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AILEEN SELDES Obituary

SELDES--Aileen Patterson. Aileen "Lee" Patterson Seldes, died peacefully in her New York City on April 7th from complications of pneumonia. She was 85. A resident of Manhattan and Water Mill, Long Island, Lee was the eldest daughter of Margaret W. and Robert P. Patterson, the former Under Secretary of War during World War II, and Secretary of War (1945-1947) under President Harry S. Truman. Lee graduated from Radcliffe College, class of 1950. She was a reporter for Newsweek, and also wrote for Collier's, Barron's, The Village Voice and Esquire. She is the author of "The Legacy of Mark Rothko," the definitive account of the trial of the artist's heirs against Marlborough Gallery. A marriage to Timothy Seldes of New York ended in divorce. She is survived by a son, Gilbert Seldes, a daughter, Elisabeth Seldes Annacone, and a grandson, Emmett Carnahan. Also surviving are two sisters, Susan H. Patterson and Virginia P. Montgomery and a brother, Robert P. Patterson, Jr. A memorial service will be held on Saturday, April 26th, at 2pm, at the Unitarian Church of All Souls, 1157 Lexington Avenue. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the American Civil Liberties Union.

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Published by New York Times on Apr. 13, 2014.

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Hilkka Luoma-aho

April 7, 2024

In loving memory of a wonderful person. We will love you and miss you always.

Hilkka Luoma-aho (Ilola(

April 7, 2024

In loving memory of a wonderful person. We will love you and miss you always.

Charles Dubow

April 15, 2014

My deep condolences to Gil and Liz. I have many happy memories of Water Mill with you both and your beautiful mother. She was quite a lady. Tall, elegant, smart, cool and funny. May she rest in peace.

April 15, 2014

My deep condolences to Elisabeth and Gilbert. With love Hilkka

Thomas Lipscomb

April 14, 2014

A great lady lost to us, but our many memories remain bright and cherished.

John & Sarah Wiseman

April 13, 2014

Two devastated friends in England, John and Sarah Wiseman, have fond memories of Lee and send their condolences to Gillie and Lizbeth for the loss of their beautiful, charming mother, an old and dear friend.

April 13, 2014

Katrina Thomas has many fond memories of Lee's hospitality, especially of visits made to Water Mill with her dog a Rottweiler mutt also welcomed. When Lee was not busy writing she gave parties in her NYC flat with its view of the Triborough Bridge which were gatherings of those who lived or visited the upper East side of Manhattan. A friend and neighbor Lee will be greatly missed by all who knew her.

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