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Barry Doyle Obituary
April 9, 1953 - April 14, 2017
Raleigh
Barry James Doyle, loving husband, father, brother and friend passed away on April 14, 2017. Barry was a man after God's heart and always made sure to take care of others. He was the founder and owner of Barry's Café in Cary, which opened in 1992 and continues to serve the community. Barry was also the founder of Feed the Firefighters Foundation, which has fed emergency personnel and first responders for the past 22 years.
Barry is survived by his beloved wife and daughter, Denise and Catherine. He is also survived by his siblings, Ellen, Mary Kay, Jeanie, Joe, Sarah and Amy, as well as a large extended family and many friends. He was preceded in death by his parents, Charles and Mary Doyle, and his brother, Tim.
A celebration of Barry's life will be held on Wednesday, April 19 at 4:00pm at Lake Montague, 10305 Penny Rd, Raleigh, NC 27606. In lieu of flowers, please make donations to Feed the Firefighters Foundation, www.feedthe firefighters.org. Condolences and memories may be shared online at www.BrownWynne Cary.com
A poem by Barry: "No happy without sad, no good without bad. No rich without poor, no less without more. No hot without cold, no young without old. No light without dark, no bite without bark. No babies without mamas, no mamas without papas. No up without down, no smile without frown. No green without blue, AND no BARRY'S without YOU!"
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eddie huff
June 13, 2017
Denise
I just learned of Barry passing. I am so sorry. He was a special person. In high school he was my best friend. I wish we would have spent more time together through the years.
Eddie
Barbara Finch
April 25, 2017
I just learned of Barry's passing. My deepest sympathy to Denise and Catherine. I've been a patron at Barry's for years - one of the best eating establishments around. Always greeted with a warm and friendly smile. Barry will be missed by so many.
Denise - you and Catherine are in my prayers. Barbara
Elizabeth Price
April 25, 2017
There are few people you meet in life that make the kind of impact as Barry made on me and many of my students at CCMMS. He was a true example of a good man. Integrity, grace, compassion, and a spirit larger than life, describes this incredible man. I have been blessed to call him a friend. My thoughts and prayers to his beautiful wife and incredible daughter. What a special family. You will always live on in my heart, Barry.
Gerald Atkins, Sr.
April 24, 2017
Reminding you warmly how much others care and would like to bring comfort somehow. And hoping you feel that God's presence is with you, supporting and helping you now. With Deepest Sympathy.
April 24, 2017
Memories are what sustain us as we carry on. Our thoughts and prayers are with the Doyle family. Barry and Bill had a bond doing business through the years
Bill, Frances and Leslie Bryant
Mickelson Family & friends
April 24, 2017
Our deepest sympathies to the Doyle family, especially to Denise and Catherine. Barry will be missed by all that knew him. Our thoughts and prayers are with you.
Kenneth Howard
April 24, 2017
We are so sorry for your loss, but will retain many happy memories of the past 25 years at Barry's café. We fondly remember Barry carrying Catherine around the restaurant standing in his hand. We wish you both our best in this time of sorrow and will remember you and Barry in our prayers.
Ann and Ken
Dennis(Stephanie) Ford
April 23, 2017
We have been going to Barry's café for 25 years since he opened! We have watched Catherine grow up; and, he and Denise have watched and served our kids and grandkids. We appreciate the family and will miss him! What a good man!
Brian Bragg
April 21, 2017
Thoughts and prayers go out to the Doyle family. Knew Barry from eating regularly at the cafe but mostly from our daily interactions at the corner store. Always had a kind word and even a joke or two to share. I know a man of his caliber is in a better place.
Desiree Kettler
April 20, 2017
My son played on the "Barry's Cafe" team at West Raleigh. We made it a point to stop in the cafe to eat OFTEN during those years. Since then, we continue to visit Barry's and always enjoyed our meals, but more importantly, the times we saw Barry and Thanked him for supporting youth sports. He will be greatly missed. Prayers for Denise and Catherine, and ALL the Doyle family. NO DOUBT Barry will be greatly missed. Our sympathies, the Kettler Family
Maureen Bailey
April 19, 2017
Beautiful service today. My deepest condolences to Denise, Catherine and the rest of the Doyle family.
