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Everett Ungemach Obituary

1918 - 2005
Rare such a valiant gentleman. Everett looked after his lovely wife Winifred for many years after she developed Alzheimer's, determined to be present for her until the end. Theirs was a love story that began during the years of World War II, when Everett had enlisted in the U.S. Army Air Corps after graduating from New York University, and Winifred was a student at Manhattanville College. Married September 4, 1948, their team-work set an example for many and made many think that they were still newlyweds many years later.

Everett was born February 9, 1918 and grew up in Yonkers, NY. He graduated "Most Likely To Succeed" from Yonkers' Commerce High School in 1936, and immediately went to work at the Chase National Bank, attending New York University at night. After the war, he finished his MBA at New York University at night.

He spent his career in the tax field, eventually specializing in mineral depletion, working as a tax manager for FMC Corporation for 31 years in New York, Philadelphia and Chicago. He was an active member of the Tax Executives Institute, served for twenty years on the tax committee of the American Mining Congress, and served on the tax committees of the West Virginia Manufacturers Association, the Idaho Mining Association and the Wyoming Mining Association. As a manager, he believed in praising publicly and criticizing privately. He recounted with pride a moment when he counseled an employee through marital difficulties, happy to experience many years later the former employee and his wife hosting the national Tax Executives Institute conference in Hawaii.

Everett served as assistant scout master, treasurer and committee chairman for a Boy Scouts council in Darien, CT. He was a founding member and served as president and treasurer of the Stamford Catholic Interracial Council. He was also a founding member and treasurer of the Darien Interfaith Council.

Everett and Winifred retired to Belen, NM in 1983. A Life Member and former president of the Belen Breakfast Optimist Club, a charter member of the Padre Pio Council of the Knights of Columbus, a Eucharistic Minister at Our Lady of Belen Catholic Church, and a volunteer tax preparer for AARP's Tax Counseling For The Elderly program.

His wife Winifred passed away November, 2003. He is survived by his sisters, Marie Mackey of Ohio; Katherine Ungemach and Ruth Kirk of Albuquerque, NM. He is also survived by his children: John Ungemach of Tijeras, NM; Suzanne Dean of Philadelphia, PA; David Fujiko Ungemach of Munich, Germany; Edward Ungemach of Raleigh, NC; Jeanne Shain of Albuquerque, NM; and Mark Ungemach of New York City and Landenberg, PA. He is also survived by seven grandchildren.

Viewing will be at the Romero Funeral Home in Belen, NM, March 13, 2005, 5:30 pm. A Memorial Mass will be at Our Lady of Belen Church, March 14, 2005, 11:00 am. In lieu of flowers, donations may be made to the Optimists International Foundation, c/o Belen Breakfast Optimists, P.O. Box 990, Belen, NM 87002.

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Published by New York Times from Mar. 11 to Mar. 12, 2005.

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Lea Van Winkle (Farrell)

March 23, 2005

It has been too long since we have all seen each other and the loss of both of your parents is the end of a great and inspiring couple. I always enjoyed our times as kids and miss you all very much. I am sorry that my folks are not really strong enough to make this kind of journey and I know it is hitting my Dad very hard. I wish you all the best.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Your cousin Lea

Steve Malley

March 23, 2005

I have such warm memories of both Everett and Freddie Ungemach... visiting at the old colonial in Darien, going to Fire Island and Jones Beach, attending all those family weddings and other events. Everett would always be there like royalty -- calm, quiet, debonaire.



Freddie [Ev's wife] would always, God bless her, get me up to dance -- she taught me the Fox Trot! No one ever had a kinder, better god-mother.



I will never forget the time that Freddie and Everett came to help out when my Dad [Francis J. Malley] was terminally ill -- it was like having two more angels around, and I mean that. What a terrific privilege it is to know Everett and Freddie U.

David Ungemach

March 21, 2005

As the priest saluted, Dylan was the only one to salute with him, with his left hand. Dylan was serious, but I think Dad would have had a good chuckle.

Suzanne Dean

March 21, 2005

I think a significant moment in saying goodbye to Dad was everyone trying on Dad's hat at the post rosary dinner. When I thought back on it, I realized what a nice tribute and goodbye that was. So, Thank You Dave for bringing Dylan, and Thank You Dylan for getting us all to try on that hat.

