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ABBY O'NEILL Obituary

O'NEILL--Abby.

The O'Neill family mourns the passing of their beloved Abby Milton O'Neill on May 3, 2017. She died peacefully in her sleep at age 89. Born in New York, Mrs. O'Neill was the daughter of David Meriwether Milton and Abby Rockefeller Mauze. She was the eldest grandchild of John D. Rockefeller, Jr. and Abby Aldrich Rockefeller. She graduated from Foxcroft in 1946 and from Bradford College in 1948. She was dedicated to Bradford and served as its Board Chairman for nine years. Mrs. O'Neill was Chairman of Rockefeller Financial Services and Rockefeller & Company from 1998 to 2004 and Trustee from 1979 to 1998. She also served as a Trustee of Massachusetts Financial Services Mutual Fund from 1992 to 2003. Mrs. O'Neill was involved with numerous educational, arts, environmental and community service organizations over a lifetime of philanthropy and service. She served as Chairman of the Rockefeller Brothers Fund, President of Greenacre Foundation, Vice-Chairman of The Colonial Williamsburg Foundation, a Trustee of Teachers College Columbia University, and a dedicated Trustee of International House New York for over 59 years. A longtime resident of Oyster Bay, NY, Mrs. O'Neill was a Trustee of the Community Foundation of Oyster Bay which she and her husband George were instrumental in establishing and on whose Board they served as Trustee for over 50 years. She was a Trustee of the Youth & Family Counseling Agency of Oyster Bay-East Norwich, as well as a Trustee of the Parent-Child Home Program of Nassau County. She was devoted to her husband, her six children, her 18 grandchildren and three great-grandchildren. She organized countless family trips and gatherings, and was an avid gardener and golfer. She was also a resident of Jackson Hole, Wyoming and Lake Wales, Florida, where she was a member of the Mountain Lake Club. She is survived by her husband of 67 years, George D. O'Neill of Oyster Bay, New York and their six children: George D. O'Neill, Jr. (Erica) of Lake Wales, FL; Abby O. Caulkins (Charles) of Chappaqua, NY; David M. O'Neill (Connie) of Greenwood Village, CO; Catharine O. Broderick (Kevin) of Grosse Pointe Farms, MI; Wendy H. O'Neill (David Rayner) of Sarasota, FL and Peter M. O'Neill (Katie) of New York, NY. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the Community Foundation of Oyster Bay, P.O. Box 329, Oyster Bay, NY 11771, The Colonial Williamsburg Foundation, P.O. Box 1776, Williamsburg, VA 23187 or a charitable organization in which you and she shared an interest.

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Published by New York Times on May 5, 2017.

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Hillary Foxsong

May 19, 2017

My sincerest condolences to the family.

Mary and Ken MacCormac

May 17, 2017

We send our deepest sympathy to the family.

Tamiko Woods

May 9, 2017

May the God of Comfort bring you peace during this difficult time

Cynthia Ross

May 9, 2017

Mrs. O'Neill was a Champion for All. Her Kindness will live on for all the Souls she touched in her Life Time. God Bless!!

Holly Hanson Levison

May 7, 2017

I learned much about life from Abby - kindness, responsibility, dedication, service,and doing the right thing! My memories are beautiful, strong, and heart-warming. The world will miss this shining light. Thank you, Abby!

Sarah Walzer

May 7, 2017

Abby O'Neill was an amazing champion for children. Her support for the Parent-Child Home Program enabled it to grow and thrive in her town of Oyster Bay, across Long Island, and across the country. The staff and board of PCHP are so honored to have worked with her and will miss her very much.

Pat Chambers Daly and her girls

Patricia Chambers Daly

May 5, 2017

I had the honor of working with Abby during my time at Family Service Association and as the Board Chair of the National Association of Mothers' Centers. Abby was dedicated to improving the lives of families and gave of both her time and resources. She challenged the status quo, always encouraging us to go above and beyond. I have, on many occasions, invoked her name as one that people should look to as an exemplary board member. And, she did everything with grace, and a wonderful sense of humor.

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