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1978
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2007
Thomas Saby Obituary
Thomas Christopher Saby passed away Thursday, Oct. 25, 2007. He was 29 years old and had been a resident of Ventura County for 18 years.
He was born May 27, 1978, on the East Coast. While growing up, Tommy had the opportunity to live and fish on all three coasts with his dad. He lived part of his life on the Gulf Coast in Spring, Texas, and eventually settled on the West Coast. He was employed as a carpenter's helper with his father.
Tom is survived by his father, Thomas H. Saby Sr.; mother, Marianne Saby; sister, Lauren Saby; and son, Samuel Stitis-Saby. He was very close to his family and loved his mother, sister and son dearly.
Dear Tommy,
I am going to miss you dearly. There are so many unanswered questions. Someday I will know all when we meet again, but for now there is only sorrow and a deep, abiding pain that will never go away. You were such a sweet kid and as an adult you were being a witness to us in your despair. I know you have been received up into God's loving arms. You are in that high court that you told your mother you saw while you were still with us. Someday we will know as you do now when our faith becomes sight. The world has become a much smaller place without you in it, son. I will try to think of you as a soldier in the Lord's army that has fought the good fight, has kept the faith and has received his reward in paradise. God loves you and knows how to take care of you so much better than I.
Forever yours until we meet again. -Dad
Visitation will be from 5 to 8 p.m. Thursday, Nov. 1, in the Chapel of the Oaks, Pierce Bros. Valley Oaks-Griffin Mortuary, 5600 Lindero Canyon Road, Westlake Village. A memorial service will be held at noon Friday, Nov. 2, at Faith Baptist Church, 3300 West St., Somis; phone 805-386-3175. The Rev. Ted Philips will officiate.
In lieu of flowers, please send donations in Tom's name to the Ventura Rescue Mission, 234 E. Sixth St., Oxnard, CA 93031-5545.
Arrangements were entrusted to Pierce Bros. Valley Oaks-Griffin Mortuary, 818-889-0902.
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Lauren
May 25, 2025
Hey Tommy,
I was thinking about you this morning because it's almost your birthday. I wish we could go to Malibu and celebrate! I was just thinking yesterday how you dove right into the freezing cold ocean last time we were there. Your ability to carpe diem was amazing!
I read through all the posts this morning. So many people loved you, and for good reason. You were always able to brighten someone's day and share the love of Christ that was overflowing in your heart.
The last post that I wrote made me sad. I was carrying so much guilt I didn't know what to do with. I wanted to let you know God has healed my heart. I finally found Jesus for real. Or I guess I should say He found me!
Matthew 18:12-13 NKJV “What do you think? If a man has a hundred sheep, and one of them goes astray, does he not leave the ninety-nine and go to the mountains to seek the one that is straying? [13] And if he should find it, assuredly, I say to you, he rejoices more over that sheep than over the ninety-nine that did not go astray.
I wish we go to church together and sing:
"When we all get to heaven
What a day of rejoicing that will be
When we all see Jesus
We'll sing and shout the victory"
You will be missed until I see you again. I hope you are the first person who greets me after Jesus!
If anyone is reading this, please listen to "My Jesus" by Anne Wilson in Tommy's memory.
Love,
Lauren
susan kleinfelder
October 24, 2021
Tommy it´s been fourteen years since you left us, still missing you. I was reading what your father wrote to you those 14 years ago & now he is with you too. Love you both & missing you both. Till we meet again
susan kleinfelder
October 25, 2020
Miss you
Thomas Saby
October 24, 2020
Not a day goes by Tommy
susan kleinfelder
October 24, 2019
Hi Tommy wish you were with us to watch you grow, listen to your stories & watch the story of your life unfold. I know I would love to been part of that story & I know you are watching out for all of us. Miss & Love your infectious laugh. Till we meet again. Tell Jack I said hi & I miss him too. Love Aunt Sue
October 24, 2019
Thinking about you son.
Seems like yesterday.....
Cindy Ochirosi
October 24, 2019
Loving thoughts & prayers for the Saby family always until we meet again with our Lord and Savior on that Beautiful Shore. What a day that will be!
(1 Corinthians 13:12) For now we see in a mirror, dimly, but then face to face. Now I know in part, but then I shall know just as I also am known.
Michelle Lopez
October 24, 2019
I can't believe it's been 12 years. Miss you Tommy
Tom Saby
May 19, 2018
Missing you Daily Tommy....You have a birthday coming up...Love you and until we meet again.