April 19, 2017
Denise and Catherine. My thoughts are with you. I will always remember Barry as everyone's friend and his willingness to help others. My condolences to you and your family.
Carmen Kroth
Justin Gurkin
April 19, 2017
I am sorry to hear about the passing of Barry. He was a nice guy. I just met him about two months ago. We really enjoy the food at the restaurant and staff. Barry's Cafe is a great place to eat. Barry will surely be missed. I'll be praying for the family.
Justin Gurkin
April 19, 2017
I am sorry to hear about the passing of Barry. He was a nice guy. I just met him about two months ago. We really enjoy the food at the restaurant and staff. Barry's Cafe is a great place to eat. Barry will surely be missed. I'll be praying for the family.
shaun
April 19, 2017
Denise and Catherine,
All of us here at Dr. Sawhney's office were very sad to hear of Barry's passing. He was truly a great guy and did many great things for the community. Our condolences to you and your family.
Shaun (front desk)
Anneliese Koontz
April 19, 2017
Denise and Catherine, you're in our prayers. Barry was an amazing man and his generosity and kindness will not be forgotten.
With love,
Anneliese, Dominique, Jack, Jerry Jr, Desiree, Carissa and Marie-Celeste
April 19, 2017
Like many others we met Barry and Denise when the Café first opened. Barry would always come to our table and speak to us while entertaining our children with his duck puppet. The kids have never forgotten those days and we are thankful for all the good memories at Barry's Café. We also got to know Barry through our dental family and helping our son with a summer job. Remembering Barry's generous, cheerful, and gentle soul will forever remain in our hearts. Our most sincere condolences, The Turner Family
Kristin Koontz
April 19, 2017
Denise and Catherine you are in our thoughts and prayers. Barry will be immeasurably missed; he and your family exemplify kindness and caring. Barry always had time for a wave or a conversation. We thank your family for the many kind gestures to my parents, your neighbors, Art and Ruthann.
Kris & Jerry Koontz
John Warlick
April 19, 2017
Barry is a great man and will be remembered. Thank You! for your service to our community and firefighters
April 19, 2017
I am so very sorry for your loss Denise and Catherine. Prayer's are with you.
debra williams
April 19, 2017
Unfortunately I was only able to meet him once and he was very kind and caring made my experience at his Cafe very rememberable
Michael Jetter
April 19, 2017
My deepest condolences Denise and Catherine. I'm very sorry for your loss. Barry was an incredible human being and he will be missed. I can speak for all of us at Reys and say that we enjoyed our time getting to know you all and taking care of your family. Please let me know if there is anything that I can do.
Larry Phillips
April 18, 2017
Prayers to Denise and Catherine during this time of loss. Our family started eating at Barry's during the first week the resturant opened. Our daughter Meghan was about 5 years old and is now 29. We always have exchanged daughter "news" as the girls grew into young women. We will miss Barry but will always remember those good meals and good visits. RIP friend!
Larry Jo Anne Meghan Phillips
Dangel Falkowski
April 18, 2017
Denise
I was very saddened to hear of Barry's passing . He always had that grin . Please know that you and Catherine are in my prayers .
Yvonne Mason
April 18, 2017
Stacey and I were sad to hear of Barry's passing even though not surprised. Our thoughts and prayers are for you with hope that you will heal quickly. Your family has been in our lives since you first opened Barry's Cafe, so we feel we have lost family. With hugs of love, Yvonne and Stacey Mason
Sue McGee Wind
April 18, 2017
I'm very sorry about your family's great loss. May our Lord comfort you with His promise of heaven and sweet memories. Barry was a great man! May God carry you through the difficult days ahead.
Love,
Bill Taylor
April 18, 2017
My late wife Barbara and I along with our children have known Barry and Denise for many years, and of course Catherine standing tall on Barry's hand raised high. No man I have known was so loving to all AND loved by all whose lives he touched. RIP.
Clayton Jackson and family
April 18, 2017
May God Bless Barry and his family. Prayers.
