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Raymond Sitra Obituary
Raymond Joseph Sitra, 38, of Middletown, NY, died unexpectedly September 5, 2008.
Raymond was born on May 4, 1970 in Ozone Park, Queens, NY and lived most of his adult life in Middletown, NY.
Ray, Raybo, Crazy Uncle Rayvo was known as everyone's True Best Friend, Mentor, Confidant and 'BROTHER'. Ray graduated from Middletown High School, O.C.C.C. and received his BA degree from Old Westbury, Long Island, NY. He was also a Licensed Real Estate Salesperson in the State of Florida. He was a Music Composer, Published Poet, Professional Body Guard, Italian Food Critic, Sports Aficionado, Master of Laughter, Philosopher, Life Coach, Visionary and a loving, giving, spiritual, honest, and passionate Man. Ray was 'The' Grandson of Helen and Joseph Cucugliata.
Survivors include his loving mother, Lucille H. Sitra; his sister, Jennifer R. Sitra and Cowboy of Orlando, FL. He is also survived by his 'Extended Family of Trusted Friends' who meant the world to him.
Ray truly made a difference and will be missed by everyone who knew him. He was larger than life and way ahead of his time. He came into this world one month early and left us much too soon. Ray will always be remembered as being intensely compassionate and very understanding. He believed that he could change the world. For everyone that knew him, rest assured that he will now 'Dance with Jesus'.
A Memorial Mass will be celebrated on Friday, September 12 at St. Joseph Catholic Church, 149 Cottage Street, Middletown at 11 a.m.
Arrangements are under the guidance of Morse Funeral Home, Inc., Middletown.
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Memories and Condolences
for Raymond Sitra
j sitra
October 10, 2008
on this 20th class reunuion of MHS my brother is still the man who needed no title 2 bring friends & enemies 2gether in a rm full hundreds of peo as seen @ his mem serv 6wks ago an authentic life unfinished...outstanding profound witty dynamic a storm tornado cyclone sicilian amazing commanding man w/presence of mind 2 see thru the trivial, overcome obstacles& adversity now in the arms of GOD. They miss u mr personality social funny phenom the orig 1&only raymond j they 88 & we love u mom & I always xo jrcs
j sitra
October 7, 2008
1 month alredi & my bdy w/out u mom n i went 2 epcot we went knowing u always wanted 2 c the wrld&luv that we traveld now 2gether we took u w/us in spirit 2 all the diff countries we miss u evry sec min hr my only brother moms only son our boy, rock, strength,light,life our raymond j in heaven xooxoxoxoox
C. Tate
September 30, 2008
Ray,
You were always there for me when I needed you. I knew that no matter what, morning, noon or night you'd be there. We laughed, we danced...I have never met anyone like you. The memories of the warmth and genuine love you surrounded me with every time I saw your face will remain with me forever. I cannot believe that you are gone..but I know that you are in a much better place. My "Easy Like Sunday Mornin" I will never forget you..
love, your SSCC
j sitra
September 30, 2008
bcause it will take months 2 get out thank you's 2 evry 1 this is a just a start a wy 2 express my deep gratitude 4 the hundreds of friends cards emails flowers wrds of love encouragement given 2 us although my mom & i will never recover fully w/out my brother brothers arms around us or by our side i hear evrydy the difference his life made in others from our souls & his wrds thank yous are not enough we will live in gratitude for the time shared xo j
dane oliver
September 28, 2008
lucille and jen. my deepest sympathies for your loss of ray. i can't believe he's gone. ray i woulnd't know where to begin. we have way too many memories together. you left too soon but i'm sure it's nice in heaven. remeber the alabaster skin? hahahahaha rest in peace. your boy dee nice.
j sitra
September 25, 2008
when the cards & phone calls dwindle over time yrs will go by families continue but well pray alone mom & i to meet you in heaven because we 3 are still a family my brother our hearts stopped the day god took you but our love wont ever love your sister jennifer
Carolann Flesch
September 24, 2008
" Ray Sitra - Great friend, caring, creative, genius, sensitive, tough, insightful, thoughtful, loving, driven, wise, intense, compassionate, funny, hilarious, sense of fairness, faithful, Intelligent, Lord's disciple, LOYAL, !!!!"
I am so saddened that Ray has been taken from us at such a young age. I met Ray several years ago on a routine phone call and that was the start of our great friendship. He eventually came to work with me in real estate and we really connected. If you look in the dictionary you should see his picture as a true definition of "friend". Ray's compassion, concern and caring for others was very rare. Ray had deep insight about our world and wisdom about living life and maintaining relationships that was rare for someone of his short 38 years.
Lucille and Jennifer, please know that you have been and will continue to remain in my prayers just as Ray and his voice of wisdom and laughter will remain in my heart. It was always clear in every conversation with him how important you both were in his life. I'm sure anyone who knew him even for a short time knew how much he loved you both along with his beloved grandfather.