Dad
Sue Biello
December 7, 2017
Thinking about you, missing you, sorry you had to leave us so early. I can't believe it's been ten years. Still praying for you. See you in the next life. Xoxo
Cindy Ochirosi
December 6, 2017
I think about you often Tommy. See you in Heaven!
Cindy
December 5, 2017
I miss you too Tommy.
You will know him in the next world Sammy.
By Faith we are Saved through Grace.
Tommy is with the Lord. Jesus said in my Fathers
house there are many mansions and He went to prepare a place for us.
Love you both,
Grandpop
Your Son
December 3, 2017
Hey, I sadly never got to know you, but I will always love you, and I hope to see you again.
Aunt Sue
May 30, 2016
Happy Birthday, miss you
Catherine Biello
May 27, 2016
Happy Birthday
Miss you
Love you
See you again
Michelle Lopez
September 22, 2015
Miss your smile.
I think of you all the time.
RIP my friend.
Susan Kleinfelder
September 22, 2015
Tommy I always think of you. You are here in my heart. I hope you have found the peace you could not find here on earth. I know you are in a better place. Missing you with your big smile and infectious laugh. Tell Dad I said Hi. Love & Miss xoxoxo
Thomas Saby
September 21, 2015
I miss him as well....
I love you Tommy,
Dad
September 16, 2015
We miss you Tom.
December 12, 2014
Miss you Tom!
Dad
October 19, 2014
I think of you everyday and wish you could be here to see your son grow up.
Sue Kleinfelder
October 19, 2014
Peace be with you Tommy. Wish you didn't have to leave so soon. Love & miss....
Catherine Biello
October 17, 2014
Miss You!!!
September 13, 2013
Me too Love ya miss ya
Aunt Cathy
Dad
September 12, 2013
I do too Baby. until we meet again...
Christmas morning reading about Jesus.
Lauren Saby
September 11, 2013
I miss you so much
Catherine Biello
March 20, 2012
Hey Tommy, Just sitting here thinking about ya and wondering what and where would ya be if you were still with us on earth. I am still praying for ya, You do the same for me and we will see each other when its ment to be. Love you and miss you.
Love aunt Cathy
steve
March 17, 2012
You'll be greatly missed, love ya dawg
LINDA KEELEY
October 26, 2011
NEVER HAD THE HONORS OF MEETING U BUT U MUST HAD BEEN A GOOD GUY IF U R PART OF THE BIELLOS.
Catherine Biello
October 25, 2011
Hey Tommy, I cant believe its been 4 years. I want you to know I think about you every day and pray for you,Grandpop, and Nan.. Pretty soon it feels like everyone will be with you. I miss you and cant wait for the Day we are all together again.
Love Miss You! OXOXOXXXOOO
September 23, 2011
Hi Tommy,
I think about you everyday. I miss you so much.
Dad
brandi starr
December 5, 2010
was sitting here and could here your laugh deep in my thoughts. it made me smile...xoxoxox brandi
Michelle Lopez
October 26, 2010
Tommy, I can't believe 3 years has passed by since you left us. I think of you often. My thoughts and prayers continue to be with you and your beautiful family. Much Love xoxo
Susan Kleinfelder
October 26, 2010
Tommy, miss you too much. I hope you are now in peace and spending time playing cards with Pop. Love & Miss you both...hugs and kisses
xoxoxo
Catherine Biello
October 25, 2010
Hey Tommy, I just want to wish you all the Happiness in the entire Universe. I miss you and Love you for ever and ever!!!
brandi starr
October 25, 2010
Tommy We all miss you so much! Im sending hugs and kisses to you be sure to share with Pop xoxox
Dad
May 27, 2010
Happy 32nd Birthday Tommy Boy.. Love & Miss you. Give Pop a hug from me
May 27, 2010
Happy Birthday Tommy!!!! Say hi to POP. I miss you both and love ya forever and ever!!!
Aunt Cath
Iqbal Quidwai
November 16, 2009
Can't believe it is 2 years Tommy is indeed missed
Iqbal Nick Quidwai
October 30, 2009
I miss you boy.....
Dad
October 29, 2009
Tommy,
Two years have gone by and your family so far have beat the odds of disaster. I have so much admiration for your Mom, Dad and Sister Lauren. I Know you are here with us and one day we shall be with you. You are always deeply Missed and Loved Forever.
