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Ralph Flanders Obituary

EAST MONTPELIER - Ralph Norris Flanders, 91, of East Montpelier, died on April 6, 2010, at Rowan Court, after an extended illness. Born on February 23, 1919, in Rochester, N.Y., Ralph grew up in Springfield, Vt., and was the son of engineer and designer Ernest V. Flanders and nephew of Senator Ralph E. Flanders.

Predeceased by his beloved wife, Anne C. Flanders, with whom he fathered nine children, he is survived by Jonathan E. Flanders and wife Nancy and their children Rhys and Darrel of Troy, N.Y., Mark G. Flanders and partner Roger Loeb of Detroit, Mich., Naomi A. Flanders and daughter Esther Nemethy of East Montpelier, Deborah C. Flanders and fiancé Timothy Foley of Burlington, Elizabeth H.F. Bissell and her husband Richard Bissell and their children Isaac and Mary Clare of Putney, Eunice M. Flanders and daughter Brittany A. Wells of Ashland, Mass., Lois E. Flanders of East Montpelier, James W. Flanders of Plainfield, N.J., as well as grandson Neil T.S. Flanders of East Montpelier, son of second-born and predeceased son, Timothy E. Flanders.

Ralph studied sociology, philosophy and engineering at Middlebury College, then served during WWII in the 10th Mountaineering Division 85th Regiment in Italy. Upon his return on March 2, 1946, he married Anne Christine Lawson of Dundee, N.Y. He finished his course work at the University of Vermont. Ralph studied math and physics and wrote his philosophy thesis titled "Martin Buber's Conception of the Religious" while at Boston University where he received a Master of Arts degree in 1966. Ralph briefly taught physics and math at Chelsea High School and then at Vermont Technical College. Ralph edited and wrote for "The Vanguard," a small nonprofit advocacy publication where he served on the board of directors. Ralph received an award for his advocacy and work collecting all laws related to the handicapped, abstracting and indexing them.

Upon his death, Ralph, a devoted Christian and religious seeker, was a member of St. Augustine's in Montpelier, Vt. A passionate lover of God and the Church, Ralph passed on to his children his appreciation for music, art, literature, hiking, gardening, swimming and involvement with community.

Funeral arrangement handled by Barber & Lanier's at 139 Main St., Montpelier, Vt. Wake hours are 5 p.m. followed by a funeral at 8 p.m. Sunday, April 11. The burial is at 10 a.m. on Monday, April 12, in Plain-Mont Cemetery in Plainfield, Vt.

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Published by Rutland Herald on Apr. 9, 2010.

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Julie Harmon

April 15, 2010

Dear Flanders family,
When I think of your Dad, I always think of riding in a Volkswagon with him at the wheel....on the bumpy back country road. What a ride! Wasn't I lucky that Anne and Ralph were willing to let extra kids hang around all the time and to drive us around as if we were their own! What great fun memories I have because of their open, inviting home. I'm sending smiles to all of you!
Julie Wright Harmon

Bruce Westcott

April 14, 2010

Hi Naomi,
His day is done; the journey is over. I know it is a time of fond remembrances for you, and some relief that the tough times are done. Ellie and I are thinking of you. BW

Rev. Herb Hatch

April 12, 2010

My memories of your Mom and Dad and family go back to the Calvary Gospel church on Elm Street in the 60s with the Galpin and the Tryon families and others. And lately as I held church services at Rowan Court your dad was still personally alive in the faith as he would respond with a loud 'Hallelujah' when something homoring Jesus was mentioned. Your Mom was the birthing instructor for us before our second son was born. What a great family. I feel the loss of a long time friend, too. God's blessing on each of you during this time.

April 11, 2010

Dear Flanders,
Deep sympathy to you all on the passing of your father. I have many fond memories as a child being in your home. Even at a young age I could see how loving and accepting both Anne and Ralph were to all. There was always a feeling of love and comfort there. May you cherish all your wonderful memories!! Love, Crisanne Wright Black

Debby and Marek Gale-Pyka

April 11, 2010

Dear Naomi and Esther,
We are wishing you peace and strength in this transition. We are thinking of you, reflecting on how beautifully devoted you were to your father's care.
Love, Debby and Marek

Jeffry Richards

April 10, 2010

Jamie,
Sorry to here of the passing of your father.
It was nice to see you a few weeks ago, after all these years. I wish it could have been under nicer circumstances. Take care.

Louis Bannister

April 9, 2010

My memories of Ralph are currently bringing a smile to my face. I am glad to have known, and learned from, such an amazing man. His legacy, I know, lives on in each of you who are his children, and in many of us who knew him.

April 9, 2010

It was a joy to know Ralph years ago. Memories of his faith are vibrant today. Blessings and sympathy to Naomi and each of the other family members.
Bill Hogan, Shelburne

helen fisk

April 9, 2010

lois-naomi I want you to know it was a great adventure taking care of both your parents .I will miss them both dearly.

April 9, 2010

Naomi and all, I am sorry to hear of Ralph's death. He was a memorable person! Please accept my sincere sympathy.

Gina Logan

Karl Miller

April 9, 2010

Our thoughts and prayers are with the whole family at this time of loss. Our memories of Ralph are what will keep his spirit alive- what a wonderful man!

Ginny Perantoni

April 9, 2010

Dear Lois,
My condolences to you and your family in the passing of your Dad. Though he may be in a better place, it is still difficult to lose a parent. From what I remember, he was an amazing man, as was your Mom. I'm sure all the wonderful memories will bring you peace and comfort.

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