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for Tobias Engel
Raymond and Jan
January 31, 2025
We know. We know every February. And we think of Len and Moira and Tessa.
Raymond
February 2, 2023
Thinking of Len, Moira, and Tessa. And, of course, of the entire family...
Raymond and Jan
Raymond Foery
January 31, 2022
As we approach the 10th commemoration of this terribly sad event, I send my thoughts and continued condolences to Len, Moira, and Tessa. Jan and I continue to feel your pain.
November 8, 2015
Toby will forever be in my heart. Not a day goes by that I don't think of him.
February 3, 2015
Len and Moira:
We are ALL still with you.
R
Shar
February 3, 2015
It is at this time of the rolling year that I remember the power of hugs, thanks to Toby.
Susan Zucker
March 12, 2012
Dear Len and Moira and family,
I was shocked and so saddened to learn of the loss of Toby. May his memory be for a blessing and may you keep him in your heart forever.
Jamison Hermann
February 21, 2012
Hey Tessa and family,
Aili has been telling me about all you've been going through, and I just wanted to reach out and let you know you have my sympathy and my deepest condolences. My younger sister is 18 and I'd be absolutely devastated if something happened to her. If you ever need anything at all, Aili and I are here for you and happy to help. Hope things are going well and hopefully I'll see you next time you're in NYC.
Sincerely,
Jamison
Ellen Egerton
February 14, 2012
Michael Nolan
February 14, 2012
The Engels,
Toby was one of the closest friends I that I can honestly say I ever had. He was quiet and passive, yet always had something to say about everything when asked and was never afraid to speak his mind. I'll miss all the times that he and Brandon Ferguson and I would just hang out in Brandon's basement with not much to do but chill out and enjoy one an others company, ordering Chinese food most of the time and having a bunch of laughs. I'd have to say one of my fondest times with Toby was during prom weekend when a bunch of us all went camping and Toby and I insisted that no music other than Phish was played. Like everyone, I cannot believe this tragedy has happened; please know that your family remains in my prayers
~Mike Nolan
Eric Kirchner
February 14, 2012
Tessa and family,
Although I didn't know Toby that well, something shook me deep inside when I heard what had happened. My heart has led me to hiking and climbing lately, and I guess it hits hard when this pursuit takes a kindred spirit. I still remember great times and shenanigans on the school bus, and how us Westwoods kids had to band together for that ever-so-long commute. It's impossible for me to fathom what this must be like for you, but obviously if I can help in any way, don't be afraid to ask.
Much love,
Ellen Egerton
February 14, 2012
Dearest Len, Moira, and Tessa,
You are never far from my thoughts and will continue to be in my prayers. There aren't adequate words for things like this... Toby was so loved and brought so much joy and laughter to my life. Those Costa Rica memories are forever embedded into my memory. It was absolutely beautiful. I got to know a really wonderful friend on that trip. I remember Toby and can't help but think of how his whole life seemed to sing that ever beautiful Costa Rican mantra of "¡pura vida!" - "full of life". I can still hear him say it now. I know we'll see him again one day in a place that is even more like paradise. Until then, my love is always with you.
Hedda Kopf
February 12, 2012
Dear Len, Moira and family,
Sending you our deepest condolences on the tragic loss of your beloved Toby.
Hedda and Gary
February 11, 2012
Dear Len and Moira,
We only recently met you through NAMI family to family, our hearts and prayers go out to you and your family.
Keeping you in our thoughts and prayers
John and Debbie Deluca
MaryBeth (and Lindsey) Mills
February 10, 2012
To Len, Moira, Tessa and family
I could not believe I was hearing the news correcty when I heard it was Toby who had the accident at the Giant. I am so very sorry for your loss. Tessa, I so remember your brother following you all around as a very very small boy:). Although he is gone, he will always be tthere still following you and watching all you do. Peace and Comfort to all of you.
February 9, 2012
I don't know your family at all. But, I also lost my 18 year old son in a tragedy 4 1/2 years ago. I know the long road ahead of you.
My utmost sympathy for your family and may he Rest In Peace.
Christine Frumento
February 9, 2012
Professor Engel and Family,
I am so sorry for the loss of your son. I am a former QC student of yours, and I teach English at Hamden High. All are saddened by your loss. May you find comfort in each other at this time of sorrow.
Christine (Bilello) Frumento
Jacqueline Church
February 9, 2012
Moira, Tessa, and the Engel family -- We are so shocked and sorry to hear of the loss of Toby. Our hearts are with you and your family at this time and in the days ahead.
With fond memories -- Jackie, Jim, Steven and Kim Church
Stephen Gottlieb & Barbara Van Noord
February 8, 2012
That terrible night we all fear. Len and Moira and Tessa, our every other thought is of you. We know you will take care of each other through this awful time.