Love,
Aunt Cath
brandi starr
October 29, 2009
Tommy,
It has already been two years since you left us. You are still deeply missed and thought of everyday. I can still hear your powerful deep laugh in the back of my head. And when it sparatically pops into my head I cant help but break out into a huge smile and a slight giggle. I know you are at peace now and are finally free and happy. I have to say selfishly I wish you were still physically here with all of us who miss you so much. I Luv & Miss you and one day we shall meet again...xoxoxo Brandi
mom
June 18, 2009
waiting
Catherine Biello
May 29, 2009
Tommy,
Happy Birthday!!!
Please keep praying for all that love and miss you. You are missed so deeply.
Love,
Aunt Cath
May 29, 2009
The world is a smaller place without you Tommy. God Bless & keep you.
Dad
Michelle Lopez
May 27, 2009
I miss you Tommy. I think of you often. Until we meet again...
May 26, 2009
Happy Birthday Tommy,
Miss and love you.
Aunt Sue
Lauren Saby
November 3, 2008
Dear Tommy,
I can not believe its been an entire year since you went to be the with the Lord. It really feels like it happened just a moment ago, probably because we are all sleep walking through life now. Each and every day, though I may be smiling or focused on something trivial, the loss of you is always heavily on my mind. I’ve spent the past year soul searching, trying to get in touch with God but the desire to self destruct is so powerful. I want to feel the pain you felt, or I want to punish myself for not being a better sister to you. I want to feel as bad as I did a year ago…I want the sadness to be overwhelming because at least I felt something. I also just want that something to get me through.
I’ve found it very hard to care about myself or feel real emotions with regards to my actions or my life. I know you would hate to see me giving in to the world, wasting my life the way I am. But lately I have had breakthroughs—mostly realizing that what I’m doing is not honoring your memory. It was all so clear to me after you died—nothing mattered except helping people who were less fortunate and who had problems. But eventually the world creeps back in. Still, I am doing my best to make my life worthwhile by helping others, and I know God will lead me somewhere I can make a difference.
I know for certain you are in heaven, and because of this I’m no longer afraid of death. I know I’ve experienced this loss for a reason and I am here for a reason. My ability to feel empathy for other people has increased since I’ve felt such deep sorrow and pain that I never understood before. My heart has grown. I wish I was like this before you left. I would have done so much more to show you how much I care about you and love you. I wish I had hugged you. I wish I had expressed to you how much I was worried about you. The majority of my memories are instances where I could have reached out or been there for you. But I know its my own selfishness that wants you back here. I have made progress in moving past the feelings of guilt and can sometimes think of you with a smile on my face. Like when something happens that I know you would find hysterical, I can hear your laugh and it makes me smile.
You are the coolest, funniest person I’ve ever known Tommy and I’ve always been proud to be your sister. Your son is an absolute angel and he is in the best possible hands. I can see your huge heart and beautiful smile in him.
One day I am going to see you again and all of this pain is going to go away. I love you so much.
Your sister,
Lauren
Catherine Biello
October 28, 2008
TOMMY WE ALL MISS YOU AND LOVE YOU. I know you know that. I know your with us, because you leave little signs, like the tv and kids toys going on by them selves. The orbs in our pictures. When something strikes me funny and I SAY is that you Tommy? I know it is. I hope you'r new life is everything you expected it to be. I will find out when you there waiting for me. Dont ever stop giving me signs of your presence, It makes me feel good. Dont forget how much you are loved and missed.......
Love Your, Aunt Cath
oxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxo
Brandi Starr
October 25, 2008
If Tears Could Build A Stairway
If tears could build a stairway
And memories were a lane
We would walk right up to heaven
And bring you back again
No farewell words were spoken
No time to say goodbye
You were gone before we knew it
And only God knows why
Our hearts still ache in sadness
And secret tears still flow
What it meant to lose you
No one can ever know
But now we know you want us
To mourn for you no more
To remember all the happy times
Life still has much in store
Since you'll never be forgotten
We pledge to you today
A hallowed place within our hearts
Is where you'll always stay
XOXOXOXO You are greatly missed!!
Uncle Tom, Aunt Marianne & Lauren,
I know today is going to be a very hard day for all of you. Just remember everyone is here for you just a phone call away. I wish there was something we could do to take away your pain. Only time can heal your broken hearts and most likely will always leave a scar. I am deeply sorry for your loss and pain. We love you all and hope to see you soon.
