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Stefano
April 13, 2025
It's just past 11 years since you left your body. You're in my heart always, as the sun shines, I reflect on your extraordinary being and recognize how fortunate to have known and loved you. Stefano
Verena Lukas
April 12, 2025
Seeing the photos: Memories of a beautiful woman .
Marsha Bible
April 11, 2025
In loving memory of a wonderful person. Loved seeing all the pictures
Jane 1976
April 27, 2014
Jane and Marilyn, 75 - we were so young
April 20, 2014
Jane and Pam 1975
April 20, 2014
April 18, 2014
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April 18, 2014
(4/18/2014)
April 18, 2014
jane's bench - (2015) - more photos of jane's bench. <br>directions to bench to follow...
May 17, 2017
jane's bench - (2015) - a few photos follow of a bench i got for jane at SF Botanical Gardens.
May 17, 2017
(2009) - jane and harriette
October 9, 2014
(2009) - jane and harriette
October 9, 2014
(2008) - being silly
September 7, 2014
(2008) - with tony and emily in sf
September 7, 2014
(2008) - the embarcadero
September 7, 2014
(2008) - j with her beloved lucy
September 7, 2014
(2008)
September 7, 2014
(2008) - posing in pantry
September 7, 2014
(2008) - in fla
September 7, 2014
(2008) - visiting family in forida
September 7, 2014
(2008) - at home with my honey
September 7, 2014
(2008) - a selfie at home on mirabel
September 7, 2014
(2008) - bay meadows race track
September 7, 2014
(2008) - bay meadows race track
September 7, 2014
(2009) - at the deyoung museum
September 7, 2014
(2009) - in Ponce, PR
September 7, 2014
(2009) - PR--by the sea
September 7, 2014
(2009) - PR--by the sea
September 7, 2014
(2009) - PR--in our cottage by the sea
September 7, 2014
(2009) - PR
September 7, 2014
(2009) - PR
September 7, 2014
(2009) - PR
September 7, 2014
(2009) - san juan, PR
September 7, 2014
(2009) - san juan, PR
September 7, 2014
(2009) - san juan, PR
September 7, 2014
(2009) - san juan PR
September 7, 2014
(2009) - puerto rico
September 7, 2014
Jane & Pam - (11/26/2009) - Thanksgiving
April 18, 2014
Friends on Thanksgiving - (11/25/2010) - Ralph, Pam, Marilyn Jane & Stefano
April 18, 2014
Jane on the train - (4/9/2011) - She loved to travel on the train.
April 18, 2014
Jane & Stefano - (8/13/2011) - San Jose Jazz Festival
April 18, 2014
Jane & Marilyn & Obama - (8/13/2011) - San Jose Jazz festival
April 18, 2014
Pam,Jane,& Marilyn - (8/20/2011) - At Indian Springs in Calistoga
April 18, 2014
Marsha Bible
April 14, 2024
Jane, I read an article about Mankas the other day and thought of you. All the fun we had working there, the trips to Inverness beach, your journey in film making , your electric blue eyes and great smile. You are not forgotten.
Louis Di Bianco
April 13, 2024
Jane, I remember your smile and contagious laugh. Thank you for always opening your heart to me and making me feel like family when I was in your presence. Stefano keeps you vividly alive for me whenever we talk.
Verena Lukas
April 11, 2024
Every year I take one of the Magnolia Blossoms in front of the house and think about you ....
Stefano
April 11, 2024
Jane, I continue to miss you. Your spirit visits our home, making me aware that you are truly my guardian angel. yours, Stefano
Stefano
April 15, 2023
You are still in my heart these 9 years since you left. Stefano
tony
April 11, 2022
In this world of insanity we miss your compassion & intellect more then ever.Love Em & tony
Patricia Andersen
April 12, 2021
Thinking about such joy this beautiful spring would bring to you and Stefano! I envision you both exploring the brilliant and subtle colors, fragrances, sounds, and textures of the gardens! I know you've shared many tranquil moments together there! How wonderful! Keeping you both in my heart!
Marsha Bible
April 11, 2021
It’s funny that this memory board showed up today as I was just thinking of you. Your beautiful smile, and all the fun times we had. Hanging out at Finnilas , sun bathing at the beach, working at Mankas, and thrift store shopping in the Mission district. I’m sorry we lost touch , but glad I was able to get together with you that last time for lunch in Vacaville. You were surrounded and loved by so many and will not be forgotten.
