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Dr. Winston Grant Gray

Dr. Winston Grant Gray obituary

Winston Gray Obituary

Dr. Winston Grant Gray peacefully passed away in New Orleans, on Monday, September 9, 2013, after a long and boisterous life. Winston was born in Belzoni, Mississippi, August 20, 1931. He was 82 years old. He is survived by his son Stephen Grant Gray, daughter-in-law Donna Gray, daughter Paula Kathleen Gray and her partner Elizabeth Jane Lee, along with grandchildren Logan Grant Gray, 27, Jared Henry Gray, 24, Emmett Charles Graylee, 10, and Mirai Llvene Danielle Graylee, 3. He is preceded in death by his wife and mother of his children, Helen Hubert Gray. Winston studied at Delta State Teacher's College, San Francisco State University, the University of Texas, ultimately receiving his doctorate degree from the University of Utah. Winston was active in the performing arts his entire life as a dancer, actor, instructor, director, choreographer, and critic. In later years, he also engaged in philanthropy in support of the arts. Over the course of his career, Winston inspired students throughout the United States as an instructor and performer in varied productions, including summer-stock performances, student performances, and performances for the armed forces and United Service Organizations (USO). Even after retiring, Winston stayed involved by participating in productions of Tuesdays with Morrie and The Sunshine Boys in local productions in New Orleans. He retired from San Francisco to the French Quarter and became a Quarter Icon. He was an unyielding voice for equality and tolerance--a staunch Democrat was a connoisseur of fine foods, good scotch and tequila, as well as old movies. He enjoyed his daily get together with friends at his favorite neighborhood bar. He will be kindly remembered by all whose life he touched. A memorial is being planned to celebrate his life and to share memories of him. Plans will be forthcoming. Proceeds to benefit The Winston Gray Memorial Foundation for the Performing Arts. To view and sign the family guestbook, please visit lakelawnmetairie.com.

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Published by The New Orleans Advocate from Sep. 12 to Sep. 15, 2013.

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Jim Glenn

January 5, 2025

I've finally found you Dr. Gray....to thank you, too late, for your generosity, levity and guidance into the field of dance performance. I've attached a photo from the work he created for The Assortment Dance Theater (ca. 1978) in which he performed. Rest in Peace Grant.

Matt Gray

May 26, 2021

What an incredibly fun man. I was in Actor's Ensemble and the dance group with Wan Dang at De Anza back in 1987. Grant took us out for drinks quite often and we always had a ball and felt like a family together. I was too young to really appreciate what a fun scene it was and the friends I had made in that group. I would love to reconnect with that group again. God bless you Mr. Gray

September 20, 2013

Winston (Magnolia) you are missed. Love you always, Liz (Magnolia) Smith.

James Breland

September 18, 2013

I regret very much the death of Winston Gray. He and I were in school together at Delta State. My condolences to the family.

Delta State University

Keith Fulcher

September 18, 2013

Delta State University (Cleveland, Mississippi) just learned of his passing. We offer our condolences from the National Alumni Association.

Jeriann Hix

September 18, 2013

Paula and Stephen I am very sorry for your loss. I loved your Daddy very much and he was very good to me I know that my Mother meant the world to him. I was so honored to see that one of your children had Mama's name. I would appreciate if one of you could get in touch with me. There are some items in your Father's house that would probably mean something to her namesake. You are in my thoughts and prayers. God bless you and your families. I can be reached through Butch.

Kate Wagle

September 16, 2013

At PHHS in the early 60's he taught a generation of goofy (me at least) suburban kids, longing for imagination/inspiration/exhilaration excitement...a remarkable lesson; that art is a vehicle for all of those aspirations, and that making art requires extraordinary commitment, honesty and discipline. I haven't forgotten.
Thank you Mr Gray.

Pam Gable

September 16, 2013

Glad we had the opportunity to know you! Pam Mollie and John

Nancy Rowe

September 15, 2013

No one is mentioned more often in my life as an influence & mentor... he lit a fire in so many of his students. I left my own high school each day to take classes from him at PHHS, 62-64. How the arts flourished there under Winston Grant Gray & Bob Soder. How dear he has been in my memory. I just attended the 50th w/friends... & what did we talk about? Our many friends who have had sterling careers thru Winston's creative encouragement & drive. I'll never forget the twins charging around his house, the students always welcome, & the heights we hit thru applause. You taught us poetic text, but also the finest stagecraft. Thank you Dear Teacher. (you called me) spyder

I Love You Winston

Shauna Pugh

September 14, 2013

My dear friend. I love you. The last words from you to me were never give up. I promise you my love, I promise.

Paula Weston

September 14, 2013

I was in his dance class at PHHS from 1964 to 1967, my sister Pamela from 1962 to 1964.. It was a privilege and an honor to be selected and I and my sister felt like we won the greatest gift being in his presence. "Never leave your audience in the dark,". "8 PM start time means 8 PM start time. . .places everyone." Bless you Mr. gray.

