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de Dalmas Guillaume
January 9, 2024
Missing this gentleman and friend .
Craig Pearl
January 12, 2021
It’s hard to believe that a year has passed as of tomorrow. Chris still seems so present, and I’m often reminded of him in one way or another in my daily life - by politics, a Netflix series, an historical reference, contact with common friends, another sad loss, a sporting event, or some other random association. Let me use this occasion to share some memories of Chris from college and beyond - a selection of what I said at his NYC memorial:
Chris: A Life Well Lived
Living with Chris, Ralph and Ron was one the most special, foundational experiences in my life. It was our first time away from home, and, as living at college tends to be, an exciting introduction to living with people outside of your own family. At the end of a hard academic day, I always looked forward to heading home to see what the guys were up to. Everything was about having fun; mocking others, each other, and ourselves; challenging each other’s assumptions; and, generally, keeping each other humble. The camaraderie we felt with each other was precious, uplifting and lasting.
But, you had to be on your game with Chris: he suffered no fools or foolish assertions. And, with his breadth of knowledge, he could be intimidating. You didn’t always know exactly what he was talking about, but, because he was talking so quickly and confidently, you knew it was smart, and that you should only disagree at your own peril. He became a Rorschach Test of your self-esteem. The best strategy was to look thoughtful, stay quiet on the substantive issues, and just try to distract him with humor. And the rare circumstance in which he gave credence to your perspective was like gold. Living with him, we increasingly got to see the pleasant, fun-loving, and even insecure side of him. You learned how to engage him in debates, talk about personal feelings, make him laugh - no small feat - and, in effect, be his brother. We became our own fraternity of four.
As I look back on, and take stock in, my life, I see that there is a very special place for the people who I’ve shared a house with, shared an apartment with, shared a room with, or shared a bed with - the people who are the last ones that you see at night, the first ones you see in the morning, the ones you can’t wait to come home to catch up with, and the ones you can’t wait to enjoy your weekends with. Chris, Ralph, Ron and I were not just roommates for a time - as it turns out, we became roommates for life. That experience, and the bonds cultivated, inalterably changed and enriched all of us in a way that we, as teenagers, couldn’t have anticipated. It is not just part of our past - it is, transcendentally, who we are. And every subsequent shared living arrangement in our lives was built on that foundation....
What many of you probably don’t know is that Chris could be rather discriminating - some might even say “critical!” But you have to look really closely. And his critique of people certainly extended to his view of women - their appearance, intelligence and personalities. He was critical of women on TV, women in the movies, women in magazines, girls on campus, our female friends, his girlfriends, OUR girlfriends. So, a few years after college, when he told us that he had met someone special, we were quite incredulous. We knew that she’d be beautiful and smart just to get in the door, but that’s all we had. When we met Debbie, we were overwhelmed with an explosion of extroversion, energy, smiles, laughter, and unrelenting joie de vivre. After a few moments of seeing them together - the whirlwind of Debbie somehow symbiotically co-existing with the calm skies of Chris - we all just thought, “Yeah. That works.” A yin and yang somehow forming a near-perfect circle - one that only became more seamless as time went on. You can’t anticipate a Debbie, you can just experience her and realize that you are with one of the most uniquely wonderful people you’ll ever meet - and uniquely meant to be paired with our Chris. And I would often say to them that they were the most interesting couple that I knew. As you hang out with other couples, usually one person in the couple kind of appreciates your personality, sense of humor, and quirks, while the other one just kind of tolerates you. Chris and Debbie were the rare couple who both “got” me - and I always felt truly appreciated...
I was recently stunned when Debbie sent me some final written words that Chris wanted us to know - sentiments he had never articulated before. He wrote:
“Craig, Ralph and Ron,
Your collective friendship provided more warm and funny moments than anyone deserves or expects from college roommates. I tried my best to offer ideas or information from my readings to make up for my weak wit. Can such stories constitute a nice person who will be missed? I hope a little...”
Yes, Chris, your wondrously edifying stories about the evolution of humanity and the nature of our world, and your dear, lifelong friendship, WILL be tremendously missed and are, simply, irreplaceable. And for us to get that extraordinary value for the mere price of a few inane jokes? Well, to quote Chris’s favorite rock band, The Who: “I’d call that a bargain - the best I ever had.”
Adieu mon cher ami
Craig Pearl
January 27, 2020
Craig Pearl
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Craig Pearl
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Craig Pearl
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Craig Pearl
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Photos from back in the day courtesy of our staff photographer, and beloved apartment mate, Ron Levinson.
Craig Pearl
January 27, 2020
Craig Pearl
January 27, 2020
Back in the day - Cornell and beyond!
(Photos courtesy of our staff photographer, and beloved apartment mate, Ron Levinson)
Carol Sabia
January 19, 2020
So sorry to hear this sad news. Chris was a wonderful colleague at Salomon Brothers during that magical time long ago when we worked as true partners toward a singular goal. He will be missed. Many condolences to his family.
Anne Longley
January 17, 2020
You recognize a beautifully, perfectly written obituary when you finish it and WISH you had had the chance to know the person, This is a real testament to the amazing impact Chris had on so many in his life and how so much of him will live on through them. Thank you.
Guillaume de Dalmas
January 16, 2020
Chris is a great man; I calculated that I sat 10 years next to him side by side. In these 10 years I only experience a cultivated, interesting, kind and extremely smart guy. His "Guillaume Bebe" (Baby in french)still rings in my ears and always will. I could go own for pages because such were his qualities. Chris was a perfect example of what the ideal North American should be but never is.
Somebody free from the habits of the Old world and open to all ideas while retaining the sophistication , manners and education of Europe. Chris was that man and his excellent skills in french ( born in Montreal) allowed him to be a natural bridge between these 2 worlds something that I really , really liked.
I think of him very often because we did so many trips together so everywhere I go in North America I remember things he said; always nice thoughtful smart things because he was Chris Evans
I will sorely miss him but I feel I will see him again .
Take care Chris
Tom and Nancy DeMark
January 16, 2020
We were shocked to learn of Chris' passing. It has been some time since we communicated with Chris but that was not unusual and once we did connect with him it was as if no time had passed. It was only last week I had the urge to contact him and get an update on him and his family. Chris was a special person loaded with talent and ambition. His appetite for knowledge, markets,and research was never ending. However none were more important to him than his love for his family and friends. We extend our deepest sympathies to his family and want them to know they are in our thoughts and prayers.
Deepest regards
Tom and Nancy DeMark and family
Katharine Cukier
January 16, 2020
Debbie and the children suggest that In lieu of flowers, please consider sending donations to the Smilow Cancer Hospital in New Haven, CT. The date for a celebration of life will be announced in the future.
Katharinr Cukier
January 15, 2020
A wonderful, brilliant person who will be sorely missed . He has touched our lives forever.
Bob Abidor
January 15, 2020
Life is so much less interesting without Chris in it. I shall miss his poking and prodding of every argument I tried to make. Chris' gigantic intellect was only rivaled by his enormous heart. His love for Deb, Mad, Sam and his friends was boundless. Safe travels dearest friend until we meet again in that great library in the sky.
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