Jane Eaton
April 18, 2017
So sad to hear of Barry's passing today.
My son Jamin and I ate lunch regularly at Barry's when he was 4 years old. We fondly remember those special days. (He is now 26 and we no longer live in the area). We fondly remember Barry and his love of service and generosity as well as, of course, great Mama and Papa burgers! We will always remember Barry's Café and Barry.
Doug and Sandy McGinnis
April 18, 2017
Gone but never forgotten. RIP Barry Doyle
Doug and Sandy McGinnis
April 18, 2017
Denise and Catherine. Doug and I were so sad to hear of Barry's passing. He was one of a kind for sure. We remember the first time we came to Barry's about 20 years ago You and Barry both made us feel so very welcome from that first visit and still do today. Barry always took time to stop and talk with us along with everyone else when he would see you. It always amazed me how he always remembered everyone by name. He was a true hero to all especially the firefighters. He brightened your day with his smile and a joke or just a funny story. Keep all those good memories with you to brighten and help you through the days to come. i know he would be so proud of both of you with the strength you have shown through all these sad days. RIP Barry Doyle. You will be so missed but never forgotten.
linda and Maurice Weaver
April 18, 2017
I am thinking about Barry Doyle this morning and send prayers to his family.He was a dynamic personality that most of us knew from eating at Barry's Cafe. He gave to the community in one of the best ways ever, establishing a foundation for feeding emergency responders. He made us smile many times when eating at Barry's and showed us all how to be courageous when life throws us challenges. My admiration extends to his wife who also showed us how to face life full on and still find a smile for us when we came in to eat. We who ate there also watched their daughter grow through the years and her parents eyes light up when we ask about her. Barry and his family has blessed our lives and now we ask for peace and blessings for them.
Jan Moore
April 18, 2017
We love you... Bobby, Jan, Robby, Ashley, RL, and Skylar
April 18, 2017
Although I only had the chance to meet Barry one time, I sure was impressed with his hospitality and genuine concern for others. Denise and Catherine, please take of yourself during these challenging times.
Al Wetherell
Rotary
kathryn & Jacques Bournival
April 18, 2017
So terribly sorry to hear of your loss Denise. We are praying for you and Catherine that you may be comforted during this difficult time. We will see you Wednesday.
April 18, 2017
Denise and Catherine,
So sorry for your loss. Barry's suffering is over Cader Howard and you will always have the comfort of many great memories. Cader Howard
Ricky Hall
April 18, 2017
I was saddened to hear of Barry's passing. Barry was such a great person. He will be missed. I will miss him.
Ken Kessler
April 17, 2017
Denise and Catherine, We grieve with you as you go through these days. We cherish our own memories of Barry at the cafe and in the cul-de-sac. He was a friend of all he met.
Ken and Teresa Kessler
Patrick & Danielle Rorie
April 17, 2017
Dearest Doyle Family
Our thoughts and prayers are with you all at this time, It was an honor to meet Barry, and our family has been touched by the legacy that he has left behind in the cafe.
Rick Embrey
April 17, 2017
Barry Doyle was a good man. The first time I met him I liked him. Barry was working for Clancy and Theys Construction Company at the time. He was a big strapping man with a quick smile and would look you in the eye without flinching. I liked that. We lost touch for a while but when he opened up the café we reunited. Right now is a time of sorrow and loss for Denise and Catherine and Barry's extended family. My heart, my love, my prayers and my condolences go out to you. It was my privilege to know Barry and to call him my friend. He enriched my life and the lives of everyone that he met. Rest in peace my friend.
Harriett Wolfe
April 17, 2017
Great memories eating at Barry's with my mom! She loved Barry's tuna salad sandwiches! RIP Buddy.... you've earned those angel wings!
Harriett (Christmas) Wolfe
Daughter of Frances Christmas
Joyce Bailey Stephens
April 17, 2017
To the family of Barry James Doyle, I send heartfelt condolences. During Katherine's years at Centennial Campus Middle School, Mr. Doyle never hesitated when asked to support our programs. He will be missed. Lifting the family in prayer.
