not jealous or envious, but proud, because I "belonged" to a dad whose heart had room for so many.
As his only daughter, I was priviledged and proud to be the only person in the world that could experience his unique brand of father-daughter love. He was my hero in so many ways, he was the ruler by which I measured every other man in my life. He was always the first to offer one of his amazingly powerful hugs that healed so many of life's pains. He was a christian, a comedian, a philosopher, a daredevil, a teacher, a healer, a protector, a supporter, a friend, and a doting father. He was the kind of Dad who would guide you gently into making the right decisions, and if you didn't he would offer up his wise and sometimes frustrating, "so what did you learn from that?" followed by, "ok, so next time choose differently." He would call every week to check up on me without making it feel like he was intruding in my life as an adult. I will miss those calls. I will miss him leaving a voicemail that was simply Patsy Cline singing "crazy" on the radio in the background and his voice singing right along with her. Then as sort of a closing statement he would say, "Love ya'll! Bye!" I miss him terribly...What a wonderful legacy he has left behind and how grateful and honored I am to be the only daughter of such an incredible daddy.
Be good to you, Ya'll, don't forget your towel, and thanks for all the fish!
With heartfelt thanks, Bronwyn Kane Mithun.
Jerry Batten
September 9, 2008
Ben and family,
I was deeply moved by the service for your father. It touched us all and helped us know what a remarkable man your father truly was. I know he will missed by many ... I hope you can find comfort in the wonderful memories you've shared.
May God bless ..
Jerry
Larry/Jeanette Elswick
September 8, 2008
Pam & Family,
You have our deepest sympathy, and we will surely miss Eric. His kindness was unmatched and he certainly loved life, family and church. He was prolific and his works will be remembered by many.
Vicki Avino & Boys
September 7, 2008
Ben & family- We are sadden for your great loss of your DAD. The Ceremony was really nice the way you all honored him. He will be sorely missed. Our deepest sympathies.
Kelly Warren
September 6, 2008
To the Kane Family:
I am so sorry to hear of Mr. Kane's passing. I always thought he was so kind and had such a big heart.
God bless you and be with you during this time.
Love,
Kelly Warren
Diane Kinsey
September 5, 2008
I wish to extend my heart felt sympathy to Benji and his family. If I am correct I went to school with Benjamin Kane in either middle or high school in Jones County. If I am correct I would like to hear from you.
Debbie Eisenman
September 5, 2008
Ben
Very sorry to hear about your dad.
If there is anything I can do,please
don't hesitate to call on me.
With sincere sympathy,
Debbie Jo
Jennifer Laughlin Anderson
September 5, 2008
Uncle Eric was a wonderful, kind, loving, generous man from whom we all learned so much. ...and he gave the BEST HUGS EVER (maybe he was tied with Ben).
My heart and love is with all of you. I miss you!
Big Hugs,
September 5, 2008
Ben and family,
Just wanted you to know you have been in my thoughts and prayers. These are very difficult times for you all but may your memories bring you comfort.
Paula Hampton
Mindy Wood
September 4, 2008
Pam & family,
I am so sorry for your loss. Mr. Kane was an angel, truly, and he will be greatly missed. I would always see him at the Y with Jeremy & enjoyed talking to him. He loved to talk about his family! He was so proud of you all!
You are in my prayers.....
Amber, Janie and Patricia Monarch, Inc
September 4, 2008
No bond is as great as that between a parent and child. Our deepest condolences are with you as you grieve.
Debra Register
September 4, 2008
Chuck and Family; I just found out about your Dad and I am so sorry. I did not know him but he sounds like a real true advocate for his Lord and a giver of himself. Just know that my thoughts,Love and Prayers are with you. Ms. Debbie Register
Kirk Lovell
September 4, 2008
Pam:
Sorry to hear about your loss. I only had contact with Eric a few times through my job there in New Bern, but I remember him to be a kind and gentle man. I know you will miss him... that's ok... we all want to be the type of person that is missed when we are gone...
Dan and Mari Clark
September 3, 2008
Pam and family, Dan and I are so sorry for your loss. Eric was a wonderful man, always had a smile and what a sense of humor! Dan and I have fond memories of him and all the family. Our prayers are with you and yours. Holding to His hand...
Joe Skamarakas
September 2, 2008
Pam and Family, I was very saddened by the news of Eric passing. He was a wonderful man, and a wonderful friend. We will miss him.
