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STUART BUICE Obituary

Buice--Stuart Upchurch, died on March 29, 2015, after a seven year journey with cancer. She is survived by her beloved husband of 50 years, William T. Buice, III, and her daughter, Merrill Stuart Buice and husband Jonathan Hubbard of San Francisco, and her son, Charles Upchurch Buice and wife Jenifer Buice of Brooklyn, NY, and by her grandchildren, Caroline and Wynant Hubbard and Meleana and Will Buice. She was born in Raleigh, NC, on December 1, 1942, the daughter of Theron Acriel Upchurch and Stuart Weatherspoon Upchurch and was educated at National Cathedral School, Duke University (B.A.) and New York University (M.A.). She was managing trustee of The Acriel Foundation for its 20 year history. It supported environmental, public health, cultural, and literary projects in North Carolina and along the East Coast. She was active in educational projects, including her service as a founding member of Duke University's Library Advisory Board and a trustee of Warren Wilson College, the Shelter Island Educational Foundation, and Grace Church School (NYC); and in civic affairs as a member of the boards of the Women's City Club (NYC), The Cosmopolitan Club (NYC), and The Shelter Island Heights Property Owners Corp. Stuart was active in the Grolier Club (NYC), Rare Book School (Univ. of Virginia.), The North Carolina Society of NY, the New York Junior League, and The Wednesday Club. A long-time member of The First Presbyterian Church (NYC), she served as a ruling elder, chair of its Nursery School board and co-chair of two of its capital campaigns. She was grateful to her oncological teams at St. Luke's Roosevelt Hospital (NYC) and The Dana-Farber Cancer Institute in Boston. In lieu of flowers, tax deductible contributions may be made to The First Presbyterian Church, 12 West 12th Street, New York, NY, 10011, for its Sanctuary Lighting Fund, or to The Shelter Island Public Library, P.O. Box 2016, Shelter Island, NY, 11964. A memorial service in celebration of her life will be held at 11:00 a.m. on Saturday, April 11, 2015, at The First Presbyterian Church, Fifth Avenue at 12th Street, NYC.

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Published by New York Times on Mar. 31, 2015.

Memories and Condolences
for STUART BUICE

30 Entries

Martin Hutner

March 25, 2022

To this day I hold fast to my feelings about her from the day I met her to her passing, she was the dearest, purest,
person I had the privilege to know. I miss her very much.

Joseph Messing

March 26, 2019

Stuart - Bright, charming, with an easy smile. The passing years have not dulled her light one bit.

Martin Hutner

March 25, 2019

I think about Stuart often. When I hear about the passing of someone I know, unconsciously, I think how do they compare with Stuart. It may not seem fair, but it does happen. The reason is simple, Stuart was a perfect human being. As the years pass, I love her more and more...

Alison Baigrie

April 14, 2015

Dearest Bill, I just heard and I am so very sorry. I will write to you today. You and Stuart have always meant so much to me. Much love Alison x

George & Becky Koppelman

April 6, 2015

We will always remember Stuart for her kindness when first welcoming us to the Grolier Club many years ago. She "took us under her wing" -and then always looked after us with her very own "special friendship". We will miss her.
George & Becky Koppelman

Elizabeth Bancroft

April 4, 2015

I am thinking of Merrill and her family during this time. Stuart (Mrs. Buice to me!) was a classic class mother to all of us for >40 years, full of energy, enthusiasm, and love. She is, and will be, missed.

Diane Proctor

April 2, 2015

Bill, My thoughts and prayers are with you. I deeply enjoyed our time together on the ASSIST Board and know this must be a hard time for you and your family. Please know that, during this holiday season, I will send many warm thoughts your way.

Fred Baumgarten

April 2, 2015

Dear Charles & the Buice Family, I'm very sorry to hear of your mother's passing. Deepest sympathy.

Ginny Simms Wright-Wilson

April 1, 2015

I remember Stuart, known back then as Mabel Stuart, playing with my sister Helen when they were little girls.
Stuart was always a gentle soul, very much a little lady, and very smart. Reading her obituary, I learned what a powerful leader she became; and I feel both sad that she is gone and proud of the woman she was.

April 1, 2015

The Hammer family sends their prayers and condolences to the Buice family.

April 1, 2015

Bill: my prayers are with you and your family. Stuart was a lovely lady. Blessings, Jack Sibley

April 1, 2015

Dear Bill and your family,

As a Northerner in the vast minority in our National Cathedral Class of 1960, I cherished the Southern friendships I made at NCS, including that of Stuart. And, do in fact, to this day. Stuart with her quiet, caring and such intelligent grace was a valued mentor and friend to me. I will never forget how stunning she was in her gorgeous, green velvet gown our Senior year, when she was a member of the Court. She was beautiful inside and out, and she is leaving the world a better place for having been here. My thoughts and prayers are with you all.
Tina Morris Helm

Marsha, Herb, Sam and Sarah Stern

April 1, 2015

We are sure you know that there is nothing we can possibly say to express how sad we are. "Saint" Stuart was a very special part of our lives and our memories of her and the Buice family endure. Our love to all.

