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Allen E. Deffner Jr.

FUNERAL HOME

Garden of Memories Funeral Home

4900 Airline Drive

Metairie, Louisiana

Allen Deffner Obituary

DEFFNER Allen E. Deffner, Jr., Went peacefully to be with the Lord, surrounded by family at home, on Sunday, February 3, 2013 at age 71, after a brief illness. He is the son of the late Allen E. Deffner, Sr. and Gertrude Ostendorf Miller. He is survived by his devoted wife of 49 years, Sandra Manieri Deffner; daughters, Natalie Deffner Parish and Dawn Deffner Tupper; sons- in- law Brady Parish, Jr. and Scott Tupper; grandchildren Evan Parish, Emma Parish, Patrick Tupper and Brooke Tupper; brothers Clarence Deffner and Joe Deffner; sister Nanette Carrigee, and many nieces, nephews and cousins. Allen graduated in 1959 from East Jefferson High School and Southeastern Louisiana University in 1965. He was a US Army Veteran who served at Fort Polk, La. in 1967 and Vietnam in 1968. He was a lifetime member of VFW Post 6640 in Metairie, La. He was an executive for Tenneco Oil Company and Mobil Oil Company until 1975. He incorporated Armor Systems, Inc in 1976 and sold it to Entergy in 1997 when he retired from employment. He served on the Board of Directors of Home Builders Association of Louisiana and Alarm Association of Louisiana. He was a past president of Jefferson Rod and Gun Club and the Rotary Club of Metairie. He served on the Board of Directors of the Krewe of Centurions as treasurer. He was a member for 34 years, and reigned as King in 1999. He also served on the Board of Directors of Coastal Conservation Association and Suburban Gun and Rod Club. He was a loyal man of Manresa for 29 years. He was a lifelong avid fisherman and hunter, and was the true epitome of the Louisiana Sportsman. He was beloved by his grandchildren, with whom he shared and imparted his love of the outdoors. Throughout his marriage, he and Sandra traveled the world with many close friends. He was an inspiration and mentor to many and always had time for others. He will be dearly missed by all. The family would like to thank St. Joseph Hospice for their loving care, and Fr. Frank Lipps of Our Lady of Lourdes Catholic Church. Heartfelt thanks to all family and friends who provided support and love during this time. Family and friends are invited to attend the visitation at Garden of Memories Funeral Home, 4900 Airline Hwy, Metairie, LA on Thursday, February 7, 2013 beginning at 10 am with a Funeral Mass to follow at 1pm in the chapel. Online condolences may be offered at www.gardenofmemoriesfuneralhome.com

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Published by The Times-Picayune from Feb. 5 to Feb. 6, 2013.

Memories and Condolences
for Allen Deffner

32 Entries

John Vicario

February 22, 2013

To the Deffner Family. I got to know Allen at the pool at the Slidell Athletic club.

I really enjoyed knowing him and seeing his smiling face every week. We talked about our bouts with cancer and I was really shocked and sad to hear of his sudden passing,

I will miss him.

February 8, 2013

To the Deffner family,
We are so sorry for your loss. Allen was truly a kind man. We enjoyed his visits while Armor Systems shared office space in our building. Sue Surcouf and the Golemi family.

Lori Coldiron

February 7, 2013

Ms Sandra an family, my thoughts an prayers go out to you an your family during this time of sorrow. Call me if there is anything I can do for u an your family on this end.

February 7, 2013

Sandra I am so sorry to hear about your loss. My prayers will be with you and your family and may God keep you strong/
Charlotte Bohte Higginbottom

February 7, 2013

Dear Sandra and Family:
I was very sad to learn of Allen's passing. As you know, we were classmates at East Jefferson. We met again at a reunion and have been corresponding for the last several years. I shared my own cancer battle with Allen and I was shocked when he advised me of his condition. Unfortunately, he did not have a fighting chance to beat this thing like I have. I am comforted to know that you are surrounded by a large and loving family at this sad time. Hopefully, they will ease your sorrow. I want to thank you for the phone call advising me of Allen's condition. It meant a lot to me.
With great sadness,
Vi & Charlie Defourneaux
(Summerfield, FL)

Rhonda Fortunato

February 7, 2013

Sandy, Dawn, Natalie and family, My heartfelt condolences to you. I knew Allen from the Armor Systems days. He was a savvy businessman, avid sportsman, devoted to his family, and always had a good story. He will be missed by all who knew him.

Lenora Wilkerson

February 6, 2013

Natalie and family, may the God of hope fill your hearts with His peace in this your time of sorrow.