Love, Brandi xoxox
Tom, Christina, Michael, Alisa and Nicholas McEachern
March 20, 2008
Dear Tom, Marianne and Lauren. I was devastated by your news last week in Costco. I was unable to express my deep regret. We have been thinking about you guys all week. May the Lord bless you and keep you in these troubled times.
Tommy: May you be lifted up on eagle's wings and know peace for evermore. Romans 8:38 "For I am persuaded, that neither death, nor life, nor angels, nor principalities, nor powers, nor things present, nor things to come, Nor height, nor depth, nor any other creature, shall be able to seperate us from the love of God, which is in Christ Jesus our Lord."
Tom and family: I cannot imagine the pain or the loss. He is in a better place and the pain has been lifted from him. Your sadness will pass in God's time. Isaiah 54:11, "O thou afflicted, tossed with tempest, and not comforted, behold, I will lay thy stones with fair colours, and lay thy foundations with sapphires."
Lauren Saby
January 2, 2008
Dear Tommy,
I’ve decided to stop letting Satan tell me that you’re gone and that I’ll never see your smile or hear your laugh again..
You’re not gone...you’re just in heaven. And I know you’re experiencing happiness that I can’t even fathom. It comforts me when I think of the joy that you’re experiencing right now. This life is so short, it really won’t be that long before I see you again.
I know that you’re in heaven. I feel it so strongly that I can no longer reject God. My eyes have been opened. So God has answered one of your prayers, Tommy. I am going to do my best to keep my eyes on Christ, for ever. And to take care of my health, like you wanted.
I really miss you, bro. No one is ever going to be able to understand me like you did. We had our squabbles, but we also had that sibling bond.
Love, your sister,
Lauren
Catherine Biello
December 11, 2007
Tommy,
We will never stop loving you. We will never stop missing you. In time our empty hearts may fill with all of our memories of your time with us. When I think about you all I feel is pain. Now that you’re with our Lord Savior Jesus Christ, I pray for all of us to overcome our pain of loosing you and fill our hearts with happy memories with you. I love you and will always miss you forever and ever.
Love,
Aunt Cathy
Tom, Marianne, Lauren,
You all have a long painful road ahead. Please help each other get through this intense hollow, painful time. Through this healing process fill your hearts with each other’s love. I know all of you are hurting deeply and probably will for as long as you’re on this earth. The hollowness in you’re hearts may never ever leave. Try to fill them with old and new loving memories. I love and miss you all so much. I’m praying for you. Everyone knows it’s ok to cry, to laugh and to feel anger and frustration. It’s all part of the process of loss. Just remember it’s nobody’s fault. You cant change what was. You can only change what is to come. Love you, miss you, and call anytime. I would love to hear from all of you.
Love always and forever,
Your Sister, and Aunt Cathy
Susan Kleinfelder
December 9, 2007
Tom, Marianne & Lauren,
Helen Keller once said;" With the death of every friend I love....a part of me has been buried...but their contribution to my being and understanding remains to sustain me in an altered world."
Theres not a day that goes by that I don't think about Tommy with his big beautiful warm eyes and loud infectious laugh. You are all in my daily thoughts and prayers. They say time heals all wounds...I don't believe it...I believe as time goes by you remember all the good and lose track of the bad. Take all the good things and incorporate it into your lives.I love you guy's ..Stay Strong,
Love, Sue
Sean Biello
November 26, 2007
Sometimes we have to try to look for one light, one good thing, and be grateful for it. And thank God for sending us that one good thought. Where there is one, there are more, and each one will help us to take another step by step, moment by moment. (And maybe that will help someone else someday that we turned toward the light and life and good and that were grateful for it and let ourselves be led by it.)
Tommy Boy
November 26, 2007
Leon Murillo
November 21, 2007
Tom, Marryann,& Lauren
As a close friend to the family, and considered the adopted child I worked, broke bread, and spent social time with Tommy. I considered Tommy as a brother, His heart was filled with love, Spirituality, and a kindness like no other & is a reflection of the love for his Family. He couldmake a room light up with his presence and that Smile.I could not help but take all that in and know that he will Forever be in my Heart.
Tommy my Brother we will meet again.
My arms are opened and extended to the family.
Love and respect always,
Leon & Family
Bill Lord, Carmen and Family
November 18, 2007
Dear Tom and Family,
May God bless you and keep you.
You are in our thoughts and prayers.
Love,
Bill Lord, Carmen and Family
xoxo
Linda Marshall
November 15, 2007
To my dear Compassionate friends, Marianne, Tom and Lauren,
My heart and love are with you.