Ray was always giving and lived his life with vibrancy and gusto in spite of many disappointments. We should all learn a valuable lesson from Ray. As he sat me down several months ago and told me, " You need to slow down and pay attention to all of the things around you. Take time for your precious family and relationships. You can't take life for granted or expect that all you have been blessed with will be there for you tomorrow so take what God has blessed you with and slow down and listen to Him before you miss something of great importance!"
If you were friends with Ray than you were loved by Ray...whether you knew it, or wanted it or ? Once he had a relationship with you no matter how new or how long ago, you were loved by him infinitely.
"By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another."John 13:35
Although I am very saddened by his passing I have total peace that God knew exactly what He was doing when he called Ray home. God will bless us all somehow by this event. God has already blessed us all by putting Ray in our lives. Ray you are at peace. You are now surrounded by unimaginable love. Have a blast with your grandfather. I can only imagine that reunion!
Raquel Mynders-Truex
September 24, 2008
My deepest sympathy goes out to Ray's family. I'am so sorry for your loss. Ray, you were a one of a kind. I will never forget the time you took for others, and the way you just listened. I will always remember your smile and laughter, your big hugs and words of wisdom. I was truly blessed to have known you. Rest in peace.
Scott Visser
September 22, 2008
Love you & I will never forget you!!!
Wuanda González
September 15, 2008
I am truly sorry for your loss. My deepest symphathy goes out to Ray's family I swear this man always had something funny to say and make people laugh. Im gonna miss you Ray Rest in peace and you will never be forgotten
jennifer sitra
September 14, 2008
my only brother my heart soul guide protector father friend mentor angel saviour i am broken alone sad devastated u were a man among men brilliant brave witty wise wonderful your wings cover mom and i in our deep grief i weep myself to sleep what a tradjegy u r gone our boy we love & miss you forever xoxoxoox lucille & jennifer your only sibling
Lidia (Tavella) Decker
September 13, 2008
You were a diamond in the rough. One of a kind. Warm heart, a true friend and you will be missed. My prayers are with you and your family.
Vinny Biondollilo
September 13, 2008
Ray, I have been truly blessed to have had a friend like you. You have given so much laughter and love to all who knew you. Thank you for always being there to lend an encouraging word or a sympethetic ear. You will never know how much you truly meant to me. Thank you, for everything, MY BROTHER.
Richie D. Acosta
September 13, 2008
Deepest Sympathy to Lucille & Jennifer; My brother & friend Rayvo! you shall be missed deeply! the laughter, huggs and stories will always be missed but shall be in my families heart's and soul's! The Yankees Spring training games will never be the same, but the God Lord is going to have a great time watching the games with you! We love you and will miss you, see you again my incredible friend! Love, Richie, Lana, Victoria & Alyssa..
Tom & Keri Colavito
September 13, 2008
My thoughts and prayers are with you in your time of grief. May your memories bring you comfort. Ray was a great guy, he always took time for others. He will be missed, but never forgotten.
Stan & Patricia Grippe
September 12, 2008
To Lucille, Jennifer & Family,
We knew Ray since he & our daughter, Cathleen, attended Truman Moon...now it seems so long ago....however time just truly passes us by so quickly.I can not begin to feel you pain on the loss of your son & brother , however, PLEASE know that he will be cuddled in the arms of Our Lord and watch his family in a special way --look up in the sky to see the stars at night and Ray's beams will be on streaming on you. His laughter as a child is still vivid in our ears. Love & Prayers, Stan & Patricia Grippe
Aaron Storch
September 12, 2008
The world is worse place without you, brother Ray. We love you, we miss you, and I'm sure we are all thankful for having been able to have you in our lives. Rest in peace
chris berger
September 12, 2008
i'd challenge anyone to tell me they ever met a man quite like Raybo or a teenager like Raybo when he was younger. I feel very sad for us not having him somewhere in this world, but he will always eventually make me smile and laugh, and I mean laugh, when i think of Ray. The Good Lord only made one of him and anybody that Ray befriended knew that the minute they met Ray. He was an original and he will be sorely missed.
Malcolm Diaz
September 12, 2008
My deepest sympathy to the Sitra family and friends. Ray, you're gone too soon brother. God bless and keep you always.
September 12, 2008
Deepest sympathies to the Sitra family. Ray my Master I miss you allready!!! Never has a friend done so much for so long. thanks for always being there for me thru the past years. I truly am lost without knowing I can call you anytime. It was such a comfort in my life to know I had you. One phone call and you were always there for me no matter what. You were right when you said you were the best friend I ever had. I miss you. I know your an angel looking down on me and all your friends watching out for us. I will always remember the laughs and the honesty we had. I hope you know how much you were appreciated and loved. I'll always remember the advice you gave me. You were always right. Your in my prayers.
Your friend always,
Pretty Princess
cynthia force-amador
September 12, 2008
My deepest sympathies to ray's family. Ray was a great friend and a inspiration to me. I am glad I had the pleasure of knowing him.
Let yourself cry knowing each tear is a note of love rising to the heavens
May you take comfort in knowing an angel is watching over and guarding you
Ken Crumley
September 12, 2008
Rest in Peace Ray---I went to High School with Ray and we exchanged e-mails recently. I am sorry to hear about his passing. Condolences to the family.