September 14, 2013

Winston, I am so glad that I got to know you my cousin. If it was not for Michelle I would not of had the honor to have met you! You will sure will be missed!! RIP Winston!!! Love, Linda Luster Brasier

Sherri Levesque Park

September 14, 2013

I am so sorry to hear of his passing, especially because I just found him on Facebook about a year ago. He was my drama teacher in 1963 and 1964 and had a profound impact on my life. I was very proud to know him. Mrs. Gray was my guidance counselor and I remember her, too. Lovely people.

Cheryl McE

September 14, 2013

You will be very missed by so many people, Winston. A fine gentleman and a sweet soul, and what an extraordinary life.

Lou Bernard

September 14, 2013

So long Winston---see you soon--maybe.

September 14, 2013

Winston you're leaving a lot of dear friends behind. RIP my friend!

Julie Sousa Africa

September 14, 2013

Mr. Gray will always be in my heart. I was a student of his at Pleasant Hill High from 1964 to 1968 and went on to teach young adults using many of his methods. RIP M. Gray and Thank You.

Michael Byers

September 14, 2013

What an impact this man had on our lives! In high school (Class of '61) I flunked Algebra and moved over into what I thought would be an easy class - drama. I've been an actor since. Mr. Gray was my first "teacher". He taught me how to live life and love it!

September 14, 2013

James Garner

Catherine Slupe-Hess

September 14, 2013

Rest in peace Mr. Gray. You sure made our plays in High School fun and I will never forget those days.

Terry Adams

September 13, 2013

RIP sweet man!

Nancy Schedin-Stanley

September 13, 2013

You are a shining star and will always remain one!

We were younger once - Carbondale Days

R L Pete Housman

September 13, 2013

Fly far and fly free my friend. And , noting but high kicks as you pass through the gates. I hold many fond memories of you...from you time in Carbondale. Sending a hug for the family to wrap yourselves in while you mourn. Thank you for sharing Grant with me...with us.

Ron & Tye

September 13, 2013

We will miss our chats, but you will remain in our hearts.

Ron Joullian

September 13, 2013

We met Winston in New Orleans years ago. We were on our way out of town and Winston said, "you can't leave..my birthday party's tonight!" We stayed and attended most ever since. In the last years, we were always greeted with that great smile of his! I was thankful for attending his last birthday party and to have played in his birthday second line!

William Crotty

September 13, 2013

We have enjoyed lots of good conversations over the years, at that neighborhood bar. You'll be missedl

September 13, 2013

Winston, your corner seat will be hard to fill. I will miss you greatly.
Kevin Hasson

Glenn Meche

September 12, 2013

Break a leg, Winston! Love you...

Chad Ham

September 12, 2013

I have known Winston for many years now. I will miss sitting with him and watching the old classic films on TCM. He was never short on witty and hilarious commentary. I was so happy to see him shine at his recent 82nd birthday celebration and Second Line Parade in the Quarter. Now he shines as one of the bright stars in the evening sky over his beloved City of New Orleans.

September 12, 2013

I was glad to know this man. He was full of life and always quick with a clever story. I am always touched by the number of people who said that Winston influenced their lives. His good friend Darrin set up a foundation to continue his lifelong passion of supporting the performing arts. Rest in Peace, Winston, your work goes on even yet.

Peter Drago

September 12, 2013

Winston, for the countless years I have shared the honor of your presence, I will never forget the everlasting impact you had on people, positive and negative. I believe you wouldn't have it any other way. I hope you have a constant flow of tequila in your new abode. Respecfully and fondly . . .

William Fox

September 12, 2013

Well, Winston you are surly missed. You altered the course of my life so many years ago, all for the better. I am sorry that we lost track of each other upon my graduation, but you should know that I followed your training for several years, dancing in many productions. Before heading in a direction that led me to science, I never left dance far behind. My best to you and your family, Dr. William Fox.

Alex Ruiz

September 12, 2013

Winston, you will be greatly missed.

Maxine (Greco) Watson

September 11, 2013

Grant was my professor at De Anza College in Cupertino, CA from September 1989 until he retired. I was a member of the Actor's Ensemble. He was my friend from that year and after. My friendship with Grant lasted 24 years. He will be remembered by those that loved him always. My condolences to his family and friends. Sincerely, Maxine Watson (aka Maxine Greco, an actor)

Bishop Michael Anthony Gifford, osf

September 11, 2013

Dr. Gray taught me from 1963 to 1967 at Pleasant Hill High School Pleasant Hill, CA. And he directed many of the plays that i was in. He was a very talented artist and director in the stage arts. he was also very demanding. Often times behind his back, we called him W. God Gray. I pray that he will rest in peace. He was a lot of fun and I did learn a lot from him.

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