Our children are now with the ONE who loves them the most. The ONE who let us borrow them for a short while.
I will keep you all in my heart, where my daughter lives and where your beautiful son and brother will always remain forever and more than that.
Remember, we are now in their hearts and they pray for us.
Victor Newmark
November 15, 2007
Tom, Marianne, and Lauren,,,
I feel a sense of emptiness in my heart from the news of the loss of your son and brother. I have always had a special feeling in my heart for your family and especially Tommy. He was like a younger brother to me, and we spent many times together trying to understand what it was within ourselves, that made us the way that we were. I know that he is somewhere looking over all of us now, and someday we can all share some moments together again. My prayers go out to your family and his son, as I will go on and remember the smiles and laughter that we shared together.
Richard and Kathy Haubois
November 12, 2007
Dear Tom, Marianne, and Lauren,
We are so sorry to hear about Little Tom. It upset me a lot when I spoke with Tom on the phone and heard his grief. I broke down and cried with him. I didn't know Little Tom as a man, but I knew him as a spunky little boy, and I always thought that he would amount to something. From what I hear from others, he did become something, and that makes me feel good now. I can't wait to go to California to see y'all. Until then, our hearts and prayers will be with you.
Love from The Haubois'
Barbara Biello
November 7, 2007
Dear Tom, Marianne, Lauren
I’m praying for your family to heal.Remember the good times.
Our flower said it all,
“The Bleeding Heart”.
I love you all and you are in our thoughts and prayers.
Love,
Mom and Pop Biello
Esther DiGiacomo
November 7, 2007
Dear Tom, Maryanne, Lauren
The most precious gift, I’ve been told,Is all the love the heart can hold.I give it to you and you give to me,There’s enough for the world and the gift is free, So won’t you take this gift more precious than gold,It’s all the love the heart can hold.
Love and God Bless,
Aunt Esther
Anthony Biello
November 6, 2007
Tom,Maryanne and Lauren,how heavy your hearts are I cannot begin to imagine. I pray for the words to comfort and console yet they elude me, leaving me helplessly wondering, what, if anything I can do or say to ease your suffering. I find myself drifting throughout the days wanting to be with all of you to share some of your burden. Know that you are loved by many and constantly in their prayers. I can only hope our Lord will send the comfort of the Holy Spirit to fill your hearts with hope once again and heal your sorrow as only he can. Because of his deep belief in the Word, a gift bestowed to him by you, his loving parents, I know Tommy is resting peacefully in Christs strong loving arms and that we shall meet again. I will allways remember Tommy as a witty jovial prankster with a heart of gold, willing to share the good word unashamedly with all that would listen. He touched many lives and the world is a better place because of him, though our lives feel emptier without him. Still I believe that Tommy would want us to keep up the good fight in spreading the word of our Lord to those who yet hunger for his love. May God bless and keep you. Love, Anthony
November 6, 2007
Dear Marianne, Tom and Lauren,
We are deeply saddened by your loss. You are in our thoughts and prayers.
Love,
Brian & kathy Daley
annonynous
November 6, 2007
Turn your face to the sun and shadows fall behind you
Belgica Heredia
November 6, 2007
Tom, Marianne & Lauren,
When I heard the news from Eddie, my eyes filled with tears. I looked at my daughter and imagined your sorrow -
My memories of Tommy are when he was coming into adulthood. What a presence - a cool, handsome character with warm eyes - and what a character. Always grinning with a funny unique story followed by that prize winning laugh.
I have a picture of him from that time and coincedentally came across
it three weeks ago and left it out. It was as if he came say goodbye.
I will always remember him.
Please call me (805)407-9724 and come visit. My house is open to you, just as you opened yours to me.
Love you guys, All the strenght and positivity to you.
Bel and Sofie
Cody Roehr
November 5, 2007
Dear Uncle Tom, Aunt Marianne and cousin Lauren,
I wish I could have been there with you, to help ease your grief; we have been grief stricken here. I am glad for the time Tommy and I spent together for those years, he lived here. I remember his hardy theatrical laugh, so loud and expressive. Ill think of his strange sense of humor and the times we played video game. I miss you and love you. If there is anything I can do to help you get through this difficult time, I am here for you.
Love,
Cody Roehr
Al and Cindy Lopez
November 5, 2007
Tom, Marianne, and Lauren,
Al and I want you to know that we love you and share in your grief, and you will always be in our thoughts and prayers. We are so thankful for the testimony of Tommy, even through his pain and struggles. I lost a brother in the same way, and there will always be the "what ifs" and "should haves". Please do not dwell on those, but remember the good and happy times. Tommy had an impact on people. The three of you have also made a difference in people's lives, and you are loved. May God continue to comfort you in the days to come.