Rad Trascher

February 6, 2013

Mrs. Deffner, Allen was a great man and will be missed by me and all of our board members from around the state. Allen was incrediblely generous and was always there when we needed him. We are very sorry for your loss.
Rad Trascher, CCA Louisiana

Susan Wilder-White

February 6, 2013

Thanks for teaching me about Madi Gras and showing us some really good times. So glad I was able to renew our friendship. Good bye to a dear friend and neighbor. Party on with Geoff!

Kristen Baker

February 6, 2013

Mrs. Sandra, Natalie, Dawn, Mr. Allen will be greatly missed. I am blessed to be a friend to your family. I always enjoyed the times we shared when you all lived on Tiffany and when we would go to the camp in Mississippi. What memories!! He was a wonderful person and with great memories I will never forget him. You all will always be in my thoughts and in my prayers.

Barry Gentry

February 6, 2013

Sandy, You have my sympathy and I miss all of you. I enjoyed working for Allen and Miss the old days. He and you and the rest of the family are in my Prayers.

DOTTY CARSON

February 6, 2013

SAY HELLO TO SIDNEY,MY PRAYS ARE WITH YOU AND FAMILY.

Michelle Ryals

February 6, 2013

Mrs. Sandy, My heart goes out to you and your family during your time in mourning of Mr. Allen. I have many fond memories of the both of you and he will be truly missed. You and your family are in my prayers. If you need anything, we are all here for you.

February 6, 2013

Sandra

I am so sorry to hear about Allen's passing. He was a great person and a lot of fun. I will keep you and your family in my prayers.

Marla Burke

Christine Carrigee Turner

February 6, 2013

He will be missed greatly. You will be in my prayers. Love to Aunt Sandra, Natalie and Dawn

Tom Zeoli

February 6, 2013

My thoughts and prayers are with you all.

John & Jeanne Hines

February 6, 2013

Sandy, Natalie, Dawn - you have our deepest condolence. May God bless and comfort you in your loss and strengthen you going forward.

DeeDee Ford Cenac

February 6, 2013

Dawn, I'm sorry for your loss. You, your mom and Natalie will be in my prayers.

Jack Hilbert

February 6, 2013

Sandra, Clarence

I am so sorry to hear of Allen's passing I will keep you guys in my prayers.

Martin Paulsen

February 5, 2013

Mrs. Deffner and family, please accept my heartfelt sympathy for Allen's passing. We served together in Vietnam for a couple months before I went home. He was an honorable man and a good soldier.

David Nunez

February 5, 2013

Sandy, we just learned of your loss of Allen today. We are so sorry. Allen was so great. I will never forget the crawfish boil at your house in the Spring after Katrina on Cutter Cove. That was such a normal thing in oh,so not normal times. Those were the best crawfish!! Our prayers are with you and Allen. Our sincerest condolences, David and Sherry

Angelle Nash

February 5, 2013

Ms. Sandy, Dawn and Natalie,
We are so, so sorry to hear about Mr. Allen's passing. He was a very great man and an even better husband and father. Please know that you all as well as your familes are in our thoughts and prayers. Love,
Angelle and Kevin Nash

Danielle Dutreix-Moomau

February 5, 2013

Dear Dawn, I will be praying for you and your loss. God bless you and keep you. My heart goes out to your mom and Natalie too. With warmest sympathy

George & Mona Wright

February 5, 2013

Sandy. Although many years have passed since we were neighbors in River Ridge, you and Allen and the good times we shared together there were not forgotten. We are saddened by Allen's passing and wish to extend our deepest symphany.Love, George & Mona

Dominick Stoll

February 5, 2013

Sandra and the Deffner family. I am deeply sorrowed on the loss of Allen. He was a great friend and fishing companion. He was very proud of you and his family, especially his grandchildren. He will be deeply missed. My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Diane Elazab

February 5, 2013

Dawn my prayers go out to you and your family. Your dad was a wonderful man and to anyone who didn't know him personally they just have to know you your mom and your sister to know what an amazing family he made. I'm truly sorry for your loss, heaven has gained another amazing Angel! I love you all.

Tricia Carrigee Hales

February 5, 2013

My favorite uncle, I love you and will miss you so very much. You have been a wonderful caring man! You will always be in my heart.

Chris Coburn

February 5, 2013

Sandra, Natalie, Dawn, Clarence and all the Deffner family,
I want to offer my heartfelt condolences on the loss of Allen. I enjoyed many humorous conversations during the time I worked with you all at Armor Systems. I am truly sorry I did not stay in touch more over the years. May God comfort you in this time of loss. And we can all know the Heaven is a warmer and better place now with Allen there.

Colleen Scamardo

February 5, 2013

Sandy, Pete and I will keep you and your whole family in our prayers. Please remember all the fun and good times to carry through. We love you all.