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GUARNASCHELLI--John

Stephen, known in the New York area for his leadership in "men's work," and for creating the men's group "On the Common Ground", passed away on July 7, 2018 from heart failure. Born July 17, 1936 in Brooklyn, New York, he was the son of Angela Castaldi and John Stephen Guarnaschelli. He graduated Magna Cum Laude from Holy Cross College in Worcester, Massachusetts and received his PhD in history from Yale University in 1964. He taught history at Amherst College, Washington University in St. Louis and Queensborough Community College for over 30 years. He was also a certified psychotherapist and trained at TRISP, the institute for Training and Research in Intersubjective Psychology. John maintained a full private therapy practice for almost 20 years. While he spent the majority of his life healing in the company of men, his personal life was the opposite. He leaves behind his wife of 52 years, Maria D. Guarnaschelli, a book editor, who edited various lauded books including the 1997-revised Edition of The Joy of Cooking and Steven Pinker's The Language Instinct. His only daughter, Alex Guarnaschelli, is the chef at the New York City restaurant "Butter" and a Food Network "Iron Chef" and "Chopped" judge.

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Published by New York Times on Sep. 22, 2018.

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Scott

January 22, 2024

My name is Scott Bolson your father changed my life I ended up going to prison but your father was always there for me he wrote a letter to the parole board for me I was very sad and to find out that he passed away I have no words for what he gave me but I'll keep it with me for the rest of my life I was one of his students at queensborough and he remained my friend throughout life thank you and I'm sorry for your loss he was a great man

Gary Williams

November 19, 2023

Professor Guarnaschelli taught me how to think. He led an honors section of History 101 at Washington University in the mid-1960s, in which, through his incisive and sometimes caustic comments on my writing, I figured out how to examine data carefully and draw non-stupid conclusions. I was not in touch with him after we both left St. Louis, but I owed him big-time in my later academic life (as a Cornell-trained English professor for 40+ years).

Mayar Mozaffari

May 16, 2023

I got to know John recently, a gentleman visiting Montreal from NYC came to the Men's Circle I host knew John personally and he was kind enough to send me John's Common Ground booklet as a guide and introduced me to his videos, he had so many good things to say about him not only as a thinker and practitioner, but as a caring human-being. A true inspiration, so much respect for this man and all he did for men and the communities and legacy he built.

Marsha Frankel

October 20, 2019

I had the honor of attending John's class at Queensborough Community College in the early 70's. His enthusiasm was unparalleled- my best memory was his jumping onto a desk and acting out the War of 1812.

September 26, 2019

A wonderful teacher in early-mid 1960s of Yale undergrads - smart, thoughtful, funny, kind and helpful.
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July 23, 2019

There's not a day that goes by that I don't think of John and the ways that he helped me. I'm still here because of him.

Kristopher Stillwell

March 4, 2019

Hello Maria & Alex,
I must've spoke with John just days or a week or two before his passing. I had mailed him a book of poetry and then not heard from him. For whatever reason it's taken me this long to seek out more. I had a nagging feeling all through the fall. My love to the two of you.

John was one of the most special people to me and though we saw each other with great infrequency for years we would call each other on birthdays each year. Your husband and father was loved by this man greatly. I trust the two of you have settled into life without a bit. As if we ever do. I lost my own father recently. John was a dear friend, a confidante a trusted member of my heart for 30 years.

Love to you. Thank you for this.

Matthew Klein

January 17, 2019

Miss you John.

Todd Fisher

January 5, 2019

To Maria and Alex,
I knew John well from all my tours he went on, and think of him regularly. He was a good friend and loved you both very much. Seeing him each year was a highlight and I miss him very much. Love to both of you.

January 4, 2019

Sincere condolences from a friend of the days at Chaminade and Holy Cross

January 4, 2019

Sincere Condolences from an old friend from Chaminade and Holy Cross. days

September 28, 2018

May the God of comfort and peace continue to be with family and friends to see you through this difficult time. Hosea 13:14

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