Steven Kane

April 1, 2015

A remarkable woman who was perhaps the most kind and gentle person I have ever met. A conversation with Stuart was as though someone had let sunshine into the room. The Warren Wilson community will miss her dearly.

Richard Blongren

April 1, 2015

There is an over-used phrase "angels among us" but not over used in Stuart's case. She made you feel as if your were the only person in the room or crown that mattered. She found sincere interest in what you were saying, but it was always Stuart who was more interesting. Her gracious demeanor and warm wit will be missed. Hugs to Bill and family... what a legacy of love to leave.

Win Southworth

April 1, 2015

Although I don't know the Buices, I am a member of our beloved Warren Wilson community, and am saddened by the news of the death of a valued recent member of our Board of Trustees. I send my condolences to the Buice Family. Peace to all.

Jo-Ann and Joe Robotti-Messing

April 1, 2015

A gentle and gentile persom - a true lady. An avid contributor to a broad range of charities. We will miss her charm, her smile and her sparkling presence. We celebrate her life, her family and her "never give up" spirit. She wlll be missed by all who's life she touched.

Kathy Barron

March 31, 2015

The best memory I always share when speaking of Stuart is how she befriended every Cathedral classmate who needed a friend. She took everyone who hadn't made a place for themselves under her wing. I was in awe of her for doing that, because I sure didn't have either the courage or the goodness.

Jennifer Lowe

March 31, 2015

I got to know Stuart and Bill through Rare Book School and was repeatedly struck by Stuart's graciousness: she always seemed poised to listen. My deepest sympathy goes out to Bill and his children and grandchildren for their loss.

March 31, 2015

Stuart was the most delightful person I have ever known. I am
grateful to her for her persistent interest in my paintings. I
hadn't realized that she was ill.
Stephanie Rauschenbusch National Cathedral School '60

Penny Webb Armstrong

March 31, 2015

Stuart was not only a loved and respected member of our class of 1960 at the National Cathedral School. She was the president of the student government and a member of the Cum Laude Society. She was a stately, smiling, thoughtful and encouraging presence and we greatly admired her.

One funny story (which after 55 years may be apocryphal)-- at the time we were graduating, Stuart received a draft notice.

My heartfelt condolences to Stuart's family.

March 31, 2015

Stuart was not only a loved and respected member of the class of 1960 at the National Cathedral School, she was also the president of student government and a member of the Cum Laude Society. She was a stately, smiling, thoughtful and tactful presence among the boarders and the day students. We all admired her greatly.
One funny memory (and after 55 years, this may be apocryphal)-- at about the time we were graduating, Stuart received a draft notice.
My heartfelt condolences to Stuart's family.

David Sellar

March 31, 2015

Dear Buice Family,

I am very sorry to hear of the passing of your loving mother, wife and grandmother, Stuart. She was a great presence in our lives.

Much love and support to all during this difficult time.

March 31, 2015

I remember Stuart from our days at National Cathedral School - her kind, soft-spoken nature and sweet smile. My condolences to her husband and family. - Marcia Yingling Schwuchow

Jeanne and David Wright

March 31, 2015

We can't think of anyone more gracious, more caring, more generous, and more public-spirited: Stuart Upchurch Buice will be greatly missed by her many friends and admirers. The example she set for all of us spans many miles and many years. We send heartfelt condolences to her family.

Matilda Butler

March 31, 2015

I knew Stuart as a leader in her National Cathedral School for Girls days and she always remained a thoughtful and courageous leader. I know she will be missed by many. I send my thoughts to the family.

Ellen Galinsky

March 31, 2015

Stuart was my beloved classmate at NCS. She was generous, thoughtful, kind and truly magical. My classmates and I will always be grateful for the years we had together at school and beyond and send you our deepest sympathies for this enormous loss.

Jack Tyrer

March 31, 2015

Jeanne and I are so very sorry for your loss, Bill - a loss that affects all your friends. Stuart was a great person, and we remember her hospitality and grace. Our best wishes to you and your family.

Elliott Close

March 31, 2015

Bill,
My thoughts and prayers are with you in this time of mourning for your wonderful wife Stuart. What a great giving and caring woman she was. She will be missed by all, but no one as much as you. Hope you are doing well, old friend. And hope our paths cross somewhere soon.
With deepest sympathy,
Ell Close

martin hutner

March 31, 2015

Far, far too soon, my dear and wonderful friend. I will remember you always.

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