VICKY SOUTH (HARRELL)
September 2, 2008
Dear Chuck my thoughts are with you and your family during your time of loss.He will be missed.He always had a smile on his face and a kind word of encouragement to say.
The Herman Boyd family (from the Surgery Waiting Room)
September 2, 2008
To the Kane Family,
We felt your pain and sorrow on Saturday. We will continue to pray for all of you.
Melinjda Hammerquist
September 2, 2008
Pam and Family,
So sorry to hear of your loss. Eric will surely be missed by so many! What a blessing to always see his uplifting smile at church. We will be praying for you and yours.
Eric & Melinda Hammerquist and family
Lynne Bass, Shirley
September 2, 2008
Dear Pam,
I was sorry to hear about your husband. I know that we passed each other a lot in the hospital when mama was in there and I saw your sister and she told me about Eric. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers.
Monarch, Inc Day Activities Program
September 2, 2008
We were so sorry to hear of your loss. Please let us know if there is anything we can do to help at this time.
Lucy Pleso
September 2, 2008
Pam: I am at once sad and happy, for our loss is Heaven's gain. As you know, Eric and I met while at Craven Community College in the early 1980's. Even then his Spirit was contagious and it was always a wonderful feeling to receive one of his "optionals." I remember the day you all came over with the car full of kids and even more in the trunk. It's a good thing we have Eternity, because there's never enough time with loved ones here on Earth. Bless you in your time of sorrow. Lucy Pleso
Rob, Cynthia, James & Jonathan Campbell
September 2, 2008
Pam & Family,
Our deepest sympathy on the loss of Eric. He was a dear friend and a brother in Christ. We will miss him greatly. We are blessed to have known him and richer for it. Our thoughts and prayers are with you in this time of sorrow and we rejoice knowing he is with our Heavenly Father.
Brian & Sarah McGuire
September 2, 2008
Pam & family,
We will always remember Eric for his kindness. He always made us smile even as we passed by quickly at church. He always had a smile. He will be surely missed by our family.
Sylvia Hibbard
September 2, 2008
Dear Pam & family:
Eric will always be remembered for his kindness and his crazy personality - never failing to make me laugh. He was a very special human being. submitted by former owner of Fred & Claire's restaurant
Mary'beth Shelton
September 2, 2008
Pam and family, our hearts are on the ground. Eric's smile and gentle spirit were always such a blessing to our family.
April Kegely
September 2, 2008
Pam and family,
We are deeply saddened for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with all of you at this time.
The Kegleys, Stan, April, Kinsey, and Seth
Sue Hardison & family
September 2, 2008
Pam
Please know our thoughts and prayers are with you and the family. Eric was such a good man, always making others feel better about themselves, always smiling, and always loving his family.
May God give you and your family strength during this trial. I know Eric is rejoicing and receiving God's promises. He will be missed by all.
Darryl Radford
September 2, 2008
Our thoughts & prayers are with you at this time. Eric was a friend of mine, to my family, to this church, and all who knew him. He was a loving, caring, kind, and encouraging soul....we will miss him as our friend and prayer partner on Wednesday mornings. Eric loved his family, loved his church, and most of all, loved the Lord God. He truly walked louder than his talk and I will miss his insight & perspective. God bless the Kane family. The world is missing a true man who loved much...
Debbie Zang
September 2, 2008
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. May God keep you in his protective care.
Fellow Temple Member,
Eileen Whitby
September 2, 2008
Pam and family,
We are deeply saddened to hear of your loss. We will remember Eric has kind, caring and loving. We will keep you in our prayers.
Ray, Eileen, Caleb and Kristen
Jan Woodward
September 2, 2008
Pam and family,Eric was such a special person . He never saw adversity in his own personal challenges. God will be with you each and every moment. Jan Woodward
Eileen Whitby
September 2, 2008
Pam and family,
We are deeply saddened to hear of your loss. Eric will always be remembered as a kind, loving, and gentle man. We will keep you in our prayers.
Ray, Eileen, Caleb & Kristen Whitby
Phyllis Toler
September 2, 2008
Please accept our deepest sympathies. Mr. Kane was an exceptional man and always had a smile for everyone. His love and devotion for the safety and care of Jeremy will never be forgotten.
CARTS Staff
Lynn Eaches
September 2, 2008
Pam,
I am so sorry for your loss. He will be missed by all. I love you guys.
Josh, Chelsie, and Savannah Cassell
September 2, 2008
We Love You and will miss you.
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