Tami Mickelson
April 17, 2017
Denise and Catherine, we are so sorry to hear about Barry. What a wonderful man with a big heart and always so kind. He will be missed.
Mark Holmes
April 17, 2017
Denise and Catherine....
My heart weeps of this news that I learned from Sam Register when we met for lunch today as we do once every couple of months.
You both are in my thoughts and prayers and will continue to be so. May you find comfort knowing that Mr. Barry is with his Lord.
Mark Holmes
Alvin Battle
April 17, 2017
Love you guys! Thy will be done!
Terry and Kathy Baker
April 17, 2017
Denise and Catherine,
As the multitude of others in the community, we met Barry at his restaurant back in the 90's when Barry's Restaurant first opened. He always made us feel welcome and was very engaging....with a story to tell if not too busy. We found ourselves eating there for the fellowship of Barry, Denise and at times their daughter, Catherine ..plus the good food. The photo proudly displayed on the wall of the restaurant of Barry holding young Catherine standing on the palm of his hand made for a lot of loving father stories! Denise and Catherine, Our heartfelt sympathy and prayers are with you during this difficult time. He will be missed by all. Terry and Kathy Baker
Julie Ginsler
April 17, 2017
Denise and Catherine, you are in my Prayers. Barry had a heart of gold and I will never forget the day he walked into my shop in Waverly. He has been an inspiration and mentor to me, always wanting to help me succeed. Barry was one of the kindest people I have ever had the pleasure to know. I am so sorry for your loss--Julie in Waverly
Holly Hach
April 17, 2017
Denise and Catherine, I am so sorry to hear about Barry. He will be so missed! Absolutely one of the nicest people I have ever met. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family during this difficult time. Hang in there and let me know if there is anything I can do to help.
Steven Whited
April 17, 2017
My condolences to Barry's family. My thoughts and prayers are with you at this time! ❤
Jim Henry
April 17, 2017
I have only known Barry as a regular guest at his welcoming restaurant. I remember so well his visits to our table. He always made me feel like I was a guest in his home.
For someone who has shown his love for his fellow man as he has, I believe he is being beautifully rewarded in his new home.
April 17, 2017
I am so sorry for your loss. Barry will be greatly missed. God bless you and stay strong.
Marilyn Munoz
former of Glass Law Group, PLLC
Gary and Cheri Gray
April 17, 2017
Denise and Catherine, so sorry to learn of your loss. My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your family during this time.
Chris Slaughter
April 17, 2017
I was saddened to hear that Barry passed away. My thoughts are with you and Catherine. Barry was an amazing person and had a remarkable life. I feel so lucky that I got to know him.
Linda and Randy Jones
April 16, 2017
Our family grew up eating at Barry's Cafe. The food was always great, but the fellowship and general kindness displayed by the folks taking care of things at Barry's are what keeps us coming back. As most folks know, Barry had not been at the Cafe regularly for some years. When he did come in and saw us he always made a point of checking on us (and everyone else) to make sure everything was good and that we were being taken care of. Generally our conversations were brief, but we were always amazed that whenever we asked Barry how things were going or how he was doing, not one time was his answer anything other than things were great and he was doing wonderful. We admired his courage and his general philosophy of always deflecting attention from himself. We will all miss Barry! Denise and Catherine, we are thinking about you.
Susan and Phil Williams
April 16, 2017
We have so many fond memories of Barry, Denise , and Catherine at Barry's Cafe. Our kids grew up eating there every Friday night and after many West Raleigh baseball games. The food was great, the friendships greater!! Sending much love and many prayers to Denise and Catherine! May your wonderful memories and the knowledge that Barry touched so many people comfort you in your time of sorrow! Love Susan and Phil Williams
T. Jerry Williams
April 16, 2017
My thoughts and prayers are with Barry's family during this time of great loss. He was an A+ guy and admired by legions of friends who will miss him. I remember his Feed the Firefighters efforts and his general goodness for all. I still have a photo of my grandsons sitting on one of his firetrucks. Loved his hamburgers, too. May he Rest In Peace.