Mark Ungemach

March 20, 2005

We have put up a web page in memory of Dad with photos from the gatherings celebrating his life: http://www.ungemach.com/everett.htm

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Mark Ungemach

March 20, 2005

This is Mom's obituary from November, 2003:



Ungemach, Winifred (maiden name: Farrell)



Winifred (Win, Winnie, Freddy) Joan Farrell Ungemach passed from a stroke

Monday morning, November 17, 2003.



Rarely a brighter light shines, and few are those who so savor the joy of living and all life.

Win possessed a spiritual sense of the positive and the art of possibility, but always with a

concern and value of others, their individuality and self-expression.



A devoted wife, a mother of six, a teacher of children with learning disabilities,

Win -- inspired by the late Mother Grace Dammann (President of Manhattanville College) – also fought for issues of principle, dignity, and education as a founding member of both the

Stamford (CT) Catholic Interracial Council and the Darien (CT) Interfaith Human Rights

Council, as a member of the committee that desegregated the Stamford (CT) public schools,

as a member of the New Mexico Coalition For Literacy, a Eucharistic Minister and Parish

Council officer of her church, and a volunteer tutor to countless adults and children in reading

and math. She was deeply concerned with the process of learning.



Born in Monroe, New York on October 15th, 1924, and reared in the Riverdale section of the Bronx, Win received a scholarship to attend Manhattanville College of the Sacred Heart in

New York City, graduating with a Bachelor of Science degree in 1946. She married

Everett J. Ungemach in 1948, and through the years they lived in: New York City;

Stamford, CT; Darien, CT; West Chester, PA; Chicago, IL; Belen, NM; and

Albuquerque, NM.



Win wished, in lieu of flowers, that contributions be made to Manhattanville College,

Alumni Office, 2900 Purchase Street, Purchase, NY 10577.







She passed at the age of 79.



Place of Death: Albuquerque, NM



Cause of Death: natural causes (stroke)



Funeral home: Romero Funeral Home, 609 N. Main Street, Belen, NM, 505-864-8501



Funeral Mass: Our Lady of Belen, Belen, NM



Funeral: Viewing at Romero's on Thursday, Nov. 20th, 5:30 pm,



and Mass at Our Lady of Belen on Friday, Nov. 21st, 9:00 am.







Education:

-Manhattanville College of the Sacred Heart, BS, 1946,

-MS degrees from Southern Connecticut State College and University of Illinois



Occupation:

-Teacher of children of learning disabilities for 19 years, retiring in 1983, teaching in Stamford, CT (where she was on the committee that desegregated the schools), Chester County PA (CCIU), and Chicago, IL (Waller High School, now Lincoln Park High School, and then Lourdes Catholic School)

-Medical laboratory technician at Columbia Presbyterian Hospital in the late 1940's and early 1950's.



Also survived by husband, Everett Ungemach, six children and seven grand children.



Children:

John Everett Ungemach of Tijeras, NM, Suzanne Dean of Philadelphia, PA, David George Ungemach of Munich, Germany, Edward Joseph Ungemach of Raleigh, NC, Jeanne Shain of Albuquerque, NM, and Mark Dammann Ungemach of New York City and Landenberg, PA.



Grand Children:

Zachary Dean, John Patrick Dean, Carl Ungemach, Samuel C. Ungemach, Anna M. Ungemach, Lily Shain, Dylan Ungemach.







In lieu of flowers, it is requested that donations be sent to: Manhattanville College, Alumni Office, 2900 Purchase Street, Purchase, NY 10577

Mark Ungemach

March 20, 2005

Another of Dad's many poems:



The Call



It was early in May when first she smiled at me,

But I hurried on my way, pretending I did not see.



Lilacs were in bloom when again she passed me by,

But I had no time for gloom and she had a tear in her eye.



I was kissing my love goodnight when I saw her beckon to me.

At first I thought of flight but how useless that would be.



I pretend I do not care, but I can't resist for long;

She haunts me everywhere with her lonely, pleading song.



We'll have our rendezvous though I know what it's for.

Farewell to my love and you, and off for death and war.



-Everett Ungemach

Summer 1941

Mark Ungemach

March 20, 2005

One of Dad's poems:



An April Rain

A warm April rain was softly falling

the night that we said goodbye.

And though we smiled our brief farewell,

tears fell from an April sky.



Music had never seemed so soft,

nor eyes so radiant and blue.

Dancing had never intoxicated so,

as during those hours with you.



Walking through the evening rain

now brings to me delight.

For though they say that it is May,

to me, it's an April night.



The warmth of the rain keeps recalling

the warmth of your lips in goodbye.

For a warm April rain was softly falling

the night that we said goodbye.