March 30, 2021
Dear Jane:
I can attest to the fact that Stefano lovingly cares after your memory, your garden, your house and the love the two of you shared.
Keep looking down on all of us. We are in desperate need of your intelligence and clarity.
Sherry G
stefano hillman
March 27, 2021
My Dear Jane Abby,Two days ago i lit a candle in your memory, visited your bench in the Botanical Gardens, where, with a friend, we sprinkled some of your ashes thoughtfully in the immediate vicinity near your bench, then ambled around the gardens telling stories about our times together.
I showed my performance ritual video from 2019 to my friend, and felt the depth of my loss, especially in the conversation that followed our viewing.
Bless your soul, your spirit, Jane, and if you'd ever wanna hover over our house, take a look at your garden. I'm taking good care of it with the help of a fabulous gardener/friend,Katie, who feels honored to be tending our garden.
Bye bye for now honey
Stefano
Matthew Temple
December 5, 2020
Hello Jane.
You left so soon but not with out first touching us with the gift of your warmth. You courageously defended those in need of a voice and being a survivor yourself showed us how to stand up and face challenge with out looking back. You time here is not over as you live on through the strength you shared and taught. Your love with Stefano made a full cirlce become complete. It was my pleasure having met you. Thank you for your care and the love you cartied into this world.
Chloe Wieland
June 9, 2020
I know of Jane through Stefano, and through a bench dedicated to her which sits in a secluded area of the New Zealand collection at San Francisco Botanical Garden. I discovered the bench one day while looking for a quiet place to have lunch, and walked down an unfamiliar path, finding a perfect bench lit up by sunlight waiting for me to join it. Shortly after discovering this magical space, I met Stefano, who was interested in volunteering at the Garden. Meeting Jane through Stefano, and learning of her affection for the Botanical Garden has made this spot even more special to me. I feel the love between Stefano and Jane every time I am there.
May 25, 2020
Isn't it wonderful that when Jane came into this world she brought delight immediately. And her essence continued to grow and emanate more of that delight to those around her. It could be felt coming from her eyes, her smile, her lively presence. Jane's in depth participating in the world surrounding her caused wisdom, compassion, and love to grow within her and be extended to the many who were/are graced to know her. I am one who Jane touched. And the wonder is that Jane, still to this day, is bringing her gifts through each of us who knew her right now. Who she was and how Jane lived remains quite alive in us and through us presently. We feel your influence. A real Blessing. Thank You Jane. Mimi, a friend in this mysterious life.
SHERRY
May 14, 2020
I was critically ill at the same time Jane became ill. We started having dinners together because we were both in medical crisis. Thankfully, the dinners we had did not focus on our illnesses but rather on an exchange between two very smart people, both of who loved to talk, loved the arts and loved life. I got to know and appreciate parts of Jane that I hadn't before our dinners. I became aware of how much she loved Stefano, who I have become friendly with over these last few years. We are such a badly behaved species that losing one of us who behaved so well remains a painful and poignant loss years later.
David Rae
May 7, 2020
I always enjoyed the back and forth with a fellow Gemini each time
you and hubby came to NY. The six of us (2 Geminis = 4 + Harriette
and Stefano) made for some enjoyable times especially our trip out
to the Island. Good times. Tell Harriette I miss her greatly and her
boys are well.
Joel Sachs
April 30, 2020
I never knew Jane well. I remember her from parties as someone who loved to dance and often brought recordings by her friends for me to spin. I'm touched by Stefano's continuing devotion to her and hope that he's found the balance between going on without her and treasuring what they had together.
verena lukas
April 29, 2020
Even after 5 years you are still missed deeply by most who knew you. Your light is still shining somewhere and there is always the magnolia.When she blooms you come alive again.
Verena Lukas
San Francisco, April 29,2020
Katie Renz
April 28, 2020
I wasn't lucky enough to know Jane. But I have heard fabulous stories, and I do know her garden! As Stefano's current gardener, it is an honor to work on the land Jane loved so much and in which she spent so much time and intention. I want to do it right by her, for sure. I am confident that she would approve of me trying to get Stefano to hang out with the hummingbirds, bees, blossoms, and hard-working soil microbes in their garden as much as possible! Thank you, Jane, for letting me "inherit" this phenomenally meaningful space.