Susan Luerich
April 16, 2017
We have been eating at Barry's Cafe since it opened. We always left happier than we were when we arrived. We loved hearing the story of how Barry came to create the Feed The Firefighters Foundation.
We have our own story about Barry's generosity: After Hurricane Fran in September, 1996, we were without power for 5 days and had many huge trees down, so each day was filled with the hard, hot, work of cleanup. One morning we took a break and went over to Barry's for brunch. We were embarrassed about our appearance, but that didn't bother Barry. When he found out we had no power, he asked if we had any ice. Our eyes must have glazed over because he took us to the back room and gave us 2 huge bags of ice (This was when people were charging scalpers prices for ice). It may not sound like much, but it was gold to us, and just one small example of his generosity.
Barry, you will be missed. Denise and Catherine, you are in our hearts and prayers.
Larry Leise and Susan Luerich
Cindy Seifer
April 16, 2017
Summer of 1994 was a horrible summer for me and a friend of mine. Going to Barry's for dinner on Friday nights became a regular thing for the two of us. The back booth on the right (on the original side) was "our booth". There, with Barry's help, we solved the world's problems LOL
We knew as soon as we walked in that we would be greeted warmly by Barry and that he would make a point to come sit with us in "our booth" just to ask us how we were doing. He never knew how much that meant to both of us.
Barry was a friend to all and will be greatly missed by all of us.
April 16, 2017
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. Arthur Ingram
Pat Hurban
April 16, 2017
Just about 17 years ago we were looking for a house and were attracted to this area. One day our agent took us to see the house that we live in to this day, and afterwards she suggested that we go to this great local place for lunch, where they have the best hamburgers and lots of other wonderful things. Of course it was Barry's, a landmark we have frequented and cherished, ever since. I told a co-worker about it. His 5 year old son dreamed of one day becoming a firefighter, so they made the pilgrimage from Durham, just to see this shrine to firefighters tucked away in Swift Creek. And like anyone who visited once, they came again and again, drawn to the warm hospitality, the great food and the unexpected but most welcome cookie that punctuated the end of yet another satisfying meal. I recall being in the same line as Barry in our local supermarket. He recognized me as a patron of his restaurant, but he talked to me like a friend and neighbor. It was just his way. We'll always be grateful to Barry, his family, and his extended family, for making us feel at home even before we knew where our home would be.
Pat, Anna and Lillian Hurban.
April 16, 2017
Denise and family, Although we only know you, Denise, through our visits to Barry's with our children Elizabeth and Justin Plotkin, Carter and Sam, our hearts are saddened by your loss. Barry was clearly a wonderful man with a big heart and left an enduring legacy. We always look forward to our visits to Barry's when we are in Raleigh. The food, atmosphere, service, and clientele fill us with goodness in every way. Please accept our heartfelt condolences.
Ron and Debbie Loftis
Greg & Jane Gauntz
April 16, 2017
We will so miss the love and friendship that Barry showed to everyone who came in his cafe. He has had it tough the last few years, but still had a joke to tell when he was able to come in to work. Love, and prayers for you, Denise, and Catherine as you go through your grief. Our love.
Brenda Bond
April 16, 2017
Barry's woodworking skills are in our home where he did the trim work 30 years ago. We also had the privilege of capturing his smile as he held Catherine in the palm of his hand (displayed in the cafe). Enjoyed many Papa and Mama burgers with him. He always had a big smile. Now he and John are with Jesus in Heaven. Love, Prayers, and Peace to Denise and Catherine.
Bryant Woodall
April 15, 2017
Many thanks to Barry for the servant's heart he exhibited with his generosity for emergency services in our area. So many times his efforts probably exceeded those of the responders he was serving. Rest in peace knowing you took good care of us...and that you were "one of us".
Joe and Rosalie Dietzel
April 15, 2017
There will never be another Barry. He was such a loving and giving man. Denise and Catherine, our love and prayers are with you and your family.
Wendy Hale (Doyle)
April 15, 2017
You were truly one of a kind! You filled our hearts with joy and laughter, especially with my Daddy (his big brother) in his last weeks. The memories we have of you will forever be in our hearts and on our minds. Love you Uncle Barry ♡♡♡
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