Love, Al and Cindy Lopez
Brandi Starr
November 4, 2007
Tommy had the gift of laughter. I can hear his deep hardy laugh everytime I think of him. He will always be missed and deeply loved. We love you Tommy, you’ll never be forgotten!!!! XOXOXO
Edward Biello
November 4, 2007
Brother, Sister and my Beautifully Spirited Niece;
I will never understand why his time was now! and I can feel your deep, deep, sorrow.
Tommy to me was a brilliant, courageous, beautiful, passionate and spiritual being, with a twist of lime. Tommy and I have had long talks of god and Christ, even when times were bad and ugly for him he would still verbally reach out to speak with god, wherever he was, in a crowd, in the bar just anywhere. His faith was stronger than any I know. He is at peace and his suffering is gone. I will miss his loud, arm throwing laughter, I will miss his sloppy way of eating and I will miss his big strong hugs, with love you could feel. We are just here to take care of gods children till the day he calls them home. I might never have the chance in life to father one of gods children, so please feel lucky remember all the good times you have had, till god called for him to come home. You both are great parents and wonderful human beings. I am one of the luckiest men alive to have you four as my family. I love you all so much and cant tell you how sorry I am that I could do nothing to save Tommy and to ease your pain. Tommy was a witness to me in life and through his death has changed my life in a profound way. Please any time you feel you need to talk call me.
I love you Tom, Marianne and Lauren, you all have a lot to do with anything spiritual within me. Remain strong for each other and know that we will all be together again in gods glorious kingdom.
Love and deepest condolences,
Eddie Biello
Rebecca Van Houten
November 4, 2007
Saby, Valentine Family, If I could lift this heartache from you - I would. That I can share and pray - I will
Brian Basenfelder
November 2, 2007
Dear Tom, Marianne. and Lauren:
I am so sorry for your loss. My sincerest sympathy to you all.
Mildred Valentine
November 2, 2007
Dear Marianne, Tom, and Lauren:
All of my love and prayers are with you. Mom V.
Joanne Valentine
November 2, 2007
Dear Tom, Marianne, and Lauren:
Our beautiful Tommy was taken from us. I wish I could be with you at this time, I hope and pray God heals the gaping holes in our hearts. Tommy was sweet, loving, creative, and had a delicious sense of humor. I have so many wonderful memories of Tommy. He was my first nephew and I loved him more than words could ever say. My love to all of you. Aunt Jo
Janis
November 2, 2007
Dear Mr. & Mrs. Saby & Lauren,
I met Tommy when he was 22 when I was going thru a painful divorce. His words of "Get over it", always rung in my ears and he helped me do just that. He is the one who introduced me to church and God and I am most grateful. I had given Tommy some books to read by Bruce Wilkinson, The Prayer of Jabez and the Dream Giver. One day out of the blue awhile later, he called me at work and said he was reading one of them and it was really good. I was so glad cause the books brought me strengh and hope and I wanted to share it with him. I have not seen or talked to Tommy for the past few years but the last time I saw him he looked great and had a postive outlook toward the daily challanges, I was really happy for him. I liked to think we helped each other. I am so very sorry for the Saby family and friends, my prayers are with you and Tommy. I am sorry I was unable to attend last night but I was there in spirit.
John Celello
November 2, 2007
Dear Tom, Marianne and Lauren,
I cannot pretend to know what grief and despair you must feel to have lost Tommy. My words are but a feeble attempt to convey my sympathy and sorrow and feelings that I have for you; so, simply know that I love you guys, and I hope you can find peace in the peace that Tommy now has.
Nicl Iqbal Quidwai
November 2, 2007
To TOM's parents & ALL who loved him
I am shocked and deeply saddened @ his leaving us so early! I knew him for 10 Plus years as my son Humi's friend I too thought he was a real handsome guy & those eyes...as others have written. Wish Hollowood had found him as he would have been a succussful star if he wanted to be; guess he IS with the stars now! God Bless you all! Ease your pain.
Cindy McGee
November 1, 2007
Dear Tom, Marriane, and Lauren,
No words will help your greif. Only God's love and peace will give you strength to walk through this valley. Please know that our thoughts and prayers have been with you since we heard of Tommy's passing. Love Phillip and Cindy McGee
Luann Walker
November 1, 2007
Dear Saby Family,
You are in my thoughts and prayers. I know your faith will help you through the pain of this terrible loss.