Jeffrey Gordon
April 28, 2020
You're Loved
DAVID SUNDY
April 27, 2020
A truly pleasant person. As far as I knew, she had no regrets, no enemies, no bitterness; rather, she experienced all she set out to do in this life, and then she was done. My prayers go to Stefano who has yet to complete his journey here this time around in Earth School and who misses his bestie dearly. I pray that Stefano may feel and connect with his sadness and loss in a good way. Then, let it go, and be grateful for the wonderful years he experienced together with Jane.
Jeffrey Gordon
April 27, 2020
You're loved
April 27, 2020
Jane
Kind, loving, giving, Smart...
I feel so lucky to have known her...
Tammy
Stefano
April 26, 2020
I miss you, Jane Abby. Oh so often something in my world reminds me of all the wonderful times. I've got a bench in the SF Botanical Gardens devoted to you; a paving stone in Central Park in NYC; a garden in our backyard that I, somewhat less aggressively than you, tend (with the help of a gardener). Being in our/my house these 6 years has been achingly difficult some of the time, while I cherish it all.
Last Summer i invited 18 (chai) friends/relatives here to memorialize the 5th anniversary of your leaving with a performance ritual dedicated to you. It was amazing!...as you were. Love always, Stefano
January 17, 2019
Hey Jane!
Wow it's been almost 5 years since you left this existence to go on to greater journeys I suppose.
I'm so grateful to have had been invited to your memorial, to meet all the friends you so loved & cherished!
I think about you everyday girl! I'll never forget you, ever!
Thank you for the good talks we've had, working close together at Tom Waddell. Thank you for the good advice, and for listening to mine.
I still take your advice, because I know you're heart was and is in the right place.
A lot has gone on in my life since you've been gone.
I moved to Oregon 4 years ago. I practice Nichiren Buddhism for 2 years now. And I've made plenty mistakes along the way. I feel as if you're watching over me, reminding me to take the high road.'
Anyway, I miss you dear friend!
Till we meet againMari
Jen
July 8, 2018
We never knew each other.
Today was a stunningly beautiful summer day and my husband and I came to picnic in the Botanical Garden for the first time. We happened to settle on the bench with your name on it to revel in the sunshine and take in the view. We wanted to know about you, so I found and read from this page out loud. Later your husband Stefano even hiked by and shared a smile.
It felt like such a special place; I wanted to leave a message about how much we enjoyed your bench. Thank you.
Adele Brookman
March 26, 2016
Dear Jane, I woke up today (well, Now it's yesterday) thinking of you. I went to this memorial site and viewed your picture with great fondness. Hopefully I'll find the pictures of us in our youth on the Yuba river, and add it to this site. Noah and I went to the park later but we don't remember how to find the lovely bench site Stefano got for all of us to go and remember you. If anyone out there sees this and could get the directions to us, we'd deeply appreciate it.
Surrounding you with lite and love, Adele
Warren Schonfeld
May 25, 2015
Jane,
I remember you in many ways. Two of the best have been honoring your love of gardening with a beautiful new plant in our yard that blooms in the spring (see the picture) and visiting New Orleans with Stefano. We retraced some of your steps the last time you were there, including the Jazz Festival and one of your favorite breakfast spots.
Planted in Jane's memory in NC
Warren Schonfeld
May 25, 2015
Adele Brookman
March 21, 2015
Dear Janie and All, I think that in my emotional state I forgot to sign off and put my name on the entry I just submitted. So here it is -
Love you always,
Adele (If I had remembered to do it, ok. I give my love 2ce)
March 21, 2015
Dear Jane, Janie, It is almost a year since our last visit when I sat with you and held your hand on the evening of your death, and barely a day goes by without my thinking of you, remembering you and all you were, honoring you, talking to Noah about you and telling friends about you. Just about a year now, and still we say, "I can't believe she's gone." Well, what does it take for me to get it thru my head that, of course it's because you're not gone in the most important way. Your strong personality, fashion, opinions, spirit will always be here, in and around me and all who were affected by your very important, beautiful life.