We send our love.
Steve and Barbara
Debbie DeNicola
February 8, 2012
Moira,
It's been many years since Toby and my son, Patrick, played soccer together in the Hamden youth league. I wanted to extend my sympathy to you, Len, and Tessa. I will be praying for all of you.
Toby with cousins, April 8, 2007
Sundstroms
February 8, 2012
Each life is a miracle that changes the world ... and leaves it a better place than it was before. Toby's smile and zest for life are now shining down from above. Hugs & Love to all of you who now have a big hole in your heart.
Paul Pasquaretta
February 8, 2012
Dear Len. We were so sad to hear about Toby. May you and your family find comfort and healing. Our thoughts, prayers, and hearts are with you. Paul Pasquaretta and Donna Cook.
David Lindsay
February 8, 2012
I met Toby numerous times through my son Daniel. At Dan's parties, Toby would stand with me in the kitchen and ask me about my book on Vietnam. He stood out as a friendly young man with a keen mind who was curious about the world. Having just lost my son Austin, my heart bleeds for you.
February 8, 2012
Dear Len,
Condolences to you and your family.
Lori Sudderth
Paul and Karen O'Connor
February 8, 2012
Our thoughts and prayers are with you always. He was always a pleasure to have over the house.A very nice gentleman.
February 8, 2012
In the arms of the Angels, may you find comfort there. Rest Toby.
Mary &Len Grabowski
February 8, 2012
Dear Family, we were so sorry to hear of Tobby's death. Having lost a child ourselves, we can understand your pain and grief. You will be in our prayers. Mary and Len Grabowski
PS We recently moved to Avon to live with our daughter and her family.
Lily Liu
February 8, 2012
Dear Len and Moira, Megan and I are very sorry to hear dear Toby's death (we are in Indiana now). I alway remeber him, we often did the yard work at the same time. We will miss him who with such beautiful curly hair. We send our love.
Lily and Megan Liu
February 8, 2012
Dear Len and Family
I'm not sure what words of comfort can make up for the loss you are experiencing so I would like to say thank you for bringing Toby to Karate Class at Wintergreen Magnet School for those four years. He was a joy to teach, he never gave up, when frustrated and challenged he always found a new way to cope. I have taught thousands of studnets in the past 46 years and I want you to know many of those I don't always remember but Toby was one of a special breed. His desire to succeed was an inspiration to all. His memory we will commit to our hearts and his spirit to god who gave it. God Bless.
Harry E. Needham III
Sa Bah Nim #012
Lydia Theys
February 8, 2012
Dear Moira, Len and Tessa,
The news of your loss took my breath away. I am deeply sad for you and the rest of your family.
Claire Callan
February 7, 2012
To the Engel family;
No words can express the shock, disbelief, and grief you must be feeling. Such a promising young man, on the cusp of his life, taken so abruptly in a terrible accident. My heart goes out to you all.
Tracy Stockwell
February 7, 2012
To Toby's family,
Although he was only my student for a week this semester, I can't tell you how much I was looking forward to having Toby in my marine biology class and helping him learn about a subject that he cared so much about. I am grateful for those 6 classes that we had together and I will keep you all close to my heart for a long time.
February 7, 2012
Thinking of you in this difficult time.
Kris Muratori
February 7, 2012
Thank you to everyone who has shared their memories and love of Toby with our family. There was an omission of some information and his obituary will run in full tommorow. Toby was also a much beloved uncle to 9 nieces and nephews who idolized him. When he was with them they were climbing on him or throwing pillows at him shrieking with pure laughter, and he was so happy and always smiling at the same time. He loved them so much and they loved him just as much. He also has a loving Aunt and Uncle and two cousins in New Jersey who loved him so much. Tommorows obituary should reflect this. Thank you so much.
Christine Clark
February 7, 2012
Engel Family:
We were so saddened to hear of Toby's passing. My son Anthony (AJ) was a classmate of Toby's at WIMS. Toby and AJ spent many play dates together and despite life taking them in different directions, Anthony often recalls their times together.
God blesses those who mourn, for they will be comforted ~ Matthew 5:4
We will pray for your comfort during this most difficult time.
Anthony (AJ) Clark
Christine Clark
formerly of Hamden, CT
February 7, 2012
Engel family, we are sorry for your loss and our prayers are with you. Toby was a loved, kind hearted young man, and great friend. He will be missed and always remembered.