My daughter, Karin and Tom went to senior prom at Newbury Park high school. They were such a beautiful pair. Tom's mom and I were taking pictures of them before they drove away.
I had not seen Tom in many years but ran into him last year in Oxnard where I work. He was as handsome as ever but I sensed he had found the love and spirit of Jesus. He glowed as he told me about his new church, Victory outreach.
I know he is at peace with his lord and savior, Jesus Christ.
MaryJane Daley
November 1, 2007
Saby Family,
Please accept our deepest heart felt sympathy to you and your family on the loss of your son, Tommy.
Love, Aunt MaryJane and Uncle Tom
Michelle Lopez
November 1, 2007
I met Tom about 2 years ago, but didn't start to really get to know him until the end of last summer. I remember running into him at the beach. I could see in his eyes, and how beautiful the were, that he really wanted to better his life.
Everytime Tom saw me, he was the best at giving those big bear hugs! But as the months passed, I started to see him less frequently. I missed his contagious smile. He sent me a text of a bouncing smiley face last March, I will never forget that. Thats just the kind of person he was. He was a beautiful human being. I am deeply saddened that I will never have his presence, but I know I will someday.
To the Saby Family, may God bless you with strength and support of friends and family. God will help you through.
Theresa Ricci
November 1, 2007
I barely remember that cute little boy Tommy. It's been so long since I saw him-yet it feels like I know him especially after reading all the warm and kind words about him. I wish I could be there with you now. My thoughts & prayers are cosntantly with you. I trust that God will ease you pain and strengthen your memories and hearts. God Bless all of you
Alicia Biello
October 31, 2007
I am so lucky to have so many good childhood memories of Tommy. I’ll never forget his beautiful eyes and his ornery smile. My brother and I were never bored when he was around; he was an adventurer and one of the bravest boys I’ve ever known. I know he is at peace in God’s loving embrace finally, truly safe. He will be sadly missed and forever remembered.
Wendy Smith
October 31, 2007
My dearest friends, Tom, Marianne and Lauren,
May you find some comfort during this most difficult time knowing that so many prayers are being said for you as well as Tommy. While you have lost so much, Heaven has gained another angel to watch over those of us left here until we all meet someday again. My thoughts and prayers are with you always.
Love, Win
Debra Louks
October 31, 2007
Dear Lord, my friends, my neighbors, my sister just experienced the loss of their child – their child, my kids’ friend, and the little boy I watched grow to a man! "Please, Lord, help them, especially Lauren, his sister, who could not have loved her brother more…." I cried, and thought of the verse, "And Jesus wept." From that moment on I knew they would not be alone in their grief.
Not even the comfort offered by compassionate friends and family can penetrate the core of their agony. Yet, at the same time, I know they feel, Lauren can feel, I feel, and anyone who knew Tommy can feel the everlasting arms of God carrying him. Deep within all of us, we should understand that from the beginning of time, God Himself understood grief.
Debra and David Louks and family
Dr. Donald and Patty Kuzyk
October 31, 2007
Dear Marianne, Our deepest sympathy to you and your family. May you find peace and comfort in God's words and know he is at home with the Lord. Love and Prayers
Tom Daley
October 31, 2007
Dear Marianne,Tom & Lauren,
Please accept our sincerest condolences for your loss. You are all in our prayers.
Cousin Tommy Daley, Linda, Tommy III, Christopher and Michael.
The Snooks
October 31, 2007
To The Saby Family,
You are forever in our prayers.
The LORD is a refuge for the oppressed,
a stronghold in times of trouble.
Those who know your name will trust in you,
for you, LORD, have never forsaken those who seek you. Psalm 9:9; 9:10
anonymous
October 30, 2007
To those of true faith, the greatest treasure of all
lay far beyond the stars....
Alice Meade
October 30, 2007
Dearest Tommy,
You have always had a special spot for me in your respect and kindness. Not to mention your smile and humor. God be with you, as I expected for you to conquer. Maybe you did. My heart has been hurting since I heard of your passing. Alice Meade, mother of one of Tom's friends. 479 0015
Alice Bittle
October 30, 2007
Dear Marianne, Lauren, and Tom,
I was so sorry to hear about Tommy. My memory of him will always be the cute little boy, happy and smiling. Riding in the car with his Aunt Joanne.