Love always, Adele
Noah Weaker
March 21, 2015
Jane and I were friends for 45 years. Our lives and friendship were forged by the great movements and era which we shared wholeheartedly. We moved seamlessly from our hippie, beach combing days in Bolinas to the militant feminist times in San Francisco. My early political awakening was through Jane and her feminist friends. We were both big thinkers; at least we liked to think so. Through all this ferment, Jane, Stephano, my wife Adele, and I enjoyed laughing, dancing, eating, and taking walks together. I can just see that big, toothy, smile that Jane had. Jane and I could be goofy or deeply reflective on any topic that came our way. My relationship with Jane reached the elevated level of "Friends for Life" attained by sharing large quantities of deep feelings and experiences. No matter how much our friendship ebbed and flowed we knew we were Friends for Life. I miss her dearly but know that her life force was too strong to fade from my heart and mind. Love you Jane.
Noah
Jonathan Smith
January 8, 2015
Dear Aunt Jane,
I'm going to miss your spirit and smile. Your advice and wisdom was always welcomed. You gave it with a tender heart. For that, I am forever thankful. I also have some really fond memories. For example, when you made me pesto with bow ties while I listened to the new album by Paul Simon (Graceland). Another really good time was when you, me, and Uncle Stevie went to the MOMA in NYC, that was fun.
You will be missed.
Love,
Your nephew Jonny.
Harriette Smith
January 8, 2015
Dear Jane,
I miss you. I know my brother misses terribly. You will always be in our minds and thoughts.
Your loving sister,
Patricia Andersen
December 12, 2014
Thinking of you Jane, your beautiful bright eyes, mind, and loving spirit! And... endless sense of adventure! Very rainy today, I see you dancing under an umbrella with Stefano, laughing, splashing! And this spring I'm sure you'll help fields of flowers come to our lives! Thank you Jane for your presence/presents!
on our hotel balcony in P.R. in '09
stefano
September 4, 2014
in a cafe(?) in puerto rico in '09
September 4, 2014
marilyn j. curry
June 18, 2014
Today is Jane's birthday and yesterday was mine. We often referred to them as “the birthdays” and on many years there was often a two day celebration. I liked a party with a big cake and Jane preferred a trip out of the city, some adventure outdoors, often with a ferryboat ride and a small circle of her nearest and dearest. In honor and celebration of her today I wanted to post a few lines about all the joy, wisdom and silliness that we shared as long time girlfriends. We never ever ran out of things that interested us to talk about, from the price of Copper River salmon at Safeway, to the colors of lipstick by Aveda. Last night I had my party, a small one, with a medium size cake. I felt Jane was there. When Alison gushed over the spread we served, Jane was there. When I showed off my new striped skirt that fit me like a glove, Jane was there. When Pam and I stood in front of the mirror, trying on the new necklace she gave me, Jane was there. When I looked at the brightness of my smile on the pictures I saw Jane. In my life this day will be always belong to Jane. And she will always be the person that I think of first when I wake up on my own birthday. And even though she left this life as we know it I know on my birthday and hers, Jane will be there.
Marilyn
Pam
June 18, 2014
Remembering my dear friend Jane, with great love, on her birthday.
Marsha Weinrob-Bible
June 12, 2014
I met Jane when I was 18 years old through Noah Weaker. We became fast friends through our mid 20's. Jane was extraordinary, intelligent, edgy, creative and beautiful ! Jane , Noah and I lived together in Bolinas for several years. Jane and I worked at Manka's Czech restaurant and had a blast. She had a malamute husky mix named Buckwheat and I had a black lab named Sam. They initially had a big fight then became great buddies. The days on the Mesa with Jane and Noah I will always remember fondly . Jane had begun her journey into film making and photography and pressed me into service for her shoots lol. Jane even a at a young age was very insightful and introspective . She was my mentor and encouraged me to continue in school and find my creative side. We both married and drifted apart, but did catch up every so often. Most recently about 2 years ago when we met up in Vaccaville and had a great day just shopping and talking . I was so saddened to hear of her passing. She was always so vibrant and energetic! It is hard for me to imagine the world without her. My condolences to Stefano. I know she loved you and felt blessed to have found her soul mate.
Marsha Weinrob-Bible
June 12, 2014
Marsha Weinrob-Bible
June 12, 2014
Marsha Weinrob-Bible
June 12, 2014
Verena Lukas
May 25, 2014
A leaving that was too early, too young..!
Jane : passionate , outspoken and caring . You will be missed and remembered whenever I pass your Magnolia.
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