-Everett Ungemach

1944 or 1945

Ann Kirk-Schweitzer

March 20, 2005

Everett was not only a wonderful and loving uncle but an outstanding human being. He would do anything on earth for his sisters and their families. I have very fond summer vacation memories of Darien, Ct. and family gatherings on Thanksgiving. Everett would drive all the way down to NJ to pick us up and then bring us home. I have been fortunate enough to have been here 12 yrs in NM with Ev & Win, Johnny, Jeanne and of course my Mom and Aunt Katherine. He will be truly missed. Ann Kirk-Schweitzer

Marie Ungemach Mackey

March 19, 2005

He was the rock of Gibralter!

Steve Malley

March 19, 2005

My deepest condolences on the passing of your Dad. I have such warm memories of both your folks... visiting at the old colonial in Darien, going to Jones Beach, participating at all those weddings and other occasions where your Mom [my God-mum] would always, God bless her, get me up to dance. She taught me the Fox Trot! I will never forget the time that Freddie and Everett came to help out when my Dad was terminally ill -- it was like having more angels around, and I mean that. What terrific folks [parents] we have both been blessed with. Please remember that here and departed, we STILL have great folks.



I checked out the website. Good mission statement. I hope that it is working out well for you. Chadds Ford, huh? I have no idea where that is. Maybe I have been in Montana for too long. We live in a tiny town of 1600 [summer population] called Bigfork. It is an amazing place from a variety of standpoints.



Drop me an email some time and please pass my sentiments to your brothers and sisters.



Thanks for keeping my family in the loop.



Your friend,



Steve

Frank Malley

March 19, 2005

It's been years since we've talked, but I wished to contact you, and through you, your siblings, to express my sadness and also my great admiration for Everett. He was ever a kind and generous man, with a gentle sense of humor. Additionally, I reiterate my liking and admiration for Winifred - smart, tough, loving, erudite, and pretty. I have memories of your home in Stamford and the low-tide-snail-covered beach nearby; collecting our highly neurotic collie, King, from there; get togethers in Port Washington and at Belmont Lake State Park. I remember how pretty Sue was, Johnny's asthma, and the general pleasant ado surrounding overnight visits. There's more, but I mainly wanted to state my great affection and admiration for your parents. May you all be well and take joy from your recollections of a loving family life.



Mark, please forward this to your sibs - Thanks!



With rusty but sincere affection,

Frank Malley

Reva and Walter Rohlfs

March 19, 2005

Ung - What a wonderful, kind,gently man. He never diminished anyone and showed his love and compassion until the day he died. His love for Win and his children was unconditional, and his demeanor was always understanding.



During our many trips with Win and Ung, he was never impatient, demanding or self-centered; but rather generous and giving.



We had hoped to see him again when we came West. We will miss him.



Love you, Ung.



Reva and Walt

Kieran and Blair Mahan

March 18, 2005

Our deepest sympathy to all the Ungemach's. My siblings are more articulate than I can be, but I have fond memories of Darien and the many ties between our families. Both of your parents were wonderful to all of us and were remarkable to me, even as a small child, for their warmth, kindness and calm. Heaven is richer for their presence.

Mary Ann Mahan

March 18, 2005

My condolences to all the extended Ungemach family. Such a "valient gentleman"indeed .Everett left an unparalelled example of devotion in his care for Win in her last years. His poetry revealed the depth of feeling underneath his calm pipe-smoking demeanor. I join my siblings in pleasant memories of the many visits between our large baby-boom families during the halcyon days of the fifties and sixties.. Win was a big influence in my attending Manhattanville College and in the early seventies we taught together at Hoyt School in Stamford (I was in art and she was in "special Ed"). Soon after they moved to Belen in the eighties Win and Everett were gracious hosts when Lek and I went on our first Southwestern vacation. As I said on the phone to Mark(whom I last saw as a blond and adorable 10-year old) they lent us maps and a car for our drive across the Painted Desert to the Grand Canyon and made our visit unforgettable. Everett and Win left the world a better place. Through their faith-based committment to social justice, the world enjoyed its share of the same love and devotion and hard work that they showered on family, friends and God. I loved them both.

Betsy Calabro

March 18, 2005

Everett and Winn were our first neighbors as they moved into a house next to ours in West Chester,Pa. I speak of them together for that is how they are remembered to me. A true example of how a marriage is a working relationship. We immediately were accepted as "family" and enjoyed being with them often. Carl and I both gained by the quiet mentoring of this fine couple. We still tell stories of their crazy dog Lance who refused to be coached into obedience in such an unassuming way. The world is a better place for having them in it. They are missed.