CHRIS MCVEY
September 12, 2008
yo raybo ,
its only been a week since you left us it already seems like forever, you always introduced me as youre baby brother just want to let you know i always felt that same way.i can not begin to describe all the great memories that i have with you. just wish we could create more . RAYBO I LOVE YOU MAN !!!!!!
REST IN PEACE MY FRIEND
Dale Villegas
September 12, 2008
Ray was a great person and even better friend. Once he took you as a friend, he was their forever and he made sure you knew that. Ray took pleasure in helping others with their problems, concerns and tragedies. He was selfless and loved those close to him very much. My deepest sympathies to all his family and friends.
Barry Hawkins
September 12, 2008
Dear Lucille: I was shocked to hear the news, and feel so sorry that you are going through this. My deepest felt condolences to you and your family. Barry Hawkins (O.C. Mental Health)
Ken Sands
September 12, 2008
Ray was a good friend. I will miss his laugh and his generous spirit. As we approach our 20th year away from high school, I was looking forward to listening to Ray tell me different stories about his life, and discussing old times. Ray was a friend to everyone, and would go the extra mile for anyone. I will truely miss you Ray. God must have a more important job for you in heaven, because you are still needed here. My deepest sympathy to all those who loved Ray, and for those lucky enough to have known him.
Louise Simpson
September 12, 2008
To the Sitra Family,
I know there are no words to describe your pain, I am truly sorry for your loss. I heard from Ray at least once or twice a year, he was always looking for a mutual friend of ours. When we spoke, he was full of life, always positive and very caring about anyone he spoke of.
You both will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Louise and Darrin Simpson
Christine Gabriele (Sweet)
September 12, 2008
My sympathy to Ray's family. It's such a terrible loss at such a young age.
Carolyn and Nick Sawka
September 11, 2008
Lucile and family,
We are so sorry for your loss. Ray was one of those people you will never forget and someone who always made you laugh. He will be greatly missed. All our love,
Lorrie'Ann Moriarty
September 11, 2008
God be with you on your journey Ray, thank you for always watching my back. You have been there since we were teens throughout lots of laughs, until we meet again ... I will keep you with me. God bless you and your family.
Yvonne Pellew
September 11, 2008
There are no words generous enough to describe my dear and beautiful friend. Blessed to have had him in my life, forever in my heart. True friend, confidant , angel, I will miss you always and love you forever.
Derek white
September 11, 2008
yo Ray it is Derek
I know u can hear me my last text came from u i am waiting for the next one from one bestfriend to another I know u will watch over me Tracie, Derek Jr, Sarah,Nicholas we will always miss u forever
Love the Whites
Chris Lynch
September 11, 2008
My deepest sympathy is with Ray's family. He and I first met in Truman Moon school and he continued to be a good friend through out the years. R.I.P my friend.
Tamilyn "Hinton" Clark
September 11, 2008
Dear Jen and Family....
The paper left me with a broken heart today as I read about Ray. He was such a loving and compassionate person. I will never forget the hug he gave me at our prom and the laughter he shared with all of us. I will miss him dearly. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family. What an angel he will be...always has been.
Miss and Love ya Ray....
TRACIE Teller,white
September 11, 2008
I remember Ray from Truman Moon school. He was asked to always watch over me by Steve C so he did. And 15 years later I called him my bodyguard.He said you better believe it.I will miss him forever, Rest in peace Ray.
Paula (Melanson) Wormuth
September 11, 2008
You are in my thoughts and prayers.
Spyros Manouvelos
September 11, 2008
Ray would never forget a face, name or a friend. We first met at Truman Moon Elementary in the second grade and lost touch after High School, but when I lost my Mom two years ago, Ray along with dozens of others who showed up at the house to lift out spirits, for this I am enternaly grateful. It just showed that when you befriended Ray, you had a friend for life!
My heart goes out to his Mother and Sister and the rest of his Family.
He will be missed.
Juan Ayala
September 11, 2008
Rest in peace Ray; We’ll miss you
Michael Washalski
September 11, 2008
My deepest sympathies to Ray's friends & family. I knew Ray from when we attended Truman Moon Elementary together, and crossed paths with him a few times over the years. He was always so full of life and laughter, always more interested in how I was doing than anything else. When we were kids, my mom used to refer to him as the "overly polite boy", and he was, always ready with a "thank you". I remember he loved my mom's brownies especially! I always hoped I'd run across him again someday and catch-up, but until we DO meet again, I know Ray is smiling down on us from upstairs, waiting with a Smile, Laugh and a hug!
Meghan Keener
September 11, 2008
Dear Lucille and Jennifer,
I cannot imagine..I'm so sorry and you are in my thoughts and prayers!! XO
Love,
Meghan
Pete Jaccarino
September 11, 2008
I hadn't spoken to Ray in 20 years until just a few weeks ago and it was as if no time had passed. Rest in peace my old friend, see you on the other side.
Lori
September 11, 2008
RIP Ray You will always be remembered by your great sense of humor and your gift of writing.
We'll miss you, Lori, Jess, Matt, Dave
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