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Florence Soltys Obituary

Florence Gray Soltys, 72, of Chapel Hill died Thursday, September 27, 2007.
She was born in Cocke County, TN, the daughter of the late O.G. and Addie Gray.
She is survived by her husband, Dr. John J. Soltys; two daughters, Rebecca Soltys Jones and Jacqueline Soltys; sons-in-law, Brett Jones and Stuart Henderson; and three granddaughters, Mia, Grace and Sophia. She is also survived by her brother, Glenn Gray; and her sisters, Druann Gregg and Carolyn Gray Spence; and her nieces and nephews.
Ms. Soltys graduated from the University of TN in Knoxville, TN in 1958. She met John, her husband of 48 years, while attending a Master's program in Dietics at Massachusetts General Hospital in Boston, MA. In 1975, the Soltys family moved to Chapel Hill, where Florence became an active volunteer in the community and founded Chapel Hill-Carrboro Meals-on-Wheels. In 1982, she returned to school, receiving a Master of Social Work from UNC-Chapel Hill in 1984 and joining the faculty there in 1985. Upon graduation she began an energetic and pioneering career as an advocate for the elderly at local, state and national levels. Her clinical work in hospice, the interdisciplinary assessment of elders, telemedicine in rural areas, and reminiscence as the therapeutic tool with older adults informed her political advocacy and activism on behalf of the elderly. She worked tirelessly at local, county and state levels to promote and form public policy plans for the aging. She cherished her role as a teacher and mentor to students in the field of aging. She retired from her position as Associate Clinical Professor at the UNC School of Social Work, with joint appointments at the Schools of Medicine and Nursing, in June, 2007. She receive numerous professional and civic awards during her career, beginning as early as 1975 with the Outstanding Citizen Award from the Commonwealth of Massachusetts to more recent accolades including the Pauli Murray Human Relations Award, Trustee of the Year for the American Association of Homes and Services for the Aging, Sharon B. Wilder NC Advocacy Award for Long Term Care, The Distinguished Teaching Award for Post Baccalaureate Instruction for the University of North Carolina, Social Workers of the year in NC, Ned Brooks Award for Community Service, Hospice Service Award, and others. She was well-known as host for the television show "In Praise of Age," and as a guest and consultant to a variety of NC Public Radio, News and Observer, and Chapel Hill News series on issues of aging. Author of many professional articles, she recently co-authored her first book, Transformational Reminiscence: Life Story Work. She was the current president of the International Institute for Reminiscence and Life Review Society.
In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to The Florence Soltys Scholarship, a scholarship for graduate students concentrating in aging at the UNC School of Social Work. Contributors should contact Kristen J. Huffman at the School of Social Work.
A memorial service is being planned; details to be announced.

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Published by The News & Observer on Oct. 3, 2007.

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Heather Shiffer

October 14, 2007

Florence was a great inspiration to me in developing my therapuetic and advocacy skills to address aging issues when I attended the UNC-CH School of Social Work from 2004-2005. Even though my contact with her was limited during this time, she has and will always be forever in my heart. My deepest sympathies go out to her family, friends, and others whose lives she touched.

Carol Wallace

October 9, 2007

I have known Florence since I was 21 and just starting my career in Boston as a newspaper reporter. Now I am 57 and retired, and the hole in my heart over her untimely death is as big as the Grand Canyon. She was like a second mother to me, with her wisdom, support and encouragement. I think the best way to remember her is to do regular good deeds for those who need help, whether it's family, friends, neighbors or strangers. Florence spent her whole life helping others; those of us who loved her so much could perpetuate her legacy by doing the same. With deepest condolences to her entire family.

Peggy Preciado

October 8, 2007

Florence welcomed me and my husband with graciousness and kindness when we visited her beautiful home for her eldest daughter´s wedding many years ago. My Italian husband, two Italian sons and I send John, Jacqueline, and Rebecca our heartfelt condolences from Europe for the loss of this grand Southern lady.

Racquel Placide

October 6, 2007

Florence Soltys will always remain one of the most brilliant stars in the universe. Her tireless work on behalf of others has produced a ripple that will be felt among us forever.

Johanna & Michael Weaver

October 5, 2007

Our deepest sympathy in the loss of your wife and mother. We enjoyed meeting Florence at Brett and Rebecca's wedding. She was easy to talk to and had a wonderful smile. She seemed very happy sharing in the joy of her daughter and son in law.

Karen Koch

October 4, 2007

I want to express my deepest sympathy on the loss of Florence. I only met her 3 years ago when I starting working at Eastern AHEC. She came to Greenville to present on aging and depression and the audeience really loved her. She was a kind and caring person and I am glad I got to know her even if in a small way.

george sheldon

October 4, 2007

Our family, Ruth, Anne, Betsy, Julia, and ,of course Tiger and Greta,extend our respect, our sympathy and our wish for your comfort

Randy Brantley

October 3, 2007

I had the honor to work with Florence on a Committe where we were advocates for people in long term care . It was her support , knowledge and friendship that enabled me (us) to make some postive changes for the residents. It was also Florence who gave me advice on grief. " Oh Randy as you get older it gets harder. You can have a number of friends or relatives that will pass and you will need skills to cope." Practical and thoughtfull advice, just like Florence.

I and the world are a better place by having known her . She made a positive impact on a number of people.

My thoughts and prayers are extended to the family.

Maile Corbin

October 3, 2007

Florence was a wonderful woman with a beautiful heart and soul. Some of my fondest memories of my childhood were spending time with Florence and John at their house on Greenwood Road. They were like second grandparents to me. I am so sorry for the loss of such a wonderful woman. She will be missed by my mother, grandmother and I very much.

H. Lea Wells

October 3, 2007

Florence Soltys had a big heart, a keen mind, and a love of gardening, that touched many. Her generosity provided armloads of irises for a local church during iris season and later iris plants for my garden. When they bloom, I think of Florence.

Imagine my pleasure when I discovered Florence in the UNC Gerontology Clinic where she gave my mother and me the benefit of her wisdom in dealing with dementia. Soon after her retirement she dropped by my home with a list of resources for mom. She talked excitedly of the time she planned to spend with her daughters, their husbands, and her beloved grand-daughters.

Florence gave to all alike -- to friends and family and to strangers who walked by her garden. From one who knew her ever so briefly to those who loved her for years, I send my condolences. She will be greatly missed.

Karen Cady

October 3, 2007

As you all know, the world will be a sadder place without Florence. As my aunt, she was always there when I needed advice or just someone to listen. She was like a second mother to me and I will miss her greatly!
To Uncle John, Jackie, & Rebecca-no words I can say will ease the pain of your loss. Please know that my thoughts are with you!
Love, Karen

Linda Bowles

October 3, 2007

Florence was a wonderful person. I had the opportunity to work with her a few years ago when she participated in the Health Careers Symposium for North Carolina High School students. Her stories about the wonderful people she has helped throughout the state are as incredible as are her experiences. We have lost a wonderful community supporter.

Laura Harroun

October 3, 2007

I had the privilege of being in the last aging class that Florence taught at UNC-CH School of Social Work before her retirement in June. She is the kind of social worker and advocate I can only aspire to be. Thank you, Florence, for being a voice for those who needed it the most. Thank you for being an exceptional teacher and mentor. The family will be in my prayers.

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