I wish I could do something to ease your pain. My deepest sympathy to all of you. May God give you comfort during this difficult time.
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Cindy Ochirosi
October 30, 2007
Dear Saby's,
Just a hug and a note to let you know I'm praying for you guys. I love you my brother and sisters in Christ!
Love,
Cindy (Gates) Ochirosi
October 30, 2007
Our thoughts and prayers are with you all. Your friends Vineyard Community Church, Thousand Oaks, CA.
Rob Orth
October 30, 2007
Dear Saby Family & Friends,
My deepset prayers and sympathies are extended to you in this time of devestating loss. It is in the deepest place of despair and darkest of times such as this that our faith can be radically tested.
"This is the message which we have heard from Him and declare to you, that God is light and in Him is no darkness at all." 1 John 1:5
Tommy desired to be with Jesus and now there is no longer any darkness in him. He is home with the Father.
May the word of the Lord and the presence of His Holy Spirit bring comfort to you at this time of loss.
Psalm 42
As the deer pants for the water brooks, So pants my soul for You, O God.
2 My soul thirsts for God, for the living God.When shall I come and appear before God?
3 My tears have been my food day and night,While they continually say to me, “Where is your God?”
4 When I remember these things,
I pour out my soul within me. For I used to go with the multitude;
I went with them to the house of God, With the voice of joy and praise, With a multitude that kept a pilgrim feast.
5 Why are you cast down, O my soul? And why are you disquieted within me? Hope in God, for I shall yet praise Him For the help of His countenance.
6 O my God,my soul is cast down within me;Therefore I will remember You from the land of the Jordan, and from the heights of Hermon, from the Hill Mizar.
7 Deep calls unto deep at the noise of Your waterfalls;
All Your waves and billows have gone over me.
8 The LORD will command His lovingkindness in the daytime,
And in the night His song shall be with me— A prayer to the God of my life.
9 I will say to God my Rock,
“Why have You forgotten me? Why do I go mourning because of the oppression of the enemy?”
10 As with a breaking of my bones,
My enemies reproach me, while they say to me all day long, “Where is your God?”
11 Why are you cast down, O my soul? And why are you disquieted within me? Hope in God; For I shall yet praise Him, the help of my countenance and my God.
Your friend and brother in Christ,
Frank Blauvelt
October 30, 2007
The Pacific Coast Predators Girls Fastpitch Organization would like to offer our condolences to Lauren, Marianne, Tom and the entire Saby family. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
nancy morales
October 30, 2007
Saby Family,
I had the pleasure of meeting Tom approximately six months ago while he attended my church - Victory Outreach in Oxnard. He was sitting at the table adjacent to mine. I, and my family introduced ourselves. He had the most beautiful blue eyes, blonde hair and a great personality.
A few days passed and Tom showed up at my home, with my son, for a good homemade Mexican lunch. I am so glad I rolled out the red carpet for him; I let him know he had a family in Victory Outreach. He was truly loved. He was a beautiful person, both inside and out. He told me of his son and how much he loved him, I pray his son will always be reminded of this truth.
My sincerest condolences to you and your family. You are in my prayers.
Becky Crossley mother of Erick Ryan Dove-Crossley
October 30, 2007
To the Saby Family - I too lost a beautiful son 3 mos ago. My heart aches for you and your family. May you find comfort in the following:
*The Reunion Heart*
Since heaven has become your home
we sometimes feel we're all alone;
and though we now are far apart
you hold a big piece of our hearts.
We never knew how much we'd grieve
when it was time for you to leave,
or just how much our hearts would ache
from that one fragment you would take.
God lets the tender hole remain
reminding us we'll meet again,
and one day all the pain will cease
when He restores this missing piece.
He'll turn to joy our every tear
with thoughts of you we hold so dear,
and they'll become our special way
to treasure our "Reunion Day."
Until your Reunion Day, may God and your memories comfort you on your Grief Journey.
Lori THOMAS
October 30, 2007
To The Saby Family:
You do not know me, nor I you. However we do have one thing in common. We both have lost a Son at age 29. My son like yours was a beautiful, spiritual guy, way to good to remain on this earth as we know it. It has been only 10 months since I lost my boy. The grief and pain and sorrow are almost more than I could endure. However, I had to stay the course for my 2 daughters and 4 granddaughters. Just know that you are in my prayers. The pain and grief will be with you forever, but as each sunrise & sunset puts a little distance from you and your sons death, it will become a little easier to control you tears and deal with the pain. God Bless you.
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