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ALAN FINKELSTEIN Obituary

FINKELSTEIN--Alan R., 81, passed away on October 23, on Long Island surrounded by his loving family following a 12-month struggle with cancer. He is survived by his beloved wife of 54 years, Susan; sons, David (Laurie) and Andrew (Gina); grandchild-ren Hallie, Noah, Ryan, Alex and Ella; sister Leni and Peter W. May; sister-in-law Ann and Jay Goldman; loving nieces and nephews; and many wonderful friends. He was co-founder and principal of independent life insurance and employee benefits firm AFCO Industries Inc. A competitive amateur golfer his whole life, Alan was Long Island Golf Association Boys Champion in 1958, went on to play for the University of Pennsylvania (Wharton '65), and was two-time club champion at The Woodmere Club (1973, 1975) and Glen Head Country Club (1981, 1983) and two-time finalist at Fresh Meadow Country Club where he was a member for 41 years. He was active in many charitable causes, serving as chair of the Life Insurance Executive Committee for UJA-Federation among other roles. He held positions for the Long Island Golf Association including President 2013-14, received the LIGA Distinguished Service Award in 2019 and was an active board member of the Long Island Caddie Scholarship Fund. He will be remembered by his family for his warm and generous heart, tremendous sense of humor and incredible sense of decency toward others. Donations in his memory may be made to UJA-Federation and the Long Island Caddie Scholarship Fund.

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Published by New York Times on Oct. 27, 2024.

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Jane Soudavar

October 29, 2024

My sincere deepest condolences to the whole family from an old friend.
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Lindsay Dembner

October 28, 2024

I was so sad to see Alan's obituary listed below my dad (Robert Dembner)'s in this weekend's New York Times. My dad spoke so fondly of their time together at Penn and of their lunch and golf meetings since. Condolences to your family.

Fran & Ron Hochman

October 27, 2024

Dear Susan , We join the many who have been touched by Alan & are so sorry to have learned about his passing.
We send our heartfelt sympathy to you & your family.
With fondest thoughts,
Fran & Ron Hochman

Jim Siegel

October 26, 2024

Alan and I were bunkmates and best friends at Ken-Mont Camp in the fifties for many years. Though I haven't seen or talked to him since then, I remember Alan fondly. Ken-Mont had a short nine hole golf course. That's where Alan took up golf. He got better year by year until at 13 or14 he beat me in the camp championship. (My father, an excellent golfer, had taught the game to my younger brother and me.) From time to time over the years I noted Alan's success in regional tournaments. Leni: I remember you; perhaps you remember me. I'd welcome hearing from you. Sincere condolences to Alan's family from Jim Siegel

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