The Thomas Family
John Bennett
February 7, 2012
Dear Len, Moira, and other family members,
We were so very saddened by the news of Toby's death. This is a horrible blow to you and we are so sorry for you. You are all in our thoughts and prayers. John Bennett and Elizabeth Dreyer
Leshea Wislon
February 7, 2012
Dear Engle Family,
I am saddened by the news. My daughter is a fellow classmate of Toby's at Hamden High. May you all find peace and strength to go on. Toby will always be remembered. May he rest in peace. I am so sorry. The Wilson family
Johanna Becker
February 7, 2012
Dear Len and Moira, I was so shocked to hear of the death of your son. What an incredible blow to you and all who liked and loved him. I'm so sorry and wish you the best. Johanna Becker
Donald Blumenthal
February 7, 2012
Dear Len, Moira, and Family, We are deeply saddened to learn of the tragic loss of your dear son Toby. Our thoughts and prayers are with you at this most difficult time. Warmly, Elaine and Don Blumenthal
William Burns
February 7, 2012
Dear Lenny,
I My thoughts and prayers are with you and your entire family over this tragic loss. The loss of a child, to me, is unimaginable but, God will see you all through this I know. I was really just getting to know more about your family at the reunion last year. It's is a loss to us all that Toby was taken away before he was able to make his contribution to this troubled world. I'm sure it would have been a meaningful one. It seems God, in his wisdom, needed Toby more and that speaks to Toby's pure spirit. I know that Toby will be looking down on you and the family to give special guidance and protection, praying for you all in the years and decades to come.
Bill Burns
Jack Libro
February 7, 2012
Dear Engel family,
We are so sorry to hear of Toby's passing. He was a great student at Goldie and Libro. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. He will be missed. Goldie & Libro and Staff.
Judy Pusko
February 7, 2012
Dear Lenny, Our thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family. You spoke so lovingly of Toby and the rest of your family when we had a little QC reunion about a year ago when we all went to dinner in Hamden with Mike and Carol Longo, Paul and Debbie Frontierro, Jim Berns, and George and I. Fondly, Judy And George Pusko
February 7, 2012
The sadness we feel has engulfed our household. Len and Moira and Tessa: we are thinking of you and are crying with you.
Raymond and Jan Foery
Danny O'Mara
February 7, 2012
Len and Moira, I can imagine no loss greater than the loss of a child. My heart aches when I think of the many hours we spent talking about your plans, dreams, and hopes for your kids. May God give you both the strength to endure.
February 7, 2012
Dear Engel family, although I did not know Toby, I am so deeply saddened to hear of his passing. My daughter was his classmate and describes him as just the nicest kid, someone everyone loves. I hope you find comfort knowing this is how he will be remembered.
Frank, Donna, Alora & Frankie Caraglio
February 7, 2012
Dear Len, Moira, Tessa and family, we are heartbroken for your loss. May you draw comfort from each other and the friends that surround you and may God's presence sustain you now. With deepest sympathy and fond memories of Toby,
Cathy Hotchkiss
February 7, 2012
Dear Engel family,
I am so deeply sorry for the loss of Toby. He often came to visit his friends in the ceramics room during his lunch. The last time I saw him in January, he was laughing with his friends in my room, and I gave him a hug and told him I was looking forward to having him in ceramics this semester. He told me he had to drop my course because of a schedule change, and I told him I was very sad about that. I know he is in the arms of our angels in heaven. Please accept my heartfelt sympathy and love. Toby, and all of your family are in my constant prayers.
Jenny D'Averso
February 7, 2012
Moira and Len no words can truly express my symathies on your loss. My prayers are with you. Please let me know if I can help in anyway. Jenny (NAMI F 2 F teacher)
Greg & Dianna Pategas
February 7, 2012
Len, Moira and Family: Please know that you are in our prayers, and our hearts break for you. May sweet memories of Toby sustain you now and in the days to come. Wishing you God's peace and comfort.
February 7, 2012
Lennie, Moira and family, we are deeply saddened by your loss. Our tears join with yours and our prayers are with you. God bless,
Marguerite and Denise Capone
Dina Durley
February 7, 2012
Kristin - I am so sorry for the terrible loss to your family. I work at Wintergreen and remember Toby fondly. He was a wonderful boy and I know all of Wintergreen mourns your loss. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your whole family - Love Dina DelVecchio Durley
Eileen Griswold
February 7, 2012
Moira and family, we are so sorry for your loss our thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time. Eileen Kolodziej Griswold and family
Carol and Grace Wyatt
February 7, 2012
Our deepest sympathy to the Engel and Shaw families......
February 7, 2012
We are so sorry for your loss and our thoughts and prayers will be with you at this very sad time. Toby is at peace safely home in heaven . . .
Carol and Grace Wyatt
February 7, 2012
Our deepest sympathy for the Engel and Shaw families.
Bob Trotta
February 6, 2012
My deepest sympathy and prayers for the Engel family. Prof. Engel, I have thought of you often over the years since you were my professor back in the late 60's at Quinnipiac. I hope some day our paths cross again.
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