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Allan Troxler Obituary

Allan Kirkpatrick Troxler -- graphic artist, mask-puppet-and-banner maker, violinist, country dance teacher, community activist, and devoted friend -- died at age 78 at Brookdale Memory Care in Chapel Hill on October 26, 2025. His final days were filled with Haydn quartets, songs from his childhood, and the voices and touch of so many who loved him.

Allan was born April 22, 1947 and grew up in Greensboro, the son of respected civil rights and peace activist Catherine Kirkpatrick Troxler and orthopedic surgeon Dr. Eulyss Robert Troxler. Allan served his country during the Vietnam War as a conscientious objector, working to preserve Boston neighborhoods threatened by urban development. Later, Allan moved to a communal farm in rural Oregon with his partner, noted gay activist Carl Wittman. While in Oregon, Allan and Carl helped to publish RFD, a magazine for gay men living in rural America.

Returning to North Carolina in 1979, Allan and Carl settled in East Durham where they renovated neighboring houses. Both devotees of English Country Dance and leaders in a national dance movement, they started Sun Assembly, its weekly dances and New Year's celebrations in Durham weaving an egalitarian community beyond gender binaries. Over the years they helped organize a range of community projects and protests. Carl died of AIDS in early 1986 but remained Allan's life partner.

Beauty was Allan's main medium, his daily mode random acts of kindness, and he did everything with extraordinary patience and care. A gardener who crafted incredible bouquets to bring to ceremonial events (from dinners to birthdays to memorials or sick rooms), he would arrive at your door with armfuls of flowers and juggling vases. His posters for Dance or the next demonstration are so exquisite that many still adorn refrigerators across the Triangle.

Allan Troxler was also fondly known by his many friends and followers as E. Bunny. For decades he gorgeously Rit-dyed dozens of eggs, crafted that year's unique basket and tiny Easter book with original text and art, then drove through the night around the Triangle, delivering these bundles to our doorsteps by Easter morning.

His artwork and papers reside more formally beside Carl Wittman's at the Duke University's Rubenstein Library. Allan was honored as an LGBT Pioneer at the Executive Mansion by Governor Roy Cooper in June 2024 along with Mandy Carter as Carolinians who "for decades led the charge for acceptance and equality."

Allan is preceded in death by his parents Catherine and Eulyss Troxler, and is survived by siblings Chris Troxler (Kathryn), Susan Trackman, Nancy Troxler (Brian) and Rebecca Ryan (Kevin), numerous nieces and nephews, and many members of his chosen family. A celebration of Allan's life will happen in 2026.

From Allan's writings: "Here we be, ears ringing as some of us grieve ancient companions just gone; others meting out pills; potions in portions. Through the window cicadas rattle their ancient benedictions: Life, death. Through the curtain Sister Heavenly Light blesses us all."

In lieu of flowers please direct online donations to WUNC or checks to Southern Tier Women's Health Access Fund, PO Box 642, Vestal NY 13851.

To plant trees in memory, please visit the Sympathy Store.

Published by The News & Observer from Oct. 29 to Oct. 30, 2025.

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Wicca

November 4, 2025

I'm so lucky that a mutual friend let me know that Allan had died so I've spent the last week thinking of the years of dance and of being there when Carl died, dancing in the backyard. Both lovely men...

Jeffery Beam

November 3, 2025

Allan was an amazing spirit. Graceful and beautiful in so many ways. A light for queer folk everywhere. I met him not long after he returned to North Carolina in 1979, although I knew of him already because of RFD magazine. An inspiration always.

Laura

October 31, 2025

I still remember his sensibility and beatiful aura from the first time I met him. He was a great and unique person

Marya Warshaw

October 30, 2025

Allan was a dear friend and friend to my mother Gloria Warshaw.
As my cousin Carl´s partner he was a treasured family member. On my last visit to NC we had a sweet lunch full of memories and recent news and events. We walked in the woods and delighted in one another . I will miss him always.

Sheryl

October 30, 2025

You always inspired me when you would come to Kinkos to create. One of my favorite customers and you will be missed!!

Marya Warshaw

October 30, 2025

Allan was a dear friend and friend to my mother Gloria Warshaw.
As my cousin Carl´s partner he was a treasured family member. On my last visit to NC we had a sweet lunch full of memories and recent news and events. We walked in the woods and slighted in one another . I will miss him always.

Sallie Shuping Russell

October 30, 2025

Wow. This is so sad to me. My family and the Troxlers were close - we were neighbors in Greensboro and their kids' ages corresponded closely to ours. My sister Jane was Allan's age and they were friends throughout school and beyond. Becky, Allan's youngest sister, played flute at Jane's daughter's wedding many years ago. My other sister, Ruth, was close friends to Nancy. They stayed in touch a long time after both were adults. My condolences to all the Troxlers - from all the Shupings. Sending much love to you all. Sallie Shuping Russell

Franklin Abbott

October 30, 2025

Such a beautiful soul.

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