Carl Calabro

March 18, 2005

My wife Betsy and I met Ev, Win and the Ungemach clan in 1976 when we became neighbors in West Chester, PA. Ev and Win were lovely folk who obviously believed that "He governs best who governs least." They adopted us as a couple more of their extended clan. We could not have been more lucky. Over the years we have moved again, but only occasionally do you meet people like Win and Ev who are above the ordinary, exceptional and memorable. Our condolences to all the family.

Brian and Martha Mahan

March 17, 2005

Win and Everett were such a big part of our family growing up. They will both be missed, but their legacy of love, laughter, and strong faith will live on and should bring comfort to you all.

Our thoughts and prayers are with you all.

Dad with Mom in the 1940's

March 16, 2005

Carmel Mahan

March 16, 2005

As a child, I can't remember a time when our family and the Ungemachs weren't exchanging visits. Remember when we would hide one of the kids to see how long it would take to notice? Sometimes we got all the way home with one of you before we were found out!



It's been a long time since I've seen any of you, the last time was when I was in Albuquerque right after Lily was born. It was so special to share that time with you.



Win and Everett were always so easy to talk to. Still, whenever I see any of you, it's like we haven't seen each other in days, not years.



I miss them both, and all of you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Our Connecticut Home

March 16, 2005

Dad with sisters Katherine and Ruth

March 16, 2005

Dad with Lily when Mom and Dad renew their vows

March 16, 2005

Dad, November, 2003

March 16, 2005

Dad and clan, November, 2003, Mom's funeral

March 16, 2005

Sean and Rebecca Mahan

March 15, 2005

The world is much less bright for not having Everett shining in it. We occasionally dust off our wedding video (from 1991), and from the day we were married we noticed how beautifully Win and Everett danced together. It was plain to see how much they loved each other as they glided along like Astaire and Rogers. An island of class in a sea of ordinariness. And to us at least, they will ever be so. All the Ungemachs and all their friends are in our prayers.

Angela Lautenschlager

March 15, 2005

Although it has been decades since we lived in the same building in Chicago, memories of the Ungemachs are evergreen. Win and Everett were exceptional people, God rest their souls.

Evelyn and Jack Mahan

March 14, 2005

On May 2,2005 we enjoyed lunch with Everett in the Albuquerque airport enroute to a WW II reunion in Santa Fe. Little did we know it would be our last time together in this life. We did talk to him by phone on Feb. 10, the day after his 87th birthday. Win and Everett were among our oldest and dearest friends. We spent happy times together in Stamford, Darien, West Chester, Chicago and Belen - with them, it was always a party - singing, dancing and good food. But we had a spiritual connection too. Everett was godfather to our son, Sean and he and Win traveled from New Mexico on Aug. 10, 1991 to Connecticut to attend his wedding. Even more fortuitous, our oldest daughter, Mary Ann, was born on the day Everett and Win were married - Sept. 4, 1948. They introduced us to St. John Neumann and we still have the relic they gave us many years ago. Our lives are poorer now without them. Our hearts go out to all their children. What a legacy Win and Everett left this world. May they rest in peace while they wait for us all to join them

Edward Ungemach

March 13, 2005

What can you say about a man who helped mold you by silent example, rather than strong or harsh words. How can one be replaced, other than in memory, the never ending effort and caring he put into his children. He made his commitment look so natural and so effortless. A hero for both the young boy and the grown man. I will miss you dearly, and hope the single malt is as good in that corner of heaven you and Mom are enjoying.

Mary Schmutz

March 12, 2005

With much love and saddness I wish my cousins the best...Ung was a wonderful person...

Mary

Thomas Clark

March 12, 2005

Our wonderful friendship with Everett and Win started in 1960; we shared our strong Christian Faith, close family ties and fabulous trips throughout the US & Europe. Nat & Everett worked together in NY, PA & ILL.and we were frequent visitors enjoying the Ungemach hospitality at Outer Drive in Chicago and their home in Belen, NM. We cherish the memories of our golden hours spent with Everett & Win. Our love to the family - Martha & Nat Clark

Seibert Ungemach

March 12, 2005

We met for the first time when Everett and Wynn attended Elaine and my 40th wedding anniversary. Our love and prayers are with all 0f his family.

Mark Ungemach

March 12, 2005

Dad, you are most deeply missed!

Mark Ungemach

March 12, 2005

Dad, you will be deeply missed!

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